Recently i got embroiled in this arranged marriage process , met a few guys via the process. Everytime I make sure to not interact with 2 guys at the sane time or get 2 or more rishtas going side by side. I have never dated before. The downside of this is that I start giving my all in that conversation - I start showing my emotional turmoils there as well , like what i liked or didnt like. If someone asks me their pros and cons i dont sugarcoat stuff and just say it outright, which now i believe is a wrong thing. I should only be speaking the good part , the pros of the other person. So is this correct that in such scenarios one must only communicate the good part and not the bad part about a person even if asked? Like i have no experience of how girls should talk to guys - I talk to them like random people.
Secondly, when things dont workout i find it difficult to start the process again or to look at other rishtas...I form some kind of attachment with that person and even if i know that there are valid reasons why i left the arrangement, still im not able to get over that habit of talking to him day and night.
What to do in such circumstances?
Should i not invest myself completely? Run 2-3 rishtas side by side?
How to get over such attachments or habits?
What if someone called me jhalli? what does it even mean?
You should start putting that same effort of attachment into yourself. It keeps happening because you don’t love yourself FIRST. If you loved yourself first you would choose you and your peace over stressing like this easily. I was also like this until i realized im not actually in love and it’s ONLY attachment, so the only way to move on is to remove yourself. It’s easier said than done but I promise you, just start by putting more love in yourself
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