As a hospital night shift nurse, I have taken care of many people who were actively dying and were on comfort care (this means that we are no longer trying to save the person's life, instead we're trying to manage their symptoms to keep them as comfortable as possible while they are dying). Sometimes people hold on a lot longer than we expect them to. You'd think by their vital signs, breathing pattern, skin color, etc that they should go fairly quickly, but instead they hold on and you can't quite figure out how they're still alive. These are people who are completely unresponsive, comatose, brain clearly not receiving enough oxygen to sustain life or consciousness for long. Often one of two things will happen:
\-They are waiting for a family member to show up, and once that person arrives, the patient passes fairly quickly. OR
\-Their family is with them in the room and doesn't want to leave because they don't want the patient to die alone. Finally the family leaves to get some sleep, or maybe they fall asleep in the room so that they are no longer talking to the patient. Then the patient dies fairly quickly after that. It's like the family doesn't want to leave the dying person, and the dying person also doesn't want to leave the family? It's an odd phenomenon but I've seen it quite a few times.
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BurdadartMar 28, 2026
+2899
I didn't want to visit my dying father at the hospital because I was certain he would pass. I gathered the courage to go, he was in an induced coma but I told him how proud I was to be his daughter and showed him I graduated high school with really good grades. I left and 20 min later my mother called me to tell me he died. It's like he was waiting for me. It was really devastating news but at the same time I'm glad I went.
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btssmgss32412Mar 29, 2026
+649
I had a similar experience with my aunt. She and I were always very close. She ended up getting ovarian cancer and I was living out of state. She was essentially on her death bed - palliative care at home, very doped up. Not talking or really moving. Just inna daze in her hospital bed that was in her dining room. I flew home to see her and when I walked in the room she started making sounds like she was trying to talk and tried to sit up and give me a hug. She wasn’t able to of course but I hugged her and told her how much I loved her. My family was shocked- they said she hadn’t really moved much in days and wasn’t reactive to anything/anyone. I spent probably 40 min with her and left. She passed 12 hours later. I think she knew I was coming to see her. It’s been 11 years now and I miss her every day.
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sharraleighMar 29, 2026
+144
Reading the first few lines of your comment was eerie. I too, was very close to my aunt (mom's youngest sister) - she was only 14 years older than me, so more like a sister than an aunt. She also got ovarian cancer at age 31 and eventually died at 33. I think about her all the time, and when I turned 34, I kept thinking "I'm older now than she was when she died". It's been 21 years since she died and I miss her every day too.
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Big_Maintenance9387Mar 29, 2026
+102
This is nowhere near the same, but I swear my dog waited to die until I had come to the realization it was gonna happen. I spent a day with her in my arms, was gonna take her to the vet the next day and she passed in her sleep.
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Im_being_stalkedMar 29, 2026
+34
Oh 100% agree with you. My childhood cat who accompanied me to my 25th birthday was at the vets very sick and the vet called me to basically come now or you won’t say goodbye.
I went and met my sister and mom who were already there the cat was quite lucid and talkative and it felt so wrong to choose euthanasia because she looked somewhat good compared to how she usually is and I just couldn’t let them inject her with the euthanasia but I knew it was necessary so I said goodbye and left the room and she died naturally right after I closed the door. The vet even commented to my family that Mimi was probably waiting for me.
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downtownhoundtownMar 29, 2026
+260
That's beautiful that you went and were able to say some important things to him. I'm sure it eased his journey <3
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gregador1Mar 29, 2026
+1113
RN here—I had an amazing hospice patient tell me that the reason some people wait for family to leave before they die is because it’s like going to the bathroom. It’s personal and private. “Plus, sometimes you shit yourself. It’s not a graceful exit.”
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Just1n5aneMar 29, 2026
+178
that explanation makes sense in a weirdly human way, like even at the end people still want privacy
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butterflydrawMar 28, 2026
+292
My nephew waited for me and his youngest brother to arrive before passing away. (Leukemia).
My Mom waited until we were all out of the room. She had Alzheimers for 10 long years. For the last 18 months, she was in a wonderful 6 bed facility.
Her breathing issues came on unexpectedly. The facility called for us to all say goodbye. In situations like this, licensing requires an outside hospice RN on hand.
Out of her earshot, the RN explained the exact same thing as the above comment after we mentioned my deceased nephew.
The RN, asked us to give them privacy so he could change her diaper. Afterward, he exited the room to invite us back in. In the minutes of him exiting, washing his hands, and us all walking back in, she was gone.
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KldsTheseDaysMar 29, 2026
+79
That is tragically beautiful. And much respect to the RN!
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NightshadeZombieMar 29, 2026
+504
And sometimes the dying person is waiting for permission, as weird as that sounds. When one of my grandmothers was passing, she hung on in a mostly comatose state for a few weeks. She was receiving comfort at the time. Finally one of the nurses pulled my mom and sibling and I aside and said "Tell her it's okay to go. You've got things covered here, she's done a great job and it's okay to go on." We called in the immediate family and everyone did some version of that and she passed in her sleep that night. It was the weirdest thing.
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mnid92Mar 29, 2026
+257
My near death experience consisted of a strong feeling of "Are you done here?" I said no, there's still more to do and then it felt like I fell out of a building and landed in my body.
And then the pain and burning from the chest paddles set in.
I also saw my Mom (who has passed) and one of my dogs from childhood. My mom was wearing a green turtleneck sweater and jeans. She said she had to find a bathroom and she needed to step out for a minute. I asked her where my Dad was and she said "oh you know how he is!' (because he's always late)
I'll never fully be able to explain it without sounding like a crazy person, but... Man it kinda sucked to wake up.
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LawfulnessWarm4889Mar 29, 2026
+34
Your mom's oh you know how he is from the other side is pure gold, NDE that hits like family reunion with a paddles jolt.
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whereswaldaMar 28, 2026
+435
My grandmother held on in hospice for months until my first niece was born. She was the first great grandchild, and my Grammie was so excited for her. By the end she was subsisting on morphine and a little applesauce now and then, but she remained relatively lucid until my niece arrived and she got to meet her.
A few days after she got to hold her, my grandmother passed quietly in her sleep.
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anna_wastakenMar 29, 2026
+190
My grandmother held on for a week after my son was born and then was in the NICU. That night I got to nurse him for the first time. My mom was with her and told her how well he was doing, that he was nursing and I was holding him. She passed about 30 minutes later. I have pictures of my son at almost the same minute she passed and he’s just laying in my arms looking at me. I think she held on until she knew he was going to be okay before she finally let go.
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TimeProfessional7120Mar 29, 2026
+117
That happened with my dad. We were all exhausted and hungry and left Hospice to get a quick dinner before heading back, and he passed away while we were gone.
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SweetHomeNorthKoreaMar 29, 2026
+121
This is why I love the internet. I’m reading through these comments gaining a whole new perspective on how people die while there are folks who live their whole lives thinking things like “I was by my partners side and they died when I went to get a snack and I’ll never forgive myself for being selfish” type of stuff. I know people who have beaten themselves up over that kind of thing and now I have a viewpoint to offer for anyone in the future struggling with that.
These types of phenomena really are wild though. I’m reading all these comments with goosebumps
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thatjourneysongMar 29, 2026
+111
When my mom was close to death, her bp dropped and they made the calls for family to come. All of my siblings made it there before I did. I got held up for what seemed like any eternity. (Midwest backroads and an entire convoy of farm equipment moving at a snail’s pace as far as you could see, so it was unsafe to try to pass). They told her I wasn’t there yet, but was on my way. (She was not conscious or responsive and hadn’t been for days), but her blood pressure went back up and she held on until I arrived. Once I got there she was gone in less than 10 minutes. It was like somehow her body was able to hold on until she was good and ready to go. Still makes me tear up thinking about it.
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Tough-Alternative-21Mar 29, 2026
+181
My mom started going early in the morning and she didn’t want a hospital trip, I got out of work at 3 pm and my dad called me over to see her, I had no idea all day this was even happening. I got there and wanted her to have an easy transition as I recognized the agonal breathing and called ambulance, by 3:30 pm- 4:00 pm we were at the hospital, we declined intubation as her body wouldn’t handle it anyway and we didn’t want her to suffer more, by 4:45 pm the doctor came in to explain she was gonna be admitted as it can take some time for the patient to pass but we could be with her every step of the way, we started talking to her letting her know she was the best mom and to go to my brother and she was safe and loved and it was okay to go and as my dad was telling her this her heart rate went. It was the craziest thing to see in real time honestly. The doctor said it was one of the most beautiful things he’s ever seen. I was absolutely torn in between the selfishness of wanting her to stay but not wanting her to suffer anymore and it broke my heart beyond repair but I’m so glad we were there for it as I know it’s what she wanted ❤️🩹😭 her time of death was 5:01pm October 6th ): honestly the most beautifully tragic day of my life as she didn’t suffer but I lost my world.
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SmeagolsMathomMar 29, 2026
+80
This happened with my mom for me. I was not there when she passed even though I’d been there for days at a time. I went home to sleep. She passed about 4 hrs after I left. I felt guilty about it for a long time (still sometimes do), but have heard many medical people say this. It helps.
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catjellycatMar 29, 2026
+38
I’m sorry for your loss. I was there when my dad died and I’ve already told my family that I have no expectation of them to be with me when I go. I can’t speak for future me but I think I’d like to be alone, I wouldn’t like to put them through that.
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azha84Mar 29, 2026
+54
This was the case with my grandmother (who raised me) this past January. She ended up lasting much longer than we thought. The night she passed I had told her, "The boys (my kids) and I will be ok. You don't have to worry about us. You are loved. You're not alone. You're safe. We'll see you in the morning. I love you." While my uncle and aunt slept in the room with her, I had to go back to a guest room inside the facility to take care of my toddlers. Not even a couple hours later she was gone. My aunt has said she believes my grandmother died while I was out of her room on purpose. I still wish I could have been there with her in her final moments 💔
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covertanjouMar 29, 2026
+54
I was being treated for cancer while my father was dying of advanced Alzheimer’s. He was in a residence and I couldn’t go see him for months because the chemo had destroyed my immune system, and it was too dangerous for me to go. The moment I finished chemo, I went to see my dad. I told him I loved him, that I was sorry I couldn’t come sooner, and he could go see his dad (who had died when my father was a teenager). My dad died a few minutes later. It’s as though he was waiting for me. I’m so glad I was able to be there when he passed.
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Book-DevouringMar 28, 2026
+205
I fully believe it. I lost my mom last month. She outlived the original 6 month window they said she had left. But she finally said enough was enough and wanted to move to hospice care. They included me on the decision via phone call since I was at work. I had been spending almost all my free time with her, even when she was in hospital. After work I went to visit her like always. She was acting weirder than normal. I was exhausted by the time visiting hours were done. Went home feeling a major sense of loss even though I’ve been through hospice before with my gramma and knew it wasn’t an immediate death sentence. Got the call 7 am the next day that she had passed sometime in the night after I left. We hadn’t gotten to talk about the decision or the words she used on the call, but I had at least gotten to see her and hold her hand one last time.
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SabrielOrionMar 29, 2026
+41
My aunt waited for me to get there before she died. My dad had died without me getting to say goodbye, so she knew I wanted to be there. She was unresponsive, but I knew she knew I was there, and knew the moment she actually died.
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Red217Mar 29, 2026
+43
I believe it. This happened when my grandfather was passing away. Whole family was there and he was just holding on. It was getting late to the point where we were deciding to go home or stay the night or not. We were all taking turns sitting with him and holding his hand.
My grandmother went over to him after everyone had a turn with him and told him it was okay to let go and we love him etc. Then shortly after she said goodbye he left us.
When she passed, her three children were with her - the grandchildren couldn't make it because it was just a different situation. She was at home, not in the hospital. Anyway her three children, one being my mom the other two, my aunts, were all watching a TV show together while sitting with my grandma. My mom said it was like the one moment they all took their eyes off her, had taken a moment to stop crying and there was something funny on the TV that caught them off guard so all the three were laughing together and having a quick funny moment in the midst of their grief and that's when she passed - when her three children were having a quick laugh together.
Really makes you think how some of this stuff happens the way it does. ❤️
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Anxiousrabbit23Mar 29, 2026
+70
We thought my grandpa had more time. He had just moved from nursing home to hospice, we thought he’d be there a couple days. Some family members ran back to his house with grandma. I had been in the room with him, my mom and I left to take a load of stuff from the room to the car. Leaving just my aunt (who was not related to him) in the room.
All she texted was “come back” about the time we made it to car. He passed while every person who loved him was gone from the room. I had no idea this was a common occurrence.
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bros402Mar 29, 2026
+21
I bet your aunt cared for him - she just wasn't related by blood
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frecklz_23Mar 29, 2026
+29
I’ve worked in hospice/palliative care and witnessed this both ways multiple times. It’s hard for families to understand the range of time until death but these things just cant be quantified.
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jameslovestoplayMar 29, 2026
+36
My dad did the same thing 13 years ago today. My cousin and I were sent to get the family dog to bring to see dad (after visiting hours), and received a call to immediately turn back. He passed soon after. We always thought he was able to relax knowing his puppy (read: 80lb Rottweiler) was coming.
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Dizzy-Avocado-7026Mar 28, 2026
+5805
Worked in a hospice for years. One particular room had a ceiling corner that numerous patients would engage with in different ways. Some people would be mute and just stare at the corner, some people would point at the corner, some would smile and laugh, and others would specifically name family members that had passed before them.
It just became routine for me. I'd enter a room and ask a family member how the resident was doing, and they'd report that they had begun saying their deceased sisters name while pointing to this specific corner. I'd ask if they'd ever done something like this before (had any moments of confusion) and the family would report it was new behaviour.
After a year or so of working there and experiencing this, one time staff were discussing "ghost stories" in the staff room, and an older staff member mentioned that they had one time had a medium come to the hospice, and reported that there were "portals" in this specific room, and another in the basement.
I typically do not believe in ghosts or paranormal activity, but I truly cannot explain this phenomenon. Everyone seemed happy/comforted by whatever they were seeing in this corner, so I just stopped questioning it.
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ElaineBenes33Mar 29, 2026
+625
When my mom was dying in her nursing home, the last 2 weeks she was no longer able to talk and in her waking hours she stared at one corner of the ceiling in her room. I would look, hoping to see something odd. I never did. I have read about this behavior. People think it's like the patient has one foot here still, and the other foot "over there".
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vegemitebikkieMar 29, 2026
+372
The night before my dad passed, he’d been either in delirium or in a state of almost unconsciousness. Like asleep but still kind of aware?
We’d talk to him and he’d look like he was trying to open his eyes and try to mutter a response, but couldn’t.
Anyway, my sister was the last one to visit him the night before. And he’d opened his eirs and was staring at the wall behind her shoulder, and muttered “I’m going to heaven”.
He was gone ten hours later. It was really amazing, because he was a staunch non believer his whole life. He always said when you’re dead, you’re dead. There’s nothing after.
So I took great comfort in him seeing something no one else could.
Before his delirium set in, he was also talking about his mum a lot too. Kept saying how much a certain Indian nurse reminded him of his mum. Which was weird, considering we’re a white Australian family lol
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rstevens99Mar 29, 2026
+37
This reminds me of some of the stories/accounts I read about in the book “Imagine Heaven” which studied people with NDE’s (Near Death Experiences)
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joekryptoniteMar 28, 2026
+1191
Wow. Near death, my dad saw things and people in the ceiling corner.
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geckotatgirlMar 28, 2026
+1199
So did my parents during their respective deaths. My dad was an artist and he asked my sister, "How can I describe what I'm seeing? What are these colors?" It was really interesting, tbh.
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Crafty_CalicoMar 29, 2026
+545
Reminds me of a book I read about someone who died on the operating table and was resuscitated. They later described walking through a garden with the most incredible and indescribable colors unimaginable.
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jenjonessMar 29, 2026
+452
Kinda different but when my life partner John passed months later I had a dream. It wasn't a dream it was an experience. I went to a place where he was and I can only describe it as nirvana. I saw colours that don't exist on earth. The purples, oranges, yellows and reds that were so beautiful you could feel the colours, they were bright, irredesent, living and breathing colours. A feeling of euphoria, peace, acceptance, understanding and pure pure, pure love. A love I can't explain. The world made sense. It was heaven, it was nirvana. John was telling me he was OK. I don't fear death anymore. What I experienced was other worldly. It wasn't a dream as I felt more in that moment than in my entire life. No drugs or alcohol was consumed before I went to sleep that night and this is the short version.
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anonymousmouse9786Mar 29, 2026
+72
This reminds me of What Dreams May Come!
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Hazey_fantazyMar 29, 2026
+19
I had a very similar dream when my baby died. A few months later, I just needed to know that she was ok. I had one of the most realistic and vivid dreams I've ever had.
I was sitting in a field with one old, large tree that was full of pink blossoms and filled with red robin birds. The birds were hopping and singing with such joy and I have never seen colours like it. The grass was so fragrant and green and the tree was heavenly. I woke up knowing in my soul that our baby was ok.
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monitormonkeyMar 29, 2026
+193
I have posted this before:
I had a strange experience once as well. I have had multiple surgeries and it was always the same drill. Close your eyes in the operating room, open them in the recovery room without any "in between".
The day the "in between" happened, it felt like even the air was telling me things were going to go wrong. I felt it so strongly, I even wrote goodbye notes to my family just in case. When I was going to the operating room, I looked back at my partner and thought that was the last time I was going to see them.
The in between part: I was in space, but there weren't any stars. I didn't have a body, but I could still feel myself/aware of myself. I wasn't sad, happy, scared, just extremely neutral. I still was me, but I wasn't. I had a few memories of my life rush past, it was like flipping through a book, some I remembered, some I didn't.
I could feel light and love behind me on one side, and what felt like everything else on the other side. I have no idea what that means. I don't remember making any choice about where to go.
When I woke up, I found out that I had died (my heart stopped for almost two minutes). I have had surgeries since and nothing like that has happened again.
I have no idea what all of that was, but if it was real...at least I have an idea of where I will be.
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mchilds83Mar 29, 2026
+123
My mom asked who that was with us about a week before her death. Nobody was with us. It makes me sad to remember her in that state.
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geckotatgirlMar 29, 2026
+71
My mom was saying her neighbors from when she was a child in another state were going to come visit. She hadn't seen them since she was a very young woman. It was a funny thing for her to have on her mind. And she kept talking about the angels waiting for her, up toward the ceiling, essentially sitting along the top of a wall-covering shelving unit. At one point, I had to get on a ladder and screw in every lightbulb on two huge lantern-type chandeliers - take off the glass part, make sure the bulb was as tight as it could go, put the glass back on. There were 10 or so on each. They were all fine and lit but she insisted and it calmed her so I did it.
Edit: typo
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FishermanNo9503Mar 29, 2026
+22
That’s actually really beautiful, thank you for sharing that— made me both smile and tear up.
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sushi-n-sunshineMar 29, 2026
+22
I just had a patient recently who was delirious and was telling me about the things they were seeing in the ceiling corner too, strange that it seems to be a common experience for people
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Sad-Guess4424Mar 29, 2026
+491
Always a corner on the ceiling on actively dying patients. One patient had no one with him so we all took turns sitting by his bed, talking to him, or just holding his hand. He looked up at the ceiling corner and I knew this was it. He suddenly opened his eyes and smiled the most beautiful smile. He died a few minutes later.
I believe he finally had the visitor he was waiting for all along.
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Dizzy-Avocado-7026Mar 29, 2026
+105
This is beautiful ❤️ sounds very similar to the things I experienced. That's why I stopped caring if I could explain it (although I'm still curious!) but it seemed to bring peace and happiness to them all. Not once did anyone seem scared or upset. So I just acknowledge it as something beautiful that happens, and I'm so grateful for those residents who get to experience that.
I hope we are all greeted by the ones we missed most in the end.
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lacunadelalunaMar 29, 2026
+40
I hope it's my dear dog first to lead me, then my loved humans and the rest of my beloved animals 💔
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justnana1Mar 28, 2026
+228
Mom did this. She would look up at the same corner and stare smiling and shaking her head yes. She was not religious.
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Dizzy-Avocado-7026Mar 29, 2026
+91
I'm sorry for the loss of your Mom ❤️ while I can't explain it, it did leave me hopeful that we will all see our loved one's again when it's our time. There are some people I would certainly love to see again.
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KasiyazaMar 29, 2026
+74
my grandmother was in a nursing home with dementia. during her last couple weeks she would talk about seeing people in the corner of her room (i don't know if it was the corner ceiling but she did look up a lot). she'd see her father and ex husband quite often and we'd hear her talking to them from the hallway, quite vividly as well. she was a completely different person every time she had "visitors"
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TattycakesMar 29, 2026
+99
Ah I know this one, my cats do this. It’s definitely greebles
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azha84Mar 29, 2026
+87
My understanding is that's called visioning and pretty common during the dying process. But the fact that they all looked at the same area is creepy 😬
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shadowlevMar 28, 2026
+1883
Sundowning is still relatively unstudied. Patients with cognitive impairments lose their mind when the sun goes down. Could be Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, brain bleed, TBI, metabolic encephalitis, I worked in brain injury rehab so I've seen it happen a lot.
It would be around 8pm and you could literally see the sense drain out of a person's eyes. They would be exhausted from the day of therapy and winding down in bed when they would begin to get restless and try to get out of bed. On my unit, patients were required to have assistance getting out of bed. You'd ask what they needed or where they were going and they don't know or they say they have to go to work. You reorient them to the time of day and that it's time to sleep and get them comfy. Half an hour later, they are trying to get out of bed again. You try to talk to them but no one is home. It's like theyre a husk. They keep trying to get up and wander around. Eventually, you get them up at the nurses station so you can keep an eye on them and get your work done.
Medicating sundowners was always a c*** shoot. I swear, most of the ones on my floor had paradoxical reactions to sedatives. Trazodone and Seroquel were the big ones because you can't give haldol to brain injury patients.
I had one big male with a subarachnoid hemorrhage who was fully ambulatory but would go into full blown psychosis at night. He tried to go into other patients rooms to throw them out because he thought they were homeless people living in his store. He elbowed the resident out of the way and almost put hands on the security guard. The resident gave an order for a ridiculously small dose of IM zyprexa and an order for an enclosure bed. It took about 8 people to get him medicated and zipped up into the enclosure bed. He fought the bed until about 6am when he finally fell asleep. He was perfectly lucid during the day. And he promptly began to lose it again when I came in for my shift the next night.
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Wreny84Mar 29, 2026
+195
I know at least one nursing home in the U.K. has their night staff wear pyjamas rather than a uniform as it helps to orientate patients.
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Salute-Major-EchidnaMar 29, 2026
+70
That is absolutely brilliant.
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Wreny84Mar 29, 2026
+77
It’s the perfect mix of flipping genius and bloody obvious! I watched a documentary about the home Poppy Lodge and just was blown away by how kind the staff were and how some really tiny changes could make such a huge difference to quality of life. But I was also furious with myself for not thinking of these things they were so so so obvious when someone pointed them out!
“Why should I go back to bed when everyone else is awake and having fun it’s not fair!” How much easier is it to help someone to bed when you are about to go to bed as well, “I was just making us coco, then we can both go back to bed”.
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isoprovoloneMar 28, 2026
+797
Dogs get "canine cognitive dysfunction," which is basically Alzheimer's. They too experience sun downing. It's heartbreaking, but at least loving owners can give them a good death when the time comes. I wish someone could do that for me were I to find myself similarly afflicted.
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PartyPoptartMar 28, 2026
+325
My once-in-lifetime soul dog had this. I loved that dog so much and we had gone through everything from my first breakup to the birth of my daughter together. He was my baby before I had my first baby.
He started getting confused and wandering at night, despite always staying with us in bed previously. We started the segiliene (so?) from the vet. Did everything we could to help. But we made the decision to give him a peaceful passing at home after he became a bite risk and made contact with our toddler. It was a really hard and sad decision to make. But it also didn’t feel like it was really him in that furry little body anymore.
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isoprovoloneMar 29, 2026
+106
I know that feeling, when the dog you love has been stolen from you, but you did the right thing. I'm sorry though.
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mohawk990Mar 28, 2026
+123
This is my pupper, a 10+ year old blind three-legged Pom. We give him selegiline and it really helps with the wandering at night time. Not sure if this is also a people med or not.
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Original_Signal5535Mar 29, 2026
+23
Our senior Basset went thru this. He was such a sweet boy and he would get agitated and have a he'd time settling down at night.
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SpideyTheFunLickerMar 28, 2026
+136
I recall when my 90+ year old mother was in the hospital after a fall. She was the last surviving of three siblings by a number of years. It was evening. We were having a conversation about normal real-time things. The sun went down and very shortly afterwards I realized she was now talking about things from her long ago past as though they were current events. The nurse stopped by and asked her if she knew where she was. My mother answered, “Of course! I’m having dinner with my brother.” When the nurse said, “No, you’re in the hospital,” my mother doubled-down and looked at the nurse like she was crazy. “No, I’m at a restaurant having dinner with my brother!” It was wild.
The next morning, she was back to normal.
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whatswrongwithfolksMar 28, 2026
+184
I just read Ward D by Freida McFadden and this term was used and I had no idea what it was so looked it up and it’s really interesting. I wonder if it’s something to do with the body’s circadian rhythms or a primal fear of the night/dark.
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sv21jsMar 28, 2026
+253
The general consensus is that it’s a combination of mental and physical fatigue, a mismatch between real time and perceived time because of damage to the part of the brain that helps regulate the circadian rhythm (suprachiasmatic nucleus) and possibly disturbance to vision from low light.
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Left_Adeptness7386Mar 29, 2026
+49
Would you say that night shifts need extra staff for this reason? My husband is a PM nurse staffer at a mental hospital and his team is smaller than the AM shift. There's a million reasons why he comes home exhausted and demoralized that I already know about, but I'm curious if this might be just one more factor.
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shadowlevMar 29, 2026
+40
We always lost staff at night. The evening shifters would leave at 11pm and I'd pick up a few extra patients. We'd also lose sitters at that time because 'The patients should be sleeping.'
If they let us keep the sitters it wouldn't be so bad but they didn't like the costs
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moogle2468Mar 29, 2026
+24
I have personal experience of this. Was in a medical coma and for the first few days after they brought me round, I would be completely lucid during the day but full blown icu psychosis at night.
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sukiejonesMar 28, 2026
+47
My sister died of a subarachnoid hemorrhage several years ago. She was only 60 and it devastated me. For her to have survived and lived like this is a special kind of hell.
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FewerStarsLostMar 28, 2026
+4745
I’m not medical staff but when my dad was in the ICU in 2024 (at the VA) they warned him that there was a guy who would talk to himself and check the rooms, he meant absolutely no harm, he did this every single night he was there (he was inpatient psychiatric patient with a heart condition so he was in the ICU a lot) he would not sleep at all until the sunrise.
He was a Vietnam vet and was “on watch” over the fellow military in the hospital. It makes me f****** sad as hell, poor dude had gone his whole life not knowing he had such severe PTSD and it ate and ate and ate away at him… he still stood guard.
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The-one-true-hobbitMar 28, 2026
+1624
This reminds me (in a much less sad way) of doctors and nurses who have become mentally impaired in some way and need to be hospitalized. Sometimes their brains decide they are on shift and need to work. My wife (critical care nurse) has had a few. When they won’t settle they give them blank paper charts to fill out to help calm them down. At times all you can do is allow them to do what they want to do within reason and safety limitations to give them a sense of calm.
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FlahdagalMar 29, 2026
+240
My mother was in her last days but would fight to get out of the bed each day around 3pm. I had been told all this and was finally in the room with her. Her attending nurses and my family had forgotten that she had been on the 4pm to midnight shift for years -- so I said, "Mom, remember, you're off today", and she would peacefully lie back down. Her internal clock was telling her she would be late for work, and just needed to be told she didn't need to go on duty.
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bullhorn_bigassMar 29, 2026
+170
It’s wonderful that you figured that out. I’m sure it made things easier for the staff and allowed your mother more dignity.
My Grampy did the same thing. He would stir at about 3 am, getting up for his railroad shift. The staff learned to tell him “You booked off today, it’s Sunday”, every day, and he would settle back to bed, delighted that it was his day off. 🥲
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perareikaMar 29, 2026
+32
That feeling of waking up for something and then learning you don't have to go and getting to sleep in is nearly addictive, I'm almost jealous he got that experience daily haha
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aarayofsunshineMar 29, 2026
+473
They did this with my grandma. She was once director of nursing at the same nursing home she ended up living in the memory ward of. That had been her request and design.
We'd visit and they'd have her folding sheets "for patients", or filling out charts, or whatever safe busywork task that they could come up with. Several of the nurses had been trained by her, and it was a perfect situation.
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RudeRaisin5103Mar 29, 2026
+565
On the flipside, there's my local nursing home. One of the patients used to work there, and advanced Alzheimer's means she doesn't remember everything, but she did remember the door codes. It took them weeks to figure out how she kept escaping the building. They eventually had to change every code to every door.
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gogogadgetdumbassMar 29, 2026
+249
I feel bad that I laughed at that but of all the things to remain…
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mittenknittinMar 29, 2026
+122
Used every day for years, certain neural pathways get strengthened and have sticking power
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TheWelshPandaMar 29, 2026
+150
My nan had Alzheimers and was placed on the wards she worked on after leaving midwifery, with nurses she trained. She was a Matron / Ward Sister, and slipped straight into role by all accounts, so was given ' light duties' and some uniform bits - her belt over gown, a velcro on watch etc. She would do uniform checks and straighten up her girls or tap and tut, as she used to do. Nan was well loved throughout the whole hospital so there was a lot of care and hugs, and when she later moved to long term nursing again some of her girls were there to look after her. When you've nursed from the age of 18, in the same place and gone the highest you can, the longest you can, theres people everywhere who know you, from cleaners to surgeons. Eventually took full retirement at 69 after trying three times lol, when we think she realised something was wrong. My bampi passed 10 years earlier from vCJD, and she never tidied out his clothes and had around this time started buying stuff for his dinner again, new pants etc.
Nan was back in her happy place for a few years which was such a precious gift to her, and I'm convinced kept her somewhat lucid longer. A small gift back from those years of service. Its a vile, stinking disease that makes you lose loved ones 2 or 3 times before they physically leave you, so anything like this is a boon in my eyes.
Sorry turned into bit of a story. I miss her very much.
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Alcohol_IntolerantMar 28, 2026
+667
My mom was a pediatrician and has been diagnosed with dementia. My sister had preeclampsia and had to go to the hospital. My dad brought my mom over and she went straight over to start checking her daughter's pulse, vitals, and feet (swollen lmao). Then she asked where the baby was and we all got back to explaining what was happening. (baby visibly not born yet.)
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Revolutionary-Yak-47Mar 29, 2026
+82
One of the nurses on my grandmother's memory care wing gave anxious women baskets of clean laundry to fold. I think she messed it up herself, linen services deliver it folded. Several of the women were very chatty and content folding things instead of pacing and being anxious. They had all been housewives and mothers
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JenmemeMar 28, 2026
+266
I saw a tiktok of a woman who would bring those reborn baby dolls to the nursing homes. This one gentleman was a retired pediatrician and he would give the babies check ups. It was amazing the muscle memory. He would check the top of their heads to feel if their fontanelles (sp?) had closed or not, check their belly buttons for the umbilical cords. It was beautiful and sad at the same time.
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marleeeroseMar 29, 2026
+62
I worked in a nursing home and we had a lady with dementia who had been a nursing home administrator. She would go around to all the other residents and their families and ask how things were and if the staff were treating them well. It was very sweet until she would tell us staff that she was going to fire us for whatever reason lol.
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PrestigiousFlower118Mar 29, 2026
+40
I used to work in a care home with Dementia patients and we had a ex chiropractor who would walk around trying to massage you and ‘crack’ your back 😂 he was such a kind, sweet man but his hands looked like machines! We also had a ex midwife who always carried a baby doll around with her telling people to be quiet incase they wake the baby. I loved that job so much but it was heartbreaking seeing these poor people
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DeadLined784Mar 28, 2026
+119
Reminds me of a post I saw about a retired Teacher/Principal with Alzheimer's. The staff would print out emails for her to correct &/or grade
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LucilleDesireeBallMar 29, 2026
+128
My stepdad was a Vietnam Vet and every day until he passed he would slap the side of his leg off and on when he slept. I found out that it went back to when he was in Vietnam and in order to keep the bugs at bay he would hit his leg to get them to fly/jump off. So he learned, while in Vietnam, to stay asleep, and get the bugs off. He also volunteered for two additional terms in Vietnam because he wanted to save a man who had kids and a family from possibly having to go. Semper Fi. ❤️
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Relative_Ambition_15Mar 28, 2026
+320
When I worked in aged care, we had a man who used to march back and forth from the time he woke up until bedtime again. It was so sad. We used to have to close all the blinds before sunset as sundowning was when everyone else would get worse and possibly violent.
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petrified_eel4615Mar 29, 2026
+138
My dad was a 20 year Navy vet, and his decline was awful - he'd respond to orders & being called by his rank or last name, and told some harrowing stories (real or not, i don't know, parts of his record are classified), but had no memory of the past 35 years since he got out.
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12InchCuntMar 29, 2026
+80
You know, if it’s any comfort, if he was locked in that mode maybe he was seeing his buddies. My Navy buddies are the best friends I ever had. I’d be pumped if I was hanging out with them at the end. I’m sorry you had to watch his decline. Fair winds and following seas to your father.
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meghan39Mar 29, 2026
+123
I work for the VA in the p*******, so I don’t work with residents, but reading some of those charts is so sad. Most of those guys weren’t given the help they needed when they got home.
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BlueSkyMourningMar 29, 2026
+110
I saw this in person when my brother came home from Vietnam. Fast forward to 2005 and our foster son, fresh out of high school, enlisted and went to Iraq. Practically the same thing happened! I thought have we learned nothing? No that's not it. The leaders believe it's acceptable for vets to endure this as long as their own families aren't affected.
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meghan39Mar 29, 2026
+24
Oh, I’m sorry. Those guys coming back from Vietnam had it so hard. Not that anyone coming back from war has it great, but they were treated so poorly. I feel like it’s getting a little better, but they still have a ways to go.
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courierblueMar 29, 2026
+19
A lot of it is a combination of “Only necessary care as needed” and “I went through it and I turned out ok”, failing to acknowledge that extra care is not softness but preventative and that once someone is a ward of the state, care does not end once they are no longer usable.
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Any-Competition-4458Mar 29, 2026
+59
My grandfather was a World War 2 vet. Never talked about it.
In his final months, he had dementia. Didn’t recognize anyone but seemed to relive war memories sometimes. Once asked a nurse in a panic where the train was, that they had to get the men loaded onto the train.
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YoHabloEscargotMar 28, 2026
+154
He probably lost people on his watch and internalized the guilt
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Bennington_BooyahMar 28, 2026
+97
This. They get stuck in that moment of undue horror and relive it, over and over. Those poor souls.
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l0ggedinMar 29, 2026
+92
I've spent a lot of time at a VA hospital. The VA is a humbling place. You see the men and women that have defended our asses in real time. Often time, they are not all there mentally or they're physically (Often times severely) disabled. They have sacrificed a lot.
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FewerStarsLostMar 29, 2026
+29
One of the hardest things to watch though that I’ve experienced sitting in waiting rooms and the p******* area is people who recognize other people from their deployment.
The most memorable was three gentlemen, all three served and all three had complications from Agent Orange. They had passed each other so often in the VA that it was a miracle that they all go into the same space at the same time, the amount of catching up they go into was crazy. (P******* is always busy so you can expect a long wait time)
They made plans to catch up later for a brunch that another guy was holding with other members they served with. The support that other vets give to other vets outside the VA is amazing…
I won’t bash the VA, they’ve gotten better… but there was a time I would have preferred my brother and dad going to any other hospital. Now due to cuts, things are starting to go sideways again.
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NoskyaboveusMar 29, 2026
+980
Im not a nurse but an imaging tech in a level 1 trauma hospital. We’re supposed to talk to our patients about what their CT exam entails beforehand, which usually means talking along the way to the exam room because of how busy it is. One time I wheeled a patient in to the exam room and they said something like “are we going to do this with all these people here?” I didn’t understand, it was only us two in the room. I ensured there would privacy, and everything proceeded as normal. I took that patient back to the ER and got the next patient. Upon arrival to the exam room the second patient asked “Geez who are your friends?” Again it was only us two in the room. Maybe some good p********** on board? This happened one more time with the very next patient who asked “what’s with the choir in here!?!”.
Maybe it’s not the strangest story but I had a hard time explaining that away to all three patients.
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According-Bet-141Mar 29, 2026
+130
I would love if the three of them have prepared the statement beforehand just to scare you.
I hope nobody gets stuck around here after death.
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mydogsayshelloMar 29, 2026
+113
That is so weird and intriguing.
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queereMar 28, 2026
+1150
Not a nurse, but was a psychiatric nursing assistant at a state hospital some years ago. Some patients would have to be on direct observation, meaning an aide (or sometimes two) would have to sit with them and watch them, even when they slept.
I was sitting on direct with one patient, it was around 3 or 4 am and they were asleep in their room… which had coincidentally belonged to a patient who had passed away less than a year prior. Pretty boring job usually, so I was just staring at the wall in their room and daydreaming. About 45 minutes into the hour I had to sit with them, I saw a golden orb appear just left of the wall I was staring at, grow, linger, then float to the bed the patient was lying in, shrink, and disappear. Whole thing lasted about 10 seconds. Patient didn’t wake up, and no other witnesses.
No explanation for it, and it wasn’t exactly the best work environment to be able to bring it up with others.
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rstevens99Mar 29, 2026
+253
I saw something similar once but on surveillance footage from my old apartment high rise in downtown Los Angeles. I had become friends with the front desk Night Guard guy and one night at like midnight or so I got a call from him out of the blue on my cell and he asked if I could come down to the lobby. He wanted to show me something that had spooked him.
So I go down there and he’s legit freaked out. Never seen him like that before. He pulls up surveillance footage from an amenity center room we had next to our rooftop pool, and shows me video of the room where this black orb floats into the room and around the room and shapeshifts and settles on the couch like it’s sitting there.
Then all of a sudden it floats up from the couch and zips out of the room in a hurry - then one second later the door opens at the opposite end of the room and a couple walks in and sits on the couch, hangs out for a couple minutes…. But as soon as the couple leaves the Orb floats slowly back into the room from the opposite side and rests on the couch again.
It did this one more time after another person walked in the room. It zipped out fast then slowly came back in when the person left.
I work in film so I’m used to seeing VFX and can manipulate video in post-production myself. But I’ve never seen anything like this. Nobody was manipulating the footage. Plus, the footage had been recorded less than an hour before I was watching it.
It freaked us both out. Still to this day can’t explain it. Also, didn’t help that it was the night before Halloween that it happened.
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DangerDucklingMar 29, 2026
+266
I have a weird one... I had a patient that was 1 to 1 at all times. For the first 8 hours of my 10hr shift she was rambling and scribbling. All of a sudden she got really quiet, turned to look me in the eye, and say "I'm going to die". I reassured her I was here if she needed anything, we are in the hospital if anything happens, etc. "NO. I'm going to DIE". She said this a few times previous, but this one had such a serious tone. She stared at me a good 30 seconds and went back to her rambling and scrawling.
About 30 mins later, she slumped over. I jump up to check her and only found a faint pulse. I pulled the alarm and holler for a code as I drop her bed and then start CPR. Docotors come rushing in so I move everything out of the way and clear the hall for a potential quick exit. I don't know how long it was before they rushed her out of the room.
I cleaned up the room a bit and made sure all her belongings were ready to move when needed, then helped on the unit for the remainder of my shift.
This is where it gets weird... I was leaving the hospital a little after midnight. It can be eerie how quiet and deserted the public areas are at the time. As I was walking past the closed PT office, I caught a movement out of the corner of my eye that made me look up. In the upper corner of a room, I see this face just giving me the biggest shit eating grin I have ever seen and I swear to goodness, it looked like the patient I performed CPR on. I f****** RAN out the building questioning my sanity.
I was back to work the next day before the PT office was even open from the previous day. I looked into the office to see if maybe there was something there that I mistook for her or something, artwork or statue maybe? Coat rack?!? There was nothing. It was a blank wall and ceiling.
I still cannot explain it. I don't know for certain she died that day, but I sure as hell believe she did.
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etsproutMar 28, 2026
+261
This is exactly what I’m here for.
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in_my_offenseMar 29, 2026
+97
Me too bro. I love walls
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rileyjw90Mar 28, 2026
+1429
A couple actually.
No one ever believes the full moon thing. Until you work in a hospital with a 100-bed emergency department during a full moon and 75 of the 100 beds are psych patients.
Or the time a guy got drunk and thought it would be a good idea to pet a skunk hanging out near a dumpster behind the bar. Somehow the entire 100-bed department was saturated with the scent despite trying to keep him contained in the back.
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Late_Resource_1653Mar 28, 2026
+708
I am not a supertisious person. Never believed any nonsense.
Until I started working in residential mental healthcare. The full moon effect is real and no one who works in healthcare doesn't know it and believe it
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lawn-mumpsMar 28, 2026
+295
My mom worked night shift at a residential care facility. She’s always be like ‘aw dang it’s a full moon’ knowing that at least some portion of the residents would be wandering more than usual (at best).
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Alan_The_DuckMar 29, 2026
+190
A little different but I never believed the full moon thing when it came to going into labor…until I was 6 days past my due date and I had to people tell me a super moon was coming up (I rolled my eyes at them). I went into labor that night and one of the nurses in my postpartum room said they had 13 babies born that night (their average was 5-6)
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ReesNotRiceMar 29, 2026
+61
My MIL witnesses busier days/nights during the full moon at labor and delivery. I also gave birth to my second son on a full moon, but it didn't come on until I pumped. Once I pumped, my water broke.
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Late_Resource_1653Mar 29, 2026
+216
I work in a different sector of healthcare now, and still, everyone knows. The full moon does mean things will get crazy. Especially for the folks on call or working at night. But even on day shift.
New people who haven't worked in healthcare before come in and think we're being silly when we say "full moon, get ready!"
Within a couple months they are watching moon cycles too. I have no idea why it's a thing. But it absolutely is.
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maxdragonxiiiMar 29, 2026
+85
maybe more natural light= people being more awake. I know im more awake on full moon nights than i normally am. and im more or less sane.
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HurtPillowMar 29, 2026
+51
Ask a teacher, we know when it's a full moon!
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PreviousAnteater5279Mar 29, 2026
+42
same with young kids! full moon and when it’s windy, they go mental 🤣
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TravelgrrlMar 29, 2026
+59
Librarians believe in it. I scoffed at first, then realized there was a 2 day period every month where we had a lot of incidents.
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Kitchen_YogurtTAMar 29, 2026
+76
I used to work in an elementary school, kids were always crazy the morning before and after a full moon
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claretamazonMar 29, 2026
+21
I work in a middle school and you know it's a full moon because of how the kids act.
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Kristine6476Mar 29, 2026
+70
My daughter was born two weeks early on a full moon, and that night in the ward I was the last woman to get a delivery suite because every other pregnant woman in my city went into labour at the same time, apparently.
The anesthesiologist and nurses both commented on it several times while I was in their care.
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beverlyhillsbrendaMar 28, 2026
+215
I’m a 911 dispatcher and full moons are 100% a real thing!
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Mysterious_Moment856Mar 29, 2026
+45
And us ex door stewards. Full moon is definitely a thing when you work as a bouncer.
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StultusCrustulumMar 29, 2026
+55
My mom was a trauma unit nurse and mentioned full moons being crazy. Did some research in highschool for a paper and the theory is that with the extra light at night it throws off your circadian rhythm. More light at night also (in theory) suppresses some chemicals your body produces only at night (or really, the dark).
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lobr6Mar 28, 2026
+154
Side note: Many of us who have worked in schools also believe in the full moon thing.
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Witty_CommentatorMar 28, 2026
+95
Bartenders believe it, too!
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-cunningstuntMar 29, 2026
+50
I used to work in a pub, and every bar worker I’ve ever spoken to about this always says the full moon craze is a real thing.
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jingle_of_dreamsMar 28, 2026
+53
When I worked ar a doggy daycare I could tell a full moon was coming without looking at a calendar.
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Bollywood_FanMar 29, 2026
+33
Dentists say gums bleed more during the full moon. Dispatchers remind bus drivers about the full moon because they work with the public and the full moon stirs up more of the public than usual.
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ToklankitsuneMar 29, 2026
+43
lunacy is 110% real
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apljaxMar 29, 2026
+27
Any bartender or server can also verify the full moon phenomenon! If you dint notice before your shift? You KNOW mid-shift for sure!
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0JessiCat0Mar 28, 2026
+43
My mum worked in aged care dementia wards when I was growing up, she dreaded working the nights of a full moon as well. She always came home with wild stories.
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tekdiwahMar 29, 2026
+42
I didn't believe the full moon thing until I experienced it when I was an EMT. Most emergencies in one night. Shootings, assaults, mental crisis, injuries, illness, calls every couple minutes. The ER was overcrowded and it felt like the longest yet shortest shift ever.
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Environmental-Bit335Mar 29, 2026
+309
Worked in an mental health housing facility, it had a nursing home set up. Big lobby/living room and hallways on either end with rooms. Sitting with my coworker and one of the clients who talks to herself out loud constantly was standing at the edge of the lobby, we turn to get up to get her back to bed and she is GONE. Her room is at the very end. We check to make sure she didn’t go in anyone else’s room, nope. She was dead asleep in her bed. No way possible she made it in there in the 2 seconds we looked away.
Another, my favorite client who was also the one who caused the most problems. She loved me but as soon as she started calling me Rachel (not my name) it was over. She HATES Rachel. She came walking up to me with her hair flying in the nonexistent wind and her eyes were BLACK. Sent chills down my spine. My buddy was not in there. Spent the rest of that night in the locked office.
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coralwaters226Mar 29, 2026
+71
I've also seen the black eyes phenomenon twice in my life, both with people with bipolar who were in severe mania! Both times, despite being terrified by how they were acting, I remember thinking "There's no possible way for pupils to expand past the irises, right??? How is this happening??? Did they somehow get black out contacts and are trying to freak me out?"
I felt a little better when I found other people with similar experiences online, though I still have absolutely no anatomical explanation for it.
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prefix_code_16309Mar 28, 2026
+907
Possibly the guy who precisely cut off his genitals with a razor blade (impressive level of detail, clean margins, etc—quality work) who was wheeled in from the ambulance bay in apparently zero distress. He greeted the waiting staff with a cordial “how you all doin’” and a nod as he came through the doors. EMS told us later that nobody could ever find the package. Guy did have a large dog.
Plenty of rectal double-C battery stories, etc, but that kind of thing is run of the mill ED weekend night shift stuff.
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fjelltMar 28, 2026
+593
At first glance, my tired eyes read “Guy did have a large DONG.” My brain must have been conditioned by the beginning of the paragraph.
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StraightRip8309Mar 29, 2026
+67
After crying my eyes out reading comments about hospice care, this was surprisingly nice to read
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youngLupeMar 29, 2026
+18
Reminds me of the story on here about a guy who cut some tendon in his foot to relieve his plantar fasciitis. Claimed he watched a bunch of surgical videos and made a prep zone for himself that was as sterile as possible. Then he did it. He said he started bleeding too much so he did go to the ER. I was hesitant to believe it but it didn't sound out of the realm of possibility.
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possums_luv_cerealMar 29, 2026
+137
Not a nurse, but a friend is an ER nurse. A female patient came in one night very concerned because ‘something’ fell out of her v*****. Upon inspection, it was determined to be a French tickler. Apparently her date didn’t tell her…
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azha84Mar 28, 2026
+471
When I worked as a CNA at a psychiatric facility, we had one patient with schizophrenia who would occasionally get naked, slather herself in Vaseline and run the halls like that. She was a larger woman, and it was always chaotic getting her under control 😭
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Jumpy-Jello-Mar 29, 2026
+206
Your very own Greased-Up Deaf Guy.
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TheTomatoThiefMar 29, 2026
+26
You can’t catch me! Don’t even try! See yall next year!
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LeadershipAble773Mar 28, 2026
+54
I imagine the cleanup would be a mission as well!
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fattatgirlMar 29, 2026
+32
Jeez. Can’t a gal moisturize?
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Busy-Philosopher3544Mar 28, 2026
+942
I worked in behavioral health as a CNA for my first hospital job. The amount of things you would see and hear are beyond any level of messed up that you'd see on TV. We're talking murder-suicide, childhood trauma, rubbing poop on the walls, & psychotic delusions.
Plenty of stories.
One time I was doing my rounds, 18 y.o. by myself, right when I first started. Went to peek into one of the rooms to check on a patient at like 0200. At the time the patient in this room was a middle aged woman with pale skin and long greasy black hair that covered her face and eyes. Basically an irl version of that girl from the grudge. Homegirl was sitting cross legged on her bed, wide awake, chanting some shit that sounded like backwards latin.
I noped out of that room and back to the nurses station so fast.
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SuariaMar 28, 2026
+239
I’ve been working in psych hospitals for almost 7 years now. 5 years as a CNA and 2 years as a RN. There’s many stories I could tell from my time working in them.
One of these happened a few days ago. I had a very psychotic patient who’s definitely responding to internal stimuli. The patient knows English but knows Spanish as well. They were walking around and self dialoguing in Spanish. The patient wasn’t making any sense in Spanish but was randomly yelling, “Pelo!” I thought it was a little funny the patient was yelling hair randomly 😂
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CGCutter379Mar 28, 2026
+322
40 yo male AAOX3 lying quietly in bed. I brought a unit of blood and told him I would return with a witness. I returned in about 3 minutes to find him upside down, wedged between the bed and the siderail, with his head against the floor turned so that his airway was cut off. The siderails would not release because he was so wedged in. Another nurse came in and pulled the mattress off from the other side and I lifted him enough for the siderail to release. Did CPR, got him back and he asked, "What happened?" A UFO tried to abduct you, got you about half-way to the ceiling and dropped you?
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yadoyadoyadoMar 29, 2026
+73
What is aaox3?
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BabaTheBlackSheepMar 29, 2026
+151
Alert and oriented x3, aka they’re awake/alert and know who they are, where they are, and when it is. Basically they’re “normal,” not someone you’d expect to end up wedged in a bed rail
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Medusa1902Mar 29, 2026
+40
Alert and oriented times three (to self, time, and location)
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marleeeroseMar 29, 2026
+39
And this is why the hospice company I work for makes families sign waivers if they insist on side rails for their loved ones hospital bed. It's horrifying to see diagrams of how people can be trapped in them and die.
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Ladyqui3tbottomMar 29, 2026
+321
We had a guy come in via ems because of excessive bleeding due to an amputated p****. Apparently, family found him in the garage with a bloody knife nearby. He firmly denied chopping off his junk. According to him, he went on a nature walk when he happened upon an angry raccoon. It bit off his p**** and "gobbled it up."
He was perfectly calm and content the whole time. He ended up damaging the scrotal sac, so all of it had to be removed. He admitted to pedophilia and said that he was glad it was gone. The p**** was never found.
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mister_pitifulMar 28, 2026
+579
Second-hand story. My wife was a nurse in the cardiac care unit at the University of Arkansas Medical Center in Little Rock. Time: late 1970s. A male patient arrived and she noticed a pattern of round, reddened spots, like slight first-degree burns, down his sternum. When she asked an older nurse what that was, she learned that those were the marks from drops of hot wax, from the voodoo candles his family was using to try to heal him.
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evie1975erMar 28, 2026
+389
Worked in an old asylum. Reports of ghosts never really bothered me - used to explain it away with staff being over tired. What really freaked me out was the sluice turning on despite being switched off at the wall.
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gecko_echoMar 28, 2026
+92
Sluice?
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KellieTaylorBr0Mar 28, 2026
+84
What you empty bed pans/toilets down :)
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GlitteringCobbler987Mar 29, 2026
+96
This is why we need a night shift season of The Pitt
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pinkkittenfurMar 29, 2026
+23
Dr. Abbott and Dr. Shen would kick ass all night.
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wolv3rxneMar 29, 2026
+86
A patient on our unit when I used to work adult inpatient, masturbating in the hospital lobby at 2 AM with a 2 6 of vodka he was drinking. the security brought him back to the unit for us to deal with. Pull that at Walmart, you’re arrested. Ugh lol.
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coffee-rain-booksMar 29, 2026
+76
One specific hallway in long term care has multiple reports of a lady in a black dress staring at people.
People who work in memory care all have similar nightmares about getting locked in a specific room.
Dementia patients in general just have a tendency to act haunted. Ripping up bibles at 2am, staring right behind you and talking to their hallucinations, etc.
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nurse_covidMar 29, 2026
+217
Worked night shift in a big trauma hospital. I had at least 8 patients in the same room comment on “a man standing in the corner wearing a suit with sunglasses.” Same corner, same outfit. This happened several times over the course of a year. Varied demographic of patients, none of them died which almost made it creepier.
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DoctorNurse89Mar 29, 2026
+145
Women clinging to active dying state for 4 days. I work field nursing hospice.
I have doubled the morphine and ativan as her hospice nurse.
She is getting about 10mg po morphine and 1mg ativan every hour.
I have been there 4 hours now. Usual visit is 1 but something about this case.....
I finally ask, is there anyone still supposed to visit?
"Son is coming tomorrow! Lets FaceTime him!"
I say dont do that....
They do it. He talks to her, says all he needs to, then says bye I love you.
She makes a "uh uh uuuuhhh" noise. They hang up.
Gone 5 min later.
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CambrianCrewMar 28, 2026
+335
I used to work in a haunted facility. It used to be a hospital way back in the early 1900s.
There were two elevators, a front one and a back one. Because we were a lock down psych facility, both elevators could only be activated by inserting and twisting a key. You could also flip a switch to lock them open.
The front one was fine, mostly. Did get stuck on it a couple times which was hella stressful but it's whatever.
The back one, however? At night, it had to be taken down to the basement (where no patients were) and locked open. Otherwise without fail it would take itself up and down at random hours throughout the night. A few times over the many years I worked there this was forgotten and we'd go do rounds and find someone missing.
Yes, the wiring had been checked so many times. Nothing wrong with it... Just haunted.
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purpleskybluesMar 28, 2026
+83
Do rounds and someone was missing....
You gotta give more details here!
Missing and found? Missing forever?
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CambrianCrewMar 28, 2026
+157
Missing and found! We had three floors plus a basement, residents only on floors two and three. A couple times we found second floorers on third and vice versa. Once though a fellow with alcohol induced dementia, who was in a wheelchair, was found pushing himself halfway down the street on his way to "the liquor store"!
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Sad-Guess4424Mar 29, 2026
+236
Monitors in an empty room started showing vital signs. Monitor had been discharged correctly. Granted, they were not healthy vital signs. I opened the window.
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LaVieLaMortMar 29, 2026
+50
I had a Paiute woman pass away and her family was at her bedside and asked if we could open a window and if they could burn sage. Thing is, we can’t. The windows are just huge panes of plate glass. And no fire making things in hospitals. We explain such, they’re a little distraught but thankful we could help her pass peacefully. They leave, her body leaves and the monitor starts alarming VTACH and asystole. I went in the room and told her that she died and she needed to move on (have had to do that quite a few times actually). Monitor craziness stops immediately. It would happen occasionally every few months. Ok weird whatever, maybe the monitor is on the fritz. We had it looked at. It’s all good. Then I was sitting across from that room waiting for my admit and I had a slide board smack dab in the middle of the bed. I saw it go flying off the bed and hit the wall. I went in again and yelled at her to move on already! I felt bad but it never happened again.
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moobsdudeMar 29, 2026
+44
Thank you for your service 🙌
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Arabella6623Mar 28, 2026
+321
So sundowning is actually linked to the sunset?😳
I thought it was a poetic term for the dimming of the mental faculties.
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smol_aquinanMar 28, 2026
+377
No legit, they may be a bit confused or perfectly fine during the day, as soon as the sun goes down they get agitated and 10x more confused, some start screaming and yelling and try climb out of bed etc. Sometimes they're redirectable, sometimes not. One thing that sometimes works is telling them there's babies sleeping and they need to be quiet to not wake them
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worstpartyeverMar 28, 2026
+128
It’s the agitation that’s so heartbreaking.
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Ladyqui3tbottomMar 29, 2026
+92
Holy c***. I've never heard of the baby thing! I'm totally trying this. We do have babies on the next floor. So, technically not lying.
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smol_aquinanMar 29, 2026
+153
It's hit or miss but worth a try. A lady last week looked at me with more clarity than she'd shown all shift and said "I dont f****** care" 😂
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crankgirlMar 28, 2026
+49
Can confirm. My dog had dementia and would begin to lose it in the evening/night. He’d get trapped under the table, behind the door, fall down the stairs. Lots of confused pacing. An antipsychotic really helped settle him.
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Relative_Ambition_15Mar 28, 2026
+110
Sundowning is a set of symptoms—increased confusion, anxiety, agitation, and pacing—that occur in people with dementia, usually starting in the late afternoon or early evening. It is not a disease itself but a behavioral symptom linked to dementia progression, likely caused by exhaustion, disrupted body clocks, and low light.
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GoodRastafarianMar 29, 2026
+124
So, I’m fresh out of nursing school and it’s my first night shift just off orientstiin. I’ve got this 90-year-old patient in for sepsis, and she’s got this eye mask on the whole time. A little odd, right? Anyway, it’s around midnight, I’m heading to her room with her IV antibiotics, ready to check her vitals.
As I get closer, I see something out of the corner of my eye through her door window. There’s this tall, skinny dude in a suit bent over her. My heart drops because, I mean, it's the middle of the night, and there are no visitors allowed. I throw open the door, ready to confront whoever’s creeping in there, but nope—it’s just her, sound asleep. I’m thinking I must be seeing things, so I shrug it off, hang the IV, take her vitals, and ask if she’s good. She just mumbles, “Yeah, I’m fine,” and goes back to sleep with her eye mask on.
After I leave her room, I can’t shake what I saw. I head to my charge nurse and tell her about the tall guy I thought I saw. She goes pale and asks if I’m sure it was that room. I confirm, and she tells me that just a couple of nights ago, this same lady was freaking out because every time she opened her eyes, she’d see a tall guy in a suit leaning over her! Instant chills, right?
Fast forward to around 4 AM, I head back in to check her again. I ask her to describe what she saw. And lo and behold, she starts saying there’s a faceless, tall guy in a suit who leans over her when she wakes up. That’s when it hit me—this was the same figure I saw! The poor lady only wore the eye mask so she wouldn’t have to see him.
I’ve shared this wild story with my coworkers, and it always creeps them out, especially since my charge nurse and the patient both backed it up. It’s one of those things that makes you wonder what else might be hiding out in the hospital during the night shift.
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PepsisparkMar 29, 2026
+57
Monitors kept alarming in an empty room all night even after we checked everything twice and found nothing wrong.
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Smart_Revolution_357Mar 29, 2026
+54
Call lights going off in empty rooms or where the patient physically couldn’t press the button.
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LaVieLaMortMar 29, 2026
+19
I had been a CNA for a few years in a SNF before I moved to the hospital. I’d been at the hospital for a Few months and we get an admit. Get him settled and like 10 minutes later the call light for bed 1 goes off. He’s alone in the room in bed 2. Go check on him, he’s fine. Happens again 20mins later. Again, check on him, he’s fine. 2345 it happens a f****** third time! I go in to check on him and I peeked around the corner and he’s f****** blue and agonal breathing so I screamed for help (I didn’t know there was a code button on the wall, I was new there lol) and everyone comes running, we code him for 14 minutes. And I remember that precisely because they pronounced him at 2359. When the RN called his wife she was upset but he told her on the way in “I’m gonna die tonight.” So now when patients tell me that I watch them like a hawk.
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slot0430Mar 29, 2026
+54
Man, I just recently got out of a 100 day hospital stay and 8 weeks of it were spent in the ICU, nearly dying, and pumped full of drugs. You get something called ICU Delirium which is a general state of confusion but can also include hallucinations and delusions. Think like very lucid dreams that can last for days on end, but sometimes you're awake, sometimes you're asleep. And the nurses are the ones to deal with them all.
Anyway the change in my room between night and day was drastic enough to confuse me, and my delirium at night would get significantly worse. Those poor night nurses 😢 I would regularly wake up very confused and start pulling at my wrist restraints (which I had because I wanted to pull every tube out of my face, which could kill me) and yelling for help. One time I woke up from a very lucid dream and was convinced I was pregnant (lile a month in, I had hundreds of blood tests at this point, there was no way.) Another time I was fully convinced that the nurses hated me because they wouldn't give me another blanket (I was feverish, they couldn't) and then I was even more convinced that they were secretly human trafficking patients (...they weren't.) Then one time I actually did manage to pull a line out and accidentally sprayed a nurse with bl**d. My husband had to sign paperwork so they could test me to make sure she couldn't catch anything from it.
Sorry, none of this is inexplicable, but more an appreciation post for all the nurses that go through some serious shit on night shift, in the ICU and out. Y'all are h*******. ❤️
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rob_corneliusMar 29, 2026
+47
My wife used to work in a nursing home for people with dementia.
My wife was feeding one of the residents who was close to the end of her life one morning when the woman suddenly sat up straight, looked my wife in the eye and said "I just want to thank you all for all the hard work you do to help me and everyone else here. Its important to say this while I can". Then just as quickly she was gone again and died within a day or two.
My wife told the care home manager and he said this is called a "last moment of clarity" and most people working in dementia care experience something similar sooner or later. Of course its impossible to study.
For me that more terrifying that any "ghost" story or tales of psychosis. The thought that even when dementia has reduced someone to a drooling shell of a person they are still present and experiencing everything. If I ever get dementia you can beat me over the head with a 2x2 because I don't want to live like that, especially if I do get one last moment of clarity.
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Best-Reality6718Mar 28, 2026
+239
I caught my charge nurse in coitus with a CNA. I certainly can’t explain that. Nor can I get the image out of my head all these years later.
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SomeTheyCallMePig5OMar 29, 2026
+40
My partner was a corrections nurse for a while. He worked the overnight shift at a local jail. he was in the med unit, mostly for psych patients and elderly people with chronic illness.
One night an inmate started acting hysterical. The camera footage showed him suddenly running straight at the door with his body bent, head down. He slammed into that door with the back of his neck and fell down.
He paralyzed himself from the neck down. Fractured his spine in the worst way.
As far as we know, he never recovered. Mental illness is so terrible.
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No_Spirit3160Mar 29, 2026
+39
A patient who was completely unresponsive suddenly sat up, said a full sentence clearly, then went right back to being unresponsive like nothing happened.
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LaVieLaMortMar 29, 2026
+33
27 years in medicine. 18 of those as an RN. I have stories for DAYS but here’s a quick one.
I was the charge RN in a 24 bed ICU during covid. If you worked critical care at all during that time, YOU KNOW. Anyway, one night I’m sitting in the office catching up with charting some audits. I hear “NURSE!! NURSE!!” I jump up and go out into the hallway and ask my nurses if they heard that. Yup sure did. We had 8 “clean” ICU patients in the back and 16 covid vents up front with makeshift ante rooms with negative pressure blowers. You couldn’t hear SHIT from in the room if you are outside or vice versa. So imagine, 8 beds totally blocked off, can’t go in that part of the unit unless you open doors. 16 beds full of Covid vents. You could basically hear a pin drop because of it.
Checked every patient room anyway but yeah never found where the disembodied voice came from. That ICU is very haunted and I have a ton of stories from the 11 years I worked there.
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MaeByourmomMar 29, 2026
+70
I walked into the room of my recently delivered patient. There was white fluff n the air, and bloody fried chicken strewn all over the floor. Patient was completely naked, standing, IV and epidural catheters torn out. The blood was from her flailing her arm with the dislodged IV around, and also…. lochia. I literally didn’t understand what I was seeing.
Baby daddy came to visit shortly after delivery, brought fried chicken, they got in a fight. Stuff got thrown everywhere. The fluff was from a torn open chux.
I kicked him out, got mom to the bathroom and cleaned up. Got housekeeping in to clean up while mom was in the bathroom. I apologized profusely to housekeeping.
And now I’ve outed myself to any former coworkers, because this can’t be a routine thing, right?
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ImmanuelKantIMar 29, 2026
+147
I can’t believe I’m being called to the front of the congregation. It’s finally my time. After years of working as a night shift nurse on a complex medicine unit, I am happy to report, I have never seen shit.
I feel like I’m receptive to it? I don’t believe in supernatural/superstitious things at all. I am not religious, I would consider myself spiritual, but I don’t practice or follow anything in anyway.
With all that being said we have a lot of deaths on our unit. Last week for example, we were on some kind of blitz and had 5 deaths within a 4 day span. I always wonder, how come none of us have ever encountered one single spirit in this entire monstrosity of a hospital? That’s 30 years old.
Each nurse also gets an individual room for break each night, we grab stretchers and sheets and each get a few hours break. It’s all different rooms including staff/overstock/change rooms, more stock rooms. Some used to be patient rooms now changed to stock rooms that we sleep in during break. I ain’t never seen nothing, felt nothing, smelled nothing. Nada.
There are weird things I can’t explain sometimes. For example, two of the patients who have passed last week were both in room 22A. The patient before both of them was there for about 1 month passed. Patient before that had a code blue in 22A. 4 consecutive people. But when I’m in 22A I don’t feel anything, I don’t see anything. There’s nothing going on, but for some reason everyone just keeps dying or coding in god damn 22A. I don’t know why, I can’t explain it. There’s no explanation for it, it just keeps happening.
I also do rounds about every 30-45 minutes on the floor. That means I will walk down wing A or wing B alone between 2-3-4am looking into each individual room with a penlight to check on the patient. Never seen shit in anyone’s room or corner or anything. Ever.
I don’t know. Some of the shit we see in hospitals, I don’t really know if seeing a ghost would be the scariest thing thats happened there. Human beings are fucked up. The way people treat their partners, parents, kids is still shocking to me sometimes. Anyways fellow colleagues, if you do see a ghost put that m*********** to work. We’re probably short-staffed. Ain’t nobody got time for this shit.
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Otherwise-Ad4641Mar 29, 2026
+64
I think this means you’re the ghost or something.
If you keep looking around and can’t find any weird shit, maybe the weird shit is you?
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recent_sandwichesMar 29, 2026
+36
I’ve taken care of plenty in-patient hospice folk, but one patient had his sclera (whites of his eyes) turn BLACK within his last day of life. His cancer had spread within his abdomen extensively but nothing involving his head/eyes. Certainly it must have been a sort of bleed I’m guessing but there was not a period of time where his eyes were red. Only white and then black. I had to bring my coworkers in to look at his eyes when he passed because it was so unusual and has not happened to any other patient of mine since.
Also a recent one where the patient did not flush her bowel movement as she said the doctors wanted us to look at it. This thing was the size of a newborn baby, or even bigger. I have no idea how she pushed that out without it tearing her in half. No blood in the toilet, just the most enormous bowel movement I’ve seen in my life. She was not a huge woman either. I didn’t think the toilet would be able to flush but it did make it down (that hospital plumbing is pretty h*******)
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Prize-Assistance-826Mar 29, 2026
+31
The day I came across someone who killed themselves, after I just was in the room..checking up on him during a routine check.
God, there was so much blood.
The last thing he said to me was "Oh, I'm fine, thank you, I don't need anything if I do I'll ring for you." quite polite, gave no indications that he was going to do that.
He went into the bathroom, tied the doors shut with shoe laces and slit his wrists.
There are no words to explain how I felt seeing it..it made me so sad, I felt like a failure, if he had just told me he was feeling like that..maybe we could have helped him..we can't help you if you don't tell us...
I know the deepest wounds are often quiet and pride is a cruel gate-keeper..
But how can you think noone cared?
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Reasonable_Active168Mar 29, 2026
+25
I’m not a nurse, but one thing I’ve heard consistently is how unpredictable the human body becomes at night.
Patients who were stable during the day can suddenly deteriorate, and sometimes without clear explanation. It really shows how much of medicine is still observation and experience, not just data.
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New_Money_5406Mar 29, 2026
+26
Not a nurse, but a friend who works night shifts told me something that stuck with me.
They said sometimes patients who’ve been completely unresponsive for days suddenly become calm and clear for a short moment—like they recognize people, say a few words, or just seem “there” again… and then pass not long after.
They couldn’t really explain it medically in the moment, but it happens often enough that staff quietly recognize the pattern. It’s eerie, but also kind of peaceful in a strange way.
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Interesting-Trip-119Mar 29, 2026
+28
I'm not a nurse, just the cleaning staff at a nursing home for a few years. I always thought it was odd how they would tell me they usually keep 1 of the rooms empty unless someone is on the brink of passing away because everyone they put in there passes faily quickly. I'll never forget the time they became fully booked and had to put someone in there who was alert and oriented x3. I would have awesome conversations with her, she was so sweet and easy to get along with...they stuck her in there and she proceeded to basically go crazy and not sleep. She started exhibiting really weird and disturbing behaviors. Wouldn't positively respond to my presence while I was tidying up. She passed after like 2 weeks, it was so strange.
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wangyuzhi31Mar 29, 2026
+48
Omg I love these stories. I'm gonna read ALL the comments.
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Beginning_Feeling331Mar 29, 2026
+47
night shift just has a different population. the people who show up at 3am are not the same people who show up at 11am and the situations that bring them in are different too. add in the fatigue factor on both sides and you get a lot of things that are hard to explain cleanly in a report
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Repulsive-Fix7354Mar 29, 2026
+45
My sisters first day working at a hospital she saw a nurse crying and asked why, she said her patient died and instead of being sad about the patients death, she was sad that she had to do more paper work right before her shift ended
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UnicornsLamentMar 29, 2026
+24
I was an RN for 36 years full time, and did mostly night shifts. The weirdest thing that happened to me was massive rattling of the stretchers and wheelchairs we had in an alcove in one of the halls. We did hourly rounds, one RN started on one end of the unit, I went to the other.... as I was walking past the alcove with the wheelchairs & stretchers this massive clanging and noise , wheelchairs shaking violently.... I thought wtf is this now, poltergeist stuff? (This was in a tower on higher floor).. at first I thought, maybe it was an earthquake... so I walked to the end of the hall to start my rounds (nothing else was shaking or moving) and as soon as I walked past the wheelchairs they stopped... got to the end of the hall, quiet and bliss.... came gradually back up to where the wheelchairs were, and they started shaking again... I finished my half of the unit went back to the nursing station and told my co worker what had happened... she said show me..so we walked back down.... crickets.. nothing happened... so I shrugged it off and thought that was it... next hour, off I go... SAME thing happens but only as I get to the exact spot the wheelchairs are in. I can see the wheelchairs all shaking and knocking each other... I do my rounds, back up to the midway area... they start again.. I now know it's GOT to be paranormal .I am a strong believer and have had 2 experiences with ghost sightings (whole other story). So I go back and tell my co worker, again we come back... crickets.... she's now looking at me like I'm some kind of a nutbar, but I know what I saw and heard. So next hour rolls around, I thought here we go.... sure enough, off they go, clang clang clang.... I was upset at this point as I thought the helacious noise had to be waking sleeping patients ....(no callbell ever went off over it) I turned to the wheelchair area and spoke " OK knock it off! I know you're there, you've had your fun, but I've got patients that need to sleep!" and walked on... coming back... crickets.... never happened again. True Story. I'll never forget it and count it as one of my coolest paranormal experiences ever.
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Szaborovich9Mar 29, 2026
+69
I am from Santana Winds area. When those winds blow people are off the deep end Pair it with a full moon! Best to stay home with the doors locked!
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_Dances_with_cats_Mar 29, 2026
+24
Don't do it, wind! Leave these poor people alone!
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fransdaughterMar 29, 2026
+19
That was my mom. She started her transition the day after Mother’s Day, 2023. I was with her all day, I went outside for some air for 10 minutes and when I came back she was gone.
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