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What’s the most painful thing someone has said to you that you still remember ?

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Jessica_Elyse11 Mar 31, 2026 +3163
When I was in a hospital bed, severely unwell with an infection I got during chemotherapy treatment for stage 4 cancer: “You’re so selfish. You’ve been acting like a baby ever since you got diagnosed.” - My husband.
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gumheaded1 Mar 31, 2026 +1945
Your wasband?
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like_Turtles Mar 31, 2026 +102
Looked at comment history for another post “As sad as it is, I’m still married to him as I have no money to leave. I’ve just finished my treatment and am trying to find work so I can save enough money to leave him and leave this marriage for good.”
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mellowcrake Apr 1, 2026 +93
I wish I had a billion dollars so whenever I came across someone in a sad situation like this I could just fix their lives
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chantillylace9 Mar 31, 2026 +1031
If married woman gets cancer her husband is six times more likely to leave her than she is to leave him if he gets critically ill.
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Loqol Mar 31, 2026 +337
I could never. My wife has worked in many aspects of cancer treatment (med assisstant, clinical trails) and told me some doozies over the years. If she gets cancer, expect me to be as devoted as Robin Williams in Good Will Hunting. The term visiting hours will not apply.
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chantillylace9 Mar 31, 2026 +221
My husband is the same. We were not even married yet when I had my appendix burst (after going to the hospital at least five or six times telling them that it has to be my appendix, my mom, my sister, my aunt and my grandma all had their appendix burst and none of them showed up on scans which is exactly what was happening with me) and finally my appendix burst while I was there and had some major issues and needed three blood transfusions and was in the ICU for 10 days. I still have no idea what they did wrong or what they nicked when they were trying to remove my appendix, but they did something wrong that’s for sure. The medical record words gave no clue whatsoever. I was out of state away from my family and although no visitors are allowed to stay overnight in the ICU, you bet your butt we convinced them to let him stay and he stayed every single night with me. Our “through sickness and health” started before marriage and we are almost at the 20 year mark and I can honestly say we are truly happily married.
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Catmom2004 Mar 31, 2026 +13
Aww that is a wonderful story. Congratulations on having found and married a "keeper!" 👍👍👍 (I have never been fortunate enough to find a marriage partner but I am happy for those who have found a good one)
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SnooBananas7856 Mar 31, 2026 +62
This is encouraging. My husband and I have been married for over 25 years and I've had various cancers for even longer. He has literally nursed me back to life several times over. He is so kind and strong and good. He hasn't had life-threatening health issues, but I take care of him as much as I can and with all my heart. If he ever got sick, I'd be honoured to pay back the caregiving he has offered me for decades.
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name_withheld_1229 Mar 31, 2026 +124
I guess “in sickness and in health” in their marriage vows didn’t mean anything.
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Positive_Parsnip1947 Mar 31, 2026 +109
Sure it does. It means the same thing it did in my relationship. It means “In my sickness and your health”
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Tonerslut69 Mar 31, 2026 +43
My wife had cancer for 9 years in total and I was with her every step of the way.
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Icy-Quail6936 Mar 31, 2026 +13
Yep, I had stage 4 blood cancer and was signing divorce papers from my hospital bed.
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FunnyGoose5616 Mar 31, 2026 +10
When my mom had breast cancer, they literally gave her a pamphlet about how to get help and support if her husband decided to leave her. They gave them out to women automatically when they started chemotherapy.
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AhBee1 Mar 31, 2026 +22
Wish I could upvote this more.
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TemptationAngel Mar 31, 2026 +75
Ex-husband you mean, surely? 😠
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CIDR-ClassB Mar 31, 2026 +32
I am really sorry that happened; cancer brings so much stress and difficulty for patients and caregivers. Thankfully, my spouse was fantastic during my treatment but I had friends who drifted away and others who said that I looked fine so I must not be as sick as I said I was. I still hear that because the meds to keep my cancer in remission cause horrible side effects too sometimes. Hope you are healthy and well, today.
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GMO-Doomscroller Mar 31, 2026 +27
I got berated by my cousin for stressing out my abusive father with getting cancer. Hope you’re doing ok!
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Icy-Tomorrow-576 Mar 31, 2026 +22
That is awful! Over the bridge that one needs to go!
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wellagain45 Mar 31, 2026 +55
What an a******! I hope you're well and dumped his selfish ass.
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LouThomas2016 Mar 31, 2026 +37
Ouch. Are you still with him?
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Royalchariot Mar 31, 2026 +13
Well he sounds like a gem
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Darkschlong Mar 31, 2026 +1202
People don’t know how dumb you are if you don’t talk
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +132
jesus.
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[deleted] Mar 31, 2026 +80
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f0remsics Mar 31, 2026 +106
That wording is terrible, but the concept is fairly common. A better way to say it might be "better to remain silent and be thought a fool than open your mouth and remove all doubt" I'm not saying you're dumb, I'm just saying it's a fairly common piece of advice
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purplepugg Mar 31, 2026 +886
My mom said I can walk to school bc I’m not pretty enough to be kidnapped lol
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selfcheckout Mar 31, 2026 +321
Well not only is your mom a fuckin b****, she's also very stupid. Kidnappers don't care how you look.
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Bowzerthebrowser Mar 31, 2026 +92
Yeah I bet you'd be kidnapped, chin up it may still happen
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schwarzmalerin Mar 31, 2026 +177
Wow. Hating your own child. Internalized misogyny. What a vile person. I hope you removed her from your life.
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terriblethrills666 Mar 31, 2026 +34
My aunt used to tell me I didn't have to worry about getting kidnapped because I was fat.
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cozy_with_tea Mar 31, 2026 +27
I was always told to "just sit down" if anyone tries to grab me (because id be too heavy for them to lift) 🙄
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JustOneMoreAnonymous Mar 31, 2026 +1625
Listening to my mother argue on the phone with her ex-husband, she looked at me and said "-Step Fathers name- never loved you. He hates you and you are the reason he cheated on me" To which I could hear him through the phone yelling at her asking why the hell she's lying and saying that to me. Still hurt that she hurt me to hurt him.
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lucky_bastich Mar 31, 2026 +841
I'm so glad you heard him call her out on that.
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SporeWhore1994 Mar 31, 2026 +282
that’s horrifically cruel. i’m so sorry. you deserved so much better.
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SushiSlutRoll Mar 31, 2026 +25
jesus christ that’s actually so cruel… i’m so sorry your mom said that to you just to hurt him… no kid deserves to hear that from their own parent
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ExampleLittle2672 Mar 31, 2026 +74
I am so sorry that happened, you did not deserve it. Mine is the time in my early teens when each of my long separated, barely speaking parents individually, ​regretfully and with sadness told me how very unfortunate it was that I *was so much like the other one.*
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TheLizzyIzzi Mar 31, 2026 +28
My mom once told me she wouldn’t have married my dad and had kids with him if she’d known how bad his family’s mental health history was. She said it in an apologetic way. -____- I still love my mom but so many people should not be parents.
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SinamonChallengerRT Mar 31, 2026 +3514
6th grade "career day". When it came to my turn to stand up in front of the class and say what I wanted to be when I grew up, my 6th grade teacher, Stu Ehlin (real name because f*** Stu Ehlin), handed me a "help wanted" ad for a garbage man that he tore out of a newspaper and told me, "This is about as high as you'll go in life, so keep your aspirations to yourself." Kids immediately nicknamed me "garbage man" or "fred sanford". He deliberately tore that ad out of the paper to give to me. To ridicule me in front of the entire classroom. It was planned and pre-meditated. He was such a miserable f***, 20 yrs later, I crashed his funeral just to make sure he was dead.
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NorthernSparrow Mar 31, 2026 +892
That’s fucked in multiple ways, one of which is, nobody should be looking down on garbage men anyway! They’re essential workers who keep the neighborhood functional and clean and safe, they’re important for the environment (recycling programs, keeping trash and pollution out of streams etc), they’re hardworking and strong, and fyi they often make really good money too. It’s actually a solid and respectable career choice. All that said, it’s super fucked that a teacher would single out a kid for any sort of public shaming like that. Sorry you had such sucky teachers & classmates.
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Jrewy Mar 31, 2026 +496
Sanitation workers probably make a f*** ton more money than shitty old Stu ever did.
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oceanbucket Mar 31, 2026 +142
Was a teacher, can confirm. My cousin is also a higher up in the sanitation department in NYC and he has an about as much sway as the fire department commissioner—at the end of the day, one decision made by one stock broker only affects a handful of clients. One decision made by one brain surgeon only affects the patient he’s operating on at that moment (and their loved ones obviously, don’t come for me). One decision in the sanitation department can put an entire borough of New York out of operation for a week. It’s not a career to scoff at.
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Adventurous_Ad_6546 Mar 31, 2026 +80
Thank god for every sanitation worker. They are beyond important.
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AdmirableParfait3960 Mar 31, 2026 +139
Yea not that money is everything and I’m not trying to shit on teachers at all but…. A garbage man probably made double what OP’s shitty teacher made lol.
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dryer_32803 Mar 31, 2026 +39
I’m a teacher and I’m glad they make more than me. They are just as essential and deserve respect. There is no shame in making money, but shame in criticizing those who do.
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tjspeed Mar 31, 2026 +120
Man f*** Stu Ehlin. Miserable prick was probably just too sad with his own life and projecting.
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worqgui Mar 31, 2026 +83
All my homies hate Stu Ehlin.
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Yagirlvicc Mar 31, 2026 +138
F*** that guy…1. Because he tried to make a 10-11 year old feel less than and 2. Because there’s nothing wrong with being a garbage man. I appreciate the hell out of our garbage men.
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SinamonChallengerRT Mar 31, 2026 +47
Honestly, I think I over-tip my garbage men at Christmas time just because of this.
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Yagirlvicc Mar 31, 2026 +18
I love that and I know they do too! My uncle is a recycling man and he gets a lot of love around Christmastime. It can be a thankless job so it’s fantastic so many people show appreciation.
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DrummerLuuk Mar 31, 2026 +9
We should. When the garbage men strike, that’s when you see what am essential job it.
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Candid-Worker35 Mar 31, 2026 +207
Good for you! 👏🏻 how unkind to speak to any child/ young person like that. Any adult, particularly one involved in education should be encouraging and supportive. Hope you proved him wrong and he knew before he died.
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mostlybabel Mar 31, 2026 +135
It always amazes me how petty teachers can be. Oh wow, you planned an entire show to humiliate.... a 12 years old. Great prospects in life for you buddy. The highlight of your day. It doesn't get better when they open war on 16 years olds either.
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QueenCatLady100 Mar 31, 2026 +65
This teacher was probably one of those, "if you're being bullied, tell a teacher" ones, while actively bullying a child. What a piece of shit.
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NeedsMoreTuba Mar 31, 2026 +50
We had a teacher like that. He's living out his retirement in prison. I remember him telling this kid, in a similar fashion as you described, that they were "the poster child for abortion." I was too young to get why it was mean.
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wileybot Mar 31, 2026 +48
You should never say bad things about the dead, only good… Stu Ehlin is dead. Good
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FrankieTheMick Mar 31, 2026 +41
Hope the prick went slow
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SinamonChallengerRT Mar 31, 2026 +41
I say that all the time... and "I hope he knew it was coming."  To, me that's the greatest fear.
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selunite_espeon Mar 31, 2026 +43
F*** him. I had my math teacher (who DESPISED me) in 8th grade take my art binder, walked around the class while flipping through it, he got to my self portrait and said out loud to the entire class "*my name,* why did you draw yourself three times prettier than you actually are?" Killed 13yo me's little confidence and I was humiliated. He never got in trouble either.
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Tardisgoesfast Mar 31, 2026 +19
My dad would have gotten that teacher fired.
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Primary-Umpire-4105 Mar 31, 2026 +33
I joked about becoming a garbo in school and was constantly told starring out the window would get me no where, i ended up becoming a chef, 4 years off apprenticeship and threw in the towel after 18 years. I now make over 100k a year driving a garbage truck.
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tofudisan Mar 31, 2026 +53
ouch. My 11th grade English teacher had us write letters to our future selves. I wrote to myself about going to MIT. She responded that I was "aiming a bit high". I graduated in the top 1% of my class, but I didn't even apply to MIT because of her comment. Instead it launched a lifetime of imposter syndrome.
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enstead Mar 31, 2026 +35
You should've said, "I would aim low but then I don't want to be stuck as an 11th grade English teacher."
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BigRedNutcase Mar 31, 2026 +13
Kinda hilarious an English teacher has any idea what it would take to get into an engineering focused school.
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chicagoaway999 Mar 31, 2026 +27
I sincerely hope you are having an excellent life! Full of joy and people you love. Given what we know about this action on his part, he most likely had a miserable one.
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SinamonChallengerRT Mar 31, 2026 +20
Thank you so much for the kind words! That was really nice to hear in the middle of the workday! I hope you find happiness in every step of life as well!
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ktl2010 Mar 31, 2026 +29
My uncle worked for the NY Sanitation Dept & he retired at 55 & traveled the world with my aunt until they were both in their early 90's. F*** Stu Ehlin! Did you leave a bag of trash instead of flowers when you crashed his funeral?
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Aggravating_Yak_7080 Mar 31, 2026 +16
Wow, that was a very rude and insensitive act on his part.
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dodadoler Mar 31, 2026 +15
In a garbage truck?
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SinamonChallengerRT Mar 31, 2026 +48
I'm actually an administrator for the Dept. of Transportation now...
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Puzzleheaded_Lie6786 Mar 31, 2026 +20
Shut up! Isn’t that some level of poetic justice. You have a white collar job in the same division. Good for you!
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obiwanshinobi900 Mar 31, 2026 +30
6th grade? Unless your aspirations are to be an astronaut pilot, nothing you do until late high school really matters. Even then, I went to regular college, failed out, got bored, joined the military. I'm about to wrap up my MS degree and retire from AD military and get a pension for the rest of my life.
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picklepie87 Mar 31, 2026 +365
I was in sixth grade. My ‘boyfriend’ had two girls in my class call me to tell me he wanted to break up because ‘he finally looked at my face’. Yepp. Definitely not a core memory that keeps me up some nights.😐
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SporeWhore1994 Mar 31, 2026 +113
the monstrous cruelty of children can be so disturbing to look back on. i saw people subjected to such terrible psychological and emotional torture, as children, by other children, at a “very nice” sought-after and expensive high school for privileged kids. those kids are grown now and just walking around going to jobs. but the damage they did to others as children will never go away.
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Admirable-Fail1250 Mar 31, 2026 +31
What's also sad is some like myself were on both the receiving and giving sides. I wasnt cool enough to not get made fun of but I also wasn't low enough on the totem pole to not have some "below me" that I could make fun of and make myself feel better. 40+ years later I am still bothered by the things said to me but even more so by the things I said to others. So messed up.
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msdossier Mar 31, 2026 +457
This is pretty tame compared to some of the things yall have heard. When I was pretty little, probably like 6, my Sunday school teacher/best friends mom snapped at me while we were making crafts. I’ve always been one to ask a lot of questions. I don’t like doing things wrong if I can avoid it, and I’ve been that way since I had a brain developed enough to know what mistakes were. Anyways she said something like “how can you possibly not know how to do this. Stop asking questions, it makes you look dumb.” My sensitive little brain and heart reeeeeaaaally internalized that. For the next 20 years I would constantly be simultaneously wanting to understand things, but so self conscious of asking questions. F*** you cindy
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Particular-Maybe9208 Mar 31, 2026 +109
woah, it's criminal to kill a child's curiosity like that. hope you were able to get it back now
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msdossier Mar 31, 2026 +28
Mostly yes! I still struggle somewhat with how I’m perceived, but goddamit if I need to ask a question I’ll ask it.
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CrazyCatLushie Mar 31, 2026 +11
I’m autistic with ADHD but wasn’t diagnosed until adulthood. I was labelled “gifted” in fourth grade and after that, everything I struggled with even remotely - and there were a lot of things my undiagnosed neurodivergent brain understandably took more time than usual to figure out - my mom would say “Aren’t you supposed to be a genius or something? What’s wrong with you?” I distinctly remember struggling to tie my shoelaces and her yelling at me about how shoelaces aren’t hard so I must not have been actually trying. That kind of criticism sticks with a person for life and shapes how they think of themselves every day going forward.
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_TheTurtleBox_ Mar 31, 2026 +978
Spent a year in the hospital dying. Like actually 20 years old talking to priest and lawyers about my will and stuff (owned a business) My sisters showed up to “babysit” me despite not being asked too. The whole time she made post on her socials about being my caretaker and all this stuff and would take pictures of me. When I finally broke down about not wanting my death being a way for her to get instagram upvotes she called me ungrateful and a loser and said she didn’t have to be there to which I told her I know. She ended up leaving. She did the same thing when our grandma died, I was grandmas caretaker for about a year, this happened right after my ex fiancée died so I was emotionally raw. Grandma dies Thanksgiving morning, sister comes in and starts taking pictures of her kissing her forehead and im just like Jesus thats literally a corpse. She’s about twice my age too, which makes all this just super sad
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OverthinkingWanderer Mar 31, 2026 +259
It was a really weird day in mortuary science class when we brought up social media as a discussion topic. Made me realize people have been posing with corpses for decades and the internet just made it more shareable. I still don't know how I feel about it all but that's just my personal struggle.
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LesMiserableCat54 Mar 31, 2026 +57
I mean, I went to the museum of death in LA and they had an actual severed head, lots of photos of dead bodies, ect. But the room that really go me was there was a whole section dedicated to the Victorian practice of posing with young children who died (since the infant mortality rate was so high). They would pose them like they were still alive and sometimes the whole family would be in the portrait. Posing and photographing dead people has been around for centuries. I think it's just a way that people can process what's happened. Death makes people act weird. But I completely understand the struggle with it. I'm sure a good chunk of people aren't respectful about it.
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Galahfray Mar 31, 2026 +63
When my dad was dying my sister was mean to me the whole time, then literally 5 minutes before he died she was more worried about taking the perfect picture of her holding his hand then anything else. I’m so sorry
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sveinsh Mar 31, 2026 +13
Are you doing better now?
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_TheTurtleBox_ Mar 31, 2026 +77
As better as someone who lived through all that can be I guess? Happily Married, success career in my dream field, super laid back 9-5, and a Trogdor tattoo. So like yeah I think I'm doing better.
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Stillmaineiac88 Mar 31, 2026 +425
“I was getting laid before your plane touched down in Alaska.” Ex-wife when I deployed to Okinawa. I remember her, but I no longer give a shit about her or anything she said.
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asleepunderthebridge Mar 31, 2026 +98
Are you my dad or was this just crazy common for guys shipping out to Okinawa?
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Stillmaineiac88 Mar 31, 2026 +86
Unfortunately, it’s pretty common to both men and women in all branches of the military. FWIW, if you were born in late 1987, it could be possible…
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Chemical-Sun2233 Mar 31, 2026 +614
“I thought you were going to be one of my brightest and smartest students and you proved me wrong” - My fifth grade teacher 🫩 I was 10 and self harming and my home situation wasn’t the best at the time. I was struggling in school as a result. She was the worst lol
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QueenMotherOfSneezes Mar 31, 2026 +92
My grade 10 English teacher hated me, and I couldn't figure out why until near the end of the year when my best friend (who had known her in grade 9) told me that after our very first class, she told her that I was "a smart ass just like her brother" I know I hadn't actually said anything in class that day because she didn't call on me when I raised my hand for the first 2 weeks of class. Turns out my older brother had outed her in the school paper about 4 years prior for smoking pot in the teachers' bathroom. At our school, if you had at least 70% in a class at the end of the year, you could be exempted from the final exam. It was a privilege, not a right. I was worried she was going to make me write the exam just out of spite, but when she showed me my final grade, she had rounded it up from 78 to 80, and said she did so because she "didn't want to have to even look at your name again, much less anything you write". I just kept my mouth shut about the exemption being 70 and not 80 🤣
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +75
Oh no! What a cow.
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Navi1101 Mar 31, 2026 +113
Nah, cows are useful and only spew shit out of one end
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DragonfruitSecure458 Mar 31, 2026 +995
Your son has Autism. He is never going to speak or go to the bathroom by himself. (He graduates high school this year. Years of Speech therapy and a lot of effort, but he is going to go to college).
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IOl0I0lO Mar 31, 2026 +117
That’s awful. I have a friend who had a nonverbal incontinent kid (she’s now 10), and they love her to bits, but it’s not the life or the kid they thought they were going to have.
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Redknight75 Mar 31, 2026 +83
My daughter also has autism. I was told almost exactly the same thing when she was diagnosed. The doctor also said, "my daughter would be in an institution by the time she was 11 or 12." Now my daughter works in a library and will be graduating with her Master's Degree by the end of the year. She also has a long-term boyfriend.
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britbmw Mar 31, 2026 +35
Whoever said that can F*** ALL THE WAY OFF. A pediatrician told that to my mom regarding my developmentally delayed sister. No she won’t live on her own, but she’s a real person who can do all the things he said she can’t (never walk, never talk). She uses a device to communicate and she’s actually why I became a Speech Therapist. No matter how “severe” a child’s delay is, we can find some way to help them.
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Excellent_Editor_501 Mar 31, 2026 +421
"We never listen when you talk because you never have anything interesting to say". And so I never talked to them again or really talked about anything to anyone in reality. I don't open up to people. I only talk about what they are talking about. No one offline shares my same interests and I don't care to make any friends anymore.
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SuperNovaHowl Mar 31, 2026 +64
It takes me a while to get over anxiety if talking to anyone because I was bullied through my entire school life. Online it's easier, but irl, unless you come to me, I more than likely won't associate
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sirvoggo Mar 31, 2026 +30
Would you mind telling me about your interests? I love talking with peopke about that. It’s inspiring and could rise interest for the other person too! I am all into birds, astronomy, aviation, drawing, painting, typography. I’ve inspired others to look into those as well. :) What do you like?
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X_Wheeze_souffle Mar 31, 2026 +141
My ex partner, who championed himself as a feminist. Told me I had "independent woman energy" in a shitty way (Like you think you're so self important and hot) because I went bowling with my adult son once a week. Partner was always invited and declined to participate. It changed how I thought about him immediately. I was in my 50s at the time, not hot lol. I ended the relationship shortly after.
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scipio0421 Mar 31, 2026 +278
My high school bully called me a "diaper wearing cripple" (I have Spina bifida and therefore incontinence and difficulty walking) on the day my parent's divorce was finalized.
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Cinnamon2017 Mar 31, 2026 +114
You have to know anyone who would say something like that, really hates themselves desperately.
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scipio0421 Mar 31, 2026 +93
Yeah he really did. We eventually buried the hatchet and we're friends now.
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SporeWhore1994 Mar 31, 2026 +33
you’re a really cool guy. keep being cool.
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effective09succotash Mar 31, 2026 +15
That's incredible. I don't know if I would have had the same strength. I wish you well.
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Mbluish Mar 31, 2026 +311
My mom told me that my cousin was a better daughter to her than I am.
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iamhere-2 Mar 31, 2026 +60
Yep, I feel you. My mom has compared me to my cousins my entire life, and she still does even while I’m in my 30s now.
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Away_Swim1967 Mar 31, 2026 +34
Sounds like someone is looking forward to being helped in their old age by a non child of theirs
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Theyallknowme Mar 31, 2026 +66
My mom used to tell me I came out holding her birth control pills in my hand. Meaning I wasn’t wanted and the pills didn’t work. Thanks mom.
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cowPoke1822 Mar 31, 2026 +17
Funny story. My mother used to call me her “foam-rubber” baby…. Still laughing about life’s unexpected “surprises”
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +12
UGH! What a parent.
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PikkiNikki13 Mar 31, 2026 +103
My cousin who was always like a sister told me that I was a miserable person who no one wanted to be around and that once my mom dies, I will have no one and be all alone.  All I did was finally put my foot down and told her no. 
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fizzycherryseltzer Mar 31, 2026 +16
That’s f****** cruel. I have one daughter and she is close to all her 4 girl cousins - I hope to God that would never be said to her. That would crush me. Sorry that happened to you. ❤️
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beccadahhhling Mar 31, 2026 +192
Repeated multiple times throughout my childhood, starting around the age of 5: “Keep eating! You’re gonna be as big as a house and no one will love you!” My parents had 3 children who all became obese before we even hit elementary school. And they blamed us for it. They bought nothing but junk food and then blamed us for eating it because it was unhealthy. They made fun of me for trying to start an exercise regime when I was in middle school even though they had bought a bunch of used gym equipment at a yard sale and kept it out in the garage for that very purpose. They laughed at how sweaty and out of breath I was. So I quit. To this day, my mother is obese herself but is the first person to comment on someone else’s body. It’s so fucked up. I refuse to allow her to say those comments around my son. I’m almost 40 and still struggle to this day with my weight and self-worth. I probably always will.
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cloudyskytoday Mar 31, 2026 +20
I am so sorry you went through that. They set you up for failure. I hope one day you will be able to make peace with your body, no matter the shape or form.
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Successful_Hope6604 Mar 31, 2026 +279
“Your best isn’t good enough” Nice one Dad 👌
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Last-Relationship166 Mar 31, 2026 +90
Solidarity. Aren't parents grand? One of my dad's classic lines was, "C'mere...let me show you how much you're costing us..." before showing me a medical bill for a surgery I needed to keep me alive. His most recent was, " is heading to . She just been hired to work at that country's embassy...and here *you are*..." before he inevitably adopted the shit eating grin that appears on his face any time he disparages me. Mind you, this took place when I was in town for my uncle's wake. Also, I make a six figure income. I've been married for 21 years (19 at that point). I haven't talked to him since. We go through these cycles where I'll engage with him after relenting to my wife's prodding, and he'll do something like that. I won't talk to him for a period of time. Lather, rinse, repeat... I can't tell if I'm Sisyphus or Prometheus.
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ChefKugeo Mar 31, 2026 +83
Just tell your wife you're done. My father is on his death bed and my only response when asked to come see him was, "Can I go see the cat he made me abandon at a random apartment complex the day after my dog died? Same answer."
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NeedsMoreTuba Mar 31, 2026 +39
"Sometimes your best won't be good enough, but as long as you really tried your best, then we will both be proud regardless." -Me, to my kid, because my dad was just like yours.
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Rosaly8 Mar 31, 2026 +10
Right back at ya is the best response to that.
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Marthamem Mar 31, 2026 +9
My ex-husband said that to me, and sadly it still pops up in my mind sometimes when I’m trying to do something
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Efficient-Shirt-6869 Mar 31, 2026 +165
“I didnt know how to love until your sister was born”.
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +29
oooh - thanks a bunch. Ouch
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toupsnthewoods Mar 31, 2026 +74
Actually, I have two. My mom once said to me “you’re just like your father”. That is something I never aspired to be other than to have his intellect and sense of humor. They weren’t even divorced. We were a family. She didn’t say it kindly and I knew her intent. The other example was an employer who, upon hearing my reason for leaving the job, replied “you’re a goddamn fool making a goddamn mistake.” Unfortunately, he was right. Never follow a man out of state whom you don’t know 110%.
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +289
With a voice like that you'll never find a husband.
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twotwothreefour Mar 31, 2026 +183
Jesus. I remember this company all hands once (zoom), this woman was speaking to everyone, and this other woman had herself unmuted, and said (to someone else in the room with her I assume) “ugh, yeah I just don’t like her voice”. It was shocking. But the speaker lady handled it perfectly—she let the person know she was unmuted, kept the presentation going, then even made a really good little joke about it at the end. I thought she was cool as hell after that. It was so impressive. Also her voice was fine?! And I had no respect for the mean lady after that. Who f****** does that, making fun of someone’s voice? Was she 13?? How low.  Anyway, long story short—the person that said that to you ain’t shit.
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catsareniceDEATH Mar 31, 2026 +52
"You're my daughter; I *have* to love you." 🥺 "You're damaged goods." (From an ex, who wasn't an ex at the time. And, no, he didn't stop at just that.) I genuinely can't decide which has hurt or stayed with me the most.
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SyberKai Mar 31, 2026 +57
My mother told me she had multiple miscarriages before and after having me, which I doubt due to her compulsive lying. But she used to say "I wish I had seven miscarriages, not six." I've been no contact since 2021, that shit still haunts me.
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Wheels682021 Mar 31, 2026 +51
Maybe if a different family adopted you you would have had a better life
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sauerkraut916 Mar 31, 2026 +23
I am so sorry… I am adopted and my intuition tells me you were insulted because you dared to question your adoptive parents’ actions, or you voiced pain over being treated harshly. Or abused. I have been told this as well. At 16 months old, I was adopted by a fundamentalist christian family who were abusive in many ways. As a grown adult when I was 50, my big brother whom I dearly love (parent’s bio son) told me I should have been left in _______ (3rd world country) because maybe I would have liked that better. Him saying that after our whole lives broke me to the point I needed in-patient psych hospital care.
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Every-Chest-1413 Mar 31, 2026 +54
Got my crown put on my implant, my mom said “that looks great, too bad they can’t fix your face!” I have Lupus and have scars on my face from it. I immediately hung up on her and didn’t speak to her for over 5 years.
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MorriganDemyse Mar 31, 2026 +88
My father singing "fatty fatty two by four, can't get thru the kitchen door" thinking he was funny. I was in sixth grade, chubby but not obese
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wellagain45 Mar 31, 2026 +12
I can relate
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Sweet-Lady-H Mar 31, 2026 +86
“You ruined my life” and “you’re the reason I don’t have parents” Both from my bio mom (which I hate calling her that so egg donor/over/bride of Satan/whatever else). My grandparents adopted me when I was somewhere between 2 and 4. She said these things to me when I was in my 20s (I’m in my late 30s now). I have two half brothers that she raised and they are absolute train wrecks in multiple ways and she keeps them like that so they depend on her (one is 26 and the other is 29 - both still living with her).
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fallinaditch Mar 31, 2026 +23
Another fun one to call those types of despicable human beings is "cervix slide" that's what I call mine. Mine used to call me a mistake, I stole her beauty, and she hated me because he loved me more than her. I was his first born. So I was special to the entire side of the family!
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PotatoPixie90210 Mar 31, 2026 +41
Someone once told me that I should cover my mouth when I laugh, because I show too much gum when I smile. I'm a naturally bubbly, smiley person and that SHATTERED 15yr old me. Over 20 years later and I still catch myself trying to inconspicuously cover my mouth when I smile.
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InstructionFamous990 Mar 31, 2026 +79
I had a miscarriage and my grandma said: “Thats good, you wouldn’t be a good mother anyway.”
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fkntiredbtch Mar 31, 2026 +38
My best friend and her 2yr old was living with us at the time and we had been discussing a particular difficulty she was having with her kid. I told her, "I don't know all the personal emotional difficulties with your situation but after raising my siblings this is what I can offer...." and she said, "with all due respect, you didn't raise them." She knew. She knew the lengths I had gone to to keep them safe, the overtime I had worked, the food banks I had walked to and worked at. She knew everything. It was an absolutely devastating blow to our friendship and we had so many conversations and apologies in the months following. We're still friends but it's not the same.
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Warm_Kiwi2567 Mar 31, 2026 +448
When I came out as trans, the next morning I sheepishly told my mom “I love you” to which she said: “I am no longer obligated to love you because you are not the child I gave birth to.”
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Loud_Fisherman_5878 Mar 31, 2026 +148
I’m sorry, you deserved so much better than that.
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ImLookingatU Mar 31, 2026 +50
Holy shit! I could never say that to my kids.
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IntelligentPotato331 Mar 31, 2026 +36
That is so fucked. I’m so sorry
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Illustrious_Bird_737 Mar 31, 2026 +28
That broke my heart. I am so sorry sweetheart, you didn't deserve that.
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m_faustus Mar 31, 2026 +63
Your mom is a super huge b****.
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Dragishawk Mar 31, 2026 +20
Wow. That is *fucked.*
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_Pliny_ Mar 31, 2026 +25
She’s a failure as a parent for saying that.
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Warm_Kiwi2567 Mar 31, 2026 +30
She, of course, denies it ever happened
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Cryano Mar 31, 2026 +15
Why do they always do this? My mom is the same way. Like, why would I make up some crazy trauma to blame on you, lady? 
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Warm_Kiwi2567 Mar 31, 2026 +15
As a psychology enthusiast I know the answer, but that doesn’t change the fact. It’s just that their emotional reaction was so far from alignment to their actual self evaluation and values, that they blocked it out of their memory. It’s like a false memory, but a lack there of
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MisterXnumberidk Mar 31, 2026 +55
Well then, she is no longer the mother who birthed you. What a way to demote oneself to utter b****
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UrsaMinor42 Mar 31, 2026 +208
I grew up super poor, so I was told, if you want to travel and do big things, you got to get someone to pay for it. So, I did. Did anything needed to get cool jobs. I've fought forest fires, harnessed horses, pulled nets on a big lake, did dressing rooms for the Rolling Stones, Pink Floyd, Metallica and got yelled at by the lead singer of Def Leppard, worked in an underground nuclear research lab, had a biker mentor, and got yelled at in Chinese factory by the factor owner. All before I was 25. I have found it super disappointing that rich kids have consistently thought my life wasn't possible. For some reason, they can't fathom that a poor guy could have all these experiences. But I've slept on floors, worked long hours, and have gone the extra mile to have them. Not so much "painful" to be accused of lying, but it is something that I have experienced 2-3 times from people I thought were my friends.
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Cinnamon2017 Mar 31, 2026 +82
You didn't get someone else to pay for it, you paid for it yourself by working. Good job 👍
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carrndriver Mar 31, 2026 +13
I really want to know why Joe (Def Leppard) yelled at you, lol! I don't idolize them but have not heard much negative said about any of that group. Hope it wasn't too bad!
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UrsaMinor42 Mar 31, 2026 +35
I was carrying a big cooler full of ice, booze, and pop into their dressing room. It was in a hockey arena so the rooms all had long wooden benches. Def Poopard's lead singer was unloading his suitcase and had put a pile of folded t-shirts on the long bench. I put down the big cooler full of drinks and ice, one bench over. His pile of t-shirts fell on its side. Still on the bench. HE. LOST. HIS. MIND. Started freaking out, swearing at me, and called his manager. I wasn't allowed back in their dressing room. Not sure if the fact that I am very obviously from a minority group that can sometimes have a bad rep had anything to do with it. He got very emotional about a very small thing. Fulfilling the rider and setting up the dressing rooms was usually my job. So, I found something else to do. The guitarist (the little one) asked for lactose-free ice cream. This was the early 90s and such stuff was rare in this small city. So I says to him, "Come to the mall and we'll find what you want together." He says, "I'll get mobbed!!" I says, "No one will care who you are." So, we go to the mall. One teenaged girl waved at him from across the mall and kept walking. Didn't even stop. He was pretty freaked out, but he welcomed being able to walk through the mall without being mobbed. The mall didn't have any lactose-free ice cream, due to it being Canada in the 90s. I believe it was their first tour with the drummer only having one arm.
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carrndriver Mar 31, 2026 +15
Ohhh, yeah, that's from the wayback machine! Thanks for sharing, sorry he was a t***, lol. Love the shopping trip, that's hilarious. I'm proud of you and you have a lifetime of stories for all that hard work:)
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BigSuggestion9664 Mar 31, 2026 +68
After my Dad died they asked if my Mom really wanted me around and that she probably wanted to date but I was keeping her from it. They then proceeded to question if my siblings really wanted me around. The person and I were in the middle of a road trip. I regret not dropping them on the side of the road and turning around.
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mugshade1 Mar 31, 2026 +69
My music teacher on school told me I have zero musical talent . Still remember 65 years later .
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dilemmna Mar 31, 2026 +33
"I wonder if you'll be fat when you grow up." Thanks dad.
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pgbgrammarian1956 Mar 31, 2026 +31
“Your parents got better at making girls after they had you.”
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Phenomena_Veronica Mar 31, 2026 +54
“Maybe you should have been raped as a child, at least then you’ll have an excuse for being fucked up mentally.” My mother when I had severe postpartum depression and anxiety.
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Vertasoie Mar 31, 2026 +118
My younger sister said to me : i know i will have a great life because i only will have to do the contrary of your decisions each time you do something. I was 13 she was 8 . And i still remember it.
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Belleaigle Mar 31, 2026 +53
oooh. Burn skills at age 8! Says more about how things were at home for you both than about her in particular
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ohlovely Mar 31, 2026 +28
“You live in a shitty house in a shitty neighborhood.” Said to me by my (former) partner. I was a single mom of 4 starting over from scratch, and had actually tried really hard to make my home look nice and welcoming. To this day, I am extremely touchy regarding comments about my home.
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SporeWhore1994 Mar 31, 2026 +9
you’re badass and i bet your home was beautiful. he was trying to tear you down because he saw you doing well without him.
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Healthy-Panda-7936 Mar 31, 2026 +26
Sister drunkenly told me that she wished I’d died with my fiance. He died in a car accident a year before she said that. It’s been almost ten years since she said that and I’ve never forgotten it.
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No-exit_lifes2Long86 Mar 31, 2026 +25
It's one of my childhood memories that sticks with me I caught my mom and dad having sex when they were divorced one day and my dad came out threw me through my bedroom door and I started having an asthma attack and he threw my inhaler at my head and said I would let you die but it's illegal
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Ghost1012004 Mar 31, 2026 +26
“Your daughter was involved in an accident and she didn’t make it.” (Coroner’s Assistant on 5/7/2004 at approximately 6:30 pm)
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bellpeppers123 Mar 31, 2026 +46
“I love you but I don’t like you” - my mom
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LifeFantastic123 Mar 31, 2026 +14
I heard this one as well. It was at a time when I was really struggling too. Never forgot it, and it's been almost 20 years.
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Powerfluffgirl20 Mar 31, 2026 +22
When I was 18 my mum took a photo of me, looked at it and said you're actually quite pretty, in a shocked tone
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sarczynski Mar 31, 2026 +19
I was 21, living in a shelter with newborn twins. Put them into daycare at 6 weeks old so I could keep doing my online college classes at the local library. Talking to my mom on the phone "only bad moms put their babies into daycare. Youre letting someone else raise your kids." I will never forget these exact words. The degree i earned from those college classes has allowed me to support my babies. Ill never regret that.
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AndNowAStoryAboutMe Mar 31, 2026 +17
I loved him and hooked up with him a few times... then we turned 16 and he got a girl pregnant and disappeared. He ended up with a bad drug problem. Went to jail for meth. Five years passed and he reached out on social media and we went to get Chinese and talk. At the end of the meal, his fortune cookie said, "Everything you need is sitting right beside you." He looked then other way, into an empty seat, and said, "Where?" And I stared into my sweet and sour sauce for a full on minute before silently walking to my car. I just drove off, leaving him there, and never responded to him again. 10 years later, zero regrets. He got the life he deserved and I did right by me.
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SuperNovaHowl Mar 31, 2026 +38
"No offense, but I thought you were a guy for a second." "You have a big nose, you look like a witch." "I have to work with her? Eww, ugh, gross!" "You need plastic surgery." "I wish I had your body! You can keep your b**** though." "Maybe you should get a b*** job." The last three were said to me by "friends" at the time.
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Cowhampshire Mar 31, 2026 +36
Age about 12. Not a beauty for sure. I asked my mother what was my best feature. She just stared at me for a while and finally said. “Your smile.” At least she thought of something! I don’t know why this was so painful, but coming to grips that I would be loved for something other than my looks turned out to be a good thing.
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cowPoke1822 Mar 31, 2026 +16
“I hate you and NO ONE here can stand you! “ my brother when I travel back to my hometown for our father’s funeral. I had not been there in 20 years. Those “people” did not know me anymore. Everyday I strive to be a better version of myself.
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CelebrationFar2804 Mar 31, 2026 +47
Deary me I'm only 18 but the verbal abuse is just so much that there's so many I could give. Here's one I was told: *You should \_\_\_\_ yourself. No-one loves you. The world will be a better place without you. You have no friends. Ever since you were born you have been nothing but a burden and you still and always will be a burden.*
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wellagain45 Mar 31, 2026 +20
I hope you can get far away from whoever said these things. They are the problem, not you.
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CelebrationFar2804 Mar 31, 2026 +10
This is literally the types of people I'm surrounded by all my life of 18 years. These were the ones who would verbally abuse you, beat you up physically and mentally for no reason, just for the fun of it. I learnt that no-one would care about me. Basically I've lived my whole life alone, cautious. Trusting no-one. It's sad but for me it's survival. I just wish there were good and beautiful people that I could meet and become actual friends not like the fakes in my life. I wish I could just trust someone and for them to love me like how I love people and how I am as a person. It just makes me want to do it so badly.
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Drone314 Mar 31, 2026 +13
Had a female friend go absolutely ape shit on me for essentially not lying to my/her friends about something I had no idea I was supposed to lie about. She said the most vial things to me that no one who I've ever even considered a friend would say. The exact verbiage has been lost to memory but I was wound up for like 6 months, it was like the power of the Dark Side washed over me, lost like 25 pounds. Looking back this is also one of those "dodged a nuclear strike" moments, it's a good thing we didn't hook up. We're still acquaintances to this day, same friends circle and all, but while I have forgiven I will never forget. When someone tells you who they are and what they're capable of, believe them.
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boymama85 Mar 31, 2026 +29
Too many to count.....who will marry you with a belly like that? I was 13.....
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Spartabear Mar 31, 2026 +30
In college we were playing a game where you had to spin a bottle and whoever it landed om, you had to say if you would ever date that person. A female friend of mine said "No hes yucky" when it landed on me. Id laugh it off nowaday, but as a chubby, insecure 17 yr old i was utterly wounded.
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J0LTED Mar 31, 2026 +12
"I hope you get blood poisoning and die." My 4th grade teacher when i excitedly showed him how i scribbled pen on an eraser, and pressed it to my skin to make a "tattoo". Id never been told sonething so horrible at that point in my life. I literally couldnt process it. He did other a****** stuff too. - he was explaining to the class that being in a portable was convenient because to start the computers at the back all he had to do was stomp on the floor (it shook the mouse and woke them from blackscreen.) But when he demonstrated it woke 2 of 3. I stomped next to get the 3rd and when it worked, i looked back at him to see he had a pisssd off look and he just asked "what is wrong with you?" - I handed in a worksheet and just happened to bring my pencil. He asked me "what are you doing with that? Are you planning to stab me?". - i was a doodler. He told the girl that sat across from me that if she sees me doodling, to slam her desk into mine. She did and knocked all my stuff out of my desk. I asked her what the hell and she said the teacher told her to do it. I looked over to him and he just sat there smiling this shit eating grin. Guy was a miserable prick. Not sure what i did to piss him off but he had it out for me. I never told any other adults because i felt they wouldnt believe me. He was comically evil.
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Reasonable-Marzipan4 Mar 31, 2026 +13
I was in the third grade. My parents had had it out before school. Mom was still hysterical when she dropped me off at school. I remember she said “you are the reason we are getting divorced” as I got out to go inside school. I was hysterical in the bathroom all morning.
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ChuckaChuckaLooLoo3 Mar 31, 2026 +12
Was at a dinner party with what I thought were good friends. At some point, the host made a comment about how my partner and I were his "b-listers". It put a definite hole in the relationship which eventually fizzled out entirely. Even his own relationship died a few months later which was understandable because apparently he was a covert a******.
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Namulp Mar 31, 2026 +25
"Well f*** time to brush my teeth again" I finally had the courage to go to the dentist for a checkup and had my teeth fixed for a few small cavities. She got angry because I didn't tell her that I had cavities which is fair enough but she really had to say that line after. Really messed with my mental state because I felt like this is something you really don't say to someone unless your intent was to hurt them on purpose and it did
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cautionarymay Mar 31, 2026 +28
After admitting he raped me, when he took it back and said he didn't do it, my "best friend" sent me a message on Facebook that simply read: "We just want to make sure you didn't kill yourself over this, we know how you get." She had originally believed me, even picked me up from the ER after I got the kit done, but said I was dramatic and made it up when he said it didn't happen. She also routinely called me Practice Run because I'm good practice for men to become better partners and she told everyone "Cautionarymay only compliments people to make them like her, she never means it" which is why I am incredibly explicit that I mean what I say, say what I mean, and compliment sincerely.
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iliketorubherbutt Mar 31, 2026 +12
I really hope that "best friend" isn't still in your life.
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SirWalterPoodleman Mar 31, 2026 +10
I don’t care what you think, how you feel, where you are, what you do. I don’t think about you, ever. My life wouldn’t change if you were gone.
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heyhellohigoobye Mar 31, 2026 +11
‘No wonder he killed himself!’ - text from my (former) best friend after I took too long to respond to her text. My bf passed a few months prior, that was a rough time. I couldn’t believe someone could say something so evil, especially someone who’d supposedly cared about me.
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LDawnBurges Mar 31, 2026 +11
You can always have another baby. And God needed her. Bother were well intentioned and both were said after my 5.5 month old Daughter passed away due to SIDS.
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diabolicaldon1 Mar 31, 2026 +11
"No" -my father when asked by a family counselor if he even loves his son
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girltrekkie Mar 31, 2026 +11
I had a miscarriage of a much wanted baby at about 20 weeks. We found out at an ultrasound that he was gone. Called my mom on the way home. My mom said, "I'm sorry you had a bad day." Yeah. So that happened.
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CatsGotMyBack Mar 31, 2026 +11
When I told my mom that I had been taken advantage of several times by an older boy one summer when I was like 10 or 11. I told her that when I was maybe in my thirties. I have not been intimate with anyone since that boy took advantage of me. My mom said in a kind of snotty voice "well I guess you can't call yourself a virgin then". She died a couple years ago at the age of 90. I never confided in her about anything after that to her dying day.
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FederalBad444 Mar 31, 2026 +11
I was born 7 weeks premature, developing (current) heart murmurs and short-gut syndrome. My mother and father split quickly after, leaving my father to raise me by himself. One day, when I was 13, I was at a friend’s house with my RockBand guitars and drum set, I just bought it from FYE using money I saved. So excited to play it!! I wasn’t supposed to be there. Tornado sirens started. My dad drove from friend house to friend house looking for me. I told him I was going to be with this specific friend by name. My dad knew where he lived. The winds picked up, the sirens blared, and my father’s temper boiled. After putting my things in the truck, he yelled profusely and then said this “if I knew you were going to be this much of a f****** problem I would have left you at the hospital.”
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fineok_17 Mar 31, 2026 +19
"When I met you I thought you were a shell of a person with no personality." My brain: "thanks, I'm severely depressed and traumatized"
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NastyLittleBagginses Mar 31, 2026 +9
I once got up the courage to ask a girl out in 8th grade, and she laughed. Turned out she thought I was joking, but still... ouch.
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DucktapeCorkfeet Mar 31, 2026 +9
I knew it anyway but my mother saying she’d never wanted me. My father reiterated it after she told me. I left home right after that. I was 17.
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New-Bar-1952 Mar 31, 2026 +9
I gained weight during my pregnancy and was dieting after my baby was born. One night I was bending over the couch changing a diaper & my ex said “ Who’d want to f**k that”. I still think about that even after 48 years.
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thene0n1 Mar 31, 2026 +9
In the 12th grade, I became severely depressed after a lot of not so great things happening in my life. My family is low income, and work a lot of customer service jobs. I had aspirations to go to university, but because of the depression, my grades slipped. I started missing a lot of school, was being bullied online and became suicidal - when months ago I was a field hockey team captain, social head for student council, a generally engaged and happy student. A conference was called to decide what to do with me. My principal, and vice principal in front of me and my mother said “Well it’s not like you’re going to university. You won’t need to achieve much, just scrape by. You’d be great at *insert a customer service job*”. For some reason, that broke me. I loved my family and was proud no matter what, but it felt like in that moment they told me my aspirations to achieve more were never going to happen so give it up. Happy to say that I didn’t - I graduated on time, went on to university (after a gap year taking some additional courses to bolster my application), graduated on Deans List for my university then went onto get a Masters in Occupational Therapy. I work now in mental health helping people achieve what they want and boy does it feel good, but those comments stuck regardless.
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