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People that don't ask for help; why?

Posted by Actaron

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Careful_Lie1998 Apr 3, 2026 +3
Pride or Shyness
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
I see you
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bheemkishakti22 Apr 3, 2026 +2
Cuz , ask for help once and they will remind you for your life !
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026
I see your point But that's exactly why I tell my friends "no matter what I'm doing. If I'm awake, and you need someone to talk to, I'm there for you." Knowing full well, they'll never pick up on it
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bheemkishakti22 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Well said brother!
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 -1
Id rather carry their tears on my shoulder than my casket I got no problem making the stupidest jokes and taking the piss But even if they would never take me up on my offer I want them to know they are not alone
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bheemkishakti22 Apr 3, 2026 +2
**Man** **of** **culture**
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
I think you were trying to say: Eloquent idiot :P Thanks tho :)
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Similar-Field-9807 Apr 3, 2026 +2
Fear of being a burden. I don't want to feel like I'm inconveniencing others, even when I genuinely need support
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Would you perceive someone asking for genuine help as a burden?
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Equivalent_Worth_259 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Some people use it against u
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Depends on the people, but I see you, there's always this fear of people using your vulnerability against you
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lofemike Apr 3, 2026 +1
We've been conditioned to work through stuff alone.
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Not necessarily Imo, we've never been taught about dealing with our emotions in a healthy way by the people responsible for doing so I do see your point and feel the same way tho (sadly)
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Advanced_Capital_104 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Don’t want to feel like a burden to anyone
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Asking for help won't make you a burden Humans are social beings
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shellymaeshaw Apr 3, 2026 +1
Afraid the will not help me then I have to figure out why. Because I need to know everything
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Because knowing everything gives you more control over the situation?
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shellymaeshaw Apr 3, 2026 +1
I guess so not sure.
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Why overthink something when you can't change it tho? I see your point of needing to know everything But if you can't do anything, why worry over it?
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shellymaeshaw Apr 3, 2026 +1
Just how my mind works. I have tried journaling and different ways to stop it but it's hard.
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
If it was easy, everyone would do it :) Asking for help isn't weakness I see your point tho^^
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intinstitute Apr 3, 2026 +1
Self-reliance
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +1
Because if it's not you doing something, you can't trust people to do it the correct(your correct) way?
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Imaginary-Ad-7919 Apr 3, 2026 +1
Because "I am fine" is faster than explaining the whole mess.
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Actaron Apr 3, 2026 +2
Why explain the whole mess? Ask for help for the current issue, and go from there (I am aware this is not just about tangible things, but I hope you see my point)
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NotMacgyver Apr 3, 2026 +1
Cause no help is possible 
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lazyfoo_3 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I'm always told to just Google, ai, or YouTube whatever I need help with.
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lycos94 Apr 3, 2026 +1
I feel like my very existence is a bother to everyone else and I was raised to just obey and do what others wanted, not to ask for anything for myself , and I still havent been able to get over that
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Doonot Apr 3, 2026 +1
"I don't know; Figure it out; Look it up in an encyclopedia/google it;" Also a consequence of growing up as a people pleaser is that you'll see how people skidaddle when you need help.
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