A beautiful essay. I’m glad he’s able to articulate how he’s feeling and his memories of his parents on his terms. This quote in particular stood out to me:
> In the middle of trying to process the most devastating moment of your life, the world demands meetings, paperwork, decisions, and explanations; as if documentation must come before mourning
My husband went to school with Jake and from what I’ve heard, he was a good guy. Just absolutely devastated for him and the rest of their family. 💔
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Addative-Damage10 hr ago
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Damn, I really can’t even imagine how uniquely painful and difficult that must be.
I went through a devastating loss a few years ago. I was in active mourning and functioning was very difficult. After the immediate shock, one of the things that really helped was being able to go out into the world and have normal interactions with people who didn’t know.
It sounds weird, but when folks were just treating me like a regular person, it reminded me that I was more than what I’d lost, it showed me that I was still here.
I can’t fathom what it’d have been like to have everyone I talked to already know about, let alone be fascinated by, the horrible details of my loss and trauma. I don’t know how someone copes with that.
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Doucevie1 day ago
+34
It was heartbreaking to read. 💔
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Fancy-Proof74751 day ago
+114
I’m so glad he’s leaving it up to Romy to decide when and how to speak, if at all. It’s a small gesture, but I really appreciate Jake making a point to say it.
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Rocky_Mountain_Way1 day ago
+117
Why post a people.com article when people can just read the essay directly on Substack?
https://jakereiner.substack.com/p/mom-and-dad
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T_K_231 day ago
+128
You're asking u/peoplemagazine why they shared an article from People Magazine?
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Rocky_Mountain_Way1 day ago
+82
Oh…. Uh… yeah…good point
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MasterOfManyWorlds1 day ago
+32
I still appreciated the link to the actual source
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Low_Intention_132721 hr ago
+7
You must be Rocky_Mountain_High.
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Low_Intention_132721 hr ago
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One of the few celebrity deaths that made me cry. The whole situation. A family gave you multiple chances to do better, and loved you. To the very end, they believed in him and he turned around and killed them.
I lost it when I realized he made one of my favorite childhood movies, Stand By Me. That, Puff the Magic Dragon, the Land before Time. All of those movies, taught me something, and Meathead's words still are relevant at this very moment!
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Fooby5615 hr ago
+6
I love Stand By Me. Such a great coming of age movie and encapsulation of young male friendship.
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Used-Pea-311823 hr ago
+12
I feel for this man, I really do.
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Itchy-Apartment-Flea1 day ago
+15
He doesnt talk about Nick.
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lilithsbun23 hr ago
+30
I imagine he has legal counsel advising what he’s allowed to say before the trial. We might get his thoughts on his brother when afterwards.
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MySecretLair8 hr ago
+2
It could be this. I think it’s also likely that he’s well aware that anything he says about his brother will be published a thousand places and be discussed ad nauseum online by countless strangers who, even if they genuinely grieve for his parents, are also on some level discussing the worst thing that ever happened to him for entertainment value. (I think it’s entirely human that we’re doing this, but that’s what we’re doing.) I don’t think he wants that to be a part of how his parents are mourned.
He also probably knows anything he says about his brother will be more of a news story than what he says about his parents, and that’s what he wants the piece to be about.
And I imagine how he feels about his brother right now is extraordinarily complicated, and maybe still changing. Maybe he doesn’t want to say anything on paper he won’t believe later.
Obviously I’m heavily speculating but I really respect and support his decision to mention his brother as little and as unemotionally as possible here. He deserves as much privacy around this as he can get.
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areallyreallycoolhat17 hr ago
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He does mention him in the article, just not in depth
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peoplemagazine1 day ago
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TLDR:
* Jake Reiner reflects on the sudden loss of his parents and the emotional toll it has taken on him
* He shares heartfelt memories of his parents, describing them as his "guiding lights" and the foundation of his life
* Jake hopes his essay offers insight into his grief while celebrating the love and legacy of his parents
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brianlefebvrejr1 day ago
+48
Probably not a great time to TLDR someone sharing their experiences in losing their parents…
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s33n_1 day ago
+15
They also just reprinted his article off his substack.
F*** people magazine
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IttyBittyOhSoPretty1 day ago
+5
Can you sum it up in one sentence?
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Luci-Noir23 hr ago
-9
Get off your ass and read it yourself.
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GainOk750621 hr ago
+7
He's being facetious
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IttyBittyOhSoPretty23 hr ago
+14
You're a bit slow huh
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Luci-Noir23 hr ago
-14
Says the guy who can’t read.
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SetPhasersToChill22 hr ago
+11
Its quite obvious that u/IttyBittyOhSoPretty was joking
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