Sequence Initiated.

Yes. Realize that a majority of the time you are comparing your whole game, The practices, your losses and mistakes... to highlight reels. I guarantee that if I only saw your highlights I would feel inadequate beside you. I think it’s a larger problem that’s moving faster than we can notice or correct for, but that’s a much larger conversation. You’re not alone.

Some things take longer to heal than others, I suppose. If it makes any difference, your heart just built a tougher wall around itself and the person that can bust through it absolutely deserves it.

There’s also something called phantom pain.. what I mean with that is the kind of pain that’s not really there or doesn’t serve a purpose anymore but that the brain is producing and the mind is continuing. I feel that the only pain that truly never subsides or ‘gets better with time’ is losing a child. Even many of the people who lose a child find a way to live through the pain and find happiness again. What I want to say is make sure you’re not using your pain as a crutch and don’t become too comfortable with it. Sometimes a certain pain is so familiar and comfortable that actually living without it seems more draining. That’s when shit becomes dangerous and it takes too many years before you actually find out that you could’ve released or worked through it (with therapy) much sooner. Don’t give whatever situation pained you even more power, energy and time; release, forgive, work through it in a healthy way, do whatever it is you need to do to move on from it or give it a ‘healthy’ place in your heart instead of letting it overtake your life and decisions. Strive to live your VERY best life, you don’t know how much you’ve got left of it.

Agree. I have yet to find any injury harder to recover from. And I’ve been shot. Twice. 😂

Being non-confrontational is a tough one. Sometimes It helps to start thinking of reasonable communication as NOT a confrontation. That may not always be the case, but catching the few instances where it can be communication instead of confrontation is a good first step.

I needed this and definitely didn’t think I’d find it here. Thank you, seriously. I’m 23 and it stresses me out constantly that everyone in my family is upset I don’t have it all figured out yet.... I simply just don’t know where I’m going yet. Thank you so much.

I trip out sometimes when really really young people beat themselves up for not having their whole life figured out in their 20's. It doesn't help that you're bombarded with 'influencers' and 'Reality' of kids born into millions... but even still. At average, you haven't even lived a quarter of your life yet. Imagine the disservice you'd do to the other 3/4 by locking in before they've had their chance to add to the narrative.

Dude same here, I've been working on my 4 year degree for about 9 years now. It really hit hard when I started paying for university myself, initially I had scholarships and my dad paid but now its all me and dude that shit was one of the main things that pushed me to study more. Though it didn't always help, I still fucked up Calc 2 multiple times and now I need to take a 36 hour math placement course and pay around $200 extra to take the course again. Additionally I've started setting times to study/do hw. I set aside a few hours a day and keep telling myself if I get this shit done during the week I can have my weekends. It took a while to get into practice but eventually it became normal. It also helps to go through everything your profs give you the first few days of the course. I take everything from the syllabus and put it into my outlook/google calendar, then I sit there and make reminders and what not. That whole process helps me get an understanding of whats going on for the semester. This change didn't happen over night, it took me a couple of semesters to get this down, YMMV.

Why would you want to replace that?

Hey momma, fellow single mother here. You ARE enough and don't tell yourself otherwise. No one will EVER love those kids and fight for them like you will. No one but YOU. Don't tell yourself that isn't enough. You ARE the best they have and that can be enough so long as you take care of yourself as well as you take care of them. The burden is heavy and there isn't any prize at the end but knowing you did the best you could for the humans you brought to earth. DM me if you need a pep talk. You can do it and I'm already proud of you. XO

We know who was here. We've nicknamed you 'The Real Ones' internally.

Send me an address. I'll send you a metric f*** ton of cookies wherever you are. I love cookies.