Is it healthy for my bf to yell at me at times (knowing I have ptsd and mild adhd) to express his anger regarding something that isn't related to us or should he consider my perspective and talk softly with me no matter what?
So yesterday, while ranting, he shouted, "You're not my wife and it's only been 3 months of us dating so you can't make me trust you completely."
Back story- He broke up with his best friend who broke his trust and because of that he's heartbroken and very upset. Because of this he was spiralling and saying he can't trust anyone anymore, not even me. He said he doesn't even trust whatever we built together anymore. Also he kept saying I'm immature because I reacted in a certain way without knowing the situation about which I had nothing to do and technically I was only trying to make things better as it's my duty to try help him. He also brought up something else (related to us) because he was ranting about his best friend and shouted at me for that.
This kinda broke my heart.
Help me.
What does “mild ADHD” have to do with being yelled at?
What was he ranting about to trigger this reaction? Can’t judge without more info.
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zoned-out-zombie5 hr ago
+1
I shut down when people yell at me loudly.
He was ranting about not being able to trust anyone or anything anymore and he's rather happy alone amd isolated. Basically because of whatever his best friend did, I am the one who's suffering. Whatever efforts, time, dedication I gave him is all useless now since he only appreciates it but doesn't trust it anymore.
Today morning he said- he wants to continue dating me but now I'm unsure.
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Allie6140324 hr ago
+1
It’s been three months. Decide if this is something you’re willing to put up with forever or not.
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zoned-out-zombie4 hr ago
+1
I want to talk to him about this first. If he doesn't agree then I think I'll consider breaking up.
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BaslerDibly5 hr ago
+1
Not normal, big red flag. There are more than enough lovely bf's out there you don't have to let him do that to you.
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