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If your current partner or spouse is still good friends with their ex. They hang out just the two of them, by themselves on a regular basis. What are your thoughts on this?

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HealthyCommittee368 Mar 30, 2026 +6
Red flags everywhere mate. My ex tried pulling this and it was just emotional cheating with extra steps. If they need that much one-on-one time with someone they used to sleep with then maybe they arent ready for what you two have Nah I'd be out faster than you could say "just friends"
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atummyachesurvivor Mar 30, 2026 +3
Not for me. Don't care how many ways you try to spin it as "platonic." It's not appropriate to me.
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Narrow-Garden3830 Mar 30, 2026 +1
definitely a tricky situation. trust is key, but i’d personally feel a bit uneasy about it, like what's the intention behind hanging out?
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breach_dunology Mar 30, 2026 +1
I’m friends with 2 of my exes. I consider them my best friends. What makes it different, for me personally, is that I dated them back in high school. We’ve grown into adults since then, both have had kids with their boyfriends. And even then, they’re not my type today so their partners genuinely would have nothing to worry about. It’s more cringey that we dated honestly. It’s been over 10 years since then.
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ProduceNo8883 Mar 30, 2026 +1
Why are you still friends with them deep deep deep down? The love they gave you surely plays into it?
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breach_dunology Mar 30, 2026 +2
They’re good people. If I have any love for them it’s only in a platonic way. I wouldn’t date them again if the opportunity came to me. One fucked with my head and heart, then the other was a bit younger and so I left the relationship because I’d have been out of high school and they weren’t going to be yet for another year. Loved her, but I also had to take care of a family member who came down with dementia. So I wasn’t gonna have the time. Regardless, I still adore them it’s just platonic.
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Soft_Disaster_1243 Mar 30, 2026 +1
Nope, weird af
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jordaniangoon Mar 30, 2026 +1
Cff
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Subject-Ostrich8235 Mar 30, 2026 +1
Me personally? I would be looking for the first exit ramp. It may be nothing going on, but it would have me very uncomfortable. I don’t get into long term relationships to be very uncomfortable. Of course, I would talk to her about it. And I would understand if she was reluctant to end contact with ex’s she has had ongoing communication with. But at that point, she has prioritized her old ex’s friendships over our developing relationship. Which wouldn’t be a major surprise but it would be the end of our future. Just as she might feel that my boundaries are too “controlling” for her. From her viewpoint, my boundaries are. But from my viewpoint, if she can’t respect them, then there isn’t any future for us realistically.
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CunningAlpaca Mar 30, 2026 +1
Good friends with an ex and they hang out regularly? That would be a hard no and I'd be looking to get out of that relationship right away. Not even because of being nervous of her cheating per say, but because it's just f****** weird to deal with and really bizarre.
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AnotherDominion Mar 30, 2026 +1
There would be no thoughts because there would be no relationship. I wouldn’t go on a second date with a woman who was friends with her ex. That’s in the top 3 dealbreakers for me. 
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