What do you hate about your father/mother?

My dad's inability to understand my pov 😔

They can’t respect my privacy

My father, that he started seeing someone while my mother was on her deathbed.

Found out he was terminally ill when me and my siblings were 3 & 5 y/o. Was a loving, great father to us (sibling #3 came into the family when I was 14) all. But he never made any efforts to prioritize us against his extended family (his brothers & their kids.) Never bought a house to secure our future or my mother’s even though he could’ve afforded it and despite my mother begging him to do it. Often used the savings to help his brothers and their kids instead, and I mean big amounts of money. He passed when I was in high school and the grieving never goes away but older me realized how shitty it was, that he never even secured a home for the kids he CHOSE to have and the wife he had a duty towards. For the longest time I was in denial, and refused to see that part of him. But coming to terms with this reality drives me to be successful even more, especially for my mom & siblings.

My dad's inability to understand how to use the TV remote is a special kind of trauma I didn't sign up for

My father is a mysoginist and has zero appreciation for cleaning. My mother is so negative and she never apologizes for anything even if she knows she’s so wrong. Once my 7 year old kid spilled a glass of water on a table with a plastic table cloth and almost nothing on top of it. She got really upset and I told her to calm down. It was just water and it didn’t ruin anything. She said she had to dry the table cloth (it’s plastic) and nothing had been ruined yet. A few hours later we took her to get a burger and drop her off at a friends house and when she was getting out she spilled soda all over the front seat of my car. I didn’t say anything. I looked back at my daughter and she looked at me and we both looked at my mother with that knowing look expecting an apology but she just wiped it up a little, closed the door and left. People forget that children’s hands are little and everything is made for adult hands and it takes a long time to master the use of your hands. That’s why we still drop things in our 60’s.

I feel this so much. It’s the exact same energy as my dad refusing to let me use my GPS trail app on a hiking trip because he insists his 'internal compass' from his 1980s Boy Scout days is all we need. Two hours later we are staring at a highway that definitely wasn't on his mental map. The stubbornness is unmatched.

prob the way they never really listen like they hear you but dont actually get it

How they both cheated on each other but still denied everything till the end.

I'm both, my mom's for her lack of affection, and dad's for his lack of affection, and the negativity, in regards to simple achievements.

I haven’t seen my dad since I was 10. He’s not dead or in jail, he’s just an a****** who doesn’t care about me, my mom or my sisters. I hope I never have to see him again, and I hate that he’s made me feel that way.

I love them both very much. But that might make it hurt more that my dad's gone from being very left wing (he was a young communist in his idealistic phase that we all go through as teenagers) to very right wing as he's aged. I've had to stop discussing politics with him and that makes me sad, it was one of 'our' things when I, and he, was younger. I hate that his opinions have become something I don't recognise and I wasn't brought up with.

They are fast becoming my only friends which makes me both angry and sad

Because they are boomer cringe and they just remind me I'm lonely and getting old and will have one foot in the grave by the time they are dead

Nothing

My father, for giving my mom chlamydia when she was pregnant with me. I turned out fine but wtf. This dude has been in my life the most for maybe 3 months at one time and I got wrapped up in his legal issues. A week after I moved in with him to build a relationship, our house got raided by the feds, state patrol, tribal, and sheriff's from two counties for selling drugs. I had just woke up and I heard "[BOOM BOOM BOOM] "POLICE, SEARCH WARRANT! IS THERE ANYBODY IN THERE?!" I opened my room door slowly and was surprised to see about 6 ak47s on me. I was in my tshirt and panties and they lead me outside where the local newspaper photographer had been taking all kinds of pictures. I was interrogated like hell by the feds but eventually let go about 3 hours later. We didnt speak for 5 years until he called me from prison to apologize. He got out 2 years ago after serving 10 years. We havent been in touch since. I know he could contact me if he wanted...but clearly im far from his mind....which I've come to accept...but it doesn't hurt any less.

That they are dying

My father is a racist, bigoted, POS who never bothered to get to know his amazing granddaughters solely because their father is a black man! He has four children, of whom I'm 2nd oldest. I'm the only one of the siblings to have kids, and that fact will 100% remain true. My 4 girls, now ages 21 thru 30, have blessed him with 4 great grandkids and he couldn't care less. He can't even be bothered to try and meet them, although my girls have tried to invite him many times to visit. He lives about a 5 hour drive from them. He happily makes that drive, at 85 years of age, to visit my aunt, (my 35yrs-deceased mom's brother's ex-wife), and her children, her grands and so on... at least 4 times per year. He just can't seem to find the time, nor the common decency to reach out to my daughters and say hello, let alone visit them/meet his great grands. Yet they continue to care about him, always asking me how's grandpa doing? He has never, not once reciprocated. Anyway, despite all of his ignorance and hate, my daughters are beautiful human beans, both inside and out. And I'm beyond proud and so freaking grateful to be their mama, whereas I'm deeply ashamed to admit that I'm that hateful man's daughter.

Harsh judgements just because my sister is more reserved.

My mother because she was a mean alcoholic and my father for abandoning me

I hate it when they argue all the time.

They don't understand millennial nostalgia and therefore can't be accommodating or accompanied for it

My dad’s being the one whose always right

That my mother won't stop giving religious advice, and guilt tripping over every fun I do How my father falls for scams all the time. That my father repeats himself tens of times even tho I understood from the first time. And his micromanagement

He was an alcoholic bully who beat us. She pretended he didn't. 

My father is a narcissist, gas lighter, liar, and believes some horrific "alternative" medicine stuff. He pitted my brother and me against each other when we were younger and tried to gaslight me about our fallout. My mom did believe me when I told her, that her then partner (basically my stepdad) made advances on me, until he told her I misunderstood... Had to give her some juicy details to make her believe me and after that I just knew she would never fully have my back (they staid together afterwards too until a couple of months ago and she still keeps mentioning him and let's him into the house while I'm here and I did directly ask her - she doesn't understand why it makes me uncomfortable if she talks about him all normal when I'm around). Yeah, she always prefers having everything "normal" instead of acknowledging that something bad happened, especially if it concerns psychological stuff.

First of all yhis question is a nonsense. U r trying to make question to people themselves to think about thst. Bro that's so pathetic thinking of yours