Former Virginia Lt. Gov. Justin Fairfax and his wife dead in murder-suicide

I had a co worker whose husband used to abuse her. Beat her. Make her commit robberies and if she didn't then he would beat her child. She murdered him one day. She did several years. I met her after she had been released for a while. She was nice but pretty messed up

That is so sad.

That’s so smart of her, holy shit. I’m glad she made it out, alive.

Did they stay together after that?

Corina Smith, my spelling might be off

>I didn’t know that sugar water has an even higher boiling point In fact the boiling temperature is proportional to the percentage of water in it. That's how candy making thermometers work, you boil it until it gets hot enough to act hot you want in the candy (syrup/thread, soft ball, hard crack, then caramel as the sugar starts to burn from lack of water vaporization (those names referring to what happens if you want a blob of it and cool it quickly, like dropping into water, for before thermometers were trustworthy))

It would be rude to use a standard pot.

Well, she’s not going to use a ramen pot.

Yep, this happened to my husband when he got between a woman and her partner who was physically abusing her in public. He came up and knocked the guy down, and she started screaming at my husband, when the cops arrived she tried to get in the police cruiser with her abuser when they were taking him away. Super depressing.

Still difficult if the victim is a hostile witness.

A lot of it has to do with finances. My best friend is in an abusive marriage because she can't pay rent on her own. I myself left my abuser, but struggle to pay bills every month. I sell plasma to pay my power bill, but they lower the payout as you keep selling. It's hard to leave a relationship when it's hard for a single person to pay rent. I'm actually the cautionary tale in my friend's life. She says stuff like "I can't leave. Look at you. Look at how you live. I'm only afraid sometimes, but you're almost homeless every month." And I hate to say it, but she's right. She's scared of one man sometimes, but every month I risk having to be afraid of every man on the street. This is why a lot of people don't leave an abusive situation and end up rolling that dice.

I think you’re getting at something real, but it’s bigger than just “women choose bad partners.” The whole setup pushes women toward relationships as a source of validation, while the reality of those relationships, especially with kids, often doesn’t value them back. I’m a new mom and I do enjoy my baby, but I’m also in a position a lot of American women aren’t. I have real extended family support, not just a partner. There are multiple adults around who actually want to help, people who can hold the baby, even a night owl who works during the day and helps at night so I can get real sleep, give me a break, share the load. That “village” fundamentally changes the experience. If I were doing this in the typical isolated nuclear setup with just me and a partner, especially postpartum, I honestly think I’d go a little insane. It’s just too much for one or two people to carry nonstop. Americans don’t seem to realize isolated nuclear families are an unnatural load to carry especially with babies. And that ties into your point. Women are still socialized to derive validation from having a partner, but once they’re in that role, their labor is deeply undervalued. Pregnancy, postpartum recovery, childcare, emotional labor… it’s a massive load, with very little structural support or cultural respect. You see it in how some men will say “babies are easy” but complain that their postpartum wife is “annoying,” completely missing what she just went through physically and hormonally, or how normalized sleep deprivation is in these isolated setups. There’s also a reason women initiate most divorces. On average, marriage tends to make men healthier and more stable—they gain emotional support, caregiving, and structure—while women often take on more stress, more unpaid labor, and less support in return. When that imbalance becomes clear over time, a lot of women opt out. And zooming out, this is why the “low birth rate” panic misses the point. Pregnancy and motherhood are a lot of labor for very little respect, status, or structural support in the U.S.—weak maternity leave, no village, postpartum treated as something to instantly bounce back from rather than the recovery period it is that necessitates village support, expensive healthcare, and a culture that treats it as a private choice you’re on your own for. If pregnant women and moms were treated more like Olympic gold medalists you’d probably see very different outcomes. So it’s not just that some women are choosing poorly, it’s that they’re operating within a system that encourages them to center relationships, while undervaluing their labor within them. In the worst cases, some men don’t deeply value their partner as a person at all, but treat her more like a source of sex, labor, and stability. That disconnect is a big part of why these patterns keep showing up.

Yup, you better have ten toes on the ground when you confront.

That sucks. Living with someone throughout the process of divorce seems like a bomb waiting to explode. I know sometimes people don’t have the means to leave the house, and I believe divorce law actually encourages you not to leave the house, but it seems like leaving would be the best thing to do,

Appreciate that. Been ten years, met and married a lovely woman in that time. Have kids 50:50, defended my rights. Still am harassed monthly at minimum. Am currently in talks about how to get parallel parenting instead of coparenting because it’s been over 15 years of this abuse, I’m tied boss.

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hes more failed navy hill and two votes on c*****. Stone and Commanders were state level deals and Diamond District I think was after him and went through.