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Announcements Mar 23, 2026 at 2:58 PM

Love is blind is so depressing to me…

Posted by 0__O0--O0_0

It’s just the number of people that find “the one” seems depressingly high. I get that they’re a little motivated to do it, and theres are probably a lot of fakers. But the majority of them seem like they are sincere. But then how are there 2/3 of them that find “the one” just like that? Are they desperate? It makes me feel like the majority of people can just get married with whoever and be fine. Do you think I’m tripping?
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FrigidCanuck Mar 23, 2026 +14
I think the answer to your main question is yes. The romantic idea that there is one person out there for you is ludicrous. They just happen to live near you and you cross paths with them? The reality is there are probably millions of people out there for every person.
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Chataboutgames Mar 23, 2026 +18
I mean, have you watched the show recently? I'd say like 1/6 or so actually end up in lasting marriages.
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powerlesshero111 Mar 23, 2026 +3
It's lower than that. I think the rate of lasting marriages from The Bachelor/Bachelorette is like less than 10%. But most shows like that have pretty low retention rates. Sadly, that article is 4 years old, but still, the Bachelor/Bachelorette has a really bad track record. https://www.tvinsider.com/gallery/reality-show-couples-still-together/#2
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DifficultMinute Mar 23, 2026 +2
I'm not sure if it's still true, but at one point, Big Brother had more successful relationships than the entire US Bachelor franchise.
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powerlesshero111 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Probably. When i googled it, there's only 6 relationships, with 3 current marriages from all the Bachelor seasons as of 2025.
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PhilCollinsLoserSon Mar 23, 2026 +2
It’s been one(?, I think) that is still married out of all the seasons Edit It’s twelve, according to this. I was way off.  https://www.reddit.com/r/dataisbeautiful/comments/1rp7c03/oc_us_love_is_blind_relationship_sankey_10_seasons/
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SidneyDeane10 Mar 23, 2026 +11
They're only going on there to increase/get a social media presence
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Yeah sure a lot of them. But they get found out pretty fast. Thats actually the best part 😂 I actually wish Netflix wasn’t so wholesome tbh.
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Falconman21 Mar 23, 2026 +10
They're wannabe influencers hoping to cash on their 15 minutes. The whole concept is ridiculous, and they get ridiculous clout chasers who are happy to do ridiculous things to try and get famous. Pretty much bog standard reality TV.
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The_Frostweaver Mar 23, 2026 +2
They try to weed those people out but the idea that there are tons of 6ft tall well muscled good looking men who suddenly decide they want a wife but can't possibly get a date without coming on tv is kinda an insane premise. The only way to make the show real would be to have a bunch of introverts with no muscle and no charisma on the show and that would alienate their audience who are there for fantasy fulfillment, not actual reality. The show is still fun to watch and I do buy into the premise that you can fall in love with someone just talking to them even if the show is more Reality TV than actual reality.
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Chataboutgames Mar 23, 2026 +1
But "can't get a date otherwise" is nowhere in the show's premise.
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Pippin1505 Mar 23, 2026 +5
>But the majority of them seem like they are sincere. They're not. The goal is entertainment and ratings. Unscripted doesn't mean sincere. There even was an attempt to reclassify the participants as "employees" instead of contestants by the National Labor Bureau
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knoper21 Mar 23, 2026 +3
because they've been subjected to sleep deprivation, plied with alcohol, and subjected to utterly bizarre social pressures
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Chataboutgames Mar 23, 2026 +1
In the most recent season there is so much food. Like in every scene they have a meal in front of them. Visually funny way to see them pushing back against the issues of getting people drunk/not feeding them enough.
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lurkyloowhoo Mar 23, 2026 +1
It you watch until the end of the show, you will see that barely any of them end up working out or staying together.
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thednc Mar 23, 2026 +1
Influencers aside, even for anyone who’s there sincerely, the pods don’t create authentic connection. I forgot where I read/heard this, but a psychiatrist or psychotherapist described the pods as a love-bombing machine that artificially creates an accelerated attachment cycle. They are designed to manufacture the rush of “falling in love,” i.e., the neurochemicals released when you connect with someone new. You’re isolated from the real world. If you’ve gotten on the show, you’re already psychologically predisposed to “fall in love” and pour your heart out to _some_one. It’s not surprising so many “fall in love” initially, but then it doesn’t work out. Those initial endorphins wear off and their connection gets stress tested by the real world - cohabitation, family, friends, responsibilities, etc. It seems like most people don’t wait or look for “the one,” but rather marry the first person with sufficient compatibility that they date when they themselves are ready for commitment.
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Makes a lot of sense. Yeah I guessed there must be a lot of projection going on. And desperation of course.
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DataDude00 Mar 23, 2026 +2
The first season or two may have had some legitimacy to the people seeking love, but in recent years it is just people looking to build on the social media clout / launch a career as a podcaster or influencer
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Who is going to watch any of those nerds?
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johnboyjr29 Mar 23, 2026 +1
It helps when the show is fake.
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akeep113 Mar 23, 2026 +1
No one is finding "the one" on there. 99% of it is fake. They just want TV time so they fake it until the altar.
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batsofburden Mar 23, 2026 +1
there's been multiple marriages and kids from this show, despite its ludicrous premise.
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VanguardN7 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Actors who act together sometimes like their off-screen chemistry and continue with it.
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Gladyskravitz99 Mar 23, 2026 +1
I don't know about the show, because I've never seen it. But yeah, if you enjoy someone's company and share goals, you can have a happy marriage. Imo, the key is to not base any of it on looks. Looks don't last, and are an extremely shallow thing on which to base a long-term commitment. So if the contestants on the show are actually going in blind, it seems reasonable they'd have some success? To clarify, I don't think you can have a successful relationship with someone you find physically repulsive. But ime, you can be attracted to almost anyone if you love them for who they really are. And it's nothing to be depressed about. Real companionship can be a billion times better than some magical soulmate nonsense. Source: married young and divorced after five years, then remarried a better match and have been with him almost 30 years.
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NachoNutritious Mar 23, 2026
> I don't know about the show, because I've never seen it. Then why are you in this thread?
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Gladyskravitz99 Mar 23, 2026
"It makes me feel like the majority of people can just get married with whoever and be fine. Do you think I’m tripping?" Because it seems to me the main question isn't about the show itself. Thanks for your input.
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badlyagingmillenial Mar 23, 2026 +1
It's a fake reality show with influencers who are fake put in fake scenarios and fake situations to have fake fights and fake drama in an attempt to become more famous. Every single reality show is fake. It is mind blowing that people spend time watching them.
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
It’s REAL. ALL REAL. Youre just a fake person with fake eyes thats why you can’t see the TRUTH.
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bathroomheater Mar 23, 2026 -1
It’s “reality” tv. 0% of that show is real it’s 100% scripted. The things that aren’t scripted are influenced by the thought of “if I do this I’ll be more popular with the audience”
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RehydratedFruit Mar 23, 2026 +2
Pretty bold claim, got any evidence for that? I’ve watched a lot of Love is Blind, I also work in the TV and film industry. I’ve seen nothing from that show that screams “100% scripted”.
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bathroomheater Mar 23, 2026 -2
It’s reality tv. They are out for viral clips and obviously encourage people to act a certain way and say certain things to drive hype. I watch the show with my wife every bit of it is contrived. I mean don’t get me wrong it’s fun to watch but it’s fully bullshit.
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RehydratedFruit Mar 23, 2026 +3
Ah so you don’t know it’s scripted at all, just presume so. I’m pretty good at spotting scripted vs non scripted reality shows, so I’m confident saying that Love is Blind is more real than you think.
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
That’s what makes the cringe so great. You can only encourage the cringe so much. But yeah he has a point, the whole thing is to capture the heartbreak and disappointment on camera.
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bathroomheater Mar 23, 2026 -1
No I just understand how this stuff is produced. It isn’t scripted like word for word like sitcom but these people are setup to be very pliable because of various benefits of playing along. The show is constantly driven by various production techniques of interviews and setting people up in situations to where they can be directed or encouraged to do certain things to increase their popularity. The whole payoff is post production where people follow you socially or you get paid appearances. Not playing along with the concept and production gets you paid less after the fact.
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RehydratedFruit Mar 23, 2026 +2
You described how *some* reality TV shows are made, but that isn’t the case for all, and presuming so is where you’re wrong. Not all of these people are looking to become celebrities on Love is Blind, and production isn’t pushing them to become “more popular”. Sure some want to be, but producers don’t care about how many followers they may get afterwards, they’re already working on the next season with new contestants. Does production ply them with as much free alcohol as they like? Absolutely, which inevitably gives them juicy content. No producer is directing them to make shit up, cheat, or get them to say nasty things though. You claimed it’s 100% scripted which is simply not true at all. Of course, the show is for our entertainment so people love when drama happens, but this drama isn’t all planned or orchestrated by producers. The main instrument they get is alcohol. Most contestants are pretty well behaved considering, there are of course outliers who show themselves to be real douchebags. Now you can say that producers picked those people for their likelihood of being entertaining to watch, and I will agree. After all, it is a TV show, but I see nothing that screams typical “scripted” reality TV.
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
I don’t think so
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mvrander Mar 23, 2026
There's a lot of noise around that show and the selection process and the motives of those involved but I do think there's a something to be said about meeting people and just talking to eachother, calmly and in a friendly manner just to get to know eachother Surely that's a better hit rate than trying to scream over the top of night club music in the hope that the other person can hear you and isn't a moron Historically people found eachother through friends, through work, through church or social groups etc because they spent time together and got to know the other person and over being lengths of time they feel in love Now it's drunken shouting or swiping on a picture
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Simple-Motor-2889 Mar 23, 2026 +2
Yeah the truth is two people who share similar interests are going to be better with each other. People who are willing to go on a reality show are more likely to get along with other people who are also willing to go on that same reality show. Their interests and personalities are going to align a little bit. And take a bunch of people with similar interests and personalities and put them all in a room and force them to talk to each other, and yeah, you're going to end up with some successful relationships.
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LesMiserablePeach Mar 23, 2026 +1
There's not exactly anything organic about it, the second someone goes on this show they're creating a persona and every utterance is run through the filter of "how am I going to look on tv if I say this?"
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loves_grapefruit Mar 23, 2026
I honestly don’t understand the people who watch this kind of trash. What in the world do they get out of it? But I love anime titties, so I guess who am I to talk?
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
Reality tv is the best
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loves_grapefruit Mar 23, 2026 +1
Can I ask why you enjoy it?
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0__O0--O0_0 Mar 23, 2026 +1
It’s fun to watch with my wife. I like watching people try to act a certain way and predict who’s going to bail at the last second
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Chataboutgames Mar 23, 2026 +1
Low stakes drama, requires only 8% of your brain active to follow, background show to watch with my wife.
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