Long storyshort. I’m a 30 y (m), and I became close with a 28y (f) colleague in autumn 2024. Shortly after starting, she went on leave due to work campaigns missions, and we stayed in touch during that time. When she returned in autumn 2025, our contact intensified with frequent messages and late-night voice notes. I developed romantic feelings and showed care through thoughtful gestures. I Asked out for hang out one time but she said she was busy
In December 2025, I discovered she was seeing her ex-boyfriend again, which conflicted with how close our connection felt. Even though she continued reaching out, I felt uncomfortable and chose to reduce contact out of respect for her situation and my own feelings.
She reacted defensively, saying they weren’t officially together. After that, she became distant at work and started isolating herself from me and the group. Few months later, I matched with her friend on Tinder—she didn’t flirt directly but hinted that I’m a good person and said she knows a “secret” about me she didn’t want to reveal, describing it as one positive things she knws . When I guessed it might be about a connection between me and someone, she replied that such a feeling can exist. She was a nice person. But we ended it there
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