Moving out of parents house

To become independent, start your own life, figure out your own routines, be in charge of your own decisions, no control from your parents, you decide whatever and whenever you want to do. Damn, I couldn't wait to move out, but I also had very strained relationship with my parents so maybe that's why too. I couldn't wait to live on my own. And it was amazing. Lived in a closet size room when I was studying, was still amazing, better than at my parents two floor house.

Escape their critism on *absolutely everything*. Share a house with the love of my life, make my own decisions (and my own mistakes), decide and cook what we want to eat, how we want to decorate, how to dress, etc etc. So much freedom!

So your parents can have a life . Without kids. When you are an adult you take responsibility for your life and the choices you make. Right or wrong.

It's called freedom, and becoming your own adult who is self reliant. Also, living under your own rules, that was an important one for me... Even if my rules ended up being almost identical to my parents' rules. But hey, if you wanna bring sexual partners home and risk your parents hearing it... You do you.

My parents were absolutely the most difficult parents. They were stricter than strict, way over protective, wouldn't let me do ANYTHING. I couldn't wait to turn 18 and leave. And I did. I found a work/live situation a few months after I turned 18, and away I went. Boy, I had FREEDOM and didn't even know what to do with it at first. Like, I was lost for a little while, but I would have never admitted it. I'm 41 now and I've never moved back home. I love my freedom. I can do what I want, whenever I want. Lol at least if I can afford it. I stay home mostly now. Lol but I enjoy it. I was always a responsible person. So that helped me adjust, but I did get a little wild for a very short period of time. Lol

I moved out of my parents house because they told me I’d have to pay rent if I stayed. Only like $100 but this was like 30 years ago. I had a boyfriend and we found a tiny apartment that was less than $300. So it was worth it to pay a bit more than they were asking for and to have my freedom. These days I have no idea how anyone can afford to move out on their own. There’s nothing under $1200 for rent around here, even in the bad part of town. I’m glad I bought my house when I did.

Independence. Become an adult.

As a kid, I couldn’t get out of my dad’s house fast enough. I longed for independence. As a parent, I hope my kids live with me forever. 😁

To become 100% the best/adult version of YOU. Find your style, find new community. Create a home that 100% suits YOUR needs. LEARN. How to cook, how to clean, how to take care of your home & belongings.

For me it wasn’t about money at all. It was just wanting my own space and learning how to handle life on my own; even simple stuff like cooking and managing bills hits different when you’re the one responsible.

Back in the olden days it wasn’t hard to do financially, and frankly my parents told me I had to move out after college. I think it helped me to learn to be independent, self-reliant, and fiscally responsible. I think the economic situation now makes it much more difficult to swing but no matter where you’re living once you have a job you should budget, take responsibility for household maintenance and chores, and generally be the adult that you are.

Privacy

Personally, economy aside my answer would be to grow as a person. Moving out comes with much greater responsibility than living at home, so the sooner you start that journey the better I think. Having your own space also makes personal relationships easier

I love my parents to death and I greatly appreciate them letting me live with them during college so I could save on room & board to reduce my student loans. But I will say, I’ve been living on my own for the past almost 4 years and the amount of personal growth I’ve had living on my own several hours away from family has been astounding. Having to navigate daily life all on my own has been great for my maturity and it does feel great being able to make my own decisions without having to take into account what will my parents say when I come back home. If there is one thing I wish I did was I wished I had actually moved out for college so I could’ve at least experienced this mental development earlier. Sometimes we just need to live in our own place without constant influence and expectations from our family so that we can find out what kinda person we really are without having to conform to what parents want for us. And ultimately my parents will always be there for me when I need to lean on them for help but for now, I’m quite happy to have moved out.

You're parents need a break from you too. They might not say it but one less bill to worry about. Independence sets you free to do other things.

I moved out because my mom suggested it. And she was right. I was a brat and entitled, picking arguments with them. I know it was hard for her but she was right. I grew up.

Privacy and independence.

Because your parents shouldn't have to support you financially for ever. They worked hard to be financially independent, as an adult you need to learn to do that for yourself.

All I’m gonna say is, some people consider the payment of rent to be worth it as opposed to the alternative, and they also consider being far from their parents a blessing.

For some people, family is a blessing. For others, family is a curse

Because the alternative to living with a roommate in an apartment near her employer was to live at home and commute three hours a day. Of course she moved out!

In short, freedom and independence.

As far as I can tell it’s largely American culture who does this. Many other cultures live with your parents till marriage and even sometimes after you get married and live together. I don’t think it should be looked down upon if the kid isn’t just milking it and not being a productive adult 

What I did was moving out to study and then to work in sheet city. But there are plenty of other reasons, a couple I can think of on the fly: bad home life, if you don't get along with your parents moving out is great; social independence, you are able to invite people over without having to consult with anyone

As the parent I have to work during the day and my daughter (25) likes to stay up all night. She can’t stay here if she goes in the kitchen after 11 pm because the house is tiny and my bedroom door opens in to the kitchen and she wakes me up. If she stays out late she has to come back in the morning because the dogs bark, waking me up. I’m a light sleeper and her schedule negatively affects my functioning at work. She also has to do terrible things like pull weeds. I’m hoping these inconveniences will inspire her towards independence.

I was a ward of the government. I had no choice. 18th birthday my social worker dropped me off at welfare office and reminded me not to call or show up at office ever again. The local city helped me with a counsellor who helped me with the paperwork and vouched for my identity to welfare. I had no government ID. Just my school ID. It took a while to get proper documentation they would accept so I could get ID. I am 50 now and doing fine. But back then there was zero sympathy and no one cared about some random 18 year old that had no connections and no money. It was a huge reality check.

As a woman, from a society where im gonna live at my parents house until i get married, then live in my husbands house and be very close to his parents house. I wanna live alone, man. I cant deal with family drama Im an introvert just let me be. 😭 My favourite times are when im awke late at night Or when every one is away for any reason and i have the house for my self. Also living at the family house doesn't come alone. It comes with shitty society rules and bad character development and massive codependency issues. Also crazy family drama, whatever drama u got going on rn, multiply that by 5. And you cant get away from it cuz the society rules forbids you. You'll be a disgrace to ur whole lineage.

I am curious how old you are OP? Also what country you’re from? I know it’s much more common in the US( where I’m from ) and my own personal desire to move out didn’t hit until I was ~18. But I remember being convinced I would not ever want to move out when I was younger. I would also say I have a pretty good relationship with my family, although I would have no desire to live with them again and I sort of feel like I emotionally regress to my teenage self when I visit home lol.

I moved out to become independent... start paying for my own stuff, managing cooking, cleaning, decorating my home per my taste, maintaining my space on my own while also working full time, etc. and essentially building my confidence that I am enough and I can build my own world. You can't get that without actually doing it. All that, while still living close to parents and having a safety net. I was sure they will take me in in a heartbeat if i were to lose my job or have some other difficulties. This was my thinking way back in the late 90s. Did all that and it all went great.😀 I didn't move out right after i was 18 though, moved out when graduated and got my first full time job, I was 22. I had a great relationship with my parents all the way until they passed recently. Feeling constrained at parents house was never the reason for me wanting to move out. I think when you grow up and become an adult, the parental home is the space (physical and metaphorical) that becomes too small and you naturally want to spread your wings. And you should do that if you have enough income to sustain.

for me, it was location. my whole family loves living in the middle of nowhere. i despise it.

My family lived in a small town. I wanted to live somewhere you didn't have to drive an hour to go to a mall or a movie theater. I wanted to have sex whenever I wanted. I moved out the same week I graduated high school. It was the 90s. People and things were different. My parents were awesome but I was ready to be on my own.

I see you haven’t met my parents. 🙃

Independence. Growing up.

I read the other comments on this post. I agree with the freedom argument, but I would say it depends. If you are in a family: \- that controls when and where you can go out \- where you have a curfew \- that limits your way of thinking \- and so on I think getting your own house is a must to feel free. You could also have a romantic and sexual life more easily. But if you are already free to do whatever you want, and your parents are OK with you staying in their house... maybe there is no need to rush. In both cases, leaving will help you experience life much more, and also help you to know yourself better

>you are far from your parents that's the point, not a negative to the situation. You get to live your own life without other people telling you what to do. I have been on both sides of the parent-adult child relationship. I have put a concerted effort into giving my adult son his space and respecting his independence. I do not weigh in (unless asked for advice) or criticize anything he does in his life. But that was not my experience as an adult child. I was treated like a child even after I left. My mother tried to tell me I couldn't get married without her permission, or name my son without her approval... this is why people leave. To not have to deal with that.

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You have lovely parents. If you see no reason, and have no inclination to move out, you have had a great life and have fabulous parents. I believe everyone has advantages and disadvantages, sometimes the advantages are disadvantages and more often visa versa. I’m sure the comments will cover most reasons people move out about your age. If you have the luck of not having to move for your own sanity and well-being, and if your parents are of the same mindset, by all means use that advantage to get ahead in life. I hope you recognize and acknowledge this as the gift that it is. However, if you find yourself on the other side of 25 and still at home, you need to really have another look at the situation.

I moved out because the thought of living with my mother for the rest of my life (or hers, at least) was horrifying. I love the woman, but no thank you.

For me? To have room to breathe, my father collects antiques compulsively. Some are really cool and unique but it can be frustrating to have made space for (oh let’s say a ps5) and when you get home the next day there’s a vintage table lamp there and dads going on about how proud he is there was space for such a treasure. Plus there’s just something nice about having a place one can truly call, yours. Just wish they weren’t so expensive lol.

I moved out when I was 19. I couldn't get out fast enough. I guess I can see the appeal of staying if your parents are supportive or whatever, but don't you want independence? Your own life? There's a point where you need to cut the cord.

I graduated on Friday and moved out on a Saturday. I didn't have the best relationship with my dad. Four years later, I realized I was 50% responsible for this, so I made changes. He became my best friend. But I had a bunch of kids, and every one of them boomeranged back to us for a period of time. One never left. She actually bought some land near us and paid it off. Then, she bought a new truck and paid it off. So far, she's amassed about 1/3 of the cost of a small house, but she doesn't want small. She wants medium. So, she's trying to save enough money so she can cover about 2/3 of the cost and only finance 1/3. It'll probably take her another five years, by which time she'll need a newer vehicle. I'm hoping she stays with us indefinitely, but I know how much I enjoyed having my own place with my own rules. We don't "rule" her right now. She pays her way, too.

In my own place I have freedom. I can do as I please, I live with my fiancé, we enjoy being able to just live without any judgement or ridicule. We eat when we want, we can get pets if we want (we have two cats and reptiles), we can talk late at night, not be as conscious of our noise when we’re intimate, etc. I moved out of my parent’s house when I was 18, sure financially struggling sucks but it’s better than living with my parents. I much prefer living with my partner, having my own space, and having control/autonomy over the home

There are some adult things I would feel uncomfortable doing feet away from my parents.

Because it’s an essential part of growing up and being self sufficient 

It’s hard to date if you’re living with your parents.

Because you get to have sex, lmfao! Or, in my case, I left home as soon as I could, which not coincidentally was the soonest point my parents could chuck me out. They are/were religious crazies, and my mother is scary violent; things were pretty much irreparable by that point. Going to uni (as far away as possible!) was a mutually acceptable solution. I'm not going to say that _all_ blended families are car crashes, but....

Parents are often a thorn in a young adult’s side. I have to act rude to my parents to get them to stay out of my life and plans. The more you talk, the more they can hurt you/accidentally sabotage you. Research the grey rock method.

I basically took care of myself from the age of 11 or 12 onwards - except for the very large problem of living outside town, with no one and nothing around, no public transportation (wouldn't have been allowed to use it anyway - reason number two), so I had to get a ride everywhere. So nothing fazed me about moving out and "doing things for myself" (not saying I did anything well, but I eventually learned to cook and clean better than I had been taught). I was *thrilled* to be free to come and go as I pleased, have public transportation (and a junker car bc my dad was the best) at my disposal, not have anyone waiting up until I came home (I didn't have a curfew, but my mother worried incessently), have the living room to myself (with my roomie - still my bff decades later), not have to turn my music down for someone going to bed on the other side of a paper thin wall, and just to have so much space. I waited for that day for yeeeears (moved out at 19). It was amazing. It was everything I wanted lol.

Because my parents are awful. When I moved out post college it was to another city for work, and then I moved back a while later and was with my parents for a few months. Then my dad kicked me out because I parked my car in the driveway... So yeah. They're awful. Not that I wanted to stay with them too long anyway, but I didn't have a choice. 

it's largely cultural. customs. traditions. expectations. some cultures routinely have two or more generations living under one roof (or in one property). also, some folks have poor relationships with their parents, at best, and wish to be away from them.

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Shitty parents in a toxic relationship.......which meant I ran as far as I could, even put myself in an abusive relationship for a long time just so I could sleep not at home. I ran all the time until I finally moved out.

A visit to my parents house answers this question well.. I want out of there asap. 5-10 minute visit is plenty.

My parents are very different people from me and we want very different kinds of lives. I would be miserable living on their ultra-rural landlocked farm and they would be miserable living in my port city apartment.

You know how some people suck? those people either are parents or have parents who have made them that way.

YOUR OWN place to do as you please with on one telling you what or how to do something. NO one telling you, you can't do this or can't do that. COMPLETE PRIVACY

This is moving out lets go!!!

It's seen as a symbol that you are capable of taking care of yourself and are the leader of your own life, no longer a child being guided by a responsible parent. It's also nice to live without rules. But I agree that it's a silly custom that wastes a lot of money. Still, I had to leave home as soon as I was old enough because living with my parents was unbearable.

The economy is sinking.Millions of people will live with their parents for many years.

You can't be twenty, on sugar mountain. (Though you're thinking that you're leavin there too soon.)