whats the biggest level of betrayal thats ever happened to you?

My cat approached me like she wanted pets but when I reached my hand out she bit me

My mom had two miscarriages and got her tubes tied as a result. The COMMUNITY loved her so much that they raised money for her to adopt children (me and my sister). After a couple of years my dad cheated on my saint of a mother AND had a kid with his mistress. More of a betrayal to my mom, but to us too It was like a grocery store pulp novel

1. trusted a fart 2. dreamt that I had to go to the toilet and peed on myself

My mom stopped answering the phone and stopped all communication with me

When I was 14, I didn't clean my room to my step-dad's specifications, so he picked me up by my shirt, slammed me into a wall while screaming about an inch off my nose. His spit was getting on me as he screamed and I was so scared that I peed a little. Once he got tired of screaming at me, he started to hit me in the stomache, face and sides until I was beat down to the ground. I tried to stand up and he put me in a headlock and started to choke me. After a moment of panic, I was able to get my hip up under him & kind of dump him on his back on the ground. I hopped up as fast as I could, jumped up in the air and curled my legs up & dropped my knees into his ribs. This hurt him really bad and he didn't get up for as long as I remained there. I'm sure I broke some ribs. This is where the betrayal comes in. I go into my moms room, bloody from the beating and piss on my pants and I said "Look what he did to me!" And my mom. The person who always told me to watch my back and who always said she was on my side just says "You should have cleaned your room better." I ran out & grabbed my skateboard, then kicked my step-dad in the ribs again and ran off. I called my grandparents and my grandad came and got me. I didn't see or talk to my parents for at least the next 2 years and I never lived with them after that. My grandparents took me in and protected me from them. I'm 44 now. Grandparents are gone. Step-dad is no longer around. Mom is trying her best to have a better relationship now that we're adults but I'll always see her as a cut throat.

Ex tried to kill me.  Not fun

When my adoption was rescinded after a year and a half. Adopted at 11 sent back to the agency/emergency shelter at 12 and a half. My name was never changed back to what it was so I still carry the name of my betrayal.

One of my good family friends introduced me to her boyfriend as she thought we would get along, which we did. We both listened to the same bands and we both played guitar. I used to hang out with him all the time and we would get high and jam at his place. He was at a house party with some of our mutual friends one night when I was out of town, when he let it slip that he had been lacing all of the weed we smoked with meth. His mums boyfriend was a dealer and had easy access to pretty much everything. I ended up with schizophrenia from this. I was 14 years old at the time. When I went to tell my friend what her boyfriend had been doing, she didn’t believe me and lost it and said she never wanted to speak with me again. This basically ruined my life for 2 years until I was diagnosed as schizophrenic and got on medication. I will be taking medication for this until the day I die.

I was 15. My mother had been dying of cancer for two years. This is her last day. That afternoon my dad tells me he knows about something I did because he read my diary. I broke down. Hyperventilating. Sobbing. Later that day my mom died. Worst day of my life.

I was in the divorce process while still in the Army. I made an agreement with my ex wife that one weekend I would drive home (Long Island) and have the kids Friday afternoon/evening, Saturday.. all day and Sunday morning. I show up to my former in laws house where my stbx wife lives in the apartment attached to her parents house. The wood door is open and just the glass door is shut. It was a nice sunny warm day so all the windows were open. I heard voices as I was walking up.. knock knock.. no answer knock again.. nothing. So I start kinda yelling(in a silly daddy voice) hellooooo it’s me!! Anybody home?” I bet there’s two little ones who can’t wait to see me!” Nothing I call.. I call again.. Then in a more serious tone I say “can we not play these games.. I drove all the way up here” that’s when I notice a hand place a tape recorder in the second floor window. I have stepped into an L shaped ambush Feeling the rage in me build.. i get in my car and drive back to fort Bragg NC I say nothing to my parents and just go.. the drive was a mixture of me raging and crying my eyes out. I get back to Fayetteville and something tells me.. might as well go sign back in off leave so I don’t lose anymore days. At exactly 0238am I sign back in at the Brigade CW desk.. where I run into the brigade sergeant major .. who was there due to a guy getting arrested that evening. I give him a quick rundown of what happened.. he tells me “don’t drink.. and go home” I follow 1/2 of his orders and wake up some time in the early afternoon too a bunch of missed call with Long Island area codes.. check voicemail and it’s a Suffolk County detective who wants to talk to me about an attempted break in at my stbxw house a little after midnight the very early that morning. I obviously don’t do it and easily proved it with my sign in and conversation with my command sergeant major.. .. can’t from Long Island to Ft Bragg in two hours. This whole event just makes me incredibly sad.. and I don’t talk to anyone for a few weeks. When I do.. only “her” side got out about me .. in a crazed state.. flipping out.. breaking a window and trying to crawl through it.. .. I lose the support of my own family.. parents included… ALL of my friends.. and the job I had lined up for when I got out… Which led to me being homeless and living in my car for a year and a half after getting out of the Army.. lots of fun

Hiding lunch from me

TL;DR - long term friend ended up f****** my significant other, marrying them, having a kid, and is now the parent to my kid. Friends in the friend group sided with them and thus were lost in this. I never had a chance to even explain because I lived further away. Happened around 2018. We were all mid 20’s. My (at the time) significant other strung me along for several months after we “stopped dating but could resume”. They had a lot of things going on in their life - so at the time this seemed reasonable. We had a kid together and everything. Then my best friend since 8th grade who “wasn’t interested in them” suddenly starts making me out to be the bad person in everything and splits our entire friend group. They also start f****** my previous SO. They both sent me pictures of them f****** as if I wasn’t hurt enough. Sucked a lot. I lost a lot of friends and trust. They’re married now and have a kid together as well. Worst of all, I lost a chance to be a proper parent. I still try, but I live far away and they aren’t very forthcoming with information. Anything I need to figure out is like jumping through a million very uncomfortable hops. They’ve blocked me on everything and I honestly don’t know why. Sucks butt. I feel like all I can do is set myself up to be successful in life so that when my kid grows up or anything happens to the other parent, the kid has a place to go that can take care of them. I’ve moved on from this slightly. I’m happily married now and have my own life. But the stings still there a bit.

When my mother abandoned me at 14 when I reported my step dad for sexual abuse. She chose him and is still married to him to this day. I have been on my own ever since.

My ex left me for his hot billionaire boss he'd been secretly banging. This was preceded by months of him suddenly thinking he was 'above' me cos his new circle said so. Worst break up ever - and I was the last to know. Oof.

My ex husband watched me slowly starve due to a mix of grief and undiagnosed chronic illness. He kept insisting there was nothing wrong with me and that I was being a hypochondriac. I was down to double digits before I found the strength to leave and focus on my health without him trying to throw it off track and distract me from getting better. I strongly feel that I would have died had I not left. I ended up in the hospital because of it.

Long story short, a girl threw me under the bus for something SHE did, and threatened to “get her lawyers involved” if I bring her name up trying to defend myself….

Broken vows, promises

my (now ex) girlfriend ghosted me for two months straight and framed me as “needy” towards her friends because she wanted to party and drink instead of commit to the relationship she said she wanted.

My ex gf of 4 years cheated on me a month before a cross country move to an apartment I'd already signed the lease on

A few things but the two major ones (especially hit hard cause I was young, it no longer bothers me to such an extent) 1. The people I was living with decided to change the locks on me when I spent the night with my dad and other family members. Their excuse was that “they didn’t know where I was” even though they called the house phone which was answered repeatedly… they just wanted me gone since I was 18, and graduated high school (which is why I was with other family members and my dad) 2. All the ‘friends’ I had in high school quit talking to me immediately after graduation, and it came out like two years later that they thought I was sleeping with a lot of people and thought that I thought that I was better than them… then have a friend from the group tell me that they also thought I put moves on one of the girls… She f****** went with me on a vacation for a week, I didn’t try anything. That was junior year… no one said shit about it… she was my best friend… her mom(MtF) contacted me after graduation to tell me his daughter absolutely hated my guts… but wanted to stay in contact with me because they saw me as a daughter… Anyways as an adult I don’t think I’ve dealt with any betrayal.

I lost my dad is a sudden tragic accident and 6 weeks later my friend group decided they didn’t want to hang out with me anymore because they “got tired of trying to help and it was exhausting” I made a point to pretend to be okay around them and here we are 🤷🏻‍♀️ in retrospect not great friends, but it was extremely hard going through that completely alone.

One of my best friends growing up said we were never that close and she wasn’t sure why I kept trying to talk to her (I would text her every few months to try and keep in touch, I wasn’t calling her every day or anything). My other two best friends from the same friend group ghosted me at the same time. It nearly destroyed me and made me question everything. I fell into a really deep depression that lasted almost two years. She apologized later and even tried to keep in touch but I could never trust her again after that. I’m doing so much better now, but it still makes me sad when people talk about their childhood friends because I no longer have any and so many memories from my childhood were tainted for a long time. I can finally look back on them with happiness, but it’s literally like those people are dead to me now. If you’re wondering what awful thing I did that would make them do that to me, I often wonder that too, but they never told me, even when I asked.

My mom tries to leave my family every 7 years because she’s mentally unstable. She’s also cheated multiple times. The trauma it has caused my dad, brothers and I is out of this world.

Basic unfaithful husband who dumped me when I suffered a major health crisis. House was foreclosed. Am doing better nowadays.

I jammed and shattered my pinkie when I was 12 and when my mom took me to the doctor, he said he wasn't going to pull on it, he just wanted to look at it... then he pulled the shit out of it, taped it to my ring finger and told me to try not to move it. I learned two very important lessons that day... one, I can deal with a crazy amount of pain if it's a surprise and two, all doctors are liars.

Someone lied to me about a person in my past who had assaulted me. To this day I will never know why. He watched me in torment for a long time. I only found out it was a lie because he made the mistake of naming another victim, who had never heard of the assailant, and I only found out years later. I don't think I'll ever understand the motivation.

Ex sent me a video of him getting head from someone else. On valentines day, when I was across the country at a job interview!

I was 5 adopted out of horrible foster homes and thought my new parents would love me. Nope! They abused me worse

At 15 was black out drunk and got assaulted by a 19 year old that was a loose acquaintance of my sister the same age. A week later she tells me she heard about it from her friends and in an embarrassed yet condescending way said she heard I got horny when drunk. That devastated me. Two or three years later she became an item with him and they dated for a while.

lol comment 1 had me dead, cats really do not give a single shit. but yeah the rest of this thread got real heavy fast, hope everyone's hanging in there

LDR girlfriend cheated on me after lying that the guy she was spending time with had a girlfriend. Never did another LDR as a result.

Boss trying to fire me.

My therapist who I trusted told me to stop talking, yelled and swore at me, then told me it was, 'tough love.' Never returned and put me off talk therapy for life.

I told an ex all of my fears and insecurities, one in particular stemming from years of watching my parents fight when I was a kid. She ended up weaponizing all of them against me. She'd try to push all my buttons to try and make me mad, and if I ever did, my reaction to her pushing my buttons became the basis for a fight I had no chance of winning. To this day, because she never cheated on me she claims she did "nothing wrong" in the relationship and I ended it for selfish reasons. The emotional abuse from her was so bad, honestly, her having sex with someone else would have been the least worst thing she could have done.

My now ex-wife told my friends that I was looking at kid p***. Her reasoning, there's no way all the women on p****** are of legal age. That's it. I hate how far that woman has pushed me into almost doing or saying things I might regret. Thank goodness I stayed clear headed

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I betrayed myself

I gave up a job that I loved and a home that I was in the middle of building to move out of state with my fiance to help care for his ailing father. My fiance lived in another state and was supposed to be moving in with me, but his father developed dementia and he said he couldn't leave him, which I totally understood. He asked me to move to where he lived to help him care for his father. I put in my two weeks notice at work and had my builder sell my house to another buyer. And what did I get for my love and devotion? I got there only to find out that his family was planning on putting the father into a nursing home. I gave up my life for nothing. My fiance wouldn't even hardly go see his father in the nursing home. I ended up breaking off the engagement.

Being lied to for many years and then told me to get over it. But my trust was betrayed and the person who lied put me in the situation over and over again but I didn't know that I was putting myself in danger again and again. And the worst part the liar was a family member

That my blue heeler doesn’t like to be touched the older he gets. All I want to do is hold him 😭😭

Found out my father wasnt really my father and 30 yrs later did a dna test only to find out the other man she said was, wasnt either... thats only one of a life time of lies

My manager threw me under the bus but the universe had my back lmao. 🤣

Cheating... but like for years... :/

I was about eight months pregnant and in the army away on training. My husband thought this would be a fabulous time to hire a Backpage hooker and pocket dial me while he was screwing her. It was one of the worst moments of my life, especially because he had our 15 month old with him while he did it. The shit topping on the cake is when I finally divorced him for it he responded by never seeing his children ever again, but telling everyone that I forced him out of their life.

A friend ghosted me nd then went and told people it was because I was a narcissist. No one believed him they saw how I used to do everything for him.

Mine is cookie cutter for my age and nationality, but divorce and she moved on quickly. I am the most analytical, rational pragmatic person ever, but I was a romantic. I believed in love and getting married forever. Ex wife did not, and told our kids her loony self justifying inventive rationalizing version of events, damaging my relationship with all of them. Since she can't keep friends, she used my daughters as her support group. Now ten years later they're all adults,and theyre starting to deduce that it must not be a continuous stream of people who have it out for their mom, and could possibly be their mother's self centered entitlement. Meanwhile I live steady and honest, like I always have

i became an accomplice to a cheating incident, and i didn't know until 2 years have already passed.