Veteran accused of trying to kill his wife is found dead after dayslong manhunt

I'm not sure if it's strange or makes total sense that a trained soldier/survivalist is actually a p****. Looks like he sought all those skills to make up for his deep insecurity.

How does someone brave do it?

And he at least had the decency to save us on the criminal trial and punishment. Too bad he didn’t make that decision before attacking his wife.

I disagree. He is a male with an inability to process emotions without the use of violence. Or a gun. And men who hit women are low life cowards. Every.Single.One.

"he was a skilled babykiller who served with the legendary afghan heroin smugglers in various theaters of the pointless wars we've started and lost in recent decades" doesn't actually contradict calling him a coward hell, shooting an unarmed woman trying to run away was probably second nature at this point

You can be courageous in a physical way while still being a coward about dealing with anything and everything else or refraining from taking your mental issues out on everyone else and trying to murder your wife. Unless his mental issues were the type where he was entirely delusional and thought during the entire encounter that his wife was actually a demon or an enemy soldier, or something similar, this was a cowardly thing to do. Putting veterans on a pedestal just based on their service is not helpful to them. They are human beings and they can have any number of negative or positive characteristics entirely unrelated to (or maybe not) their service.

I think taking his own life to avoid having to face his wife in court and face consequences for his actions is absolutely cowardly

We need those machines from futurama, people have a right to choose when their lives end.

Then we need stronger contraceptives and more readily available helium hood kits. Sad f****** world.

We also can’t assume that him being triggered by PTSD is what caused him to do this versus just being an abusive husband, which he may have been before even joining (we can’t know yet). Of course veterans need more support, and the government should be ashamed of themselves for how they treat the military when they are both in and out of the service, but we should focus on the wife and her trauma now, not his.

They’re saying Ptsd is not an excuse to be a violent a******. Neither is alcoholism, or drug induced delusions. They might be underlying reasons but they are not excuses. It’s all pretty unlikely that a person is forced to join the military AND stay through a combat stint AND forced to be in a relationship AND forced to stay in a relationship despite their deteriorating mental health. do you see what I’m saying?

The only person downplaying PTSD. The situation described above is significantly more traumatic as you pointed out because OP was definitely not trained or even expecting that event. Soldiers at war are well trained and certainly expect war during war.

As a male abuse survivor, it infuriates me how invisible we are to people. I literally cannot get anyone to take me seriously. It took me years to escape because there's zero resources for men. And I'm paying her child support and alimony for kids I get to see 4 days a month now. And it's really f****** hard to exist like this and hear from people like you that I need to be doing more to stop domestic violence.

How exactly do “men” stop this? Hold a fireside chat with the biggest scumbags in the community and tell them to stop?

I grew up in abusive environment I understand the dynamics at play

Lmao how? Do we have little pagers that go off when a nearby woman gets abused, we don our lycra, and leap over to kick his ass?  Oh I may be whooshing on your sarcastic agreement. 

Lots of men murder their wives never having been in the military at all.

This was not caused by tbi

He was delivering her Christmas present. Barbie dolls. He used his job as a cover so he could approach people's homes and select a victim. It's absolutely relevent. It's like getting a job at a security company so you can rob houses.

It's actually reporting consistency. When the manhunt was on, the story put some focus on how he was special forces, trained to survive and handle combat in rough terrain. It was explaining the danger level to locals. They're still going to use the same referencing when writing about the end of the ordeal.

Ever watch "Rambo"? lol, but there's a small kernel of truth there. Special forces are trained in escape and evasion. Also small arms and hand to hand combat... all things this guy used before deleting himself.

I’m not sure where you draw the line between what crimes you consider crimes, but veterans are over 50% more likely to be arrested in their lifetime than people who never serve. https://www.nbcnews.com/news/crime-courts/commission-will-study-veterans-are-likely-non-veterans-get-trouble-law-rcna44326 Amongst incarcerated people, they’re more likely than average to be serving time for a violent crime as well, so make of that what you will. I’m not discounting the unique factors that may be at the root of this issue, but whatever those are, the end result is veterans commit crimes at a higher rate than non-veterans.

That’s the thing, they shouldn’t have to ask for help. It shouldn’t be put on them. It should be offered. VA and other veterans services HAVE to be proactive. (That’s the same with domestic abuse too, in medical screenings they are proactive as they ask certain questions that people may not realize indicate abuse as they know a victim of abuse, man or women usually won’t tell medical staff outright.) A male friend of mine has had to deal with a TBI. I told him about suicide risk with TBI (1in 3) and that the fact that he was male, his suicide risk was also higher. I told him he HAD to seek out therapy and if people change some aspects of their life to accommodate him, it’s because they love him and don’t see it as a burden. He needed to do things to reduce the stats that were not in his favour. Months later he came back to me and said he appreciated I brought up the mental health stuff as that made him feel a bit better on getting help. He understood it was necessary early on. We don’t discuss details or anything, I just keep mentioning therapy and sending support resources I find. Anyone diagnosed with a TBI really needs to be automatically referred to therapies for their brain injury and mental health therapy, it does truly go hand in hand. I’ve known people who got severe concussions as children, the symptoms were ignored and it blew up in their face by middle age.