What’s the biggest 'bullet' you’ve ever dodged in a relationship or a friendship?

I started dating a girl, and she was planning to stay over at my place for the first time. Before that, she suggested we go buy new towels together. At the store, we each picked one out. She looked at mine and immediately said it was ugly and not soft enough. But when she realized mine cost more than hers, she literally tossed her towel aside and said she wanted one like mine instead. That moment didn’t sit right with me. I ended up finding an excuse for her not to stay over, and shortly after, I ended the relationship.

Realizing early that someone lacked honesty walking away saved a lot of future complications.

man, i dodged a major bullet when a friend tried to get me into some shady business dealings. legit cut ties before it got messy.

I was hanging out with people that did/ended up doing hard drugs as a kid. Things happened and I went a different way in the end

Stayed in touch with someone I almost got into a serious relationship with. Over time I saw patterns that would’ve been a nightmare long term. Got lucky there.

A friend of mine got the wrong idea about me in high school. He was a year younger than me, and the year I graduated, he dramatically “broke up” with me, as a friend. I was really hurt! He’d been my best friend for three years, and I honestly believed nothing would ever separate us. A few years later, he got back in touch. We got together once, hung out awkwardly, and I found out he’d developed a serious cocaine problem, crashed out, and ended up back at his mom’s place in his mid-twenties. Just then, he was talking about moving to a state with legal recreational weed to resume pursuing a career as a musician. It’s entirely possible that if he hadn’t come out of nowhere and ended our friendship, I would have spun down the same drain he did…

Wow loaded question id need to think about that 😅🤔

He was flirting with my friend

Almost got into something serious with someone who had zero respect for boundaries. Looking back, dodging that saved me a lot of stress.

I’ve dodged two Capricorn husband sons who are bisexual warlocks, both with social status within their fields, Thank u God for protecting me, I’m so grateful.

kept on expecting me to treat them because they offered to pick me up from the airport even after I paid for a meal already and I was struggling to find a job

Almost moved two states away for someone who had started seeing someone else. Polyamory can be great, we were both cool with the idea but it was quickly starting to look like I’d be living with them rather than the new party living with us, which was distinctly not what I signed up for

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My first girlfriend in high school got pregnant, the very first time she ever had sex. I dodged the bullet because although I was her boyfriend, I am not the father… I guess there is something romantic about the walk in freezers at A&W that I must have missed. Her loss, or gain, depends on how you look at it

I had a massive head injury and my best friend of over a decade encouraged our friend group to ghost me because "I was making people uncomfortable being so visibly disabled" I was still me. They acted like I was a child. It was maybe the first month post injury they spoke to me once for 15 minutes and that was it. I used to see them at least once a week. I spoke with my eyes closed, very slowly, stuttering and slurring sometimes with the wrong words. Nobody would be patient and just give me a moment. That's all I needed. It especially hurt as I was the stability of the group and routinely was there for them at their worst experiences. The first time I ever had vulnerability I was dumped. I can't say things are perfect, but my life is better than its ever been. It just hurts having exciting moments that I instinctually go to tell them about and remember I can't.