what would you if you found out that your parents are the cause of your misfortunes?

Live my life exactly like I am now since I already knew that

I lived it. My mom constantly kept me trapped well into my twenties. Letting her boyfriends wreck my cars, stealing my money even though I gave her most of my paycheck, wasting her money and yelling at me because *she* didn't pay the bills on time, raised my siblings, constantly in a cycle of "Get this job so you can help out!" and "You're working too much. I'm not allowing you to go to work anymore!" It was all about control to keep me where she wanted me so she had a babysitter when she wanted to go blow bill money on partying with her friends and pretending to be a sugar momma to attract boyfriends. All of this while she was in her 40s with 5 kids not including myself. She's about to be 60 this year and she's still acting pretty much the same way. My siblings and I are grown and managed to finally get out and live our own lives, but she's got custody of her granddaughter and probably going to try to get custody of her newborn granddaughter so she can get more government benefits. My sisters still cater to her.

Am I an adult when I find out? Gotta stop blaming family and everything else for our own failures 😂

Feel angry… then try to break the cycle

It kinda happen, I stood there for thirty or fourty minutes in total silence, I couldn't speak, or think what to say... then went to my room to cry and eat chocolate..

...they kind of are, at least professionnally. It depend what misfortune it is.

Have an abortion

My mom guilt tripped into not seeking help for my mental health problems as a child, making it sound like me getting help would cause her trouble. She made me feel worthless, she made sure I knew my sister was her favorite. My dad stood by and let it happen.   I'm 35 now, Ive never been able to shake how deeply I believe I'm worthless and unlovable. It's ruined friendships and relationships, my ADHD and depression kept me from finishing college so I have tens of thousands of dollars in student loan debt but only an associates degree which is all but worthless.   So while a lot of it could have been fixed by me, and I'll admit that, there's so much I'm lacking as an adult that they could have fixed by didn't because "a psychologist won't do anything, they'll just blame the mother" well. I blame her now. And I blame my dad for letting her. And the final straw for me cutting contact with them was their continued support for an orange child raping fascist.

Get my revenge in the most violent and sadistic way possible, of course!

I wouldn't say they're the cause of ALL of them, but the majority of them, yes. At 34, we're still recovering memories from things that were so severe our brain sequestered them off from us, and the things we DO remember were horrific. Our live caused an identity split early on; it was the only way we would have survived. So we now have separate beings in our head; there's more than one soul inhabiting our body. And we'd proceed to keep living as absolutely damn well as we can. Spend the hardest 65 days of our live in an intensive specialist in patient hospital program, spend years in three a weeks therapy sessions, go to countless support groups. Try to tear down the coping methods we picked up along the way that no longer serve us. Change our own narrative, own family's trajectory, frak generational trauma, and do the damn best we can to protect any one else from going through what we went through.

In other news water is wet. Ones dead and the other i dont talk to, not much else i can legally do about it.

Just keep going about my day like I have my entire life while they were actively causing my misfortunes.

I mean, bpd and cptsd are normally caused by long term recurring abuse/neglect... already knew its from them. Spent the last 7 years trying to rewrite and rewire my brain bc of it.

Actually, they are. That's what antinatalists say, at least, and I agree.

Your parents are the only reason you’re here.

Coming to terms with your parents’ imperfections and loving them for who they are is a transformative experience.

Thats not possible. Missfortune doesnt excist we have all the possibilities to change our future and fortune?