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Is waving to strangers in public normal or just a Minnesota thing?

Posted by AppleCruncherMuncher


As a Minnesotan, I was very confused when my friend visiting from NJ didn't wave or even smile when walking by someone on a town trail. And so was she when I did both and said hello, as did the stranger. When I asked why she said that wasn't normal where she lived and was kinda weird. Meanwhile I feel like it's a very normal thing in MN. Do we only do it in Minnesota or was it just weird in her town? (Have a lovely day 😊)

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fakebasil Apr 3, 2026 +30
Its normal if you aren’t in a big city
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Pristine-Pen-9885 Apr 3, 2026 +7
It’s normal in the neighborhoods of Chicago. We also smile, nod and say hi to strangers we pass on the street. If a driver slows down to let me cross the street, they get a big thank-you wave.
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fakebasil Apr 3, 2026 +3
Aw I like that. The large Canadian cities I’ve lived in don’t do it. On trails in Vancouver yes, but not from a neighborly thing
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Pristine-Pen-9885 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Chicago is a big city containing about 70 neighborhoods. The neighborhoods have names and distinct cultures. Like Chinatown, Greektown, Wrigleyville, Little Village (La Villita), Bronzeville, etc.
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JtheCool897 Apr 3, 2026 +2
Crossing the street thing they get the hand up but most neighborhoods you absolutely do not say hi to people you walk past
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RainyDaysAndMondays3 Apr 3, 2026 +2
I live in the Twin Cities metro area of Minnesota. It's a big city (3 million). There are oodles of walking trails around. I very often smile and say hello. (Some people appear to not want that, and then I don't. But I would say at least half like greeting people.)
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +1
Just curious but (why is the last part in parenthesis)?
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RainyDaysAndMondays3 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Who knows how my brain works. If you have a hypothesis, let me know. My Mom would love the insight. The parentheses could be a result of the 2 1/4 Boston Lagers I had tonight in celebration of a week where two things happened which were not good, per se, but which were two big weights off my back.
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +2
My hypothesis would be that u use them when u have a thought that is tangentially related to the story but not completely relevant to ur original point. And I say tangentially because I like that word.
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RainyDaysAndMondays3 Apr 3, 2026 +2
Quite possibly, yes! I also love the word "tangentially". I am the self-professed queen of going off on tangents in conversations (and loved the concept of tangents in math), so I do think "tangentially" is indeed a fun word.
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +2
I like the way u think.
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3bears123 Apr 3, 2026 +9
It’s normal
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GirlisNo1 Apr 3, 2026 +3
I grew up in MA, people usually say a quick “hi” or “good morning.” No waving though.
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thesqueen113388 Apr 3, 2026
Yep I’m from Boston and usually when you pass one or two people on the street it’s normal to say hi or how ya doin or at least nod but if it’s a crowded place that usually won’t happen.
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GirlisNo1 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I don’t think OP’s talking about crowds, they specifically said “walking by someone on a trail.”
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thesqueen113388 Apr 3, 2026
That’s some reallly good reading comprehension. A+
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GirlisNo1 Apr 3, 2026 +1
What an odd response to something that didn’t even need a response…ok.
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thesqueen113388 Apr 3, 2026
Ever heard the phrase “the pot calling the kettle black?”
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Eighth_Eve Apr 3, 2026 +3
Its 100% about population density. If you walk a mile and see 2 people you wave. 200? You don't.
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AppleCruncherMuncher Apr 3, 2026 +1
I think it's doable but you have to clear them in groups, y'know? Get some of those crossing guard light sticks and gather like 20,shout good ____(whatever area of day it is), and then repeat. It's all about persistence and having no where to be.
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orcas- Apr 3, 2026 +1
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TectonicMongoose Apr 3, 2026 +3
its a big city vs suburbs/rural areas thing I'd guess. I live in the burbs and people say high as they pass on the sidewalk but if I go downtown 30 minutes away there are too many people so you just walk by eachother and don't say anything.
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genital_lesions Apr 3, 2026 +3
I like doing the steering wheel wave where my right hand is on the wheel and the wheel itself is between my thumb and pointer finger; the thumb stays on the wheel while the four fingers raise up as a wave, but my hand never leaves the steering wheel.
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Separate-Canary559 Apr 3, 2026 +6
I’ve experienced waving in Oregon while I don’t usually get that in California I think it’s just anywhere that has nice people, lol
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +4
Were u on trails in CA? I generally find that people walking on trails are almost always more inclined to wave. I’m surprised that u got a different reaction.
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legallybraindead7 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I'm a frequent camper/hiker in Ca. I find that once you leave the city people are more friendly and more likely to wave. Even driving. Also that's how I know when I'm home, people are dicks again.
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +1
Yeah I think everyone agrees on that.
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HowsMyBuddy Apr 3, 2026 +1
It’s not about the state, it’s about where you are. Everywhere I’ve hiked in CA, everyone acknowledges each other. But I suppose if you were in Griffith Park or some other place with a lot of city dwellers looking for a little scrap of solitude, you might just ignore each other and be perfectly ok with that. If it’s a popular trail, you’d go crazy saying hi to everyone.
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trashwrapsupreme Apr 3, 2026 +4
I'm from the NY metro area, moved to Missouri several years ago. Where i'm from, if you don't know someone and they wave at/say hi to you, they want something. In the Midwest, however, people are just polite.
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AppleCruncherMuncher Apr 3, 2026 +3
Interesting... In my town if someone DOESN'T wave back they're considered rude or you've betrayed their bloodline in some way. Funny how things are in different areas.
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trashwrapsupreme Apr 3, 2026 +2
I definitely had some culture shock when I first moved to MO haha. It's a nice change from how I grew up though.
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Afromolukker_98 Apr 3, 2026 +1
From Los Angeles, outside of a friendly smile even small talk or a hello... I think if someone waved at me, I would be weary of why they are trying to get my attention. Like I think it would make me look around at my surroundings for something wrong 😂😂
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AppleCruncherMuncher Apr 3, 2026 +2
Huh. I would think the opposite kind of. Because if someone doesn't wave back I think somethings wrong.
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FasterAndFuriouser Apr 3, 2026 +1
In my town if you open day care centers but have no customers but ur still making money it’s considered rude. I guess every state is different.
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No_Volume6586 Apr 3, 2026 +3
My wife is from south Florida (West Palm Beach area) and I'm from NC (Durham area). We moved from West Palm to a VERY rural area in Granville county NC). Not long after moving up we were taking the long drive home from town and as someone was passing us, they waved. She asked if I knew them and I said no. Then she asked, "Then why did they wave at you?". I just told its because that's what country people do.
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TeacherOfFew Apr 3, 2026 +4
Weird in the NE. Normal in logical places.
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GirlisNo1 Apr 3, 2026 +5
I grew up in MA, people always say “hi” as they walk by on a trail.
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spaetzelspiff Apr 3, 2026 +7
And I always say "me too"
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GirlisNo1 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Walking into a store- Employee: Hi, how are you today? Me: Thank you!
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eternal_casserole Apr 3, 2026 +1
Here in South Carolina, we wave in small towns. Growing up in the northeast, we absolutely did not wave. In my neighborhood fb group, even all of the grouchy transplanted northerners agree that if you're driving in the subdivision and don't do the little wave, you are a bit of an a******.
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Recidiva Apr 3, 2026 +1
I'm from suburban NJ. We wave and smile to everyone and everyone reciprocates. Even if you're driving and someone is walking a dog. We both wave and smile.
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stillakikin50 Apr 3, 2026 +1
We wave, just a little “hand raised”, no dog tail wagging
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Ashwini_S Apr 3, 2026 +1
I think its just a normal sweet gesture to people. I am in Toronto, we just do that while we pass-by. And if you don’t do that, it feels like offended.
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AppleCruncherMuncher Apr 3, 2026 +1
Right? Like what did I do to you and what's it going to take to get you to wave back? Seriously, you want money?! YOU'RE MAKING ME FEEL LIKE I DID SOMETHING DISRESPECTFUL I BEG OF YOU CHILD OF THE EARTH OR ANOTHER PLANET BECAUSE WE DON'T DISCRIMINATE AGAINST ALIENS SEND ME A GREETING OF KINDS! So you know, just another Tuesday morning for me.
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TinyDisaster8725 Apr 3, 2026 +1
In Vermont we definitely wave to other cars and pedestrians. But only on dirt roads. And we definitely say hi to people when we’re walking or hiking.
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thatevilducky Apr 3, 2026 +1
Live in the twin cities suburbs, this is pretty standard around here, not even on trails
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ahappyola Apr 3, 2026 +1
I'm terrified of saying hello. The person you saw definitely wasn't me.
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AppropriateDark5189 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Normal. I drive some backroads in horse country so it's always polite to do a short wave or at least nod when you drive by people.
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Several_Direction633 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I'm in Texas. It's very normal. We even speak to strangers here.
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sine_denarios Apr 3, 2026 +1
Even in places unfamiliar to me I always acknowledge others. Sometimes with "Hello", other times a simple nod of the head. To me it is a respect thing.
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ktsquirrel Apr 3, 2026 +1
I grew up in New England and moved down south, I love a grocery store yap. Or just connecting with a random stranger for a moment. I moved back to the north east and I do try to continue that. Some people are weirded out or cranky (I have my days too!) but most smile/wave and hopefully had a positive interaction :)
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rammyago97 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Its pretty normal
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SnikkerDoodly Apr 3, 2026 +1
Wisconsin here, I wave or say hello if there’s only a few people on the street with me. Every dog walker gets a hello and a wave though lol.
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saison257 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Born and raised in a large city in Texas, and we always waved to our neighbors. Currently live in a different large city in Texas, and my neighbors and I still all wave to each other.
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Jumpy_Spend_5434 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I live in a village in a big city in Ontario Canada (amalgamation many years ago brought the surrounding rural village type places all into one big city), and previously lived in a suburban neighbourhood in the city. When I'm out and about in the downtown type areas we don't wave, as there are dozens and dozens of people going by. In the suburbs, I would say hi to folks walking by my house if I was out in the front. Where I am now (population is about 2,500), people say hi and wave to each other all the time, even though we don't all know each other. The other day I was driving down a residential street here, not near my own home, and some guy walking by waved at me. When I'm out gardening in the front, people sometimes actually honk when driving by and I don't always know them.
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TheJunkmother Apr 3, 2026 +1
I feel like it’s pretty normal to at least nod and say hello. The waving seems a bit much, that might just be a Minnesota thing.
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orcas- Apr 3, 2026 +1
Im from nyc and visited my friend from texas. Everyone waved, and i remember being amazed like OMG YOU KNOW EVERYONE IN YOUR CITY?!?
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MountainTomato9292 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Very normal in Memphis too! We say hi to everyone, and if you pause too long you’ll get a full blown conversation.
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ididreadittoo Apr 3, 2026 +1
In the city perhaps a smile or nod if you make eye contact (accidentally, of course). That can also set you up to receive a proper growling. It can go either way, so most don't risk it. You may "catch a wave" if you perform some courtesy like letting a car go in front of you or wait while someone crosses the street but not many otherwise. Where I live you wave at every car on the road.
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EducationalBike8090 Apr 3, 2026 +1
it's regional. like holding doors for others.
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Automatic-Passenger2 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I live in a small town in Wisconsin and we smile at passersby! I grew up in a big city in Texas and we smiled there too. More waving in Texas than in Wisconsin.
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Wolf_Mb Apr 3, 2026 +1
It is not about whether it is normal or not try to be polite people
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Scoth42 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Normal in most of the South
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Extension_Abroad6713 Apr 3, 2026 +1
It’s very normal to be friendly on trails. This is my experience in the US/CAN, around Europe and SE Asia. A hi/hello/good morning and a smile is just common courtesy. Anything more than that is being friendly and not as common. Maybe a “are we almost there yet?” or a heads up about trail conditions.
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Ole-Owl5678 Apr 3, 2026 +1
In missouri its normal. Are you finger waving them or full on dog tail wagging waving?
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AppleCruncherMuncher Apr 3, 2026 +4
Just a wave and a smile, like passing by an aqquantince. Dog tail wagging is for family IN PUBLIC because half of them will get embarrassed and the other half will do it right back.
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Ole-Owl5678 Apr 3, 2026 +2
Lol I love it. I wouldn't dog tail wag wave for strangers though they might think your a mite touched in the head 😂😂😂
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Elysium_Fields10 Apr 3, 2026 +3
I second this for Missouri.
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old_mans_ghost Apr 3, 2026
If you see me you can wave but I won’t wave back, I don’t really like interacting with people, that’s what my wife is for.
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