What’s something you wish people understood about you without you having to explain it

That being an introvert isn't a failure in my personality that needs fixing.

honestly, i wish people understood that introversion doesn't mean i'm rude or not interested – i just recharge differently. it’s tiring always having to clarify.

That I get overstimulated pretty easily. (Not autistic; mental illness.)

That I care deeply, I’m just not always great at showing it.

That i have a very hard time planning things in advance because I randomly have spells of exhaustion so severe it is hard to even stand. I want to do things and be included, but I do not know how I will be feeling on xyz day and time. I wish I could assume I’ll be feeling fine, but I’m terrified of being on a trip somewhere far from home and ending up in the midst of a chronic fatigue flare.

that i have feelings , i am not a non-chalant person ..i see everything and i just don't know how to express it but i feel everything

I didn't choose to end up alone. I like people and I also am fine doing things by myself. I'm just an acquaintance to many people even if they're close friends to me.

I'm a bit introverted and somehow I get a long with a lot of people very well and many want to be friends, but I really like my inner circle so I sometimes have to get a bit distant, that is not coldness or arrogance, I'm just very picky on who I tell something and also who I want to hangout with. So I usually go into a conversation with the thought of not making new friends and making sure it stays at just surface level. Takes a lot for me to trust someone. Another thing, if I say something I truly mean it.

I wish people could see my intentions and line them up with my actions. I hate feeling misunderstood. I try to express myself in a way that I feel makes my feelings obvious with my expression, actions, tone of voice, but it doesn’t usually land. Taking my jokes too seriously, mistaking my steadiness as indifference, my kindness or lack of ego as incompetence.

I’m not lazy or flaky. I have a few autoimmune diseases. When it flares, I’m down. When I’m recovering from a flare, I move so slow and get so tired so easily.

That getting adopted wasn't the happily ever after people expect it to be. My adoptive parents were awful, thanks

uh i wish people would just get that I’m not quiet or distant on purpose. I just take a bit to feel comfortable, but once I do, I’m all in—joking, teasing, and being part of the vibe. It’d be nice if they didn’t have to hear me explain that every time.

That even though I might come across as cold when you first meet me, I do care about people. I usually want to get to know them first.

I am not smarter than you just because I have a degree. I do not look down on you and I do not think you're stupid. I am an average person with average intelligence, please treat me as such.  People always assume I must be so smart and then get insecure about it. Afterwards they try to demean my intelligence at every corner to feel better about themselves. It sucks having to deal with that just because people assume stuff about you. 

Just because I go quiet I'm not moody or in a bad mood. You can talk to me and wait for me to talk to you. Rant over 😂

That my anger stems from pain and fear

sometimes I just don't wanna talk to anyone. I'm not upset or anything.... just in a temporary non-verbal mood.

Que être rêveur et développer son imagination en jouant de la musique, en écrivant, où en chantant c'est aussi un boulot qui permet de faire vivre pas le physique des gens comme avec l'alimentation mais l'âme de la personne

That you would understand it without me having to explain it

I'm a planner. I enjoy it. I also used to be an executive chef. I *love* entertaining. Yet, every time I put something together I get questioned about my abilities. Over and over. Knock on wood I've never had snafus, even when I hosted 24 people with all types of allergies or vegan or whatever. Still, people who know me: "Are you sure you can cook for all 4 of us?"

My struggle with my mental state has been at an all time high here lately. Those who are around me and even listnookors on here have seen the collapse of my thoughts process. I don't want to explain myself anymore, what do I say though. When something so messed up comes out of the registry and I spill it out on here. I really think I'm doing some good but really Im not. I don't know how to explain it or even put into words what is truly wrong with me but I struggle with it a lot. I don't even see myself as a human anymore. One day, I will find my way out. Until that happens, I'm stuck in this loop. There is no help out there for someone like me or I just choose not to address it in the right way. That's it. Just explained it again.

Chronic pain, with knee replacement and ankle injuries. Understanding complex regional pain syndrome. Having to explain this every time is so frustrating because it's different compared to having a injuries and healing normally...my body cells still think I have Injuries months after and the nerves keep firing.

I also wish people knew when I'm thinking of trying to order something new food wise to try out. Then get offered food by someone else. Free food is cool and always tastes better but then I will delay my little food project by another week. Only order out on the weekend usually once a week if I'm lucky.

I am not trying to be bossy or a know-it-all I’m trying to help 😅 I absorb a lot of information and want to help out my coworkers but I fear I come off as bossy and constantly find myself talking over folks and I’m trying so hard not to do that!

I’m not what I look like. I get told I look like a snob, have rbf, that I’m a trophy wife? I’ve never been married at 47. I’m starting to think I’m either too pretty, too educated, too talkative, too what? The men my age are not turning out to be the best to date. I’m just starting to think that older millennials and younger. Gen X suck at trying to communicate.

I feel being updated with them in every moment is very frustrating

No clue what I've been doing wrong since childhood, but every time I interact with people, it's like they take everything as the exact opposite. So obviously I'm the problem in the equation, but for the life of me, I just don't get it. If I'm joking, people think I'm serious. If I'm upset, people think I'm fine. If I'm fine, people think I'm angry at them. And so on. I've just given up. Thankfully I'm an introvert lol

I've been told that when I'm speaking about something I care about, or asking people follow up questions, or trying to explain myself, I come across as aggressive or combative. I wish people could just know that that's never my intention and I just want to understand them and be understood, not fight.

Most of the time I am quiet but for some reason people only notice when I’ve been talkative and then go quiet. I’m not upset I’ve just run out of things to talk about or I’m sleepy.

That me going quiet isn’t me being mad at you, it’s just me recharging. Social battery hits 0% faster than my phone 😅

That I'm always joking, especially older people never learnt sarcasm I'm pretty sure