As someone who is having a difficult time getting pregnant, I truly, truly hope for the best and safest journey for her.
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Euphoric_War_2195Apr 16, 2026
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Good luck to you on your journey as well!
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tinypumpkenApr 16, 2026
+8
Thank you! :)
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outdoorgearguyApr 18, 2026
+11
We just had our egg retrieval today! If there are any lessons I can takeaway from this IVF experience, as a man, they are these:
Women’s body’s are insane (in the most magical way possible). The pain they can endure while simultaneously creating something that makes them and others happy is the miracle.
Science changes lives. Our clinic is 100% women and seeing the highly educated, articulate, and compassionate team do what they do has been a joy greater than anything we’ve been through.
To anybody who is making the difficult decisions related to infertility treatment, there are more of us out there than you think and we support you no matter what decision you make. ❤️
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BidEuphoric51176 days ago
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Good luck to you.
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RoutmanApr 16, 2026
+16
Interesting, wonder why she wouldn’t get a surrogate
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bathtime85Apr 16, 2026
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According to the article, her first kid was born via surrogate. She froze her eggs after a cervical cancer diagnosis
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finlybooApr 16, 2026
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I mean this so non-snarkily, if you think it’s that easy you don’t know a thing about surrogacy. Surrogacy involves enormous risk to the carrier and there really isn’t an ethical way to source a carrier in the US. There are agencies that will pair up people looking for a surrogate, but there are ZERO REGULATIONS around the industry. There are ZERO protections for the surrogate carrier.
Go read [The Baby Died, Who’s Fault is it?](https://www.wired.com/story/the-baby-died-whose-fault-is-it-surrogate-pregnancy/) and see what your honest opinion about surrogacy is after getting a peek into the industry.
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George_Is_UpsetApr 16, 2026
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This is a very fair take. Saying someone should have used a surrogate is so flippant.
IMO, when people say that it kinda frames the act of surrogacy like it’s a job and as if surrogates pregnancy experiences aren’t as difficult or something.
Surrogates provide gifts to people and are angels for being willing to carry another person’s child. The physical, mental, and emotional toll it takes shouldn’t be taken lightly. Whether people intend it or not, the flippant way people speak about surrogacy is a little icky to me.
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LadonnacinicaApr 16, 2026
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She has used a surrogate. She still needs an embryo to put in that surrogate hence the need for IVF.
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Sea-Present-8543Apr 16, 2026
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Not sure where she lives, but in my country (and many others) it’s forbidden for ethical reasons. She may have such objections herself, I know I do.
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ekobresApr 16, 2026
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She’s done it before. Her two-year-old was a surrogate baby.
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Zestyclose-Novel1157Apr 16, 2026
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I alway silently judge old parents. They are legally allowed to do it though. She is rich enough to pay for a nanny to play with her kids and watch them.
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crunchyfoliageApr 16, 2026
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One of my coworkers just had a kid at 53 years old. Super risky pregnancy, I'm glad she's okay. I can't help but feel sad, that no matter what, that kid is going to lose his parents young
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New_Blueberry4932Apr 17, 2026
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People are living longer than they ever did, but you can't control death. I have a lot of friends in their 20's and 30's with parents that had them young die young. My parents were a little older and are in great health and will likely live another decade or 2. I'm 36. Grandparents made it to 100 with no assisted living arrangements and died at home.
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Excellent-Rest32406 days ago
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Living long but in what condition? You can try your best to stay fit and healthy, but some things deteriorate with age no matter what
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New_Blueberry49326 days ago
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Healthspan has also increased in addition to longevity
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Excellent-Rest32406 days ago
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That’s what I meant with health and fit. Even if they achieve the optimal of that, there is a general aging that lowers things things (energy, stamina, mindset, etc
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allthatryry6 days ago
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Yeah it’s not the being in your 40s or even 50s and parenting young kids, it’s being old and having young adults that are burdened with what happens when you have aging parents.
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AngryPrincessWarrior6 days ago
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One of the benefits of being an “older” parent if you’re not a shitty parent is you have made plans for retirement and medical care-you aren’t just waiting on your kids to care for you and nobody should **expect** this no matter how young you are when you become a parent.
Yours adult kids lives are their own, you have to plan for your own future and care. I didn’t have children to be my caretakers.
My kids won’t have to lift a finger for our care unless they want to but it will be covered.
(Became a mother at 34 for the first time and having my last baby at 37 later this year, husband is 45).
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allthatryry6 days ago
I was a teen mom and I didn’t need to be in my 30s to know this. Of course, I work in healthcare so I see what happens to people. Now that my daughter is launched into adulthood, my man focus is setting up MY future, so she doesn’t have to worry about it or worse, so I get in a position of having no one like I see of so many patients.
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firetruckgoesweewooApr 18, 2026
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One of my ancestors had children at 53 and 57.
I cried when I realised that all the women in my family seem to be fertile for such a long time. I still have nearly three decades of having my monthly ahead of me 😭
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newtothegardenApr 18, 2026
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Don't take it for granted - most of the women in my family have been extremely fertile and I am currently trying to start ivf at 30 and probably going to go into menopause within a few years. You never know what will happen for you.
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Helpful-Celery6237Apr 17, 2026
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I mean, a 25 year old parent can die tomorrow, too.
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Excellent-Rest32406 days ago
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I mean, people can also win the l****** so yes, accumulate that credit card dept!
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elbrooko79Apr 17, 2026
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The other option is course is that that kid never existed.
Not sure thats a better option for them
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KeyFeeFeeApr 17, 2026
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No one is sad that they never existed. All my eggs that die every month aren’t in some alternate universe devastated at not being fertilized.
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Effective-Band-8714Apr 19, 2026
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And I silently judge young parents who can’t afford their kids, both of us would be better off shutting up about it
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AngryPrincessWarrior6 days ago
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I judge people who intentionally have kids and they don’t bother to get married or own property together or otherwise risk a serious commitment to each other before creating **human life** because they “want a baaaaabyyyyy” together.
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condosovariosApr 16, 2026
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I would keep that silent. Not everyone has a choice when they have a baby.
I start trying at 30, and have gone through 6 rounds of letrozole and 2 rounds of IVF over the last 4 years.
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gnirpssApr 17, 2026
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30s is not old to become a parent, especially if you don't plan to have a large family. Late 40s is a much different story. Best of luck in your fertility journey!
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AngryPrincessWarrior6 days ago
… what part of that did you not understand?
They **didn’t*+ succeed at 30. I agree it’s not old at 30 BUT THEY DIDNT HAVE A BABY AT 30 that’s just when they started trying.
It seems from their comment that they still haven’t succeeded. Some people? Takes 3,5,10 years.
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gnirpss6 days ago
I said 30s, not 30. They've been trying for 4 years, which would make them 34, which is still not old, especially compared to 47.
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AngryPrincessWarrior5 days ago
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And that whole process takes time, a whole year almost if you’re successful and you clearly aren’t thinking about miscarriages and the time and toll that takes to heal from before attempting again.
And if you have a regular cycle? That’s only 12 attempts a year, with a 20% chance of success assuming everyone is bealthy. An irregular one? A handful or less.
It isn’t that simple and time slips by faster than people realize.
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condosovarios5 days ago
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Yes, exactly that. One year of trying naturally, then a year to get a diagnosis of PCOS (had to rule out everything from thyroid issues to a brain tumor), then six rounds of letrozole, then one round of IVF that did not go well, then finding a diagnosis of male factor infertility, then another round of IVF to deal with that issue, and a miscarriage.
Boom. Three and a half years.
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soundofconfusionApr 17, 2026
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30s is not the same at menopause age. Weird you think there’s a comparison there. They commented about age, not IVF.
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AngryPrincessWarrior6 days ago
Sounds like they still haven’t succeeded in 4 years **ffs**. They *started* trying at 30.
They may not succeed for some more years. They could be 40 before they do.
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soundofconfusion6 days ago
I completely understood that that’s still light years away from 47. What is your point? Did you know a single round of IVF costs around 30k even if it’s not successful. You have to be rich as f*** to keep trying that long.
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condosovariosApr 17, 2026
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It can take a lot longer than planned if you have fertility issues. This is not a difficult concept.
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soundofconfusionApr 17, 2026
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17 years?! Most people give up by then because IVF is very very expensive.
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Zestyclose-Novel1157Apr 16, 2026
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Thats unfortunate but we all have our problems and I have yet to meet someone who doesn’t judge someone else for something. I have no problem with doing the same.
Can you honestly say you do not judge anyone else for anything?
You are the only one who needs to approve of your life choices. I hope it works out for you.
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condosovariosApr 17, 2026
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But people cannot help being infertile. It's a medical condition. It's not caused by lifestyle factors either.
I think it is a good idea to not judge people for things they cannot help. Like skin colour, medical disadvantages, the socioeconomic group you were born into.
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Fabulous_Low2407Apr 18, 2026
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Sending you so much love because I have been there. The commenter likely has never experienced infertility so they are judgmental. Lucky them….
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suchalittlejoiner6 days ago
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I’m guessing you judge old mothers more. Many men have babies in their 40’s without judgment. When a woman does it, it’s a news story - for men, they have to be about 75 before it’s a news story.
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Zestyclose-Novel11575 days ago
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You can guess whatever you want. We’re (in this case you) all wrong about things sometimes.
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zaybay9Apr 16, 2026
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Geriatric starts at 35 so should all women over 35 just get their tubes tied at that point?
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Zestyclose-Novel1157Apr 16, 2026
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Old men also have degraded sperm quality.
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Excellent_Month_2025Apr 16, 2026
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Men’s sperm quality sharply degrades at age 35 - men above age 35-40 can no longer donate sperm due to the large number of abnormalities. So why aren’t you shaming men who father children above age 35, for putting children at risk?
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QueenBoleynApr 16, 2026
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We’re shaming both…
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Excellent_Month_2025Apr 16, 2026
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I only see the woman being shamed here. No one even asked how old the father is
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QueenBoleynApr 16, 2026
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Why would we? The article is about the woman who is way too old to have a kid. The father’s age is irrelevant.
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Excellent_Month_2025Apr 16, 2026
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The father's age is not irrelevant - the father's age contributes to birth defects and genetic abnormalities post 35. Is the father 35, or younger? the father's health and age matters quite a bit, actually, and it's misogynistic and myopic to pretend otherwise
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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Old starts at 35? Did a child write this?
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benkatejackwinApr 16, 2026
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They mean the actual, medical definition.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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Old =/= geriatric pregnancy, and given how mentally unwell they sound up and down this post, they don't deserve the benefit of the doubt.
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Both_Perception_1941Apr 16, 2026
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It’s not
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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>geriatric in pregnancy terms
This is such a dumb hill to die on when you realize this starts at 35 and really isn't a big deal.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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You aren't using the term correctly. Literally no medical professional outside of some rural bumpkin hospital would shame a woman for getting pregnant at 35 the way you are.
You seem to have decided that someone else's trauma is your own and that's the only way to make yourself interesting. Work on that.
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Ok_Plastic9909Apr 16, 2026
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Most people live way beyond 70. Plus I think you may have a privileged standpoint of getting a lot of time with your parents. They all die eventually but lots of people lose their parents before 20 regardless of geriatric pregnancies, or just have terrible unloving parents.
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Zestyclose-Novel1157Apr 16, 2026
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Not only that, these parents are going to be on the decline while their kids are relatively young. She will probably live a long time but it isn’t really fair for a kid to have to navigate mom and dad’s health issues or potentially passing when they are still relatively young compared to their peers.
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navortsaApr 16, 2026
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On the other hand, I would consider someone who has a child at 22 young. I absolutely couldn’t have parented a child then.
My parents were 40 when I was born and I’m glad they were. They had their shit together and could raise me right.
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joc052Apr 16, 2026
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I’m slightly conflicted because my parents had my brother around their 41s, but my dad had cancer and while he survived his quality of life has greatly declined compared to when I was young. A lot of the stuff my dad was able to do with me he isn’t able to do now, and pretty much since I was 13 I’ve had the idea on the back on my head that my dad might just drop dead any day and I would have to find a job to help support my brother. I’m 27 and my brother is 15, so I’m at a stage where that wouldn’t be as “disruptive” to my life, but I myself have start getting checked for cancer in 3 years and honestly if I end up like my dad I would have wished to already have had a kid to be able to do stuff with him
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Both_Perception_1941Apr 16, 2026
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Nobody should be having kids using this logic. Young people get cancer too
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Both_Perception_1941Apr 16, 2026
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You said anyone over 35
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Both_Perception_1941Apr 16, 2026
Why are you walking back on your argument? Suddenly you’re saying to go for a geriatric pregnancy at 35? Isn’t that extremely selfish ?
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Euphoric_War_2195Apr 16, 2026
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People can get sick at any time though. My friend is 35 and her mom just had a heart attack and was also just diagnosed with lung cancer. My bf lost his mom at 32.
I have friends who lost their parents young (in their early 20s and their parent's were only in their 40s).
Meanwhile my bfs grandma is still alive at 86. Genetics also plays a big role in this too.
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corininiApr 16, 2026
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20 years of life caring for someone sucks starting at 55 too. Don't see how it's that much better than starting at 40.
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corininiApr 16, 2026
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No that's not what I was doing at all.
I was saying if your aunt had a child at a younger age, that child would be 55 when she started taking care of your aunt. If she had a child at an older age, that child would be 40 when she started taking care of your aunt. Either one sucks and it really doesn't matter what age your aunt gave birth.
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Acceptable_Tea_3685Apr 16, 2026
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I’m sorry you had a bad experience, but demonizing anyone who has kids after 35 due to YOUR trauma is insane. Your situation was due to the specific people and circumstances involved. It will not be replicated just because someone else has kids after 35 or even after 40. There are a multitude of people who had kids later in life with no issues.
That being said, I do think it’s safer and more stable to have kids when you know you’ve got a lot of life ahead of you. Doesn’t mean I’m gonna go around in hysterics tearing down people who feel differently.
You need to go to therapy and deal with the trauma from your husband’s situation, seriously.
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MindYogaAstrologyApr 18, 2026
My granddad was 54 when my mom was born. He lived until she was around 30 and shes never had an issue with his age. If she hadn't been born, then myself and my kids wouldn't have been born.
Why judge people for things that dont affect you and arent your business?
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darlin133Apr 18, 2026
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Can? Maybe. Should. No.
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BrokenBrainBlink6 days ago
+1
Irresponsible and selfish
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mother_puppyApr 17, 2026
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my mom was almost 38 when I was born and now that I’m 35 and she’s 73 it’s becoming harder for me having an older mom. I can’t imagine what it’s be like for kids whose parents would be entering their 70s when they are in college.
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New_Blueberry4932Apr 17, 2026
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I'm 36 and my dad's 73. His age hasn't ever been an issue for me he's completely independent physically and very sharp mentally. That said, I've seen some people in their 70's not age as well.
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mother_puppyApr 17, 2026
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that’s my thing - like the odds of health issues increase w age and the child would be dealing w that so young.
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TravelingSongApr 18, 2026
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38 is a normal age to have children and is not old. People have been having kids at that age forever, especially before birth control. The only thing that’s changed is that the age of having the first child has shifted later.
47, the age in this article, is beyond most women’s reproductive window, which is why it’s a topic of conversation. 38 isn’t in the same ballpark.
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mother_puppyApr 18, 2026
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tbc, I was my mom’s first child. and also - that was my point? like my mom is 9 years older than my dad and it’s super noticeable at this point, so I can’t imagine how tough that would be for someone whose parent would be 10+ yrs older than my mom was.
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Adventurous-Golf715Apr 17, 2026
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There’s no guarantee young parents will make it to old age anyways.
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PuzzleheadedAsk45056 days ago
+1
Poor kid is gonna be a caregiver before they even have time to have kids of their own.
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suchalittlejoiner6 days ago
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You’d say that if the dad was 47?
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PuzzleheadedAsk45056 days ago
+1
Of course. Probably even more because men have a lower life expectancy.
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suchalittlejoiner5 days ago
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I have literally never seen an entire post about a celebrity man having a kid at 47 like it’s a big deal.
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PuzzleheadedAsk45055 days ago
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Well I didn’t make the original post but I will make sure to do so next time some over the hill* male celeb impregnates his partner.
*am in my 40s so I say this from experience. I’m old and tired.
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VampirePolwygle5 days ago
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Everyone is so judgmental when it comes to women and their bodies. Do not judge.
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heatdeathtoallApr 18, 2026
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Yikes, the comment section is a shitshow. You all must’ve been born to perfectly healthy 30 year olds with no genetic predisposition to dementia or any disease causing early death. You all must be against gay men using surrogates to build families? No, we’re only judging women who overwhelmingly bear the burden of infertility. Are you all against organ donation as well? Because there’s a whole black market around that. No, only against women using surrogacy?
Take a read through the adoptee and IVF subs. These are traumatized people. Most of the time there are no explanations and women spend years trying to have a family. No, they are not all rich white women. They are women of every colour who take a job at Amazon warehouse and Starbucks to get access to fertility treatments. Families who save up to afford one chance to have a child.
Let’s not judge and tell others when and how they should have kids. Kids aren’t possessions that you just pick if another kind - donor egg/ sperm/ embryo/ adopted. Have a child you can love with all your heart.
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AuburnMoon17Apr 16, 2026
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It’s going to be a geriatric pregnancy through IVF. I’m sure that won’t cause any issues for the fetus. Just so long as she gets what she wants, right? People like this a gross. You’re nearly 50. The time to have children has passed. You missed the boat. Move on.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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>I’m sure that won’t cause any issues for the fetus.
Given that IVF screens out a lot of abnormalities before implantation? Yes, actually.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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I don't think you know a damn thing about IVF but felt the need to run your mouth anyway.
You should probably get that checked out.
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nosabyApr 16, 2026
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And she already has a son, via surrogacy! If she is that desperate to have another child she could adopt.
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names-in-sidewalks2Apr 17, 2026
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Oof, can’t believe people are still saying this line in 2026.
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OrkidingMeApr 16, 2026
I’m a couple years younger than her, and one of the worst things I can think of would be raising a baby at my age. And I say this as someone who has wanted children, had multiple miscarriages followed by losing my son soon after he was born. But she might be in better shape than me and have help.
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names-in-sidewalks25 days ago
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I’m so sorry for your losses.
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OrkidingMe5 days ago
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Thank you for being kind!
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zaybay9Apr 16, 2026
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Yes because the average 60 something year old is in a wheelchair
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Ltrain86Apr 16, 2026
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He lost his parents when he was already over 30 years old. So sorry, but that's life. Most of us lose our parents when we're between the ages of 30-55. That pain of grief and caring through hospice that you wouldn't wish on anyone isn't avoidable, and he was already a fully grown man when he experienced it.
I've been through it too, at a younger age than him, even though my parents had me at 25. Cancer is a b****! Meanwhile my grandpa is still kicking at 99 years old.
Btw mid to late 30s (since you brought up your husbands parents age as a negative thing) is a perfectly normal age to have kids these days, that's what I did and every parent in my kids' classes are right in my age range.
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jogoso2014Apr 16, 2026
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They should prep them for having older parents and explain the concept of dying.
Death is going to suck regardless and there should be enough happy times to deal with grief the way anyone else does.
Has nothing to do with supporting IVF for older people though.
I just think the notion of expecting kids to be better off if they simply didn’t exist to be a weird philosophy. Not saying you’re saying that, but the sentiment comes up a lot for some reason and this has similar if not exact vibes.
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sashikkuApr 16, 2026
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You need professional psychological help.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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Seriously. There's so much to unpack here.
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sashikkuApr 16, 2026
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Let’s just chuck the whole suitcase into the ocean.
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sashikkuApr 16, 2026
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I’m not concerned for you at all, I’m concerned for the poor souls that have to deal with you on a daily basis.
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sashikkuApr 16, 2026
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Sure, Jan. I’m *sure* they’re being truthful when they say that and not at all trying to be nice to the person they feel sorry for.
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zaybay9Apr 16, 2026
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Or maybe older parents should just take better care of their health I have grandparents in Africa who are active and alive at 80-100 years old
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zaybay9Apr 16, 2026
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The average life expectancy of healthy people is 80+ of course cancer speeds that up but it is what it is 🤷🏽♀️ I find just as offensive when people tell women over 40 and even over 35 not to reproduce because they won’t live to see their grandchildren.. you can f*** off too dmbass
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Reeko_HtownApr 16, 2026
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Spoken like someone who doesn’t have kids.
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AuburnMoon17Apr 16, 2026
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Spoken like someone who had kids too late in life
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Reeko_HtownApr 16, 2026
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Late is better than never
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No_Map7832Apr 16, 2026
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I needed IVF because of endometriosis. Nothing wrong chromosomally with my egg quality or my husband’s sperm quality. And we know that because we tested the embryos. I had lesions and scar tissue all over my ovaries and my pelvis was inflamed from the time I was 14. Should I have had my kids at 13? I am once again going to call you a miserable f***, you miserable f***.
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mcav89Apr 16, 2026
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What a miserable life you lead to need to be a hateful troll on the internet for fun.
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No_Map7832Apr 16, 2026
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You love making assumptions. You have no idea how old I am. I am once again going to call you a f****** idiot. Please do not reproduce. We don’t need people as stupid as you reproducing their genome. We do actually need thoughtful people reproducing theirs. My kids won’t have to take care of me when I’m old. I think that’s a terrible reason to have kids. If I wasn’t confident that I could be self-sufficient in old age I wouldn’t have them. I will raise them knowing that caring for me in old age isn’t their responsibility. I have watched elder care shave decade off of people’s lives. But again, way to make assumptions, you are very very good at thinking.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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Double your dosage.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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Cancer, something that famously only affects the elderly.
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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I'd rather poke myself in the eye with a spoon than reread anything you've written.
You're just damaged and lashing out... over a C list celebrity doing IVF. Lolwut
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MayorofTromavilleApr 16, 2026
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>You’re all upset because someone said old people shouldn’t have children
You're the one who's decided that 35 is "old person" and you're mad butthurt about how much you're getting called out about it LOL
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No_Map7832Apr 16, 2026
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I had an aunt die of brain cancer at 8 years old you miserable f***. I don’t know how much being 60-70 had to do with it.
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