What’s something people romanticize that is actually miserable?

This. People love the “mystery” and “melancholic vibes” of depression and eating disorders, but they quickly shut up once you start talking about schizophrenia

Autism….so hot right now.

The amount of people I see dumbing BPD down into "i'm so impulsive and fun!" Is actually so f****** dumb. Yes, we're impulsive. But those impulses often lead to life-changing consequences and the end of platonic/romantic relationships. You're quick to anger, and if your mind is pushed too far, you have to drag yourself kicking and screaming back into a reasonable headspace. The smallest argument feels like visceral hate and you have to force yourself not to lose your shit. The highs make you feel like you're invincible. Like nothing can touch you and you don't need to sleep, and you just keep moving and moving and moving (whether mentally or physically) Not to MENTION the LOWS. My GOD the amount of times I have to try and manually drag myself away from "We got into an argument, he hates me now and I should just kms so I don't hurt anyone else" and back to "it's alright. It's just a small disagreement, everything's fine, we're both grown ups here"? Anyone who thinks this shit is fun can have my share of it. I'm so f****** SICK of being people dumb this disorder down to being impulsive, indecisive, etc... This is a disorder that will never go away. You can go into REMISSION with YEARS of hard work, but there's always a chance that one small event sends you right back to where you started. There's no cure. This is not a FUN disorder. This is a disorder that is caused by your brain REWIRING ITSELF to cope with some form of trauma.

I've never ever heard anyone romanticise mental illness.

Keeping a long distance relationship alive can take as much effort as a full time job. And since such people are most likely already adults and therefore have full time jobs, that's a lot of effort.

People hype it up like it’s some epic love story but in reality it’s lonely nights, constant planning and feeling like life’s passing by while you wait for a text.

And when you finally fall asleep you hear a stick break near the treeline.

You need better gear! I've done a lot of backpacking/being homeless and having a good may is absolutely essential

I’m a mosquito magnet, so camping is at the very bottom of my list of things I’d like to do.

I sleep better in a tent than anywhere else including my bed at home. And if it is raining, even caffeine directly injected into my bloodstream couldn't prevent me from falling asleep within a few minutes. Good gear and some knowledge matters.

This is why I have stuck with 9-5 jobs that I can clock out and leave behind every day. When I have done my own thing, the anxiety and constant stress that I could be working and growing the business is really awful.

People romanticize stalking?

I second that.

True I used to be stalked

Whats love bombing?

Glad I never scored better on the LSAT then. My friend told me it was boring, but she was in contract law, which sounds miserable. If I had any talent at learning a second language (spanish), I would love to be an immigration lawyer. There is such a huge need. Alas, never scored decently on those lsat practice tests, wouldn't have been able to get in a decent college.

I think it depends on the timeframe and situation before/after  I lived alone for like 4 years before moving in with my wife. I loved living alone but living with my wife is better. Some days were rough but in general it was not that bad. Living alone through COVID would have been rough though 

I've lived alone and thought it was a dream, and I've lived alone and thought it was a nightmare and literally spiraled into mental illness from loneliness. The big distinction between the two is what you're doing when you're not home, the relationships you maintain, how often you leave your home, how often you have people over etc....what your life looks like outside of your home basically. If you're miserable in your work, relationships, etc, then you are likely to be even more miserable when you get home and are forced to ruminate on it all by yourself for hours. and vice versa

As with anything else it's not going to be for everyone. There's a lot of qualifiers to that like the reason for living alone and what you're doing while living alone (e.g. living alone doesn't also have to mean sensory deprivation or social isolationism). I loved living alone during the time I did because I really did enjoy having my own space; it was a place to go back to at the end of the day where I wasn't being bothered or having my time demanded of me - I could just relax, do my own thing and be ready for the next day.

Ehhhh this is only true if you don’t have a healthy social life. I moved on my own last year in a new neighborhood last year and I had the isolating nights… but the moment I established a new social group in said neighborhood it flipped instantly and I was soooo glad to just have my own space to come back to after nights out.

Yeah. Going two days without talking creeps me out.

To me its great I manage to balance alone time with meeting with friends and work and group trainings and music events etc

I definitely prefer it

This. I remember that I told myself before any work-journey my wife had planned, that I will do this and that, after all this time, I will have time and space.... and I ended up basically not doing match of anything. I dd not have the enthusiasm I thought I would

Omg yess

Noodles, wit no package.....

It seemed so magical and made me feel so powerful at the time.

oddly specific

Living with a fam member who plays obnoxious TikTok videos or propaganda YouTube videos on speaker mode almost every waking hour of the day, pure silence is a pure luxury for me.

It's not silent. The crunch is very loud, and its only 1:12am...so I'm fine

Toxic Relationships. I have songs/videos like "Love the way you lie" that just take me back to a relationship I used to have. The highs were high. The sex was unmatched. But my god the lows were low. And in a twisted way, I never felt more alive than I was completely broken down in heartbreak and desperation.

I was in one didn't realists toxic until few months in

I'm so f****** burnt out....

Yes you need to do different things from time to time to not get burned out even on your favorite activity or favorite food

I think this one depends on the person. Until you begin to integrate it is very lonely but once you do it can be amazing.

I agree, water is the worst lube...

Speak for yourself. My ex and I would and it was great

I mean I read books like that, but I keep that trope firmly in the "stay fiction, and never happen to me in real life" genre of literature ...are there actually people who want that??? Holy shit

Ugh the "I can't live without you" crowd 💀 That's not love that's basically emotional hostage-taking, been there and it's exhausting as hell 😂

idk, i agree but at the same time it’s so fiery and sparky to be entangled with someone to the extent that it’s debilitating. like losing yourself in someone is rapturous sometimes and without yearning life would be kinda lame and unromantic

Amusing how the robber barons were actually markedly better for society than our current tech billionaires. I believe the evil tendencies you mentioned are not prevalent in every human. Sadly, the ones that do possess such evil, always seem to find their way to enact it.

And you didn’t even mention the seaweed, bugs, or inevitable 🦞 sunburn 😖

A marathon shouldn’t feel miserable if you trained adequately for it. The training though, that should absolutely intentionally feel miserable and you should lean into that feeling hard

I have to ask. Who in your life has romanticized diarrhea?

you haven't spent ur v-buckz yet huh

You sound fun.