My personality has changed so much these past one year after getting into uni. I came here thinking that I would make so many friends and have so much fun but i keep making the wrong decision over and over again, i keep ignoring my instincts and now I'm at a point where I'm not sure who I am anymoe. Have you ever experienced such a situation?
This is a time where you’ll really start building who you are as a person so try not to worry about it. It’s a difficult time and there’s so much new experiences and situations. It’s a common feeling, in life we can only try our best :)
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Yea i can feel my personality changing . I'm starting to respect myself and learn how to be on my own
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GummySophieMar 27, 2026
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Oh f yeah, that’s reply great to hear. Being able to be by yourself is an essential life skill - more so now than ever with how interconnected we are with tech but that sort of interconnection is like empty calories and is worse in the long run if you rely on it.
I love to hear your starting respect yourself more. That’s such an important thing in life which will help deepen and enrich all your other external relationships in life.
This is a hard time and one where you go through the most fundamental changes in self iver the shortest time generally speaking.
Just find a value you respect like kindness or empathy or whatever it is for you and use that to motivate your actions and if you feel too scared about the degree of change this can be a coherent value thread which will link your past and future self <3
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Aaw thank you so much for the kind words
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Final_Bet_7023Mar 27, 2026
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totally get that, uni can really flip your world upside down. it’s a wild ride and figuring out who you are in the middle of all that chaos is tough, but you’re not alone in feeling this way.
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Thanks bro it's good to know I'm not alone
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wameisadevMar 27, 2026
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ye same thing happened to me first year. felt like i was just copying whoever i was around. it gets better once u figure out what u actually like doing vs what u think u should be doing
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Yea I'm starting to not care about what others think of me and just makes me happy
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Specialist_Border291Mar 27, 2026
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yeah i felt that too, uni kinda changed me and i started ignoring what felt right. it sucks but i think its just part of figuring things out again slowly..
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Same here tbh
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Annyahs44Mar 27, 2026
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Yes, became chronically ill with serious neurological symptoms and lost everything about my life I loved, plus a future. It's incredibly hard. I feel like an imposter
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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I'm sorry to hear that. I'm sure everything will work out don't lose hope
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Due_Necessary_4076Mar 27, 2026
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Yeah, I’ve felt that. Big life changes can shake your sense of self a lot. It doesn’t mean you’re lost, just adjusting. Give it time and pay more attention to what actually feels right to you...
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Fun-Feedback3926Mar 27, 2026
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Uni is for sure the best time to feel like this- take it & run, you're a piece of fresh clay waiting to be moulded into whatever you'd like.
But to answer your question, I'm about to turn 29 and if I could send myself from 2 years ago a post-card to let them know what life is like & what we're up to now, that mf would go into cardiac arrest.
I personally believe the self should stay at least partially unrecognisable and/or shifting at all times, because otherwise you'd be stagnant. Just my 2 cents.
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Ok-Ambassador-3648Mar 27, 2026
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Totally agree
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Key-Candle8141Mar 27, 2026
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I remember the moment I realized I was capable of being degraded further than I thought imaginable
The years since have been learning to deal with it
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whassthefussboutMar 27, 2026
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I am much more detached now be it work, people or situations.
It feels both calm and frightening. Once I get detached from love also, I'll be high functioning monk
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Relevant-Werewolf-12Mar 27, 2026
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thing about life is that you’re constantly changing and finding out who you are it doesn’t stop
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