Ex-funeral home owner faces 20 years in prison after giving families fake ashes

Yep, same. I’m not dying now.

I totally get wanting to be in the room and pushing the button to start the process. But a viewing window seems like a little much, like wouldn’t it get super gross super quickly. Doesn’t seem like something I’d actually want to watch.

I know people and pets aren’t the same thing, but I get pet bereavement content on Rednote and people in China have posted pictures of their families sending off beloved pets in this way. It makes sense, that it’s an echo of how beloved human family members would be sent off. I don’t know that I’d want to actively watch the cremation of a relative or pet, but I can see how being there with other loved ones and being able to look, being able to know nothing shady is going on, could be a comfort.

Yeah apparently this is common at Indian funerals too. I found that one out at the end of my dad’s funeral when they told me to do it lmao.

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I am catholic and you can watch the body go into the ground at the grave site if you want to, we usually go to the grave site anyways during the funeral (I am sure you can make it so this part is optional if you want) and there are always grave diggers on hand during this.

Last October I attended my fiances grandmother’s funeral in Japan. There was no viewing window for the cremation. But we saw the ashes and bones immediately after and used these ceremonial chopsticks to places the bones in an urn.

I've heard in Japan at least, there is even a funeral rite afterwards for very close members of the deceased, where they take bones by chopstick and grind them down. (This is where the social faux pas on passing food chopstick to chopstick comes from.)

That’s because it is potentially dangerous and we have to do special preparation to let people back into the crematorium. Technically, people aren’t allowed back there who aren’t trained employees. Liability for the funeral home is high if someone gets hurt. There is all sorts of dangerous equipment in the crematorium; it’s not just the retort. It’s also very uncomfortable in there. 

Won't be long until the families will have to get tickets to these through Ticketmaster.  Probably.

It's a problem of any industry. The system as it stands - as it has been designed by the rich and powerful to justify and cement their station - only values profit. Kindness, care, ethics, and generally not being a complete b****** are only useful insofar as they benefit profit, and what that really comes down to is projecting the *image* but not the *practice* of those things. Employees, customers, the very resources that you utilize to create your product or service all become little more than obstacles to your profit. You are incentivized to squeeze them dry by whatever means are available to you. People stop being people.

SNFs are going to have a reckoning soon, as upcoming generations will/do _not_ have that kind of money. Something has to change.

If it hasn't happened yet, expect Private Equity to start moving in and taking over. It's a captive market.

Yup. My great aunt had just about a million dollars from her 401k/selling house after husband died. She didn't want to move out of state and in state family didn't have room or ability to care for her full time. Her freaking nursing home cost 10k a month (we found out near the end the true cost). After 7 years she essentially told the family she was out of money. She passed shortly after but just sad to see the nursing home take her for her literal last penny. And the food they served her when we visited was pretty much prison food. Insane.

Yup because usually the kids of the people that need to go into the nursing home have their own lives and cannot care for grandma or grandpa and they have no choice but to place them in one, I have been there and it can get real ugly. Nursing homes in my area are falling apart from neglect, we are talking literally falling tile on the residents and residents in their rooms, flooded hallways with sopping water and the one that has this problem is in one of the most expensive areas in my area. The 50 patients to one resident is so true and almost all those patients have dementia, if you haven't experienced it you can only imagine. Some scream and cry for their loved ones all day long. There's not enough money to pay CNA's to take care of these people, they should be getting double the pay they are, I do believe the CNA's actually do care which is what I experienced however they are just so short staffed and aren't given the resources to properly care for nursing home residents with severe dementia so they have to cut corners where they can. Food was really good in the nursing home I had to deal with, I think I got lucky with the one I had to deal with, it did not have the building problems that I have heard about like what I said above

Both the woman and her ex are total psychopaths. She feels released and the guy said he'll feel guilty for what he did. Total bullshit from them as far as I am concerned. They only feel that way because they'll be spending a couple decades or more rotting in prison and can't feed their lavish lifestyle anymore. It's sickening and depressing to a degree I can't put into words.

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Yep, they used concrete mix instead of ashes.