Do you all prefer when people openly dislike you or secretly dislike you?

Please be honest. I don't have the emotional capacity to play the lead in "Who's Subtly Hating Me Today," a mystery thriller. I'll schedule my overthinking for a specific time rather than running it constantly, so if you don't like me, just tell me.

If you don't like me, just stay away from me. If we are at work, who likes who doesn't matter, just do your job and stay out of my way.

Well openly disliked led to me getting bullied, secretly disliked led to me being left out. I'd probably prefer secretly

Though everyone is gonna say openly, in practice openly implies a lack of respect for you and the consequences they will face. Having gone through this, at least in the workplace, secretly is better.

Definitely secretly. I don’t need to know the nasty things you say about me as long as you are polite and professional and your view doesn’t impact my work. I mean I secretly dislike half the people I’m polite and cordial to.

99 percent of everyone is going to say "openly". Personally though, you can keep that shit to yourself or be open about it and I can't say I'm going to care either way. My mandate as someone attempting to be a decent person is to do decent deeds, not have decent thoughts... Since my version of decency isn't transactional, whether you like me or not doesn't change my deeds. I didn't like my old neighbor, I still ran into her burning apartment to save her obnoxious ass.

As long as the ppl who dislike me are civil if we must be together, and otherwise stay the hell away. Then I'm happy

I would prefer for them to keep their opinions to themselves and just leave me alone. That's what I do with people I dislike, no need to be rude.

Openly. We are adults, we don't have to like each others. At least we can be honest. It is not because I don't like someone that I can't treat him well and respectfully. And I'm tired of all the bs drama's and everyone talking in the back and this and that...

Open dislike, 100%. It might sting for a minute but at least you know where you stand. The fake nice but actually annoyed vibe is way more exhausting to deal with long term. You end up overthinking every interaction instead of just moving on.

Does openly mean they are rude to me? I think we should at least be polite to people even if we don't like them.

openly, honestly. not in some huge dramatic way, but enough that i can stop wondering if i’m imagining the weird vibe. secret dislike is worse because then you’re stuck replaying every interaction like “okay was that a joke or do you actually hate me” and that gets old fast. at least if it’s obvious, i can be like alright cool noted and keep it moving.

I’d rather someone just leave me alone and not talk or engage if they don’t like me. I don’t want bullying behavior (too much bullying trauma from other women) nor do I want them to fake to like me if they don’t. I have a hard time gauging the dislike if they are faking and that really sucks

...working in retail I've been accused of being a racist multiple times now. They used to do it openly, and was quickly shut down by other customers around them - so now they do it in our store reviews. I prefer it openly, because when they repeatedly do it in the reviews, corporate will notice after a while, and the whole thing may turn into a "case" with lawyers involved and whatnot. Just because Mr. & Mrs. Potatonose was refused, when they wanted to buy a full cart of discounted eggs, when the d******* sign clearly says "only xx amount".

Depends on how they act about that dislike. If they're more of a hassle than knowing is worth it's easier for us both if they hide it, but if they have some level of self control i prefer to know 

transparency is the best policy. I would prefer upfront people that way we know what we are working with and can set my boundaries and give said person their space as no one has to like anyone by force. Now when someone secretly dislikes me I like that I have my own secret power called discernment to kind of tell when someone thing or someone feels off and I tend to listen to my gut there and then act accordingly.

Open dislike. At least I don’t have to play detective trying to figure out vibes 😅

Yeah, me, too. It saves a lot of trouble. I hate relationships that don't make sense.

Openly disliking is better. Atleast we can stay away from them

I’d take open dislike any day. At least you know where you stand and don’t have to overthink every interaction. The secret dislike is what messes with your head, because you start second guessing everything like “was that normal or…?” I’d rather just have it be clear and move on.

Lol openly ofc.

Dislike me however you want...idgaf about what you think...

I can still be civil to someone I dislike- so what does it matter if I keep my dislike a secret- 'pearls before swine'- and all that

Openly. I can take it. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, so if contact is causing friction, best to know right away, so I can spend my energy elsewhere

Openly. I'd rather someone say they don't like me, so I can avoid interacting with them more than the strictly necessary.

I'll take secretly dislike.

honestly doesn't matter that much. people are gonna be weird about it either way. just kinda move on with your life

i’ve gone through both and find open dislike much more preferable

Openly dislike me. On the rare occasions I met someone I truly can't stand, it will be blatantly obviously to everybody, including that person. I'm a grown man. I can handle people not liking me. Most people are fine, and I tend to make friends easily. Well friendly acquaintances, at least.

I'll take the openly dislike because at least they aren't trying to avoid confrontation or straight up lie to my face. I shouldn't have to read between the lines with every social interaction and pretending to be friends just seems like a huge waste of energy and time.

I'd rather someone be open about it. It might be uncomfortable at first, but at least you know where you stand and don't have to overthink things. Fake niceness just creates more confusion in the long run.

I want full honesty soo, open dislike definitely. Because at least then I know which version of myself you hate. Secret dislike just got me overthinking

Sure it's better to know what people think about you than getting stabbed in the back someday.

Either way, I am the supreme leader in their minds so I’d say both.

Secretly dislike me. It's because I actually don't care but I'm curious what they would talk about me. I like the drama but don't involve myself 😅

I’d rather be openly disliked. Saves me so much trouble, especially if I were to try to make friends with that person (provided I was unaware that they didn’t like me).  

Respect the openly disliking compared to the fakies that will talk about you behind your back.

I also prefer open dislike. It may be uncomfortable but it's vastly preferable to being lied to or mislead. Especially bc I'm autistic and I don't always notice social cues despite my attempts to learn

Do everything behind my back and leave me alone.

Openly dislike me, and save me some effort lol 🤣 Seriously, though. I went through an entire summer job season, wasting energy on inviting people to do stuff and being nice, only to find out that most of the staff disliked me at the end of the season. I learned to conserve my energy and effort after that. (Context: It was a college summer job in the US, and it was common for the staff to go out for trivia nights, meals, etc.)

Secretly for sure… not looking for drama

I don't care if someone likes it dislike America, they can say it to my face or behind my back, I don't care. I am not here to please anyone else just me.

I don't care if people hate me. I have plenty of friends that I know love me. I DO care about manners in public, though. I don't need to go about my day catching flack. I prefer if people secretly dislike me. I can probably tell you dislike me anyway, but I don't want to be told outloud. Honestly, no one does. It's awful.

I much prefer to be hated openly. Please, even if you're unpleasant to me, just be real. Can't stand fake people. That said, I'm usually not openly mean even to people I dislike but that's because I prefer to keep the peace. Maybe that's why I dislike it so much lol.

I don’t care enough to invest in ppl that don’t like me.