it’s something i’ve noticed growing up even in high school i had more guys show interest in me compared to girls. it’s funny because i never said i was into guys but i think i was triggering some guys’ gaydars for some reason. most were polite about it though and it did make me blush. i think it was the sentiment more than anything else. i did have a few girls make passes but it was far less than the guys.
the only time girls really made their interests known to me was when i finally started going out with my (now) gf. it’s funny how when i was single it was kinda crickets with girls but after i got a girl and we became official/people found out we were a thing girls remember i existed 😭😂 i still think back to those moments. now it’s more or less the same. because we mainly go out a lot and people don’t really hit on couples, but there were some bold ones who would see my gf standing there and still make passes at one of us. we sometimes joke about it and she pokes fun at me for always being flustered and awkward but that’s just how i am when im put on the spot 😅 shes the one who’s always been smooth but i’m the complete opposite lmao
Didnt read your whole post but take it as a compliment- girls dont do a lot of hitting on so... yeah.
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Kilian_UsernameApr 1, 2026
+51
It's because you're hot AF. Ladies are too afraid to hit on you, whereas men seem to be happy to take their shot with you.
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rawrz4uApr 1, 2026
+12
i never really saw myself as attractive by conventional means, i figured the average male hotshot would be like very muscular, masculine, and dripping with confidence. i’m androgynous and on the more reserved side of things aha
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NightStar79Apr 1, 2026
+18
I creeped on your profile to see if you had pictures of yourself after seeing your pfp.
Can confirm, you were most likely unapproachable eye candy for girls while guys decided to take their shot. And this is coming from an asexual woman.
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VvvlvvVApr 1, 2026
+6
Have you seen the anime men women goon over?
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rawrz4uApr 1, 2026
+1
i don’t really watch anime lol
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Ok_Scientist_2762Apr 1, 2026
+3
Different folks have different turn-ons, I am now old and dumpy and still get attention because of my availably and kindness. I do believe there is some truth to "there is someone for everyone" at least on the surface level.
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FixedFrontApr 1, 2026
+3
Yeah no definitely it's because you're too hot. I also peeked at your profile and I would have been too intimidated to approach if I saw you at the bar
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JeanPicLucardApr 1, 2026
+1
If you're really super attractive women will find ways to flirt with you and hit on you. Gay men ( really men in general) are just really forward. I have the same issue but unfortunately I'm not attractive enough for women to flirt and/or hit on me, I'm just attractive enough not to be ugly. If that makes any sense
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Ok_Scientist_2762Apr 1, 2026
+17
In US society, guys are encouraged to be more romantically aggressive on average. I have social deficiencies, but have been hit on by far more men than women. I learned to let them know I was straight, but to enjoy the flirtation rather than make them feel bad for shooting their shot. Being clear, then flirty cushions the rejection blow.
Going out with your girl signals you are safe/pre-approved, so that makes you a more valid target for flirtation from women.
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rawrz4uApr 1, 2026
+2
that does make sense with guys being more forward compared to girls, ig it’s a cultural thing more than anything else. and yeah i would never make any of them feel bad i always thought it was kinda sweet i just suck at flirting/responding to compliments xc
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Creative_Garbage_121Apr 1, 2026
+11
Don't take it as an insult but on all photos at your profile you look like femboy, that might be the key to solve this mystery
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Temporary_Damage4642Apr 1, 2026
+7
*checks profile feed*
makes perfect sense
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Friendly-Jacket914Apr 1, 2026
+7
Yeah the face and energy scream bottom gay
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Impossible_Ad3751Apr 1, 2026
+3
My guess, based on the descriptions, you look like prey to men. Generally women respond more to being chased, and men to chasing. If you flustered and are awkward/shy that is more appealing to most men as they generally are not socialized to like confident strong women either (for the hetero/bi/pan crowd).
A lot of the time when people get a partner they are now more confident, less concerned, it changes the dynamic.
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Necessary_Store351Apr 1, 2026
+2
I have to follow this as I get hit on by guys a lot. My wife thinks it’s funny.
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Mindofmierda90Apr 1, 2026
+3
Because you’re kind of feminine. Nothing wrong with that. But I can tell by how you write that you’re more on the feminine side.
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lucaaswimsApr 1, 2026
+1
its the exact same for me, for some reason it was always the gay guys that were interested in me, i think its because i have some facial feminine features because i don't see the logic outside of that
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