What is the biggest regret in your life ?

And the worst part is you knew. Somewhere deep down on the wedding day you knew.

This. The regret never leaves you. Even after rhe divorce. Even after years.

Once kids come in the picture, it can become a life sentence. 😞

Choosing wrong once can echo through decades quietly

...or, you married that person at the right time to be better and bring great things. Then it was on to something else...

Ooff that’s a heavy one

As a father now, I was the exact same in my 20's. I want to let you know that at that age it is so normal. Your mum loved you more than you can ever imagine. Live a happy and good life and she will be looking down on you and smiling.

this one hits because so many of us dont realize were saying ' later' to people who dont actually have unlimited later😔 but the fct you feel this way now says a lot about how much you loved her. It wasnt that you didnt care, you just didnt know the clock was louder than it felt back then.

Same with my dad (he died when I was 15, I'm 30 now). For me, it's not the fights or hurtful words that I regret most (I think those are normal for most families), it's the small things like not going to the movies together that I often think about. Whilst I don't think it's healthy to live life like it's your parents' last day on earth, many people definitely spend less time with their families than they would've like upon reflection at their passing.

Same situation with my dad. By the time I grew out of that phase and could spend some quality time with him, he was gone.

Hiya. When I was 28 I didn't even look my dad in the eyes the last time I saw him because I was in a rush. He died a week later. I have forgiven myself and he would too. Please don't be hard on yourself, your mum loved you ❤️

I can 100% relate! But don’t let it fool you when people say “that’s why you never live with friends”. I honestly ended up living with two other friends and there were no issues! If anything it brought me closer to them.

Better be alone than in bad company

Truee i've been there, mate. Lost a good friend and a lot of money. Some lessons just hurt, don't they?

Shit bro what happened?

Same, moved out with someone I thought was dependable only for them to bail on me after 2 months. Came home one day and his room was cleared out. He even stole my tv and couch. Still had 8 months on my lease and didn't have the money to break it. Ended up with multiple different roommates just to finish out the contract. Found out that day living alone is best,

Walked away with ptsd and spent years in therapy. EMDR has finally given me some relief 

Same, I’m working my ass off to erase the debt. Sigh but luckily I did end up with a decent gig sans degree.

Oh wow I’m so so sorry

F*** that b****

God that is so terrible, im truly sorry

My heart breaks for you. I'm so sorry you went through that.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine and neither could you have. This is not normal behavior from a parent. Please be kind to yourself. edit: hit enter too soon.

I'm so sorry. Wishing you peace

Ayy I’m on the opposite side of things. I should have done what my mom told me to. I would have made around the same amount but would have had way better PTO and would be offered a pension. Just saying, the grass isn’t always greener

Same and now I can't even get a job.

Same boat

X100. And still doing it. Or not doing it I guess

If that’s your biggest regret you’re doing okay

Yea. Getting rejected is better then not even trying and never having that chance again.

It's been 7 years, I will always regret not doing that. Nothing in the past 7 years has even come close to fill the emptiness I feel inside me.

I asked out every girl I ever liked and got rejected by all of em. That said, its better to be rejected than to wonder what if

Say things like what?

Don't know if it's okay to ask in a thread like this but if you wanted to say a word or two more...

Recovering alcoholic here ❤️ Let me know if you need someone to talk to.

I will be forever grateful that I am the sole victim of my drunk driving, I had an accident, fractured my hip, was bed ridden for over 3 months, couldn't walk for over 6 month.

I don't know if it helps now but no one knows what the market will do in advance, sometimes things go the other way around.

SAMMMMEEEEEE!!!!

Please call a domestic violence agency and get counseling. They usually charge a sliding scale fee so it's based on what you can afford. He abused you. Now, take yourself back. You can do this.

I was in your same situation some time ago. I took the very tough decision of packing what I could fit of my things into a bag and leave everything else behind, not knowing where I’d sleep. I left him everything (from the house we lived in together to my dog, because I couldn’t take her with me if I was going to ask for shelter 😢) and spent 8-9 months couch surfing until I got my things in order. I managed to work hard and save $17k to plan my exit. I left the country 12-14 months following that decision (I lived in an Island back then), because that way I would guarantee that all ties would be cut and I made sure there was no way in hell that he’ll find me. I miss my family, my dog, and my hometown. But my life has changed 180 degrees ever since I made that decision. With all of this I mean to say is: I beg you to make the very hard decision. I can assure you life is much better on this side.

What job did you want and what job do you have?

i’m so sorry i couldn’t imagine what that’s like ❤️‍🩹

I have a similar story. I had a cat with IBS who had to have shots every couple of weeks, however the medicine caused his other organs a lot of stress. So when I brought him in for what I believed to be a routine shot, I was blindsided with the news that he was not going to make it because his liver was failing. (It's been 20 years now and I was a mess - I think it was his liver - I stopped listening at "he will not survive") I was alone, my kids at school and my husband at work. I had to make the decision and I felt so guilty. They sedated him in my arms and he was fighting it, looking at me. I couldn't deal. I just couldnt....so I handed him to the doctor and turned away as he was still semi-conscious. It was my first time losing a cat. I'd had him 10 years and I completely and utterly failed him. To this day, I still tear up thinking about him. Comet, my sweet boy, I'm so f****** sorry. I didn't even request to bring his ashes home. I broke down in the parking lot with an empty carrier and a total stranger had to help me to my car. He's the only one I am missing now and it still hurts a lot.

The loss is hard but when thinking about the time spent together always out weighs the hard for me. Think about going to a rescue or human society, there's a special cat that you could give a great life and they would give you a lot of special memories whenever you think you might be ready 

Hey man, I'm sure you gave him a great life. It sounds like you took great care of him. If a cat had the capacity to understand, I'm sure he would get why it was hard for you to watch him go..

I had to put my Russian Blue cat to sleep last month, I have no "what ifs" about it either. She basically collapsed in my house and told me it was her time. There was nothing I could've done. I was with her for her final moments, though. The vet also told me that she was agonal breathing too, so she was already going on her own.

I used to think that anyone who didn't stay with pets in this situation was horrifically selfish. Could never understand it. But, think of it this way. They know when you're upset and stressed. Would you want to go with someone you loved there in pieces, or would you want to go surrounded by calm people who's job it was to make sure you were comfortable. It might feel awful, but maybe it's not always so black and white. 

I'm so sorry for your loss. My little girl just turned five years old. I never had human kids (and I don't plan to), so she *is* my kid. Someday I'll probably have to outlive her, and I don't know how I'll be able to deal with it.

For everyone else reading this: Always stay with your pets to the very end if at all possible. They were a part of your life, but you were all of theirs. 

Oh my friend, this is such a heavy weight to carry for that amount of time. Firstly, it (respectfully) seems like you are overlooking everything you did that benefitted him. You fed him, loved him, got to know his quirks and patterns, noticed he was unwell, granted him the opportunity to pass before the disease took his quality of life.. if it's one thing pet owners miss, it's that. You did so, so well to have cared for him the way that you did. Secondly, you won't be the first or the last to not be able to be there. And that's an eventuality that we prepare for in vet med - can almost guarantee you that his vet tech would have been comforting him for you in his final moments. I've done it too, the most recent being patting a stray through her final breath. And thirdly.. we are not always able to be there. This is something you must forgive yourself for. I'm in vet med and even I was not able to be there when my cat passed suddenly from cardiac disease. It's something I still carry, much like you, the fact that I couldn't comfort him or give him his favourite scratch or hold him. I almost left the field. But in a selfish way, it's people like you that made me return to vet med. Thank you for being such a great cat parent - even if you don't see it yourself.

I'm sorry. I stayed for my dog's final moments. It was really really hard I still think about it sometimes. But if it makes you feel better I only stayed because it was a lesson learned. When my grandpa was really sick halfway across the world I didn't go. And I missed his final days. And I swore to myself I'd never miss anything like that for anyone close to me ever again.

Same, lost the years of 19-24 with an ex I “thought” I loved.

feel u

If I may ask and would want so say, was there a motivation for the change even if it looks different now?

Your wife left you because you became a teacher? Expand on her reasoning.

I want to scream this to every person (but almost always a woman) in a bad relationship. Glad you got out, kudos.

This

I made the same mistake before and I regret it immensely. I hate the “once a cheater, always cheater” mentality I see put out a lot. I acknowledge how cruel what I did was and would never do that to anyone again.

Yes. My daughter is insistent she will never have children for this reason too

Exactly why I won’t be having kids. I didn’t ask for this and I resented my parents for having me for a very long time.

You’re saying this because you love them. They will also experience love, and struggle, as we all do. Life is precious and you’ve gave them the opportunity to feel love, even as deep as the love you have for them. That’s beautiful

Same

Wow. I was OLD when my wisdom teeth erupted and the best doctor I’ve ever visited told me the surgery was too risky for me due to my anatomy. I had periodic infections on the one side with keeping them, but the doctor was so good I could never second guess his recommendation. But I never knew it could be so damaging. That sucks.

Big wisdom tooth is one of the biggest scams in America

Just remember that even if you bought then, you very likely would have sold when it hit $500 or maybe $1000 tops.

Be good to yourself. You couldn't have known.

You couldn't know, also you WANTED to call him back. You are a good person

Do you think one phone call would have solved his issues? It’s part of much bigger challenge he had so don’t blame yourself.

It is not your fault.

It’s never worth it

Which one, gotta dish

Your kids would still be kids but not who they are. You gotta see the silver lining, all the good and bad comes from some of him and some of you mixed. Without those your kids wouldn’t be the same, just find a way to make it work Sincerely, a parent who went though this and carried a lot of baggage for a long time

Forgive yourself. A lot of people who "successly timed the housing market" just got really lucky. You did what made sense at the time.

This is something few people understand, but I get you, every time you move you lose so much more than you would expect. I've moved over 20 times in my life.

Oh no

F***. Wishing for healing for you.

My daughter has IC and it's a horrible disease. She managers hers with her diet. Of course, the list of what she can eat is tiny compared to the list of what she can't. She's been dealing with it for 20 years now and does well with it. I hope you can do the same. I'm also glad you're in counseling. I hope you continue to heal.

Religion poisons so many young minds.