I'm a severely mediocre man.

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Are you happy? Nothing else really matters brother. Live a good life

average is the new best, trust me on this OP

I really can't stand this new thing of calling random people NPCs, because there is no such thing in real life. Everyone is the main character of their story, and if you don't know the person, then it's just a story you haven't read. It feels so egocentric and unfair to assume that just because a person is not in the individual's circle, they are an NPC. I'm going on a bit of a tangent here but just know I am not singling you out, this is a thing I've had up my craw for a hot minute because I feel like people who don't think they are interesting enough just wind up considering themselves a "side character," all their life and that is just unfair to yourself. No one is a side character. There are no characters in reality. That being said, you may not realize the interesting parts of yourself that other people might see. Take some time to identify your hobbies and reach out to others who share in your interests. Through your experiences with others, you may discover new things about yourself. You can't force your personality to develop, and it may take a few tries, but your experience is different. You \*are\* unique, even if you may not feel like it.

6.0 is not average height lol

Nothing wrong with being average

Nobody likes someone trying to be something they’re not. If this is who you are, that’s fine dude! If you want change but are afraid, you need to release that fear.

I’ve learned that being average is actually great. And that to some, you are amazing and unique.

Lean into it. You're doing fine.

6 feet is far from avg. So what is avg to you? Give us hard numbers

I used to think I wasn't really unique or special & it resulted in me never letting myself be happy or realizing that people actually liked me. I only realized that people liked me for how I was (regardless of feeling like a nobody) after i'd lost them all from isolating myself because of my own insecurities. Do not worry about seeming boring. Just be you. Do people like you? And you're happy? then just keep things how they are.

Most people aren't that unique; they just lean into a few things consistently. Start small and build your own style over time.

Why does vanilla get hate? It’s a tasty flavor used in a bevy of drinks and baked goods. You sound stable, that’s a really good thing in this kooky world. Lean into it.

How bad is it for a guy when even the talls feel this way? Sheesh

The real answer is to grow yourself. There is no finding yourself, but a lot of people do actively try to change themselves. Don't fall into that trap. Just learn more, whether if it's watching those Crash Course history videos on YouTube or reading historical classics. Get some more hobbies. Ever learned a musical instrument? Take lessons, learn to play piano, dance, and make art. Let yourself write stories or poetry. That's just developing you as a person more. But there are visual things you could do to, work out more, get tattoos (that resonate with you, or that you just think look cool. Don't get ones just to appease people. Watch those men's fashion tutorial's on social media to develop your fashion more. Just make choices that are different. Don't fear the failures, if it's not right you'll know and not do it again

If that's what you want, that's wonderful! Now, when you go to a dinner party or whatever and you have something interesting to say - maybe a cool hobby, it will be so fun for people to be wildly interested. I (bi/m) have dated boring women and men, but nothing is so fascinating when a vanilla person says something like "I'm into model trains." I instantly want to drag them into bed and smash 'em even though I don't know anything about it. But when someone *not* vanilla, who can be very attractive, talks about plain-jane things ("I like to travel" yeah we all do): I rapidly lose interest. The secret isn't how you look. **The secret's in the sauce, my friend.**

Do you bruv ur unique in ur own way , though you haven't seen it yet it's there And normal or average is good in one way or another

no tattoos is cool coming from someone who has a bunch

When you say basic hobbies and interests, what are they? Develop whatever you're interested in and things will click in place. It takes time. I realized we're all trying to figure things out at each stage in life. For example, I was the type to never care about tattoos, like why would people want them. Then as I was going through a phase last year, I decided to get one and now I want another one. 🤣

I’m a woman but my advice is, Dress how you want, but if you’re looking for personal growth, travel, try new hobbies, learn new things, do things that may scare you/ inwardly challenge yourself. To me, men who do this are extremely attractive and know themselves & have better empathy than the average joe. When I’m afraid of something, I ask myself why and what I can do to get over it. Ex: I’m terrified of heights. Last year I started rock climbing and this year I’m going to force myself to go sky diving. You have free will. If you don’t like something change it.

just be yourself ☺️

honestly the most interesting people i know dont look interesting at all. they just have stuff they actually care about and talk about it with energy. pick up one weird hobby that genuinely fascinates you and the rest follows. you dont need tattoos or rings to not be an npc lol

6 foot tall is above average height in most of the world. Unless you live in the Netherlands.

I'm not a man so I can only take a wild guess but maybe where a backwards hat like it's the 90s. Don't explain it. Just backwards truckers hats, especially for clothing that requires no hats.

What’s npc?

I'm almost certain your friends don't think you're average. They simply see you as your genuine iteration. Just you. So stay the course. In this instragram and influencing world, where plastic opulence and such is really just people vying for momentary dopamine hits and are truly behind the scenes deeply in debt, be the unicorn. Stay true to you, and love that you have no tattoos.

You love your life, yet you call yourself mediocre. Mediocre isnt average or vanilla.

Nothing wrong with dressing average! There's some ways to add a little pop to your outfits. First, look at them as "outfits" and not just putting on pants, shirt, for the day. Try to coordinate colors: you can do it multiple ways, I like to coordinate my socks and a color on my shirt, neutral pant. Go through your closet and play dress up! It sounds silly, but, sorting through with items you like, dislike, want to wear but have nowhere to wear it, or dont feel confident enough to wear, etc. Try them out with different combinations of pants, socks, jackets. My biggest tip, tho is to make sure your clothes FIT. Again, it sounds obvious, but ill fitting clothes can really add frump to an outfit that would otherwise look good. Try tucking in a shirt, wearing a belt. Ill add having well groomed facial hair, styled hair (usually a pomade and a comb do the trick) and a mild cologne can add to an outfit without buying new clothes. Another suggestion would be to go thrifting and try some styles for c**** youd otherwise not try. Or make a vision board of a few styles, outfits, inspiration youd like to take after when shopping next time. When shopping, ask yourself if the item matches anything you have now, or if it needs a complimenting piece with it. I used to just buy things I thought looked good, and were nice pieces, but I just didnt have a proper way to wear them, you know? Like the right pair of shoes with a dress, having only flats when a kitten heel would add a little more oomph. Fashion can be a lot of fun so have fun with it! Im usually a girl-next-door/casual athletic/Adam Sandler type, but have been playing with bold colors ajd patterns and actually really enjoying my outfits now lol

Considering how many people are miserable in some way or another, being able to say you love your life sets you apart and makes you far from average.

I love that you love your life. Just keep being you, that is the most un-basic thing you can do! Sometimes i feel basic, but when i feel "seen" it's by someone that gets it, so I try to be that person for myself. Remember the grass may look greener, but you're not the one over there maintaining that lawn. We are all just different in different ways.

People look unique for one of two reasons. 1 they are keeping up with the fashion, for example they buy all the denim jacket and patches and create an antire look based on magazines and everyone else. Or 2 they live life and over the course of living life choose outfits that vibe with their daily activities and preferences, i cut all the necks out of my shirts because the collar trim is itchy, i wear cargo pants cause i need lots of pockets for tools at work, ect. Just live life and be the authentic version of yourself if thats too vanilla then embrace your vanilla and eventually you reach peak vanilla and become a totally different special kind of vanilla that makes everyone remember why vanilla is the most popular flavor

Mate, how has your life been like? Was it easy or not?

Nice, you're not mediocre in mediocrity, but severe in mediocrity. That's good.

I've felt this way before. Like I was a total bore. But now in my 40's I'm ok with it. I truly don't think I'm meant to live a loud and busy life. Calm and predictable is my vibe. I see that now.

Try wearing something you usually wouldn’t. One thing at a time. If you like it, keep wearing it. If not, sell it and try something else. Same with activities and hobbies.

The global average height for a man is about 5'7" (170 cm).

If you’re more concerned with “being interesting” than doing things that *actually* interest you, you’re gonna come across as a bit fake. The way people become “interesting” is by embracing who they are.

SECRET TO COOKING BEAUTIFUL, DELICIOUS BEEF STEW, SOFT AND TASTY MELTING MEAT Ingredients (for 4 people): • 800g beef shank, beef tendon or beef ribs • 300g beef marrow bone (if you want sweet broth) • 2 carrots • 3 lemongrass stalks (crushed) • 1 tablespoon minced ginger • 1 tablespoon minced garlic • 1 tablespoon minced shallots • 150ml red wine (or fresh coconut water) • 1 packet of beef stew seasoning (or 1 teaspoon of five-spice powder + cinnamon, star anise) • 3 tablespoons of good fish sauce • 1.5 tablespoons of rock sugar or granulated sugar • 1 tablespoon of annatto oil (for color) • Salt, pepper, chili, green onion (optional) How to make: 1. Prepare & marinate meat • Cut beef into bite-sized cubes, wash, blanch in boiling water to deodorize. • Marinate with: • ½ packet of beef stew seasoning • 1 tablespoon fish sauce • ½ tablespoon sugar • Minced garlic, minced onion, pepper • Mix well, let marinate for at least 30 minutes. 2. Stir-fry to create color & smell • Saute ginger, lemongrass, annatto oil in a pot. • Add beef and stir-fry until browned. • Pour in 150ml red wine (or coconut water) to deodorize and enhance flavor. 3. Simmer until tender • Add filtered water to cover the meat. • Add in the marrow bone (if available) and the remaining beef stew seasoning. • If not using the pre-packaged seasoning, add 1–2 star anise, cinnamon stick. • Simmer over low heat for 45–60 minutes (regular pot) or 20 minutes (pressure cooker). 4. Finish • When the meat is tender, add the chopped carrots and simmer for another 10 minutes. • Season with fish sauce, sugar, and pepper to taste, balancing salty - sweet - aromatic flavors. • Sprinkle with green onions, ground pepper, then turn off the heat.

You are doing great just don't explain them ,be whoever you are and you reflects through your actions more than your talks

Being average can be interesting!

Simplicity is bliss.

"Developing" is a process. Try stuff. Keep what works, toss the rest. Be more careful with the things that are difficult to back out of.

Everytime you see something you think is cool, give it a go/adopt it. That's how you build authentic style, the eclectic accumulation of things you genuinely like. If they all turn out to be 'average' or 'vanilla' then you'll still stick out due to rocking those things with your heart, not just because they're common. My example of this is my Casio A16 - basic, bland but tasteful in a way. I love that it will last my whole life, goes with every outfit and every occasion and I just TRULY love it's form and function.

Not everyone is inclined to make a statement with their appearance. And do you really want to catch the attention of people who are judging you on appearance? If you really feel you want to upgrade, maybe buy some higher quality versions of the clothes you already like. And try getting your haircut in the same style you have now, but by a better stylist.

Read more books? Start saying what’s on your mind? Without shame or fear ? Do what you want ? And lastly … Meet cooler people. Who don’t care what you look like and care more about what you think and do. 

if you’re happy being that way then there’s nothing to change. Only change if you feel you’re not expressing your true self.

Nothing wrong with being average.  You're doing better than 50% of people.  

If you love your life do. Not. change. That’s a recipe for unhappiness, I agree with the above commenter that the NPC trend is just irritating and harmful, ya’ll people on the internet need to stop worshipping people who spend most of their energy trying stand out and be noticed, most of those people are exhausting irl. I am very unique looking in my area and I definitely do not do it for attention, I do it to feel at home in my own skin, if you already feel at home DONT FREAKIN CHANGE! I love vanilla people cause on the inside I am also vanilla

If you love your life you are winning my friend. Embrace the boring and take up some creative activity. See what comes out, don't worry about being good at it. Just approach it with curiosity. Do not, I repeat, do not care or worry about what anyone else thinks.

Tattoos do not make you a good person. Being a family man and being kind to others and bright and cheerful and friendly are what makes you a good person. Working hard and helping others makes you a good person.

honestly, being 'mediocre' is low-key a superpower. you have zero pressure to maintain some fake persona. if you want to feel less like an npc, just start saying 'yes' to one random thing every week that you’d normally skip. it’s not about the tattoos or the hair, it's about the stories you have to tell. but fr, 6'0 is definitely not 'average' height, you're already doing better than most of us lol.

go to old navy and buy the pink t-shirt they have right now with 'main character energy' on it. you probably feel mediocre b/c you are not inspired. if your life is a movie and you are the director, think about editing the script to make it more of what you want. OR if you are happy as you are, rock that vibe and don't think of yourself as mediocre, but as happy. But as a side note, hairstyle is easy to change and you can easily get a tattoo or two...maybe that will help you set off the 'new you'...the possibilities are endless really...

Dude you're 6ft

I’m the same. I like cornflakes. I’m average at games. I’m average at my other hobbies. When I talk to people, people half the time give me attention, and half the time act like I don’t exist in conversation. I wish I was interesting too.

No idea what NPC stands for. I do not think I’ve EVER met an “average” person (in 4 decades meeting lots of people!) - we are all unique and if there are the added bonuses of a twinkle in the eye and being kind - you’re going to be interesting! While I do sometimes meet people with whom I have 0 in common with it never matters! Recently had a 30 min convo with some bloke about model car racing - great! Why not - doesn’t float my boat at all but it did his. Average is simply perception and I have for many people DREADFULLY dull hobbies, my work can bore people stupid etc the list goes on. Try and reframe your self perception AND/OR find nicer people to be around (if this idea is coming from outside). As for looks - aaaa well there - rebel against such shallowness as there is so much more to life and looks change. And those who judge on looks alone are never worth listening to. (I say this as someone who spent decades thinking I was very ugly through bullying - only to move country and away from it all to realise I’m really not and I’m quite alright).

What do u mean by "basic hobbies" there's no such a thing as that. If it's basic it wouldn't be interesting to be chosed as hobby.

Don't worry about coming across as average, and focus on engaging with other people. Wherever you're socializing, pay attention to what people are talking about and ask follow up questions. People love talking about their interests and themselves, so you'll get into conversations. The important thing is to be genuine about it; don't fake interest in what you have no interest in hearing. I think the gateway to one's own interest is hearing people who are passionate about that thing tell you about this amazing world they inhabit through their hobbies and interests. How you feel about what they say will give you some idea of whether it's also for you. Even if it's not, the conversational skills you'll build are so helpful for being an engaged and supportive friend or partner.

If your wardrobe feels drab to you, maybe you're too 'careful' when you shop. Try pushing your boundaries once in a while--buy something you like but tell yourself you wouldn't wear. Start with socks, you can go really crazy with socks and barely disrupt your normal clothes. Then just flash your brightly colored ankles in the middle of a business meeting without any change of expression. And get a tattoo! I got one in my 50's and love it.

Read some stuff about things you’re curious of and cultivate the curiosities that really take off! Or listen to podcasts or take a course or attend a workshop.

Do you do any sports? You would assume it’s basic but I think it really lifts a person up. Physically and mentally.

The great thing about being at the top of the bell curve, you're at the top. Boring is severely underrated and as long as your shit is in order, you'll come to appreciate that the older you get, trust me.

You're probably not “basic,” just under-curated. Most people who seem unique are really just committing to a few choices over and over until it becomes “their thing.” You don't need tattoos or some huge reinvention. Pick 2 or 3 things that genuinely feel like you—hair, clothes, a hobby, the way you speak, the spaces you hang out in—and lean into them consistently. “NPC energy” usually comes from trying to be broadly acceptable instead of specifically yourself. I personally am weird and love to joke around with sarcasm as my main punchline...I'm also average looks and height...but for me, I make people laugh and people seem to love my story telling...so I just lean into that...plus I have a kick ass 6 pack (it's just buried in a two-four)...keep rocking on!

I spent most of my life trying to be an NPC. There are some advantages and disadvantages to blending in with the woodwork and at 67, I'm perfectly happy with doing so. I would not call myself mediocre but I would say that I am very average.

Già che non hai tatuaggi e gioielli sei senz'altro una persona interessante che non ha quella smania di omologarsi a un cliché oramai trito e ritrito...

Try different stuff and see what you like! read some books about something you find interesting! buy funky socks!

You have no idea how attractive "basic" is to most people. Don't compare your downtime to others highlights. Most of the shit you see outside of your own bubble is fake and designed to make you emotional enough to spend money. Mediocre is ok. Average is ok.

If you’re happy, why does it matter that you’re basic?

You seem like the perfect guy. From my perspective those are all green flags. Im on the outside looking in, but I totally understand because our personal viewpoints are the most critical.

Looking interesting is not BEING interesting. Lean into your hobbies, hone your skills, go places, experience new things. Looks dont matter like a developed personality does.

I think basic vanilla is attractive. Love yourself

Most people are just not average. Everyone has some kind of mental illness, body mods or is into some kind of niche things. Average is now more uncommon than you might think.

All you have to do is do things you enjoy and wear things you like despite social pressure. I started wearing all the crazy colorful shit I wanted to and now people tell me they like my style pretty regularly, but I'm not really doing anything. I'm just being myself.

There's a P.J. O'Rourke quote "The weirder you're going to behave, the more normal you should look. It works in reverse, too. When I see a kid with three or four rings in his nose, I know there is absolutely nothing extraordinary about that person".

Bro, every time I see 'interesting' looking people (clothes, tattoos, piercing, hair color, etc) they turn out to be so empty inside, I can't emphasize this enough :) It became my 100% rule, if a person invests too much in their appearance - they have less stuff in their minds. An interesting person to me is a person who reads. And not only fun stuff, but heavy stuff about different topics. Biology, psychology, philosophy, history, whatever, theory of advertisement, how fake news works, etc, etc, etc. These are interesting. Fashion and look aren't interesting at all

Pick one signature thing that makes no sense for your aesthetic. A weird watch or a niche hobby like urban beekeeping. Its a glitch Npc code that makes you memorable.

I feel like not having tattoos makes you unique these days

If you moved to Portland or San Francisco, you'd be the unique one.

I am an older woman, almost 60. I feel its first starts with self love. Decide meditation is good and start a practice. Become interested your own health by getting into yoga. Step back and choose ways to set the step up in motion. Find a decent stylist. Enjoy a bit of self indulgence with a hair stylist. Get a nice shape up every couple of months. Purchase a couple of nice shirts and slacks. Splurge on comfortable but stylish shoes. Know that at some point it’s not about all that , but the process. Then jump into volunteering and be busy with a hobby. It’s very reasonable to take a course online (Udemy) that’s about personal growth, writing or maybe how to be a comedian. It adds to our personality if we can add levity. These are all options and it is not necessary to apply everything all at once or at all. Really one little step at a time. It’s this process that will make the difference. Just my tiny opinion and I hope it helps.

"Average height 6' "? 🫠

Did you steal this from my head?!

Heres how i started to stand out: I realised i have free will Like seriously. I always had the same hairstyle since i was a kid, short on the sides, longer on top brushed to the side, than i went bald, than i grew out long hair etc Same with hobbies. One day i decided that i had fun as a kid fishing, so i got a license and went fishing. I liked guns, so i contacted a seller on a used market and bought my first airsoft gun which is one of my favourite pass times. I had to take the dog for a walk as a kid to the nearby forest so nowadays i just go out and enjoy nature, hike or go camping. I decided that, you know what?, i have a few hours before bed after work, i could just go and work out, so i did, nobody will stop me. I saw a video about 3D printers so i bought one and built a semi pro bussiness out of it. Same electrotechnik, coding, hell, i sometimes jkust go to an amature boying match and have fun, who is gonna stop me? I could dress as a clown for all i care, i can do whatever i want, nobody can stop me from just going somewhere and doing something (i mean, the law i guess but im talking normal stuff) You know, also, the reason you feel like an "NPC" rn is simply because you have been wearing the same fit for god damn years didnt you? It doesnt matter what you wear, if everybody sees you in the same 2-3 fits for years of course you gonna feel like an npc. Go to a thrift store and buy some random (but tasteful) clothing that fits you, than just start mixing them. I bet the moment you throw on that 4th fit you gonna feel great, and if its good, ppl often praise a good, new style. Tl/DR: Shake things up! Just go for whatever really, it doesnt matter, the only shot you miss is the shot you never took you know, and who cares if a fit turns out bad, you can retry tomorrow, or if a hobby doesnt work out for you, you can just pick a new one up anytime. You shouldnt care about what other ppl think and remember: You have free will.

I feel like this sometimes. It comes from spending too much time online imo. Go outside to a public place and people watch for a little bit. 99% of people you'll see walking by are "basic vanilla". That's ok. As long as you're happy and healthy, keep doing you. But also, trying to better ourselves is also a good thing. If you are genuinely interested, follow some fashion bloggers you like the style of and try to recreate their outfits. I think men's fashion is really easy to elevate. You just need a few staple pieces and you can have a nice wardrobe.  Personality wise? My advice is to learn. Go out there and learn about things you're interested in. I think people that push themselves outside of their own comfort bubbles are most interesting. Ie, leave their small hometown to travel. Educate themselves on current events/politics. Read some books. Volunteer. Etc :) 

Trying to stand out and be something you're not is just going to come off as forced and insincere. The people who are unique haven't always felt as though that was a great thing to be.

Loving your life is pretty unique

Average height 6.0 WHAT

Ok I’m not gonna spend too long here answering but don’t listen to Listnook man. Yea there’s nothing wrong with being average but you obviously are seeing something else and everyone here is goving u the same advice because they are average smucks and joes without much personality, flair or way of thinking. Their advice is their cope, don’t listen to em and do what you feel best about

Honestly, it sounds like you have achieved alot, Its hard in life trying to get by without addiction/being sectioned/needing extremes to distract us from bodily sensations. And i really mean that. But what I am getting is a little sense of boredom maybe. Which is fine, its good to be bored, it means youre not in constant survival mode. But all that aside, why not just be really curious about yourself and your life? A personal exploration of what YOU find fun and interesting. What is your favourite food, things to talk about, do you like instruments? physics? kickboxing. Just have fun with finding out these things.. not what makes you seem interesting to others;.

You’re an unpolished diamond. You’ll find someone, or more likely they’ll find you.

Work on developing your taste

Maybe you could take a deeper dive into some of the things you already like? Do you like movies or music? There are some deeper cuts that are a little harder to get into at first but as you start giving them a try you’ll find your taste expands and they’ll affect you in profound ways. r/music suggestions is great for exploring more music if you’re interested, and r/blankies is good for learning about movies, older stuff, foreign films, indies. And r/malefashionadvice could be good for exploring different looks you’d like to try. Generally it seems like you’re open to exploring the world and yourself more and the best way to do that is to just keep trying new things, sometimes those things will be awful and will make for great stories to tell and sometimes the things you find will amaze you and make you hungry to discover what else is out there. I’m in Tasmania and recently learnt about the Aurora Australis on fb and have been chasing it all summer and it’s been great fun, maybe where you live has something specific or special you could try exploring, a quick google search could reveal all sorts of amazing things happening in your community you had no idea about. Books are good too, philosophy, politics, food, geography, nature, history, art etc…so many great things to explore and you’ll learn a lot more about yourself too, who you really are, what you want to be, how you want to live, there’s a whole world out there and you can explore a whole lot of it with a simple internet connection.

Do you think critically about the things you are told to believe? If yes, then you aren't an NPC. They way I understand it is that 'NPC's are unquestioning and simply do what very their tribe tells them to do. Even if it harms them or is disingenuous. 

You understand that the reason those people appear so unique is that they tend to be comfortable and happy with who they are, right?

The way you described yourself is the coolest description of a person I could imagine.

F25 here, complete opposite lmao. My advice is avoid tattoos; theyre not for experimenting, you might regret. Think them through and wait before getting them or not its your life after all :) Your mediocre is someones dream too, gotta appreciate the good things nothing is granted But seems maybe you feel like youre kinda stagnating in life or maybe youd like some change in life, maybe try experimenting with new things - new hobbies, new sports, trips to new countries, try their food, meet different people, maybe go to different music shows. Just expose yourself to new things, new people, explore. Youll soon see new versions of you emerge, epigenetic ones at that, that the new enviroment will bring out. Also youll get to know yourself better - see what you like and dont like and gain new experiences and memories, but still take care and be careful If the question was more for style, check for male celebs, actors, models with similar features and maybe like contrast level and try some of their looks at the mall see how you feel. Or maybe if you think some style looks cool try on the clothes and see how you feel. Or maybe if you imagine the 80 year old you - how would he think is the right way to present authenthically so he would be proud. You can do the same in the opposite what style would you inner child or younger you think 11yr old version of you want to explore

Your unique perspective and experience makes you, you. As for looking more fashionable. I have a few pairs of colored corduroy pants and some sweaters I think are cool. Get cargo pants, wool pants, silk pants and you’ll likely have shirts to go along with what I listed. Almost all of my closet is from goodwill or non-pricey thrift stores. People tell me 10 times a day they like my outfit (I interact 300-500 ppl a day). If you wear marvel shirts and sports team merch all the time, it may feel odd being out of your usual style. Give it a go! Having clothing that fits your body in a flattering way (could be loose or tight, depends on the attire) goes a loooonnggg way. As a skinny as f*** man, I feel so much more confident in a shirt that actually fits my chest and arms.

Start working out, hit lifting goals. Stop caring about fashion and surface level things. If you get jacked everything will look good on you and you will feel good.

haha

Being average is a privilege! Far better than being below average. Maybe u could try exploring new hobbies? New music, etc

Be yourself, you shouldn't care what others think

It sounds like a good place to start would be your sense of style. Honestly a good way to start is to find someone who you think looks cool, and copy their outfit. Even if you think you can’t pull it off, you have already identified you think it looks cool. Eventually you will develop your own style outside of something that is safe or “basic”. You can take this style of thinking to other walks of life. Try things that sound cool, then develop your own unique way of doing it or interacting with that community.

Find a mission, and purpose to live your life for. Then you'll adjust and improve according to that.

The way to not be basic is to go deep in your hobbies and interests. Get more curious about them and go overboard (knowledge and execution). People who do incredible at things they love are not basic! For presentation, log onto Pinterest and create a mood board of different looks you like; casual clothes, work clothes, whatever. Just the vibes you like. Pick some hairstyles you like too. Then call up Nordstrom and set a personal shopping appointment. Bring your mood board on Pinterest and they’ll help you try a variety of things and you can try on and then just start by buying a couple pieces you like (the trick to this is to try on everything they bring you even if you think you won’t like it). Then, make an appointment at a salon like Gene Juarez; bring your hair photos. They can talk you through different options. I agree with what others are saying, just be you and it’s your personality and heart that counts. But honestly, it’s fun to freshen up your « presentation » from time to time! Have fun and good luck!

It sounds like you know the answer implicitly. There are things in the world that you view less NPC-like, so do more of those things. Whether it's tattoos, a certain fashion style, or certain hobbies. There are no invisible barriers keeping you from doing what you think is cool other than time, effort, and some money.

Man you are Lucky to even have an income . Go on Pinterest for style

Well, if you are genuinely bored with your aesthetic, try thinking of a style of fashion you liked in a movie, or a music video, or in general. As for finding a hobby I will always recommend birding. It is very rewarding to be able to sit with and get to know nature.

I have always been an eye catcher, so i can only give advice as to what made me grab more eyes outfits that people complement routinely, a hip haircut, being fit, and listening to conversation while attempting to be humorous when you can Anything more than that is noise

Guy I recently was seeing and really really into had a light edge about him. At first he had long hair , no piercings or tats but he had a style sense. Dark jackets, black wardrobe. Then he chopped the long hair and got a modern mullet. My god, I go crazy for the modern mullet. Still the same attire. I just watched the movie together and Dave Francos character had the same vibe. All he did was change his hair or have an off the cusp hairstyle. I encouraged him to dye the ends red too. I swooned

Get jacked and dress weird if that's what you wanna do. Not sure it'll make you that much happier though!

Just wear what you like, don't dress to look less "basic" if those are the clothes you like, that's inauthentic. A lot of people with outlandish styles are just hiding behind a persona they have created for themselves. Just have the confidence to be yourself, and perhaps reframe the way you see "basic" into confident with simplicity, undefined by clothes, or whatever works for you.

You said you absolutely love your life. That means you're already succeeding! Why change that?

Loving your life is already beyond mediocre my guy. Just keep doing whatever it is that keeps you in that place. Unless you do weird stuff with animals or whatever then you should probably stop

Learn to love yourself, and stop using stupid terms like NPC.

Average is good. Makes it easier to blend in with the common human.

Do some drügs they usually free your mind and ass follows