Is this worth it?

I (21F) have been with my boyfriend (24M) for almost 2 years, and we’ve lived together for about 9 months. We both have ADHD. He’s genuinely a kind, funny, and sweet person, and I do love him a lot. But I’ve been feeling unhappy for a while now, and I don’t really know what to do. Early on, I started noticing changes in our intimacy. He gradually stopped initiating, stopped talking about it, and began turning me down more often. I brought it up calmly and asked if something was wrong. I also told him I missed how things used to be in the beginning. He said he was just stressed about the future after finishing school and looking for a job. I believed him and tried to be understanding. But after we moved in together, things really changed. I went from feeling wanted, loved, and seen… to feeling confused and unwanted. It feels like he doesn’t think about intimacy at all anymore. I brought it up again and tried to have a more honest conversation. Around the same time, we also talked about chores, responsibilities, and finances. For some context, something serious happened with his family early in our relationship that affected him a lot. He was raised by a father who taught him to hide his emotions, lie, and not show who he really is. He and his mom eventually left his dad. He’s told me that this still affects him and makes him feel stressed and “damaged,” along with financial stress. I’ve tried to be patient and supportive through all of this. But even though he says he’s “working on it,” I don’t actually see or feel any real change. He isn’t going to therapy or talking to anyone about his problems. Most of his time is spent sitting in front of the TV or playing PlayStation, which he calls “relaxing,” but nothing is actually improving. He also doesn’t currently have a stable job. He was fired and hasn’t been very proactive about finding a new one, which adds more pressure and uncertainty. At this point, I’m starting to feel like I’m being taken for granted, and sometimes even a bit used. For example, he has made plans that involve me without even asking or informing me first, and just expects me to go along with it. Meanwhile, nothing has really changed between us emotionally or physically. I still feel completely undesired. I’m the only one initiating intimacy. There’s no flirting, no small touches during the day, nothing that makes me feel attractive or wanted. Sex feels routine and almost like a chore. We also don’t really spend quality time together anymore. We don’t go on dates (his reasoning is that we can’t afford it), and most days we just sit in front of the TV. Sometimes we play a small card game, but that’s about it. If I suggest something simple like going for a walk, he complains the whole time, says he’s tired, and acts like it’s something he just has to “get through.” It makes me feel like spending time with me is a burden rather than something he actually wants. His low energy in general makes me feel like I’m asking for too much just by wanting time together. There are also issues with responsibility. He doesn’t really take responsibility for himself or his finances, which adds stress for me. He says he wants peace, quiet, and respect, but at the same time doesn’t take actions that would actually make that possible. He won’t do basic things like grocery shopping for himself, and then complains that there’s nothing he wants to eat. He makes a mess but complains about it without doing anything to fix it. At this point, I feel more like a roommate than a girlfriend. I feel drained, unwanted, and honestly a bit resentful. I still love him, but I don’t feel loved in the way I need. I don’t feel desired or prioritized. I’ve tried communicating multiple times, being patient, and understanding, but it feels like I’m the only one putting in effort. I’ve also seriously considered ending the relationship more than once. But the reality is that if I leave, I would have to move back in with my parents, lose the life I’ve built here, and give up the independence I’ve finally gotten. I can’t afford to live on my own right now, which makes everything feel even more complicated. Because of that, I honestly feel stuck. So I guess my question is: Is this something that realistically gets better, or am I holding on to something that’s already over?