Girly gal turning 30 but I don’t want to change my fashion style

Don’t stop, we need you as yourself

Ayyyy! Same age! Listen to me, I speak from experience considering I’ve dealt with similar people…I’m alternative, I dye my hair wacky colors, wear black, the works. My age hasn’t hindered my love for the way I dress, even if people tell me I’m “too old” for it. If it makes you happy, it makes you happy. Who cares what other people think? The best thing you can do for yourself is be uniquely you and continue doing what you love.

You know those old ladies that have the wildest outfits that you see out in public? I’m sure it took them a lot of time to develop their style and they pull it off flawlessly. Keep dressing for you, you’re only going to prefect your style💕

I’m turning 30 in less than a month with soon to be four kids, I still dye my hair purple and dress the same way I have for the last twelve years. That’s how I’m happy. Sorry to anyone who doesn’t want to dress in a way that makes them happy. Must suck to be them.

Do what makes you happy.

I dislike the idea that to dress like an adult means to dress drab and lack expression. If the clothes fit you then you're dressed well.

Hi! You might want to join r/oldhagfashion. (Old is a relative/subjective/poking fun term.)

Listen... Dress your own way! My hubby tells me I'm too hippy dippy and wear too much tie dye but I honestly stopped caring and I dress how I'm comfortable. If you don't like it, don't look at me 🤣

Dress however tf u want

I let body dysmorphia steal my fashion sense for almost a decade and am also a bright colors/somewhat childlike dresser. I am 33 and recently rediscovered my own innate sense of style and I can't believe i let anything take that away from me ! As long as you are dressing appropriately, I don't see the issue. If you *wanted* to tone it down, you could try pairing fun accessories with otherwise more "adult" clothes, or you could do the opposite and keep the fun colorful clothes but wear some toned down or more mature pieces to go with it. 🤷‍♀️ but mostly I think you keep doing you if it makes you happy. those people don't live in your body and their opinions on what you put on it are ultimately irrelevant especially in your personal life.

You are still young.

Girl that all sounds super cute!!! I'm your age too and I have the opposite problem. I dress "comfy", or like kind of sporty but not in a s*** way lmao, and I've started feeling like I need to dress up more on the daily. I see women around my age who look so put together or at least have an outfit theme. I've decided to embrace sundresses since baggy sweater weather is over. I love the description you wrote of your outfits, especially the shoes with bows

Own it! You do you, do what makes you happy and what makes you feel your real, happy self. If anyone around you has a problem with it, that's their problem. The way I look at it, if anyone's going to look down on my for my Converse, or my nerdy t-shirts, or my dyed hair, or tattoos... they're not the kind of person I'd want to be friends with anyway, so no big loss. It feels like the world would be a happier place if we all just embraced the styles we love, and didn't feel like we needed to 'grow up' and comform to arbitrary standards of adulthood at all. Your style is the complete opposite of mine, but if I met you and saw the real, happy you? You'd be frickin' awesome in my book, for staying true to you!

Dress how you want! I'm in my 50's and have a Y2K/emo/GenX kind of outfit vibe. No one should ever think that when you turn a certain age, you have to dress a certain way. Unless it's unflattering or offensive, wear it!

I love girly clothes too! Sometimes I feel out of place when I wear puff sleeves and pastels and bows, but it’s my style so 🤷‍♀️ If you really want to tone it down without losing your flair, you could wear more neutrals and keep girly accessories. I’m thinking rich girl preppy. Or if that’s too different from what you’re wearing now, just change one or two pieces in each outfit to something more neutral for some balance. But girl, the world’s always gonna want more or less from you, and you can tune them out. Make sure that if you’re changing your style, you’re doing it for you and not for the haters.

I’m definitely older than you, and I STILL love pastels and sparkles and girly things! I joke that my favorite color is “glitter”. I usually wear sneakers and pants at work, but I REALLY want to get some pretty skirts and dresses. I am even thinking about trying to get over my self confidence issues and wear sleeveless things! (I really want to wear a sundress, but I need SUPPORT, so there’s a sewing pattern that I have been eyeing for years! It can be modified with a built-in bra.)

Be you

I get it but don’t internalize it (easier said than done). Dress how you like, it doesn’t hurt anyone else. People being uncomfortable isn’t your problem. Think of it like do they help you pay your bills aka free money? If they don’t do anything to make your life easier then their worth is what to you? Usually those people are not doing that. That’s a quick cut off for a lot of things. Best thing you can do is be you. Corny but whatever lol be happy by worrying about you and what you think about yourself. FIRST.

Do not change your clothes, hair, or shoes - tell whoever told you anything negative about how you dress to kick rocks.

It's worked for Betsy Johnson. Don't stop.

YOLO 

I need to preface this by saying I work in the second most notoriously poorly dressed field, mathematics. But I am surrounded - SURROUNDED I TELL YOU - by postdocs with dozens of incredibly intelligent, brilliant, and impressive published papers. And the outfits in my department range from PJs to literal banana costumes. I am 39. I am not the oldest here. I am not the worst dressed here. And the majority of us are people absolutely secure in our fields and selves. Because we're goddamn nerds. And if a bunch of snotty hoity toity university doctorates can wear neon bow ties, rainbow shoe laces, and doc Martin's with lace dresses then damnit SO CAN YOU

I'm in my 40s and increasingly dress like a pre schooler. 

Just be yourself and wear what brings you joy. I always have, still do, and I'm 66 now. Nobody gives me any c*** about it, in fact, I get compliments even from strangers. The trick is to embrace your style completely and without apology or hesitation. When you put your outfit on, remind yourself that you look fabulous and unique... and believe it. Go out into the world with confidence.

Don't change anything. There's too much of this you have to grow up nonsense around. Bugger off there's very little about being an adult that is worth it so enjoy absolutely everything you can enjoy regardless of what anyone says.

girl I'm 34, who gives a f***. lifes too short, wear what you want bc i mean I am and everyone else should too (within reason😂)

Please dress in a way that makes you happy

Where would you wanna wear? Who cares when anyone else thinks?

you should check out r/oldhagfashion because I feel like it's a similar be who you are fashion vibe

don’t let anyone shame you for what makes you happy! if you love your style and it makes you feel good, stick with it. fashion is all about self-expression, so wear what you love and ignore the haters.

Staying to yourself is the best thing you can do not just for your own sake but for the sake of women everywhere. Clothes are just clothes. We are allowed to dress how we like if it's not hurting anybody. And it makes you happy. That's the most important thing!

While I'm not at all an expert, there may be a way to find a good middle ground where you won't feel insecure about standing out, but you still get to express your individuality. For example, maybe pairing more mature colours with more "fun" dresses, or having brighter colours with more mature clothing might be a good combination. You may want to try on different kinds of clothes as well at different stores, you might be able to expand your wardrobe by finding more kinds of clothes you like. For example, maybe a pink glittering dress with a pink bow would stand out quite strongly, but trying out just one (or two) one of those qualities at a time could be a stand-out detail without looking like a whole theme (a pink piece of clothing, or something with glitter, or a bow in the hair, etc.). If you experiment with those kinds of things you may find something that you also really like without feeling like you're compromising too much by dressing the way others would expect.

I'd love to just be like "yas kween f*** the haters," and leave it at that, but the reality is that while you can (and totally should if it makes you happy) have that attitude, the older you get the more odd and out of place that style is just going to look to *some* people. That doesn't mean you should stop, but you're going to need to accept that certain people are just always going to find it a bit weird. You're going to need to decide if you care about what said people think, and change accordingly, or if you don't care and just want to do you, in which case don't change a thing and just be yourself. Nothing wrong with either choice, but if you stick with your style you will likely need to face the fact that some people *will* judge you by your appearance and that may make it a bit more difficult to be taken seriously by those people until you prove that you're more than your looks to them. It sucks but that's just how some people are. So by all means do what makes you happy and keep dressing in your style, but you're going to need to learn to be secure in it and own it or you're always going to have trouble ignoring those who should be ignored.

so don't not sure why you would have to

Don’t worry what other people think. I’m in my 40s and now I apparently dress like a teenager because 90s grunge is “in” again and to me it never went “out.” Live is too short, wear what makes you happy.

Keep the color, but reconsider the cut. I'm a decade older than you and my girls need support, so I askew spaghetti straps for thicker straps or other sleeveless styles that cover a bra. My hips are wide, so A line wins over body con. I'm just too old to pull and tug at my clothing.

Do what you want!! I love seeing people’s unique styles and yours sounds adorable

Are you hurting anybody? No? Then who cares what other people think. There are women in their 70s, 80s, even 90s going all-out with their personal style, so don't ever let anyone tell you you're "too old" for yours. You're only "too old" when you're dead. In the meantime, dress however you want.

I’m 51, and I consider it a privilege of age to wear what the hell I want. It’s ALL about me and what makes me feel good in my skin. I recommend adopting this approach. One thing I’ve learned is that people don’t think about me/you very much at all. So there’s no point in adjusting your style to meet other people’s expectations.