My new fitness trainer keeps sayong "good boy" and I don't know what to do with her.

Was she a dog trainer before she became a fitness trainer?

Try this: “I should have said something earlier but I don’t like being called good boy, do you mind not using that term?”

That’s really unprofessional, IMO. If you don’t like it, tell her. But maybe you do.

Well are you being a good boy? If so, it makes sense.

This is hilarious 

Does she make you jump through hoops?

Some people have it all…

If it makes you uncomfortable get a new trainer. IMO it’s not very professional. If it doesn’t make you uncomfortable you can roll with it. I find the overly sexual bs to be corny and annoying.

Honestly that sounds a bit… weird 😅 Some trainers use hype language, but “good boy” and whispering “don’t stop” is kinda crossing into uncomfortable territory. If it makes you feel awkward or distracted, that’s already a sign it’s not a good fit. A trainer should make you feel focused and supported, not confused. Your progress matters more than trying to figure out her vibe 👍

Well it is her job to be super duper upbeat and encouraging, even though it comes off phoney. That being said, "good boy" is weird, and it is perfectly acceptable to ask her not to call you that. You can even make a big joke about it and say, "makes me feel like a doberman when you do that!". But if she does it again, be an a******, lol. Get up and walk away from the session, walk straight over to the desk and ask for a new trainer. Life's too short. Give her one chance and then f*** her feelings and make her feel like a d***. As a waitress in a very nice restaruant, I once had an older couple come in, who carried themselves as though they had money. The whole time I served them, every time I brought her something she'd say "Oh, good girl." Super demeaning, to the point I didn't care about a tip anymore and as I was dropping the check I leaned in and said, "I'm not a schnauzer" with a great big smile on my face. She huffed but Mr tipped me well anyway.

Secretly a d*********

Do you like it? If yes, ur fine. If no, say something to her.

She must watch alot of Ishowspeed and wants you to bark at her. All jokes aside, get a new trainer. Mfs be weirdos these days and all you gotta do is not associate yourself with them anymore. Problem solved.

If you are uncomfortable with her then find a new trainer. Why would you feel you have to put up with someone talking to you as if you were a dog?

I'm gonna guess she has clients that this works for. Being turned on can give guys a burst of physical strength so there's some logic here. But I'm sure if you just asked her not to do that anymore she'd stop

Not me thinking this was in the /r/gentlefemdom sublistnook...

if this was reversed, a lot of people would be calling it what it is. verbal sexual harassment. this is weird. this is not okay. even if you're not completely distraught from it it's so weird and disgusting to be doing to a stranger . like wtf. and it's disgusting me everyone in this thread it taking it really lightly

Enjoy it and be a good boy.

Maybe she works in a vet before😂

You could respond appropriately and bark back. It’ll keep the real discussion light and she’d be like, why are you barking? Because I am a good boy! Or act like a boy and act like she’s the teacher in kindergarten.

I wonder if she has like a toddler where she's used to saying good boy and it just spills over into work without her realizing. I doubt it's a conscious choice she's making.

Maybe she is flirting 🤔 i mean the fact that she is whispering in your ear, maybe she is turned on by you. ?

Wear a dog costume to the next workout session?

This seems like sexual harassment to me. Not trying to be a downer or anything but a trainer of any gender saying that to me, especially with whispering and stuff like that, is totally creepy. I would honestly report her to the gym if it’s making you uncomfortable.

Uh, if it makes you uncomfy then big fat no. But if you like it then yes. As a guy its pretty nice being called a good boy but you do you

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If other than that she is a good trainer, you shouldn’t drop her, you should just have a simple conversation with her. I’m sure using her sexuality is usually a big plus and probably does help motivate a lot of guys. If you don’t like it just tell her you’d prefer it if she didn’t motivate you like that. I’m 99% sure it’s not something that she loves to do, it’s almost certainly just good for business. If she knows you don’t like it, she’ll have no reason to do it.

wish i had your problems!

That would motivate me a ton! Keep her for awhile and see if you like it

Ask her what she means by it

Say it back

I feel like this is a weird situation. I have a daughter, but I also work in IT and I was doing an AV setup and someone was helping me with cable management and I accidentally clapped and yelled "good job!!" like they were 6. Maybe she has dogs or children or something? But if you're uncomfortable with it or confused, I would get a new trainer. "Good boy" doesn't sound professional in everyday language.

She’s motivating you by making you feel sexually unsure.

That’s kind of demeaning. I’ve accidentally said this to my spouse because I’m so used to telling our puppies they’re good boys, but that’s not an appropriate thing to tell most anyone, especially a paying client.

I'd just wait it out for a week or two before doing anything. Maybe she's just trying to be supportive but is also socially awkward.

My steak is too juicy, my lobster too buttery, my bed too comfy

my steak is too juicy and my lobster too buttery ahh post. Some men drown while others die of thirst ahh post 🥀😭

Well. She’s into you, but she’s weird about it. Doesn’t seem professional. She definitely has some weird praise kink thing going on. I’d probably get a new trainer.

I sometimes cheer kids on like this. “Look at you! Good girl!” It’s sincere enthusiasm. 😄

You could reply with "Woof", and see if that sublty illuminates your issue to her. 😉

You must have sex with her. It's the only way.

I think this trainer has found the perfect mix of sexual tension that will keep her male customers coming back to her again and again. If my trainer was hot and said this type of stuff to me, I’d probably get off on it. What is she like with her other male clients?

"oh no my steak is too juicy and my lobster too buttery" if you're uncomfortable then do have a conversation w her though

I wouldn't mind.... Slide her to me

Okay, this isn't "what I would do, sincerely, in your situation" kind of advice, but my curiosity is killing me, so the next time you have a session, feign being exhausted, and when she starts "encouraging" you, do a bit, like, "I can't ... go on! If only I could see.... some b****, maybe I .... could finish the set....." See how that goes. Report back afterwards.

Have you tried talking to her about it? I always tell my trainers exactly what motivational talk is useful for me, and I tell them what isn't working. She isn't a mind reader.

Are you sure you're not on the set of a p*** shoot? Totally sounds like the beginning of a p*** movie, haha. (I get your discomfort.)

Talk to her. Avoiding problems is not healthy.

Had this happen to me once too. My trainer kept whispering “good boy” in my ear in the middle of sets, then she’d scratch behind my ears whenever I hit a PR. Sometimes, if I was really good, she’d throw a toy across the gym for me to fetch.

If anyone called me "good boy" during a set, I'd be laughing so hard I'd drop the weights. Seems to help you though? I say see where it goes.

That's so hot and also I don't believe you

I mean what if she likes you and is kinda seducing you to do your best… I mean shiiit sounds hot😍

Maybe she was a dog trainer before moving onto humans.

Honestly, I've mistakenly called my (fellow men, in a physical labor job) co-workers "honey" before. On top of that, I've also called my girlfriend by my dog's name, as well. Simply force of habit. I bet she has a dog, and spends a lot of time talking to it. How to handle/end it? Smile, laugh and literally say... \- "I think you are confusing me with your pooch." \- \* laugh \* (Important!) to keep it non aggressive/ as not to embarrass) \- "You keep telling me I'm a 'good boy' \- \* smile big, and laugh again if you can \* I'm betting she has no clue that she is doing it, and will think about it going forward.

Personally I’d take it as it was offered. Seems like she’s trying to be pleasant. Though the whispering is a bit weird. But then again people usually are.

Have you considered the possibility that you might actually be a good boy?

Could be a dog trainer before😂

If you're uncomfy drop her. If you are motivated by it? Own it. If you like her but don't want it to continue just ask her if she can not call you that next time she says it. "Hey don't mean anything rude but but I kinda feel like a dog when you call me a good boy can we try something else? Can I get a hell ya?" Lol whatever just quick, firm, lighthearted but firm, then move on. If it keeps happening without her correcting it then just move on?

lol honestly just lean into it. my old trainer used to say stuff like that and it was genuinely motivating in a weird way. like at some point you stop overthinking it and just push harder because you want to hear it again. pavlov would be proud

This is hilarious lol I recently had to complete a pulmonary function test, and every time I did part of the test correctly the technician would say “good girl” lol I thought it was weird at first but it sort of grew on me during the appointment

a man dying of thirst watching another man drown

This is so funny lmao

This made me laugh. Thanks :) As for your questions, if you're happy with the job she does, you could tell her I suppose? Something like, "Sorry, I get what you're doing but I expect a treat every time you say good boy" perhaps?

Uhmmmmmmmm

Did she say you've never lasted as long as the other guys took?

Invite her for some 1 on 1 training at home?

if it makes you uncomfortable, ask her to stop or get a new trainer. and then let me know how to book her as my trainer.

How old are you and she? Maybe she just wants to date you lol

Sounds like she has a lot of dogs and just never got off that mindset. I never used to think anything of a woman who'd say that but recently in the past year I kind of thought longer about that term, and man I would love if it happened to me now. I was never encouraged as a kid tbh. I realized that recently.

I wonder if she has a thing about being a domy mommy. Still not appropriate.

She is trying to be motivational- and her style is off-putting to you. Or something. Are you aware that you are attracted to her and that seems to be clouding your mind? Seems that way from your post. Get a new trainer. A male one might be best.

And there's me, PAYING TO BE CALLED A GOOD BOY

She's encouraging you to work harder. That's all it is.

Being a good boy for her might be the motivation you need to level up your gains. However, I wouldn’t confuse her enthusiasm for you doing good reps for flirting. She could genuinely be passionate about fitness and excited you’re working hard and about your future gains. I’d be so stoked to have someone excited for something I’m doing well! Soak it up OP and lock in on your gains!

A girl who has a crush on me said that! Umm nope! That's weird. Stop!

Well…. Are you a good boy?

If it makes you feel awkward then change. Then again, you're being a good boy and so you should see some progress on your cutting lol

You take two steps. First of all, you find a trainer that is compatible with you, and not someone who misuses social trust to get away with things like this. Second, whenever you are in a room with just men and they are joking about using double entendres or saying things with plausible deniability, you loudly and clearly point out that doing things like that to make people uncomfortable is wrong. You turn this situation into empathy and advocacy.

She’s a dom and she’s interested. If you don’t like her I would go with someone else but if you do like her you could be her good boy.

Just put your face right in her ass. See if she says "good boy".

Are you a dog?

Next time you do a workout with her, ask her to demonstrate a maneuver, and tell her she's a good girl when she finishes the rep.

Why are you cutting her? 

Call her a bad girl

Is she hot

I wish my trainer called me good boy. :( Edit: wait, it’s a women calling you good boy? Eww. Tell her to stop. Nobody wants women hitting on them in the gym.

If you're into it, great. If not, find a different trainer. She might be flirting. You could always just ask the next time she does it.

Keep at it with her. You’re in for a great time (so long as you’re single).

”Should I get a different trainer? Maybe a male one?” Sure, if you prefer being called a good boy by a guy instead.

Thanks sugar. And give her a wink 😜

If youre gonna drop her, you should ask her out first, because maybe she's freaky and just wants to smash. Be her good boy.