What’s something that’s totally normal but secretly makes you uncomfortable?

People posting photos of me on social media without my permission (parties, birthday meals, events etc)

When someone watches me type. I suddenly forget how to spell everything

taking selfies. lots of people do it, but every time i do, it just makes me feel like a narcissist.

Hearing your own voice in a recording 😶

People singing "happy birthday" while you just sit there like a hostage

Watching someone else use their computer and they don't use any keyboard shortcuts. It’s like watching a car drive in first gear only.

When someone sings happy birthday to you and everyone is just staring at your face waiting for a reaction. there is no correct expression. you just have to sit there and survive it.

When someone walks the same speed as you and you can’t shake them without making it weird

For me it’s when someone stands just a little too close while talking, like not enough to say anything but enough that you’re aware of it the whole time.

Pregnancy and breastfeeding. Thinking about an embryo growing inside of me pushing and pressing on my organs including the heart with me having no control over it makes me extremely uncomfortable. And then it will crawl out of my v***** causing me extreme pain, very likely damaging it in the process or I'll have to have my abdomen cut open to get it out. I don't think there's anything in this world that freaks me out or makes me as uncomfortable as this. About breastfeeding, the thought of having a baby suck on my nipple makes me feel like vomiting for some reason. I don't like thinking about it at all. I don't have a problem seeing pregnant women and I don't mind public breastfeeding, it's when I think about myself in that scenario it becomes unbearably uncomfortable.

Small talk with people who don’t actually care, just feels like a performance everyone’s pretending to enjoy.

walking around barefoot

People being “friendly mean”. Like low key bullying you but in a way that it makes it seem like a joke than an actual jab. It can be funny at times but when it happens all the f****** time, then that’s just who you are- a mean person who can’t be happy for others when they’re doing well. It makes me uncomfortable going into the workplace knowing everything you do well will be put under the microscope and made fun of even though you did a great job. /vent

Well, it seems to be the norm nowadays. Taking n****! I would never send any to anyone! Not even a boyfriend!

Being watched while opening gifts.

When couples tell people they are trying for a baby. It’s so normal, but I hate it and it’s intrusive to me. We don’t all need to know you’re repeatedly getting raw dogged🥹

People in my house. I hate it 😭

Hugging with anyone that isn't 1 of my close girls or my husband. Not so much

Asking me very specific questions that I have knowledge on and all of a sudden I don't know anything about that subject. It frustrated my husband and first but he gets it now, thankfully. Even simple things like "what's your favorite song" has my mind going blank.

Religious people shoving their bullshit into everything.

Feet. I know they’re entirely normal but something about them makes my skin crawl. Why do they look like that?? I know why they look like that, but that doesn’t excuse them being creepy little shits. They should just do better.  Additionally, people seeing me use any kind of device. I have nothing to hide, but something about them looking makes me deeply unsettled. Actually, this goes for any activity. I seem to forget how to draw or read if somebody watches me do it. Whittling? Not if somebody can see  me. Getting food? The kitchen must be empty for that to be possible. My bedroom existing? NUH uh, no way jose no way no how. 

People who give their dog a few licks of their ice cream, then continue eating the ice cream.

People touching me unsolicited, even a friendly tap on the shoulder. Can't stand it.

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when people lick their fingers after eating instead of using a napkin or washing their hands

A first date that involves dinner, lunch or getting a drink, I'll feel like I'm being interrogated and I won't be able to enjoy my drink or meal

Handshakes 🤦🏼‍♀️

Thinking of how many peoples photos I’ve been in the background in without knowing. I made Disney into an obstacle course more than it already is trying to avoid that. Do I think it helped any? Not a bit. Will I still try to avoid? Yuppp

Swimming pools 😬 the idea of my wet feet stepping where a bunch of other wet feet stepped is hard for me.

Seeing parents show their children affection - my instant reaction is to be disgusted by it. I feel super ashamed by it, but have since learnt it is related to my own shit childhood and subsequent C-PTSD. I'm trying to overcome it and see it as something sweet and nurturing.

Grocery shopping. I hate crowds and people with zero spatial awareness. Often times, grocery shopping means having both crash into you simultaneously.

Walking out of a store without buying anything. Feels like im stealing.

People just disappearing for their own reasons. This is why I stop trying to make friends. Let me clarify a little. I get that people disappear for many reasons, not feeling it, overwhelmed, work, life, family, having a baby, having a partner, etc. Which is fine and understandable. Or maybe some people use Internet friends as a distraction. I'm the type that seeks long-term connections, slowly matured and aged like liquor. Apparently some Germans have the same idea that they will be cold to people until they know that you are here for a long time.

Small talk with people I don’t know well

Couples who post each other too much on social media like they’re the happiest couple in the world, or post in a group constantly how much they love each other. It gives me the ick. Makes me think they’re overcompensating on social media because things definitely are not perfect at home. Either that or it’s some weird obsession with each other that’s over the top. 😂 What happened to keeping some things private?

Wenn Eltern die Reste der Babys essen, die voller Spucke sind. Brötchen, Kekse usw. Da muss ich wegschauen.

A girlfriend sitting on boyfriend s lap.in public.

Talking about shitting

Bad breath

The crunch of walking on fresh snow. Sends shivers up my spine, I really don't like it. That and cupcakes

I don’t know why but certain drinks being poured into a cup, mug, glass, etc really does something to my psyche and makes me irrationally upset. It’s like nails on a chalkboard. I think it’s the sound it makes as it’s filling up.

Putting babies in shirts that have sexual jokes on them.

Not ending a conversation on text messages, like if u don’t say “I gtg” I’ll keep texting because it’s lowkey so awkward to just end up leaving someone on delivered or being left on delivered

Weddings the ceremony, baby showers, engagement parties… miss me with gender reveals. And don’t get me started on destination birthdays, bucks hens, weddings. I reconcile these things bring people together, and that’s worthwhile, but it’s all very vapid and quite often shallow, sometimes down right worrying - I question with some did they just do this life changing thing to be the “celebrity” of their friends and family for a few months and get a few hundred likes.

when people sing happy birthday to me and i have to just sit there awkwardly smiling at everyone.. like what am i supposed to do with my hands??

wearing sun glasses, or a hat or a big jacket. or trying a different hair style i find it all really humiliating, not sure why

Making eye contact with someone through the gap in a bathroom stall. We both know it happened. Neither of us will ever speak of it.

Religion.... Specifically organized corporate religion

Mormons

People at my job taking interest in me and my life outside of work. Weird because I also take interest in my coworkers LOL but I don't like to be asked or talk about it.

When I'm with a couple who does PDA. It makes me uncomfy that they do it in front of me and I don't know what I'm suppose to do or react gosh

When someone watches me do something on my phone. Even if it’s harmless I suddenly feel like I’m committing crimes.

Walking past someone and making eye contact, then not knowing if I should smile, nod, or just pretend it didn’t happen. Social anxiety in real life, peak edition.

Noise- people saying things so loud you can hear them across the street. You can hear them inside your house. It’s awful, but they think it’s normal to clank around and broadcast.

Small talk. If you have nothing important to say don’t talk to me lol

Any type of bodily contact even if it's just a handshake!

Small talk. Lived in Australia for two years and had the best small talks. When I had a problem everyone vanished except for one real friend I made at the Muay Thai class.

Flirting, doing it online or in public makes me uncomfortable because it's out of my character. I'm way too proud and reserved to compliment girls online in the comments or DMs, it seems so lame

Breastfeeding. Completely normal and natural of course, but it gives me the ick.

I didn’t expect this many people to relate to this 😭

The cheek kiss greeting in Hispanic/Latino culture. I know it’s friendly, but it makes me feel awkward every time

Someone watching me eat, or making a TikTok

People unqualified to parent having children. Not a child — children. Of course, I’m childfree.

90% of all hugs. I really do like hugs. Full body contact with most people stresses me out and people think I’m lying or just need more hugs. That’s a good way to get yelled at. I do not enjoy hugs, except in certain situations, with certain people.

Small talk at the dinner table after you've eaten. Just f****** eat your food and be done with it. It's the only reason I dislike dinner with my extended family. You've eaten your food and you're STILL not done.

Hugging people.

Small talk with people you barely know. It’s not hard, but it always feels a bit forced and awkward.

Public PDA.. i guess what i mean is the exaggerated PDA kind, like two very drunk people may do.. lmao now I don't judge, get that treat lol but it is also uncomfortable as the simple bystander watching on the sidelines while two people get it on a top a storm drain on the sidewalk. Lmao. Downtown Portland Oregon can be so weird man! Lmao

Watching other couples rub each other in public. Even if it’s just rubbing their partner’s back it gives me the heebie jeebies.

Toilet paper. Nothing does it like a jet spray or bidet

Adults that call their parents Mommy and Daddy. It causes an extreme reaction in me. Nails on a chalkboard. Also adults using mommy and daddy in the bedroom. Extreme boner killer. It’s a southern thing! Vomit.

Opening gifts. Cant stand it.

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Small talk with strangers

Weddings

People singing and playing music in places that I didn't specifically sign up for (concerts, plays, etc). Buskers, church, etc. It just feels cringe to me and makes me uncomfortable. ESPECIALLY if the beat matches my footsteps if I'm walking around. I don't know why but I KNOW I'm not the only one bothered by this.

People who I typically keep at a distance (coworkers, patients, acquaintances) asking about my hobbies. I suddenly feel like I have no “real” hobbies or am embarrassed of mine. My usual method of reflection is just making some humorous remark about work taking up all my time. It’s weird because I love talking about my hobbies and interests with my friends and family, and hobbies really aren’t an invasive or intimate topic.

Being perceived. Being touched out of the blue. Sudden visits. People talking all at once, small talk, people always needing something from me, asking me things, when I'm happy all alone and suddenly I hear keys and steps coming, people constantly humming melodies that don't make any sense, people with no musical ear (extremely common) idk lots of things, i might be neurodivergent tho

My mom telling my relatives what grades I got😂

Les fétichiste de tout genre. J'ai une haine/aversion pour eux.

People complimenting me a lot. I appreciate an honest positive review but if I sense that you’re trying to please me - immediate ick

Adults (usually family members) kissing children on the lips as a greeting. It’s an American thing and it doesn’t make sense to me. Also parents who speak about themselves to their children in the third person. My parents never did this and I learned how to speak properly. So don’t give me that “it teaches kids pronouns” or whatever.

crossing the road lol it’s so embarrassing and makes me feel uneasy. It’s like the driver in the car is watching my every move so all I can do is look away or pull my phone out and go on notes app😭

I’m not really comfortable with hugs or physical touches from people I don’t know well

Smalltalk

People’s feet. I hate feet, can’t stand them, can’t look at them. I don’t wanna see them! Please wear closed-toe shoes.

Strangers reading my diary and knowing my personal thoughts.

Silence when sitting with someone unfamiliar

Peoples breath, I’m always aware of it and holding mine when they’re speaking close to me, might be an OCD thing tho

Pretending there’s a magical after death land exclusive to the human animal.

snapchatting. why the f*** do you want me to send pictures of my floor with text pasted over it. because what i'm not going to do is take a pic of my face over and over again reacting to what you're saying. feels SO forced and performative.

Playing with chalk. It’s supposed to be fun and normal with the kiddos but I just can’t take the sound. It makes me so uncomfortable. The way it scratches against the concrete - just blegh!