I’m a 25-year-old woman with a little under 1.5 years of work experience. I have a stable job and the learning curve is decent, so professionally things are going okay. But outside of work, I feel like I have nothing meaningful to look forward to. I try to go to the gym 2–3 times a week when I can, but beyond that, I don’t have any real pursuits or hobbies. I don’t feel ready for things like solo travel either.
I also struggle with a chronic shopping habit, even though I do invest and try to be financially responsible. Despite knowing that I have more than what many people my age might have, I still feel a lack of direction and purpose in my life. I procrastinate a lot and often feel stuck in this cycle, unsure of how to move forward or make things better.
So women, any genuine ways to make my life better? Because I am pretty much giving up.
Have you thought about searching for a relationship?
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SuitNo2534Apr 2, 2026
+3
Currently in one - and it’s healthy (so no drama in that end as well)
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MydoglovescoffeeApr 2, 2026
+3
My best advice is get away from screens and start building outside connections to things that will make your life interesting and bring you new friends. And you’ll have no time for shopping.
Start with your interests or hypothetical ones. Community sports? Book club? Political volunteering? Church? Hiking? Pet walking for a rescue? Networking events? New skill development? Look on Meet Up. Read posters. Check out the master list of hobbies on Listnook.
Now start to fill out your week by trying a subset of these out. Give them all a chance and keep showing up. Some will stick, some might not but you’ll start to develop friends if you keep showing up same time same place each week. Be patient.
As your social touch points grow, more and more interesting life opportunities will present themselves. You’ll get out of your rut, start to feel happier about yourself and life and things will become more interesting. You’ll be busy so less likely to fall into the shooing trap to fill the void.
You’ve got everything going for you career wise and being in shape and in a relationship. Perfect timing to start rounding out your outside-of-work life.
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No-Jicama-3673Apr 2, 2026
+2
OMG, I am also 25 and my life is same , is it common for this age group? ,I am male tho
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RahelDMApr 2, 2026
+1
Buenas! Por aquí una chica de casi 24 exactamente igual que tú, tanto a nivel laboral como en el resto de cosas que has comentado y la verdad, si consigues un truco para saber cómo mejorar compártelo porque me vendría genial jajaja
Es frustrante porque pensé en apuntarme a clases de algo: costura, cerámica, coser...
Pero en mi ciudad no encuentro casi nada o no termina de agradarme la idea del todo.
Intento leer bastante para tener la cabeza a tope, aunque mi trabajo es remoto y me deja el cebrero frito casi siempre.
Salir a hacer rutas o caminar me ayuda, pero la verdad, es complicado, en parte porque el trabajo quita mucho tiempo.
A mí me funcionó desconectar de las redes, bloquear apps y obligarme a usar poco el teléfono y pc, terminas haciendo más cosas con tal de no aburrirte y construyes más fácilmente hobbies.
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SuitNo2534Apr 2, 2026
+1
Yeah pursuing these hobbies are not sustainable at this point in time - 1 pottery session would easily cost 1k - 1.5k per class
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RahelDMApr 2, 2026
+1
Yo intento comprarme arcilla de moldear de secado al aire libre 24h.
No es mucho, pero me entretengo haciendo joyeros o figuritas y no sale muy cara el kilo/medio kilo.
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Telstar2525Apr 2, 2026
+1
We used to have bowling leagues for fun, comraderie and did I say fun
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cc_bccApr 2, 2026
+1
I'm 34 and generally lived this exact life.
I read alot of books, sometimes go to book club.. I listen to albums from start to finish and rate them. I listen to monthly themed podcasts through Podcast Brunch Club and consider the topcis and discussion while on long walks. I go to free events in my community. I volunteer at 5k/10k/marathon races. And I travel for concerts/events when I can afford it (mostly solo).
I don't love having long term commitments, so I built a life around just doing things to see what happens. That's what gives me peace and excitement about living.
The only way to make it better is to actually try things and see if it does. Until you develop that philosophy you'll maintain this current routine.
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MobileOrdinary6827Apr 2, 2026
+3
My current streaks in life are Duolingo (I've been language learning for 794 days!), habit tracker, journaling (since 2000!), and mood chart. I have two college degrees, but have never worked in either fields. At 25 I lost my adult job and had to move out of my dream apartment that was right on the beach. I had to move back into my childhood bedroom because I couldn't find a job. It was really embarrassing. I took up work in retail. I hated it. All my friends were married and had 2+ children. I felt like I was going backwards. Weirdly enough at the same time I met a man online who lived 3,000 miles away and had just graduated uni so was living at home. He didn't have a job and was struggling to find one. I felt like we were very similar. Ended up becoming partners and we got engaged in 2016. Moved to him in 2017. Married in 2018. Became a British citizen in 2024. Been living in the UK for almost a decade now. About to complete and move into my dream home next week. I've learned that there is no adulting checklist timeline. Maybe you might benefit from going out and doing more things or taking up hobbies? I know my area has a lonely girls club.
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Sorry-Worker-5573Apr 2, 2026
Just be super careful with everything you get yourself into. Trust no person, system, or idea. Read philosophy too.
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SuitNo2534Apr 2, 2026
+1
Spend more time with myself you mean?
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Sorry-Worker-5573Apr 2, 2026
Stay curious. Discover the secrets of the mind and universe. The usual
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