I’m trying to become a “morning person” but my personality disagrees

I’m a morning person, my SO likes staying up late and sleeping in. We’ve been dealing with this for years. Neither one of us can change, it’s just the way we are.

Felt! I wish I was a "get up and at 'em" early morning type. I can only do slow mornings, though...no rush, meander my way through getting ready, sipping coffee slowly. It's not productive. BUT also - not everything we do has to be productive! Restful rhythms matter, too.

I think the trick requires you to both get up earlier than you want to be awake, going to bed earlier, and/or making it "required" by associating a job/task to the time (which kinda defeats your point). Another thing you could potentially try is biphasic sleep. In older texts, we used to collectively "burn the midnight oil" because we would sleep twice a day. Our bodies react better to more quantities of sleep, and will slowly adjust to phasing into deep sleep sooner, so you're more rested in a shorter period of time as well.  This will allow you to wake up early, AND be up late. The issue with biphasic sleep is work schedules make it challenging. Working 8h of your day and sleeping two 4h of the day, leaves only two 4h gaps to yourself if you do biphasic sleep. It doesn't feel like a lot of time. 

My advice that helped me is get your body moving. It doesn’t have to be a full workout. Maybe a brisk walk right away or stretching for 10 minutes.

Find a morning job. I switched to a job with a start time at 5:30 for a couple years. I've moved on from it. Now I can rarely sleep in past 7 or 8.

What’s wrong with spending time staring off into space? It’s healthy to spend some time **not** doing stuff.

Is there something you can think of that would help initially get you out of bed in the morning? Once you're moving it'll be easier to do those other things you think you'd enjoy.

Waking up at 4 or 5 a.m. does require going to bed by, like, eight p.m. Are you getting enough sleep?

As someone who tried to go the opposite way at uni (i.e. try to become more of a night person when I'm naturally a morning person), I'd say don't try to force your sleep patterns to change when you don't need to. I'm one of those people who wakes up at 4-5am, sometimes as early as 3am naturally, I set alarms for 6am but always wake up before them. When I tried to be more of a night person at uni (mainly for the social life and also because I had lectures that finished at 6pm) it flawed me, I just ended up tired most of the time as I was staying up till closer to midnight but then waking up at 4am naturally and lying there awake some mornings as I couldn't get back to sleep, and on the days I did sleep in till 8am I felt as though I had jet lag. Some people are naturally morning people, some people just aren't, I would try to plan your day around what your body tells you if you can rather than trying to force your sleep patterns to change, if you're more productive in the afternoon and evenings, embrace that instead.

Outside of personality, I also struggled with this until I forced myself to get up each morning to see the sunrise. Once I started this habit, I now naturally wake up at 7:30 or earlier every morning no matter the season. It's *hard* at first but gave me a jolt of energy I didn’t have before and made me feel calm going into my day :)

I can awake till morning but can awake early in morning 

How many hours of sleep are y getting? You might just be exhausted. Maybe your "slow morning"' just needs to be even slower. Don't force it too hard,  Try practicing on the weekends first or not.  That way if you’re still a zombie you can just go back to bed without feeling guilty. 

I love being a night owl but school forces me to be an early bird

Do you need to wake up early? If not, why not have a slow morning later in the morning?

You gotta get out of bed immediately, get some light in your eyes, brush your teeth. That’ll get you up and moving 

Daydreaming is healthy. The real problem could be the mood. But you can do a lot to improve that.

Thats what i’m trying to become to due to me needing to get up and go to work at 8:30 i try to wake up 2 houra early just so i can have my own time and get ready at a slow pace but no matter how hard i try it’s hard to stay awake in the mornings

I love a slow morning! Provided, of course, that morning starts at 10am

How much sleep are you getting? I wasn’t a morning person until I started going to bed crazy early, like 7-8pm. I’m so fresh and awake when I wake up. Never feel this way if I’m in bed 10pm or later 

Just go to bed earlier until it works. It sucks, but it's there if you want it.

I was always a late night person. But as I’ve aged, sleeping hurts more and more. That has turned me into a somewhat of a morning person. 5am is nuts, but I’m rarely up any later than 8am. One thing that helps a lot is consistently going to bed at the same time. Trying to still go to bed at 11 when you’re waking up at 5:30 is a recipe for misery. Figure out when you want to wake up and count back 9 hours. Now set that as a firm bedtime and once your body adjusts, it should be a habit.

Probable unpopular opinion ahoy. I've tried multiple times over the years to do the same thing. Could never get it to work for me. I think some people are just hardwired to be one way or the other. I've decided it's not worth trying to force myself to go against my nature.

I will wake up before my alarm but I can't force myself to actually get out of bed. It's not even the sleep I want to get back to - I don't want to leave the comfort of bed.

I love waking at 4am to go to the gym. My days after that are great. Much more energy. You should try!

What do you do late at night that you couldn't do in the morning?

me too!!! but i love the late night hours even more so if i ever feel guilty about not being up early i just think about how peaceful it feels after 12am

You need to actually get up out of bed and do something. Just lying awake in bed for hours after waking up earlier is not the point

I'm a morning person who's brain can't really function enough to be chatty first thing in the morning, so I prefer to spend time making a good breakfast and coffee and then productively clean especially if its sunny. Or I try to wake myself up with a podcast if I'm slow to get out of bed😂

I don’t have any magical advice, partly because I think I’m a morning person, so waking up early isn’t hard for me. But every morning, even during the workweek, my boyfriend and I share some “coffee on the couch” time with our cats while giving them treats. We talk about the workday ahead and sometimes give each other advice, since we’re both in the video game industry. I really enjoy this daily moment. It helps me wake up for sure. I don’t know if you like coffee or whether you live on your own, but I think one of the keys is having routines you look forward to every day. Good luck with it!