Wearing outside clothes on the bed is gross, and I don't understand how people do it...

I change when I get home too, but mostly for comfort. I don’t wear shoes in the house either. Everyone’s different. I don’t think wearing outside clothes inside is usually a big risk. If you were sitting in a hospital waiting room or around someone who’s clearly sick, then yeah, changing when you get home makes sense. Otherwise it just seems like normal everyday exposure to germs. Do you and let them do them.

I work from home so my inside clothes and outside clothes have basically merged into one category of clothes that never leave the apartment. But I get it — when I was commuting daily I had the same instinct. Something about public transit seats specifically makes me want to burn my jeans after every ride.

“Sleeping in a pile of city grime” is wild but also… not entirely wrong 😂

It will bother you, like *not at all*, if you just mind your own bed and don't worry about others that you're not sleeping in. Also, beds are contaminated with skin cells, dander, and secretions once you've slept in it, freshly showered or not. You do not remain a pristine specimen throughout your stay in the bed.

I've got an immune system and dogs. It's all good.

I mean it’s not like it‘ll get you sick or anything if you aren’t super dirty. It won’t hurt you. Germs are all around us, your house isn’t necessarily more clean that outside spaces. It’s just different germs. I change my bedsheets regularly and as long as I‘m not dragging in dirt I don’t care. Shoes come off inside the house tho. That’s actively dragging in dirt and I don’t want to clean more than I have to

You don't have to understand it. There's nothing grim or gross about it. Your bed is already teeming with dead skin cells and bacteria. And most people sweat a little when they sleep, too. So unless you're changing your entire bedding every morning when you get up, then yeah, it's not the sterile place you seem to think it is. Not everyone travels on public transport, so you're just making assumptions based on your own daily habits there. And even if they do, so what? Dogs sleep on people's bed, so do cats, and I know someone whose rabbit sleeps on theirs.

Homie, I used to sleep under bridges with rats crawling over my head. I literally do not give a shit anymore. Cooties aren't going to hurt you.

I don't know about your friend, but when you work your ass off and are too tired to even move a muscle or use your brain, then nobody cares about what they are wearing ..hitting the bed and instantly falling asleep is what matters most.

As someone who grew up neglected and actually lived in filth, I can't comprehend how people are this paranoid. How about you do you and stop being so judgmental to your friends. They're fine.

I don't care about inside and outside clothes. I sweat a lot when I sleep, so I don't consider my sheets a temple of cleanliness. I shower in the morning to get the night sweat off and become clean. I wash my sheets often. I change my pillow cover every two days.

I think a lot of this is about where you live. If youre in a city surrounded by people I could see it but I hardly ever have my clothes interact with the world around me

I guess I've made bigger messes in beds without wearing clothing.

That is ridiculously germophobic. That makes such a small difference hygienically that it's not even worth considering. It's not going to stop you from getting sick.

I mean this kindly: OP, this is a you problem. I find this such a bizarre thing to worry about. I mean, I change clothes too, but it’s for *comfort,* not fear of germs. If I worked in a particularly germy or dirty environment, I guess I would care more just for the practicality of not wanting that soil to get everywhere. This topic gets posted a lot in r/hygiene, often by people with what appears to be undiagnosed OCD. They claim it’s about “dirt” but you can tell it’s really about “contamination.” Germs are everywhere and that’s normal. No matter what you do, your home/clothes/body will not and SHOULD not be sterile. Being super concerned about that does not mean other people are “gross.” It means *you* need to speak to your doctor about your mental health.

I change my clothes as soon as I get home just for comfort, not for germs, lol. You can obviously be a germ conscious in your own house as you want, but you're being really judgemental about your friend.

As long as it’s not my bed and we are not sharing it

I have a mate that puts on his fresh washed work clothes and goes to bed in them. In the morning, he Steps out of bed into his boots and walks out the door to work!

That would probably be right if they were never washing their bedsheets but other than that it's fine. The problem isn't simple contact, it's the accumulation of many contacts without any cleaning. Also some people shower in the morning and sleep naked so it can always be worse.

I absolutely do the same, I have home clothes and outside clothes, the two never intersect. Not for the fear of germs or getting sick, but I find it disgusting. I live in a city with 12 mln people, I have seen people and animals spread all kinds of body liquids all around 🤢, I wash my hands straight away and change clothes instantly. I’m fine with my hair and skin cells lying around, but have no interest in other people’s artifacts around my home

Life is too short to worry about shit like this.

I do the same. Once I come home it’s time for my inside clothes. This time of year sweats and a hoodie do the trick. I also wear my inside shoes with socks.

I sleep with 3 dogs a cat and a man. My immune system is fine, I change my bedding often. But to each his own. I wouldn't judge anyone either way.

Got news for you about how gross your bed is, regardless of if you change your clothes or not. All your dead skin, hair, pet dander (if you have them) goes into your mattress forever unless you have one of those hypoallergenic mattress covers with a gap of less than 6 microns. Any sheets sold to you claiming to prevent allergies that doesn't note this probably is still letting a lot of that stuff through the fabric. Outside grime if you've been around smokers is yucky. But it probably doesn't make much of a difference if you haven't been near a lot of pollutants, ultimately.

Some people may not understand some things you do in life no need to judge anyone just get on and do your thing dont worry about anyone else also your more rooting that you didn’t get to see them change maybe they not into getting undressed infront of their friends

>sacred clean place I'm pretty sure most of your farts take place in the bed. Also drool. And if you have a partner you share the bed with let's just say sometimes other things can happen as well.

I change pants constantly. Get up, put on PJ pants and have my coffee and feed the dogs. Switch to track or sweat pants to take them outside or check for packages or mail. If I have to leave the house, it's always blue jeans. On really hot days where I have to be in the yard I *may* wear shorts. Whenever it's time to chill back in the house, PJ pants are back on. If it's just me and my partners, all clothing is optional.

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As soon as I get home shoes off, clothes in the washer, bath or a shower and clean clothes on. The only time I may wear outdoor clothing in is if I'm going to a quick apt.

Their bed,not mine.

This post would have had way different answers in 2020.

NOT overreacting. It's super gross

I don’t wear outside clothes on any inside furniture either. As soon as I come home, I change my clothes, wash my hands, put on house clothes. Don’t wear outside shoes inside either.

I 100% agree. I didn’t used to be like that, but after starting to work in a hospital I made the distinction between outdoor and indoor clothes. And since the pandemic I also consider my entire body “contaminated” if I’ve been out in a public place. Meaning I don’t go to bed unless I’ve showered first. I do have a daybed that I use occasionally if I’m too exhausted when I get home from work and have to sleep, or am taking a nap in between outings for the day.

I wash my sheets so its fine

100% agree. Even worse as someone who works in the hospital

I think you’re a germaphobe. People exist in their “outside clothes” literally everywhere without it affecting them. Why would sleeping be any different ? Are there probably more germs on your friends bed? Sure. So you’re right. Are those germs affecting anything ? Probably not. So your friend is right. You’re both free to exist however you like and to ask your visitors to do as you ask in your home. But acceptance tends to drive friendships more than being “right” does.

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Not overreacting because I do the same thing! I change to my home clothes and also take off my shoes when entering my house! I feel more comfortable that way, not bringing the outside dirt/germs inside.

I’m sorry but this shows a lack of understanding of how germs work.

well same… i can’t relax if i’m on my bed with outside clothes on. it just feels dirty in a way i can’t ignore, even if other people don’t mind it..

No joke, this is why I make the bed soon as I get up. That way I can sit on the bed in my regular clothes and I've still got layers between me and where I sleep.

I can just clean the bed, you should be more often (than most people do) anyways. I'm usually exhausted at that point so it's just, that or the floor.

My bed has a cover and I make the bed every day. So it doesn't matter whether I'm wearing my outside clothes or not

I wouldn't sit on someone else's bed in street clothes without them inviting me to. For my own bed, I don't care.

Ew, David. No! City grime!!!

My dog never changes her doggy suit when she jumps into the human beds. That’s fine, we’re not eating off or licking the sheets

I used to somewhat feel this way, then I became physically disabled and a lot of stuff that bothered me had to stop bothering me really quickly because I suddenly had way less control than I used to.

When I come home from work the first thing I do is change into sweats and a hoodie and I almost never go out of my house wearing them. But sometimes, especially if it's early morning on the weekend or I'm taking the dog for his nightly walk, I won't bother changing. I also normally sleep in my sweats and a t-shirt and if I went outside, even if all I did was walk around the block, I can't bring myself to wear those clothes to bed. So yeah, I ger where OP is coming from.

Yeah, I agree with you. Unless you are living in a one room studio then you can avoid contaminating your bedroom. I do not believe in putting anything on the bed that has been outside. I am always taking a back when I see people throw their dirty clothes on the bed. Like ewwwwww.

This attitude seems very strange to me. I have never thought of my "outside clothes" as particularly dirty (I have always has office jobs; I am not a farmer or sewer cleaner) nor my bed as needing to be exceptionally clean (I am not going to be doing surgery there).

Don’t bring them streets to the sheets!

Insulting to the immune system we've evolved, and a huge regression of the durability we've as a species we've conditioned, poodle.

Haha! Ok. For me the 'clean' part of my bed begins under the covers. Oh and the mattress sheet. On top I have slept fully clothed, packed suitcases for travel, bagged weed for sale, had sex, drunk alcohol, eaten breakfast, lunch, and dinner! Read books, played board games, watched TV, movies, etc.... My old queen size bed used to be a popular hangout place for me and my friends while living with my parents.

90% of the time my clothes have only touched the seat of my car. Not a problem.

your keyboard your touching everyday then touching your face and everything else has more bacteria and germs then your clothes in your bed

Just wait til you find out all the dirty skin cells that your body sheds at night in your bed while you're sleeping.........even if you do shower.

I think it’s very very strange to care about this at all.

Finally someone understands lol I’ve been told that I’m a germaphobe as well but I can’t help it I have to change clothes as soon as I get inside, sanitize my phone and everything else I touch

You are overreacting or have OCD.

If I'm able to be sleepy enough to actually SLEEP, I do not have the energy to give two shits what I'm wearing.

I just follow the logic, what's the worst case of getting outside clothes on my bed? what would happen to me? what would go wrong? And the answer is basically nothing of tangible material value and I exercise my free will and do it.

You shouldn’t go anywhere.

Guess i'm a germaphobe too then because idc how tired I am I will NOT lay in bed in my outdoor clothes! And i'll take a quick bird bath if I have time to take a real shower later on in the day..Otherwise its full shower,home clothes on n outdoor clothes straight into the basket

On top of the bed, not a huge deal.

wearing outside clothes around the house period. I was raised to always change as soon as I get home.

Policing other people's habits is gross, and I don't understand how other people do it. Participating in the hygiene Olympics is stupid. We are teeming with germs and mites. You walk around every day with roughly 39 trillion bacteria in and on your body. You have roughly the same number of microbes as you do human cells. Nasty city grime and shit particles are hitchhiking on your body regardless of how clean you think you are.

I also think you're a total germaphobe.

I agree with you, the outdoor environment is contaminated with many viruses and bacteria, and when we come from outside, going to bed in the same clothes is actually transferring the contaminants from outside into the house. But this is not a right or wrong debate, it's a cultural debate about lifestyle. This kind of life is closer to the original nature. Like when people were unaware of diseases and sources of disease.

I literally cannot deal with street clothes on my bed. It’s a huge hard no for me. The first time my boyfriend came over, I made him scoot his pants down halfway just to sit on the bed. He looked so ridiculous. Literally like he was sitting on the toilet

I take it even further, when I get home, the first place I go is the bathroom, where a change of clothes is waiting. After COVID, I thought people would be a bit more like me but they forgot.

That can be disgusting… but i have jeans so comfortable that i literally fall asleep havin it on

I don’t even wear shoes outside of the weathers nice

It doesn't really bother me, but I have different pants I only wear when riding the bus.

I grew up in a posh family. My parents would be horrified if they saw this; they too, would act just like OP. Neither of my parents will get into a bed without a shower or bath first, and the bed is made to pristine every morning. I, however, couldn't give a shit and I work 12hr shifts overnight as a CNA. I'm getting Into bed as soon as I get home, with all my animals. Both perspectives survive just fine and I think judgement on this is silly and subjective..to each their own.

Most likely you wouldn’t have sat down on any surface that was visibly moist, and so i don’t think that many living germs would be transferred into the dry fabric of clothes, and then for those dry clothes to grind against the dry fabric of a bed, how is any living microbe going to stay alive? Especially if it’s some kind of germ that thrives on getting inside the warm wet environment inside a body, it wouldn’t be able to survive on cloth, nor would it be able to transfer over to another fabric and then crawl Into a mucas lining

people be licking eachothers buttholes all the time lol your level of gross is too low

I live in NYC and have a set of "lounge clothes" that I immediately change into when I get home, lol

Wait until you hear about food contaminates.

I think this is pretty common in western culture. I even noticed a lot of westerners wearing shoes inside the house as well eeeww

I agree with you and also change my shoes at the door and wash my hands as soon as I get home and before I eat and cook. I think I get less sick less often with something as simple as washing your hands and think of everything your hands have touched during the day!

I have a coverlet on my bed that I remove before getting in bed for the night. I have zero qualms lying on top of during the day in any clothes to lounge or read. I don’t feel like the rest of the world is particularly grime-y. Buses get cleaned everyday, and it’s not like I’m rolling around in the aisles. Although there are those people who put their feet up on the seats… Do you have a lot of issues with germs? Some level of exposure is good so you build immunity. And our skin is designed to protect us from the outside world.

POLLEN!! I don’t like my own day clothes on my bed before I go to sleep otherwise my face will be all swollen and I’ll feel like I’m about to pop or gouge my eyes out due to itch.

Even if I wanted to do this (which I don’t) I wouldn’t be able to because of my allergies. Allergies suck.

For some its trauma. I got evacuated from my home due to a fire, and had to spend the whole day sitting in a gas station in the gown my parents were making deal with at the time. (Mostly only allowed cause mom worked there too.)  I've always worn clothes clothes for sleeping since then.

Ok so do you put on a fresh pair of pyjamas clean from the washer every time you sit on your bed and then never leave it? If not, theoretically if you put on pyjamas that you've been using for the past few days, you would have been sitting around the house on areas presumably also have been sat on by others and also yourself while you were wearing "city clothes". So really, it defeats the purpose. You go around the house just the same as you would any other day

i’m bewildered by the amount of people in the comments that think this a snobby, privileged opinion when it’s the default teaching of asian parents and many ethnic parents in general 😭 my parents drilled the inside/outside clothes and inside slippers/outside shoes thing into me at a young age. i definitely think there can be a cultural component to someone’s opinion on this.

Nah I’m with you on this 😭 the thought of sitting on the bed with “outside clothes” just feels wrong. Like you don’t even know what you’ve sat on all day. I don’t think it’s being a germaphobe, it’s just wanting your bed to feel clean and comfortable.

No, you are not overreacting. I would never let outside clothes touch my bed. I also don’t wear shoes in the house. And I never allow my purse to touch the bed or kitchtn counter or anything like that. I don’t understand how more people do not take cross-contamination seriously.

American movies depict people wearing shoes on coffee tables, couches, and beds. I can confirm that was quite common with me throughout my childhood and life. Moved to the UK in 2017 and my husband hates when I wear shoes in the house.

Im the same - no outside clothes or bags on my bed - the number of friends that think that dumping a dirty bag thats been on the tube floor is ok - It’s not - I sleep there !!!!!!

Oh you'd hate me. I don't shower every day so I frequently get in bed unshowered with the "grime" of the whole day on me.

Are they sitting on top of the bedspread like that, or sleeping IN the bed like that? Because I see nothing wrong with the first one.

I live in Houston, where the humidity is so high that you can never be totally dry. Mold is everywhere the sunlight doesn't touch. If you leave an object long enough, even covered, it will eventually rot. A car sitting in a field will slowly sink into the earth, rust, and turn to sludge in a decade. I've worked jobs where, no matter how thoroughly you shower, you can never be totally clean. And you work so hard that you are lucky if you don't pass out from exhaustion on the commute home. Given all of this, yes, I have collapsed into bed upon arriving home, slept 12 hours, and awoke in the same clothing and position. In my current reality, where I work in an office and click a mouse all day, it's different. I change into shorts and t-shirt, sometimes shoes, and make a snack. I will sometimes lay in bed with these clothes on. Mostly not. Shower before bed. Once completely clean and shaved, I lay down with the least clothing possible into silky bamboo sheets. HVAC and de-humidifier keeping the air cold and dry. I sleep like the dead, and it is wonderful.

We’re all way too clean these days.

Maybe she usually does but didn’t want to change clothes in front of you? Maybe since she had a guest?

I totally agree with you. I normally put on my old comfortable clothes as soon as I walk in the door. I think the last time I laid on the bed fully dressed with my street clothes was that a mattress store.

I have outside clothes, inside lounging clothes, and bedtime clothes.

I am in agreeance with you but I think I have a psychological thing from a chaotic childhood. My family wore shoes in the house, they’d put shoes on the BREAKFAST TABLE, they didn’t wash their hands between things. As an adult when I got my own space I do no shoes in house, no outside clothes on bed, no leaving toilet lid open, wash hands as soon as you get home and definitely before putting groceries away, between cleaning supplies, etc. I’m very lucky my husband has agreed to all these things. It’s been so blissful. Now I’m pregnant and about to pop this baby out any day, and my family wants to come over to help. I hate their help though. They always forget I don’t like shoes in the house, they don’t wash their hands when they come in the door, when they’ve helped me mop and vacuum they miss things and leave the dirty mop just sitting in the bucket. And don’t even get me started on how they cook with raw meat. I feel like I have to babysit them or they get their germs all over.  And you know what? My parents claim, “You’ll never build your immune system” and “germs are good” but they are sick 3x as much as me and I teach first grade which is inherently germy, so I think maybe my methods work. 

I sit on top of the comforter to put on or take off socks. I would never get under the covers though.

No street clothes on the bed! The is how I grew up

I did not grow up in a big grimy city riding public transportation so I would not think about it much. I don’t change just to sit on my bed but I also don’t bring guests into my bedroom unless they will sleep there. Usually we would be sitting in the living room and the guest would never go in our bedrooms bringing their germs and judgement. I think you are too concerned about it. Were you just planning to hover in their bedroom or were you stripping off when you saw them flop on the bed? When you go to someone else’s home do you bring clothes to change into before sitting on their furniture? Do you expect your guests to change clothes when they come to your home? Is it just the bed that is sacred?

That’s a definite gross no no. I generally change in to house pants when I get home for this very reason. My ex used to put her purse on the bed, not even the comforter, like right on the sheets. Ew.

My washer and dryer are halfway between my front door and my bedroom in a hall closet. My laundry hamper is in the hallway between the washer and dryer and my bedroom. Those clothes get tossed either directly into the washer or into the hamper before I even enter my bedroom. My hamper used to be in the bedroom and I realized I was leaving my clothes sitting on the floor outside the bedroom before I even went in so I moved my hamper to where I was leaving my clothes. I live alone so I can do stuff like this without having to worry about if other people think it's odd. My mother came to visit and almost had a fit because my hamper was in her way and my bras were hanging on a hook fully visible too anyone who walked by them. But what the heck, I live alone and even of anyone comes over, unless I'm inviting them to the back of the house at the end of a hallway that makes a 90 degree turn they're not seeing any of this. I also don't wear outside shoes past the tiled entryway area of my house. And I make anyone who comes to visit take their shoes off too.

I don’t sleep in the clothes I work in, I also don’t sleep in the clothes I change into when I get home🤣 I typically wear scrubs at work, I change when I get home into sweats or something comfy. But I sleep in shorts and a tank top.

That’s why they call it laundry.

I don't like to wear my shoes in the house as many have mentioned. However, as a disabled person, if I'm working around the house, anything that involves being on my feet, I legit NEED the support of shoes. I do not have "inside shoes", ha. Point being, there's not going to be one rule that works for everyone - there's always exceptions and preferences.

For starters, it sounds like you're talking about the outer surface of the bed. That's silly. While sleeping you are in contact with the *inner* surface of the sheets, not the outer surface, and there's even more distance involved if the bed has blankets on it. If you're going to stress about germs transferring from the outer surface of your clothing to the outer surface of your bed and then burrowing down through the blankets and sheet to your skin... why aren't you stressing out about them having already burrowed through your clothes to your skin in the time it took you to get home? If you were talking about them sitting on their *pillow*, then I would agree with you. That's not only the same surface they'll be making skin contact with later, but a surface they're likely to make *face* contact with. But the number of germs you'll pick up by sleeping in a bed that you previously sat upon is insignificant compared to the number of germs you were exposed to while actually outside your home. As for "sleeping in a pile of city grime," just how gross is your city? Are you coming home with mud and dogshit dripping off your pants or something? Because sure, if I have *actual grime* on my clothes because I slipped and fell in a muddy puddle or sat on some ketchup then I'm not going to be letting those clothes come into contact with any of my furniture... but that is not typically the case. My shoes *might* have a little dirt on them depending where I walked, but I usually take those off as soon as I'm through the door. Assuming it was a normal day, the rest of me is clean.

I couldn't agree more. This is exactly how I feel

I think you’re a little intense about it but I also don’t usually sit in my bed in outside clothes. I put on pj’s almost as soon as the front door shuts. That being said, I would absolutely wear shorts and a tshirt and crawl into bed later with that on. Whatever. The germs don’t bother me. The sensation does.

I am the same. What other people choose to do with their beds is their business but for me? You don't get on my bed with outside clothes. Just the same way there is piss and shit on public transit floors and grocery store tiles, there is piss and shit on public transit seats and raised garden beds and anywhere else people put their asses. Parents don't think twice about hoisting their toddler up to stand on a seat, people take their dogs EVERYWHERE now and they don't pay attention to what they're stepping in let alone tell them not to get on a seat, people vomit in public spaces and sometimes it never really gets cleaned properly. So yeah, I prefer not sleeping in piss and shit particles and god knows what else.

I don’t really care cause I’m sleeping in my bed, not in my bed. So even if I sit on my bed with jeans, inside my bed is untouched by them.  Also I don’t wash my hair everyday so whatever germs that got in my hair that day will be on my pillowcase. I just don’t care, I care about hand washing and do it constantly, but like I’ve never gotten sick from wearing jeans in my bed

i have a designated 'outside blanket' on my couch for when i sit down before changing. my friends think i'm insane but my bed is a sacred space and outside clothes are not invited

On top of the bed is fine (no shoes though).

My MIL wears her boots in bed 😭

Yeah, people say this and then let their animals on their bed so I doubt the truly feel what they feel about outside clothes in the bed.

If we look at the facts, yes 100% it's gross. Take a micrscope and compare the beds. Tho listnook will not like that answer

That actually made me smile, thank you for sharing

Do you not have a comforter on top?

Shall I put a reaaaally disgusting idea in your head? 😁 Every time you eat out, how many mouths do you think the spoons and forks have been in? Being a germaphobe is no way to go through life…

This is all purely an aesthetic preference. There is no actual danger or sanitary reason for your preference. It just seems gross to you which is fine of course but hopefully you can also understand that it’s not based on any real problem.

Maybe they haven't seen someone without a tissue on the bus and then wiping it all over the seat 😩

I draw the line at not worrying or caring if other people do this with their beds. As long as it's not my bed I don't care.

Wait til OP grows up and hears what else happens in beds.

Ooh I’m the same way. I’m a no shoes in the house person and ask others to follow this in my home. I think I’m a little (okay, a lot) more particular than most people, but I’m okay with that.

I strip naked when I get home

OP, there's more bugs on your eyelashes than there are on your friends bed, and showering doesn't get rid of those. You sleep in bacteria that can't be washed off every night. 

I agree. I won’t even get on the bed until i’ve showered.

I change out of my work clothes when I get home, but that's mostly so my cat doesn't make bread on my pants and make pulls in the fabric. He can do that with my comfy clothes all he likes :)

seems pretty extreme to me but you do you. I've never really been worried about germs or even think about them most the time. I work in the trades and I'm always holding screws and pencils in my mouth lol. haven't been sick in years

This is an objective opinion and you are objectively right.

No, you're not exaggerating. I'm not from the US, but the idea of going to bed in clothes I came in from outside drives me crazy. The bed just has to be clean and smell good and not with other people's bacteria.

Are you my girlfriend?? She's the exact same way haha "Don't go on the bed you sat on the outside chair, change your clothes# 

on bed? eh, clothes are fine but shoes are kinda weird. in bed, like under the blankets? absolutely not, that is a space for clean things only

When you're narcoleptic, the outside world is bed too.

If you ain’t sitting on the train or the bus, who gives a f*** tbh

Totally agree. Usually I won't even sit in my chair without changing clothes if I know they touched public seats etc. Imo it's just good hygiene to think about things like that And it definitely is far from being germaphobe But also, in my country we don't wear shoes at home! like in the US, that's disgusting for us

Not only clothes but shoes… why are you in bed with shoes???

My boyfriend used to hate the idea of changing but understood when I told him people pee on the bus and train. Now he makes sure he changes before we lay in bed. It’s honestly really sweet he took it into consideration. The bed is definitely a clean sacred space to me too.