how do you get over losing people that mean a lot to you?

You don't. You never will. You'll never ever totally get over losing a loved one, no matter how much other people tell you inevitably, "It's time to get over it." It's just a kind of heaviness of something that you will carry on with you for the rest of your life. But... That said... It does get a lot better eventually with time. Sometimes lots of time. But still: it will get better. But even then, Never totally. You'll never "get over it" completely. For example: You'll have random moments in the future from now, walking along happily on a bright sunshine summer's day and suddenly stop in your tracks and get overwhelmed with memories of them. Things like that. C'est la vie. That's just what it means to be an ephemeral fragile sentient creature (aka: human!) in a very harsh Universe, that is always trying to kill us one way or another!

You don't. At first it comes in waves, crushing unimaginable grief almost like a storm in the ocean. Eventually you have a day where you don't break down, then a week, then a month. You will hit a point where something will trigger the grief, but it's manageable. Years out and I don't think I could watch a movie scene where they pull the plug on a family member. 

Time and talk

You don’t. Like they say, grief is what happens when love has nowhere to go.

40 of Crown Royal and lot's of hash....

My dad is actively dying and it's going to weird/hard/sad to think he's no longer able to have a conversation with me. But, he will be with my Mom and so many others who have gone before.

I don't think you ever do.

You never get over it; you just learn to live without them. Time and talking to friends helps.

You never really get over it. With time, you learn ways to go on without them.

You don’t ever truly. I lost two of my closest friends in like back to back years - one was an extremely close family friend. I never found out the reason for either, they were just people I used to tell everything to and one day they cut me out and a few months in I kinda realized I’d never talk to them again. This was six years ago now. I still think of them almost every day. But the pain of it is gone - I don’t have the same emotional reaction. Time and finding friends that truly care about you is the best remedy.

You don’t. Grief is like a giant sinkhole in your soul. You can’t fill it in, but you learn to live around it. It gets easier, but it will always be there.

At the beginning I never thought I could. But it becomes less painful overtime. Years later and now I see death as something normal that happens and everyone will leave at some point. Despite this, grief like that does change you. There's the person you were before, the person you are during the grieving process, then the person you are after. For me the person I was before and after are different, but not as extreme as the middle phase was.

You don’t.

I just move on

You move on. Find more people. They never really go away though.

My Mother was murdered 5 months after I graduated high school and my Father days before Christmas in 2024. As a now 60 year old man, it saddens me to tell you that you won’t get over the ones who mean the most to you. You’ve just got to find the strength in yourself to push through the worst of the pain. You’ve may find ways to mitigate your growth to a degree, but it will only happen slowly over time. I hope for nothing but the best for you.

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It doesn't bother me anymore - Loss is apart of life - there's nothing you can do to bring them back so what's the point of crying/being sad etc -- and I am talking about Loss in the sense of Death ....

Time Is the only answer, I am sorry for your loss, but hold on to the positive memories, give yourself time to grieve, remember them, value them In time it will hurt less.

SpongeBob helps me get trough it most of the time

It first takes acceptance that it has happened then the healing journey starts i.e grieving together

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Move on and be thankful for the experience. Focus on the now even if it hurts

Lost a 3 year friend group and a 4 year relationship within a span of a year. I’ve never been this lost and alone in my whole life.

Living a day after the other.

For me at least, I don't get over them. I just got better at hiding and keeping them in my heart. But whenever I'm at my lowest or just having a bad day and in too deep with my thoughts and feelings? I often reminisce them.

I wish I knew the answer to this question. I'm so sorry! 😞

I don’t know. My dad died 3 years ago and I’ve cried every day since. I don’t like it here without him.

I never do.

You just move on. People come and go. 

Gotta choose yourself and move on

One day at a time. It ebbs and flows.

you dont. you just figure out ways for it to hold space better and more peacefully in your life

"Do you have a magic spell to return someone to life?" she asked.  "No," the witch said, "I'm sorry."  "Oh." "Why don't you tell me about them?" "Will that bring them back?"  "For us. For a little while. Stories are a different kind of magic."

You have to understand it's a part of life. It's my least fav part about getting older... watching those around and that you love, die

It all takes alot of time...I like to think about the good times I had with those people that past away.

Imagine you're the one that passed on, would you want the people you left behind to be miss you THAT much that hinders them from living on with their lives? It's nice to know I'd be miss but I wouldn't want it so much that it completely stops them truly carrying on

Loss is part of life. The only person who doesn't lose anyone is either dead or completely alone to begin with.

Let yourself feel. Cry if you want to cry, disappear for a while if that helps. Don't gaslight yourself into thinking you're okay. Time will do its thing.

You never do. You just find a new way to live.

You never do.

The sorrow usually subsides but the “missing part” seems to stay for ever .

You don't.

I don't think you can ever get over it- your relationship and perspective on what happened is what changes. You no longer look at it as a loss but as a stepping stone. Can something bad that happened be really a bad thing if it leads you to something amazing or better than what you had before??? Stay strong and let go :)

You don’t, but you learn to live with it. My mum died in 1997 from a horrible illness. I have never gotten over it. Still makes me cry occasionally thinking about it but you get through it one day at a time until it becomes a noise in the background that becomes part of you.