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If you could go back to January 1st, 2012, and give yourself one warning, what would it be?

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blackandbluegirltalk Mar 29, 2026 +2320
LISTEN WHEN HIS FIRST WIFE TELLS YOU TO RUN. My God I will never forgive myself.
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JamonDanger Mar 29, 2026 +858
I’m gonna go ahead and forgive you, for you. 🩷
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blackandbluegirltalk Mar 29, 2026 +355
😭😭😭 Thank you and I hope you have a great day. Sundays are always tough because I have to see him when he picks up the kid. Thank you.
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JamonDanger Mar 29, 2026 +192
You have to see him, but you get that great view of WATCHING HIM LEAVE. And not knowing your situation but being a mom myself, anything that gave me my son would be worth repeating again just to be his momma. (Granted I’m saying that from a safe marriage). Love you momma, your kid is lucky to have you!
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greypusheencat Mar 29, 2026 +50
“you get that greta view of watching them live” is such a great line, thank you for this!
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LivingLightEternal Mar 29, 2026 +35
I'm sorry, but this is so funny. I'm gonna reframe all my interactions with people I don't like that way. "You have to see him, but you get to watch that great view of watching him leave." 💀
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vanillasilentlake Mar 29, 2026 +11
genuinely a life skill. reframe every annoying obligation as 'but then i get to watch them leave' and suddenly its bearable
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Desertbell Mar 29, 2026 +91
You don't know what you don't know, and we rarely think exes are a reliable source, even if we should (edited here because an excellent point was made downthread about how exes are often our best source of information.) You did the best you knew how to at the time. I was just telling my daughter, who was beating herself up for a mistake "because she's an adult and should know better ", that we expect adults to just know things, but that's not fair. We don't get an additional information module installed on our 18th birthday. We're still learning. We never stop. And many of the lessons we learn will come complimentary of the mistakes we make. In a way, many of our mistakes are gifts to our future selves. In a "oh, socks for Christmas. Yay." kind of way. Anyway what I'm trying to say is, be kind to past you. They did their best.
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Random_silly_name Mar 29, 2026 +35
When in the process of leaving an abusive marriage, I read the amazing classic on the topic, "Why does he do that?". It's funny in a tragic way that in one chapter he writes "If your new partner talks about how his ex was crazy and made unfair accusations, it's a good idea to talk to the ex and get her side of things as well before you decide on what to believe", and then in a later chapter he states that the fiercest ally an abusive man has in continuing to make life hell for his victim after breakup is usually his new partner. In other words - we really should listen to the ex, but... We don't. At least not before it's too late, and we realise we've become the next victim and also the next "crazy ex" he will tell someone else about.
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DMmeDuckPics Mar 29, 2026 +30
[obligatory link to a free mobile copy of the book you can read without saving a copy to your phone/library](https://ia600108.us.archive.org/30/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf)
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Random_silly_name Mar 29, 2026 +4
Thank you!
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blackandbluegirltalk Mar 29, 2026 +13
This is exactly it. I didn't know it was a red flag. I mean his ex IS kinda crazy, but she wasn't lying about *him*. He lied, though.
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Random_silly_name Mar 29, 2026 +9
*Hugs* We don't know until we learn.
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Desertbell Mar 29, 2026 +4
You make an excellent point. I'll edit my post. Thank you.
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Grouchy-Context-8840 Mar 29, 2026 +3
Yeah, this kind of makes me think about the show I watched not long ago, I think it was called Don’t date Brandon.
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HorrorTreez Mar 29, 2026 +17
Better parent than my family, I get told to "figure it tf out youre an adult you should know better" I appreciate the love you have for your daughter.
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Desertbell Mar 29, 2026 +6
Thank you. To be fair, she does get her share of "you're an adult, you can figure this out" but we're always here to help her if she needs us. I never want her to feel shame for making a mistake or asking for help. I got a lot of "you're grown so you're not our problem anymore" when I was first starting out and it was lonely and scary. I'm sorry you're in that position.
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blackandbluegirltalk Mar 29, 2026 +6
Thank you so much. I was just really naive, I know that now.
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CaptainNemo42 Mar 29, 2026 +14
I... hope username *doesn't* check out?
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blackandbluegirltalk Mar 29, 2026 +23
He never hit me once. He is actually mentally ill and was diagnosed with Bipolar *after* we had a baby. With all the kindness I can muster, I will say that he was more dysfunctional than outright abusive, but in the end it was still too much. Because he *could* control it at work, and in public. Just not at home with me. It is important for young women to know that not all abuse is physical, so actually yeah that was kinda the inspiration for the username. I made this account right after I kicked him out six years ago.
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Town_Skipper23 Mar 29, 2026 +3
It’s not your fault.
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DisastrousDoubt Mar 29, 2026 +3
I married my ex husband in 2014. I would absolutely tell myself not to do that. Thankfully we didn’t have kids but god damn he did a number on me. I had doubts at the time, but I also really loved him, so maybe I’d have listened to myself. That’s something I’ll never know. I kinda don’t think I would listen.
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Charming_Narwhal_970 Mar 29, 2026 +938
Floss
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secret_moustache27 Mar 29, 2026 +152
as a 19 year old, i agree.
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SexTalksAndLollipops Mar 29, 2026 +123
As a 45 year old who just finished paying her second dental implant, I agree.
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porkchop_d_clown Mar 29, 2026 +66
As someone who spent 3 hours in a dentist chair Friday, I would also add "wear your night guard".
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PotentialHistorian68 Mar 29, 2026 +12
Night guard?
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NobodyLikedThat1 Mar 29, 2026 +23
piece of plastic you put in your mouth. Like boxers wear to prevent their teeth from being knocked out. If you grind or clench your teeth at night, you need to wear one, called a night guard. I ignored it for far too long and now wear it religiously.
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Ericovich Mar 29, 2026 +5
I'm wondering if this is a more common practice. As a kid nobody had them. As an adult, I need something or I break my teeth in my sleep.
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PoisonedPotato69 Mar 29, 2026 +8
Yeah, take care of your teeth, back, and knees in that order.
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MorrowPolo Mar 29, 2026 +26
This. Teeth over everything, even riches. Every adult tooth gone deteriorates jaw health and shaves years off. Implants aren't even a 1:1 health ratio. Im down 4 teeth but at least my smile is still nice, for now...
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ComparisonOk8602 Mar 29, 2026 +49
Lost teeth do not reduce your life. There is a correlation between dental health and longevity. Correlation does not equal causation. The causation is that people who take care of their teeth tend to also take care of the rest of themselves; so people with bad teeth tend to die younger because they tend to not have healthy habits. Leaving rotting teeth in your jaw can kill you very quickly. Getting an unhealthy tooth removed from an otherwise healthy and well maintained body *increases* life expectancy because the source of deadly infection is gone.
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1questions Mar 29, 2026 +14
Some of us just can’t afford to go to the dentist. Love living in the US. 🙄
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nosungdeeptongs Mar 29, 2026 +10
Yeah I was going to say, for most of the world the causal relationship isn’t healthy habits but money and access. Which is why teeth are generally a class indicator.
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foolishfoolsgold Mar 29, 2026 +434
Don’t delete your old art. I don’t care how cringey you think it is
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the-watch-dog Mar 29, 2026 +59
This is heartbreakingly relatable.
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lumihand Mar 30, 2026 +11
I have all the art I drew starting from high school. I rarely look at it now because I don’t draw currently. But I know I’ll start up again eventually. So glad I fought my family to not toss anything out haha
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External_Recipe_3562 Mar 30, 2026 +6
Someone told me, if you look back at your old Facebook posts and don't cringe. Than you haven't grown.
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MeanSecurity Mar 29, 2026 +978
Break up with him now, don’t wait
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +168
You should have and i also.. she was waste of 8 yrs of life
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nhgardenart25 Mar 29, 2026 +23
Yes. This.
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thegabster2000 Mar 29, 2026 +18
This. Tried helping him with his trauma but left after 2 years 
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sussesemmel Mar 29, 2026 +8
Girl, same.
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SpecificStatic Mar 29, 2026 +1538
Buy bitcoin or you’ll kick yourself later. EDIT: My exact message to myself in 2012 would be this: Bitcoin will hit $100,000. You know what to do.”
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +333
NVDIA also
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Strommsawyer Mar 29, 2026 +229
**OP:** If you could give yourself **ONE** warning, what would it be? **Listnook:** Bitcoin, make that money!! **OP:** okay, I want **TWO** warnings and even more money.
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TinyGreenTurtles Mar 29, 2026 +27
My tired brain thought NXIVM and was like *excuse me??* But yeah, carry on.
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ruthlessrellik Mar 29, 2026 +14
I did a stock tracking project in High School and I noticed Nvidia was like 12 or 15 bucks. Intel was over 100. I couldn't really figure out why. Now nvidia is over 1000. It's crazy.
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charleswj Mar 30, 2026 +4
You understand that stock price comparisons mean nothing, right? IBM is nearly 50% more than NVDA
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IAmNotAnAdultYet Mar 29, 2026 +81
If I would’ve spent just $500 on bitcoin in 2012, I’d be a multimillionaire today.
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illuminatiisnowhere Mar 29, 2026 +88
I sold my 130 bitcoins in 2012....FML.
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Random-Hero-91 Mar 29, 2026 +27
yep I had bitcoin in a wallet trying to buy ecstasy on the dark web and never did it but I have no idea where that wallet is, it was before there was apps and actually companies that hold the coins, lost in cyberspace. I always think about all the drug dealers selling on the Silk Road back in the day if some of them hung onto the bitcoins they must be billionaires.
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DJ_Jiggle_Jowls Mar 29, 2026 +3
I had a similar situation where I had acquired some bitcoin to purchase something on the dark web. I actually did make some purchases, but then left it alone for years. Recently recovered the password to see what was inside and lo and behold... 200 dollars worth of bitcoin. Still nice to get it back but not exactly the payout I'd been hoping for. If you have any way to try to recover your account, you owe it to yourself to try!
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IAmNotAnAdultYet Mar 29, 2026 +37
That’s a value of $9.1M, right now! That would literally make me chronically sick.
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Genkiotoko Mar 29, 2026 +53
If it's any solace, there are very very few people out there that bought Bitcoin for pennies and sold at modern prices. Remembering that is how I sleep at night.
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Diipadaapa1 Mar 29, 2026 +21
Hes, and there are far more far less speculative investments which has crashed and burned since 2012. There is a reason why not even Warren Buffett or any stock genious put any significant amount if any on Bitcoin in 2012. If you were able to pick the winning stock each day without taking a single loss, you would be as rich as Bill Gates in a year or two. Not even people who do it all day every day can do it, so don't kick yourself.
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ChrisRiley_42 Mar 29, 2026 +5
That would give you 108 bitcoin at the price on Jan 1, 2012. Today's value is 66,420USD per coin, so that is 7,173,360
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Oilswell Mar 29, 2026 +12
The first time someone told me to buy bitcoin one coin was like 80c or something, definitely less than a dollar. It was really early on and I ignored them 😂
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TimBoss351 Mar 29, 2026 +6
Me too. It helps that I said that to someone and they made the point that I likely would have seen my $500 turn into $5,000 and sold it. And I likely would have.
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hardyflashier Mar 29, 2026 +9
See, I've thought about this a lot. Everyone says they regret not having bought Bitcoin before the price went mad. But I try not to beat myself up about it, because I just _know_ I would have sold that the second it made some decent money. There's no way I would have had the nous to hold that shit until the price reached phone number level prices.
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Binspin63 Mar 30, 2026 +4
Not to mention how many times it crashed. You’d be a basket case by now.
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Sickfreak99 Mar 29, 2026 +145
Don't sign those parent plus loans. Find another way
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LittleNightBright Mar 29, 2026 +53
Good one!! My college advisor helped me decide on my loans and told me after 10 yrs as a Social Worker in non profits, the rest would be forgiven. So simple. I did 10, applied, and was told Parent Plus don't count, in fact none of mine count because I wasn't on the right kind of payment plan. I applied again when Biden was doing his forgiveness thing, I got a letter that my loans qualified and would be forgiven, and two days later got another letter that their administration's loan forgiveness plan was tied up in the courts, and when it resolved they would proceed with all the loans that qualified. Never heard anything again. High school/college advisors don't know this system (at least not when I needed direction) and don't seem capable of helping make educated decisions in this regard.
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ThunderAlex_89 Mar 29, 2026 +419
Save your money and watch your diet.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +66
Health is wealth
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KenKesey65 Mar 29, 2026 +127
Tell my dad not to go out to the fireworks in Boston for the upcoming 4th of July, I’d still have my dad if it weren’t for that day. REMEMBER TO DRIVE SOBER SO YOU DON’T TAKE SOMEONES FATHER AWAY
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full07britney Mar 30, 2026 +6
*hugs*
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Successful-Fall1466 Mar 29, 2026 +681
The world isn’t ending 😂
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Vinny_Lam Mar 29, 2026 +102
Yeah, I remember when that was all the talk. The whole Mayan calendar thing.
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TycheSong Mar 29, 2026 +11
We learnt too late that it wasn't that the world IS ending, it's that it SHOULD HAVE. We somehow dodged fate and now the universe is making us regret it.
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bl4ckhunter Mar 29, 2026 +68
But you will wish it did.
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PickleMortyCoDm Mar 29, 2026 +12
Nah... I ain't spoiling that. I partied very hard for a month expecting the world to end and it was awesome. Wouldn't change that for the world.
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The-Sonne Mar 29, 2026 +8
It sure does look like it
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ConsciouslyIncomplet Mar 29, 2026 +10
Well - the argument is that it DID end. We all now live in purgatory hence the plagues, wars, economic crashes etc.
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JamponyForever Mar 29, 2026 +3
Not yet
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Ticklish-Jynx Mar 29, 2026 +3
Yet.
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The7footr Mar 29, 2026 +110
Don’t you dare sell your Bitcoin til Aug 2025, buy as much as you can.
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kaisadilla_ Mar 30, 2026 +13
I knew what bitcoin was when it was $10 at the start of 2013. Just an Internet curiosity. I forgot about it and a year later it was $300. I thought "train missed, $300 is crazy for fake coins". Then bitcoin went viral in 2017 when it started to grow from $1,000 to $10,000. Again, ridiculous price, it can only go down from there. Now in 2025 it was $100k lmao. And, tbh, I still think it's probably peak and a waste of money to buy any.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +11
Need a time machine..?
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TwistedFox Mar 29, 2026 +82
I know it seems expensive right now, but buy that f****** house.
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projectkennedymonkey Mar 29, 2026 +19
This times 10000000. Beg borrow or steal to get a deposit and buy the nicest house you can afford before everything goes up!
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MrsSnax Mar 29, 2026 +3
I read this as horse, and I had so many questions.
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ranchspidey Mar 29, 2026 +351
Cherish your mom, empathize with her struggles because they’ll take her from you before you’re ready.
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amgglutterfinger Mar 29, 2026 +55
This would be me too. I would tell myself to forgive my mom and spend as much time as possible with her. Life is going to rip her away from you.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +20
She is in better world watching you to be successful.. 💝
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +18
Sorry for that stay strong.. 🙏🏻
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RWSloths Mar 29, 2026 +6
Lost mine a year and a half ago. My siblings and I were just talking about the last things we said/if anyone had videos or recordings of her. I remember deleting voice-mail thinking "I'll get more". She passed at 58, I was 25 (going on 26, about four hours after she passed). My oldest brother was 31. She had health issues, but nobody expected this.
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HHSquad Mar 29, 2026 +7
I'm with you on that.
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GodsWarrior89 Mar 30, 2026 +7
My Mom passed three weeks ago and this is so relatable.
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luvitis Mar 29, 2026 +5
This. In 2012 I had less than 5 years left with her
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ScaryMonkeyGames Mar 29, 2026 +5
Absolutely. She raised my three brothers and me pretty much completely on her own, she wasn't perfect but I'd do anything to have her here to meet her granddaughter. She passed in October last year and my daughter was born two weeks ago, so I've been missing her even more lately.
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flashdman Mar 29, 2026 +4
I always planned to have my Mom live with me in her later years but she passed suddenly at 63. I wish I had moved her in with me....
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Bulky_Pay_8724 Mar 29, 2026 +3
My mum died in 2012
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Feather_in_a_Zephyr Mar 29, 2026 +318
You're better off on your own. She's giving you a false sense of comfort that's making you delay the changes you need to make. Go for that promotion. Pay down your debts. Travel.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +25
Still giving this to youngsters
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Puzzleheaded-Ad4736 Mar 29, 2026 +13
Travel, except for Q1 and Q2 2020
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blah_don_blah Mar 29, 2026 +9
I needed to see this. Thank you
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Lumpy_Recording6039 Mar 29, 2026 +244
Dont start smoking
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +64
You can still stop it
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LittleKitty235 Mar 29, 2026 +71
Addiction is still a b****. It is just easier to never start
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Nosferatu_V Mar 29, 2026 +21
Yes, but don't let that dissuade you from trying. The first best time to stop smoking is never starting. The second best is yesterday and the third best is today.
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nunswithknives Mar 29, 2026 +34
Yeah man it's easy! I've quit like 17 times.
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OralProbe Mar 29, 2026 +9
# winning
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Acrobatic_Ad182 Mar 29, 2026 +3
I'm nearly at 1 month of quitting after being a smoker for 10 years. It's worth it 1 million% and I don't plan on giving in anytime soon. Please do it for your health before something life-threatening/life-altering happens to you like it did me at only 25yo. It is a difficult journey but I feel so much better already, some days are easier than others, nicotine gum and patches have helped and to see all the money I'm saving is amazing! Don't wait to finish your last pack, just throw it out and give up from the moment you can tell yourself "right, that's it!" Please consider it strongly and seriously, you won't regret it and best of luck to you.
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AMDKilla Mar 29, 2026 +3
Think of the money you'll have saved over that time period
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monkeyhoward Mar 29, 2026 +67
Your wife is going to get a fatal cancer diagnosis in 2017 and pass away in 2019
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +13
Sorry 🙏🏻🙏🏻
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Anti-Ultimate Mar 29, 2026 +129
Spend more time with your dog. also you can avoid cancer by starting Estrogen. kthxbye
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BunchesOfCrunches Mar 29, 2026 +10
Tell me more about that second part
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Anti-Ultimate Mar 29, 2026 +13
i had testicular cancer
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HeartBeetz Mar 29, 2026 +176
Trust your gut instinct. Believe in yourself. You can do it. Dont live your life for them, it will totally destroy you.
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Alternative-Rule-547 Mar 29, 2026 +10
Living your life for others and thinking it's ok because other people are happy is one of the most self destructive things & trying to recover from it without a reset button is a b**** to navigate.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +9
100%
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Something-Red7 Mar 29, 2026 +60
You'll forgive yourself one day and learn to love yourself. There is a light at the end of the tunnel for you. Practice sitting with yourself. It'll get easier.
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Chevelleforever43 Mar 29, 2026 +39
METH ISN'T AS FUN AS YOU THINK IT MIGHT BE
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DistinguishedSlice Mar 29, 2026 +58
Don't trust the fart on August 23rd, 2017 at 3:02pm.... Just don't do it
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Char-Siew-Bao Mar 29, 2026 +79
Stop wasting your youth being an alcoholic.
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Cakeliesx Mar 29, 2026 +25
get out now.
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DoctorBio Mar 29, 2026 +29
Spend more time with Dad.
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Legitimate_Top_1425 Mar 29, 2026 +24
It was too late for me at that point, lol. Most of my f ups happened before 2012.
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SteamDecked Mar 29, 2026 +23
You can build a career without the college degree.
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Netsuko Mar 29, 2026 +23
Tell her to get a cancer screening. Doesn't matter how you convince her, just make it happen.
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GreenTfan Mar 29, 2026 +22
Lose weight now before you get older and it gets harder to exercise without injuring yourself.
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Sensitive_Plant7659 Mar 29, 2026 +19
Don't fill that first oxycodone prescription
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PoppyPancakes Mar 29, 2026 +37
Don’t try to kill yourself, just tell your parents what’s going on with you. I overdosed at 17 during mid January of 2012. It resulted in some major intervention in my life and turned me around for the best, but there were other routes I could have taken to achieve the same results
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OverwhelmingNo Mar 29, 2026 +15
Glad you're here to tell the story. Hugs.
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[deleted] Mar 29, 2026 +72
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Scared-Fishing14 Mar 29, 2026 +31
Treat her better
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musubi-n-speedballs Mar 29, 2026 +33
Protect Harambe at all costs. The timeline depends upon it. 
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captainconway Mar 30, 2026 +10
Save the gorilla, save the world
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beachlover77 Mar 29, 2026 +12
Get out of healthcare before 2019, after that it will suck even more.
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ImpactSufficient5178 Mar 29, 2026 +37
Make the most of Pokémon cards while you can, it's about to become a shit show. Also when you get a message from your dad on FB wanting to reconnect with you after abandoning you and your mum when you were 2, don't bother responding. Hes going to do it again.
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BheegiBasanti Mar 29, 2026 +12
Leave that man!
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pluviophile587 Mar 29, 2026 +12
Split up with that guy. Don't continue this relationship bevause of the "potential" you see in him. Don't get married.
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MrMustache61 Mar 29, 2026 +12
Trump is coming
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SnooLobsters9511 Mar 29, 2026 +10
Leave her and find peace ✌🏼
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SsooooOriginal Mar 29, 2026 +27
Stop the release of the *Skyfall* movie and soundtrack that snapped that year from everyones brains.
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Nope_______ Mar 29, 2026 +23
In four years, don't let any children fall into the gorilla exhibit at the Cincinnati zoo.
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[deleted] Mar 29, 2026 +19
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ChuckaChuckaLooLoo3 Mar 29, 2026 +9
Sure, you can build your own house, but it's going to take you five years to finish out. Can you stand it that long?
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +5
You did stand though.
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ChuckaChuckaLooLoo3 Mar 29, 2026 +7
Yep, and I've lived in it since 2018.
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sweatshirtjones Mar 29, 2026 +3
Was it worth it in the end? Thinking about it causally my self but don’t know a lot. - signed, a forever renter
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BlottomanTurk Mar 29, 2026 +17
"When Dad and Mom get sick with digestive issues in January of '25 and '26, respectively, get them to the hospital by the second day, or you will lose them both." They died of entirely different things, but both would have been preventable had they gone to the hospital earlier. PSA to elderly folks: if you're feeling sickly, just go to the doc/clinic/hospital. ***You're too damn old to "ride it out" and bounce back unassisted.*** Bonus PSA: especially if you have family/descendants, **get that AARP Supplemental Medicare Plan G**. That shit covers pertnear everything and takes a helluva lot of stress out of everything for you/them. Two weeks in the ICU, followed by 3 days of in-home hospice care (equipment, supplies, meds, daily nurse visits all included) would have pertnear wiped out my mother's estate while/after she passed. Instead, we've received *one bill* for $93...which is less than the refund checks her estate has received from recent insurance overpays.
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Toezap Mar 30, 2026 +6
Same basic message for me too. Friday, September 13, 2019: make dad go to the emergency room. It's necrotizing fasciitis and if he waits until Sunday it will be too late. Although it will take almost a week before options are exhausted and everyone agrees to remove life support.
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BlottomanTurk Mar 30, 2026 +3
I'm sorry for your loss. For my dad it was sepsis from an unknown cause, leading to cascading system failure. Within 6 hours of going to the ER (three days after he started feeling sick), he was transferred to ICU, put under medical sedation, and just never woke up from it. Held on for a couple days to let everyone say goodbye, though. Unfortunately, the reason he waited so long was because his symptoms at onset were exactly the same as the issues he would get every 6-8 months from his cancer remission management drugs. For my mom, it was a stomach bug leading to dehydration/malnutrition, causing an unknown number of strokes and seizures. Two weeks of yo-yo'ing in the ICU, and she made the nearly impossible decision to die comfortably at home rather than in the hospital.
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Toezap Mar 30, 2026 +3
Yep, it was sepsis for my dad too, and no one knows how he got the necrotizing fasciitis since it was inside his shoulder and he had no injuries. He ignored the pain because what kills you in a weekend? Plus he was a doctor anyway and could monitor himself, and chatted with some doctor friends about what it might be the day it started. Sorry for your loss too. I can't even imagine it happening to both parents and so close together. And your mom's loss is so recent. 😔 It took me a few years to reach the point that I don't have to engage with the sad feelings about my dad unless I choose to do so. Weirdly, COVID helped when it started 6 months later, because EVERYONE'S lives were fucked up and not what they used to be, so it felt better to know everyone's worlds had changed, not just mine.
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newtekie1 Mar 29, 2026 +9
On July 28th 2019 you will be at work, DO NOT trust the fart.
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DaveDavidsen Mar 29, 2026 +7
Do NOT say yes to a date in May 2012. Avoid years of bullshit and heartache.
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Bureaucratic_Dick Mar 29, 2026 +6
Get your apartment clean now, you’re not going to want to deal with that after the accident.
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ThrowAway2022916 Mar 29, 2026 +6
2012 isn’t far enough back.
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SexTalksAndLollipops Mar 29, 2026 +7
Don’t marry him.
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HeyyyyAbbott Mar 29, 2026 +8
BuyBitcoinandNvidiaandtalktoyourfriendintheObamaadministrationandtellhimtobegObamanottomockTrump.
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Ok-Marketing-2281 Mar 29, 2026 +8
Buy boring stocks, take better care of your back, and please for the love of God keep your old passwords written down somewhere.
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Charlaquin Mar 29, 2026 +6
You already know. Stop dragging your feet and make an appointment.
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rocco409 Mar 29, 2026 +6
Stay active. At the very least go for a walk or bike ride every day and for God sake quit tanning!
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Apprehensive-Fan-606 Mar 29, 2026 +5
Stop drinking now. I feel like I didn't start my adult life until I quit drinking in 2020. The developmental progress I have made in my life since is substantial, compared to the hamster wheel I was on while I was drunk or hungover all the time. It still BLOWS my mind I allowed myself to live like that. Addiction is a b****!
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UKS1977 Mar 29, 2026 +5
Your parents will be gone in 18 months - spend some more time with them.
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Careful_Elevator8390 Mar 29, 2026 +5
To spend the most time with my granny as I could because in just 7 years, I would lose her. She pretty much raised me and I moved out almost as soon as I turned 18 and didn’t get to spend much time with her after that. Of course as a teenager you take everything for granted and you think you will have all the time in the world. It’s my biggest regret.
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Temporary-Week-6937 Mar 29, 2026 +11
your life will turn upside down very soon
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AproposWuin Mar 29, 2026 +6
After the kids are born rethink how you want to live life. Yes still get married- not allowed to change anything before the kids Also... invest in gold/silver.. and for the love of goodness be sure to buy some ram and hard drives in 2023/4 to hold for at least 2 years....
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Smarifyrur Mar 29, 2026 +5
buy that bitcoin!
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noronto Mar 29, 2026 +4
Stacy is f****** crazy.
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BuckyRainbowCat Mar 29, 2026 +5
What about her mom though?
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Puzzled_Hospital2992 Mar 29, 2026 +5
Divorce him RIGHT NOW
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Angela_Ela Mar 29, 2026 +5
Don’t go to med school
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yourbeardhasegginit Mar 29, 2026 +4
Buy a house before 2020, your dad is going to die next year, you will not be able to get pregnant naturally so freeze your eggs now
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ineverbot Mar 29, 2026 +5
Do not go back to him and waste five more years of your life, dumbass
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thebetchabygollywow Mar 29, 2026 +5
don’t get married!!!
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leafs81215 Mar 29, 2026 +13
If the right and left dont learn to get along, America gets Trump and the world suffers. Get yo shit together.
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Aggravating-Deer8700 Mar 29, 2026 +4
What happened
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CranberrySuspicious5 Mar 29, 2026 +4
Don’t date that guy on august the 8th he will ruin your life 🤦‍♀️ 
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thisisntreallyme825 Mar 29, 2026 +5
Leave your marriage now and save yourself from a decade of grief
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PureComedyGenius Mar 29, 2026 +4
Nothing. I wouldn't want to ruin my path to where I am right now which is a place I'm very happy to be in. All the good and bad led to me being here. And the same thing will happen for everyone else
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dleerox Mar 29, 2026 +5
Your husband is a cheater and already preparing to divorce. Get your shit together and don’t let him bully you anymore. Also check the finances, he hid money that you’ll never find if you don’t look NOW!!!
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Kenny_WHS Mar 29, 2026 +4
You are bi and you are compatible with neurodivergent people. Also: invest in NVIDIA and pull out at the end of 2025.
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Bagheera187 Mar 29, 2026 +4
Leave him now
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meowskiAF Mar 29, 2026 +5
Trash that man!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Individual-Salad-717 Mar 29, 2026 +4
Don’t date that guy.
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Nementon Mar 29, 2026 +5
Buy Bitcoin
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poeticjustice4all Mar 29, 2026 +4
Buy bitcoin, tell mom to take her health seriously in the late 2010s, and just follow my dreams instead of wasting time going to college and not utilizing my masters to a job I dislike.
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BerryLanky Mar 29, 2026 +3
Your wife will die Dec 8th. Enjoy every single day you get with her.
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nostolgicqueen Mar 30, 2026 +3
Don’t serve an LDS mission. It is all fake.
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Tasty-Brilliant7009 Mar 29, 2026 +6
Concentrate on your core competency and not distracted by outside opportunities
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Automatic_Leg_2274 Mar 29, 2026 +3
That PSA increase while in normal range is actually prostate cancer.
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JaxGrrl Mar 29, 2026 +3
Put my name on the house title. Don’t use credit cards, put as much as possible into a private secret savings account. Could we go a couple more years back? It would be to stop being a chicken and move forward with that home purchase. (Divorce had me starting from scratch in my 40’s).
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Chen_pai Mar 29, 2026 +3
Say no to cocaine.
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shaylahbaylaboo Mar 29, 2026 +3
Don’t move to Seattle. Divorce him. It won’t get better. It will get worse
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Thick_Ad_1789 Mar 29, 2026 +3
Don’t become a teacher.
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Ben62194 Mar 29, 2026 +3
Ten years later you'll meet a b**** named Kristin she'll ruin your life and f*** you up mentally don't fall for her!
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Turntalien69 Mar 29, 2026 +3
Ask your new friend to hang out more, make sure she knows you care about her and how much her friendship has impacted you. She’s struggling more than you know and she can’t hang on much longer
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hoyasummer Mar 29, 2026 +3
Get a divorce, you already know it was a mistake just a few months in. Don’t waste 15 years of your life, it’s only going to get worse and worse.
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InformationEasy1927 Mar 29, 2026 +3
It’s not uncool to try hard.
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IndomitableSloth2437 Mar 29, 2026 +3
Buy Bitcoin, and don't lose the hard drive.
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Mintmuse22 Mar 30, 2026 +3
Don’t marry him.
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TooSexyForThisSong Mar 30, 2026 +3
You can do better, break up with her.
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JDLV102386 Mar 30, 2026 +3
Hey man. You know the voice in the back of your head saying you're a dude? Listen. When she tells you to wait until after the wedding, don't. She's gonna leave you homeless. She's going to prove you right. She's going to cheat on you like she cheated on him WITH you. It's ok to think she's the most beautiful woman you've ever seen. Because at that point, she was and sure she still is, but buddy boy, you don't even know the scores of Beautiful women and femmes you will meet who will think you're a good human because of who you are, not who you pretended to be. It's ok if you wanna stay with her, but just know when you need her the most, she's gonna bounce and you and LL will be the ones picking up the pieces. Love you homie. I promise you, we are doing ok. I'm proud of us in the future, even if you decide to change up our path. We are worth the fight.
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GetItGirrl00 Mar 30, 2026 +3
Buy Nvidia stock
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