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What's your most shallow dealbreaker for a relationship?

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TwoOk5044 Mar 30, 2026 +1786
Can't have my dad or brother's names. Won't even consider it.
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penny_longhorn Mar 30, 2026 +443
That or my shitty ex boyfriend’s name.
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Magerimoje Mar 30, 2026 +148
I dated 3 guys with the same name. 😂
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SpankySharp1 Mar 30, 2026 +167
"My first ex-wife’s name is Tammy, my second ex-wife’s name is Tammy. My Mom’s name is Tamara… she goes by Tammy."
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alfalfa_spr0uts Mar 30, 2026 +23
r/unexpectedparksandrec
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FlyBulky106 Mar 30, 2026 +48
Fourth time’s the charm though, right?
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TGWsharky Mar 30, 2026 +113
I never had any hard lines on dating someone with my sister's name until my sister got married to a guy with my name. Once is a coincidence, twice is a pattern. Not letting that happen.
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eywede Mar 29, 2026 +2058
Loud chewing. I know it's shallow. I know. But if I can hear you eating cereal from the next room this isn't going to work and I'd rather be honest about it now than fake a smile through 40 years of breakfast.
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Auxocratic Mar 30, 2026 +338
Not shallow. I once dated someone who moaned while they ate along with chewing loudly.
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LatinAsianBee Mar 30, 2026 +124
Moaned like showing some enjoyment while eating , or..?? 💀
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Auxocratic Mar 30, 2026 +121
"Don't stop" moaning
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SquirrellyDud Mar 30, 2026 +50
Man I like cereal, but not that much 💀
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Beliriel Mar 30, 2026 +48
My current flatmate does this. Not always but sometimes she sounds like she's getting railed on the kitchen table while eating whatever tf bland vegan shit she threw together. Like sugarless saltless granola out of bare oats and no flavorings. Oh and she doesn't eat 85% of veggies. No shade on veganism. But eating vegan doesn't mean your food has to be the same consistency as the demon cum you're summoning with your random moans.
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w_wh_mWGAT Mar 30, 2026 +27
I had a friend who's mom did that. Went for dinner at her place once, every bite her mom took was open mouth chewing, lip smacking, and audible moaning. It drove me NUTS. Never went back there again.
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morbidemadame Mar 29, 2026 +115
I'm totally with you. I had to stop seeing a friend because he was not only chewing loudly, but he was also clearing his throat every minute.
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Treacle_Moon Mar 30, 2026 +76
Unfortunately this is my mum. Loud, mouth open chewer, always clearing her throat so loudly, even with her mouth open. And those arent the only noises. And no consideration of how much I can't stand it. I distance myself from her for that reason alone, just because it makes me feel sick to be near her and I can't help it. She can but chooses not to. As a child, if I asked her politely to do something different, she would do the opposite on purpose. So I learned not to complain. It was awful. I find it so inconsiderate. She doesn't care.
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Opening-Raccoon-2811 Mar 29, 2026 +290
If someone is a grown adult and still chews with their mouth open they weren’t taught proper manners as a child
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Full-One5641 Mar 29, 2026 +145
It’s not shallow. I broke up with a partner because of how loud they chew and because they slurp their coffee
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Anxious_Cucumber6901 Mar 29, 2026 +64
I’m irritated just reading this 🤣
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stlmoon Mar 30, 2026 +46
That might not be about being shallow. You may suffer from misophonia.
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Feisty-Quality6143 Mar 30, 2026 +756
Someone who talks about money constantly
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DigNitty Mar 30, 2026 +57
Man, my roommate in college used to count money in front of women. He was the acting landlord so he usually had copious amount of cash on hand that he “had to have by a certain due date” : rent. But he never cashed it. He would just save it up and count it in from of women “I think I’ll count the rent.” You’d think every girl would roll her eyes. And most did. But the special few totally fell for it. They were awful and they deserved each other.
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HabaneroPepperPlants Mar 30, 2026 +19
> You’d think every girl would roll her eyes. And most did. But the special few totally fell for it. They were awful and they deserved each other. This is what gets me about the manosphere guys who want to make lots of money to get a girlfriend. Like, why exactly would you even want somebody who cares that much about someone else's money?
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showMeYourCroissant Mar 30, 2026 +11
Sex, they want sex.
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soosoomaster Mar 30, 2026 +49
Not shallow in the least, imo
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mandiek3825 Mar 29, 2026 +2506
Bad spelling
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Rooney_Tuesday Mar 30, 2026 +837
And here’s me thinking I didn’t have one. Add me to this list, because I would 100% break up with someone who didn’t know “your” from “you’re”.
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sir_mrej Mar 30, 2026 +455
Your missing out
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mrp8528 Mar 30, 2026 +298
That's just you're opinion
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JaZepi Mar 30, 2026 +132
Your taking this way too far.
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Semycharmd Mar 30, 2026 +165
*to far.
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Amoverandashaker Mar 30, 2026 +53
weigh to far.
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highstone67 Mar 30, 2026 +76
Well I’m fucked then. I’ve never been able to spell well. Something to do with my dyslexia. Thank god for spell check.
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aworldsetfree Mar 30, 2026 +60
At least you're trying.
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Little-Sea-1212 Mar 30, 2026 +173
Add writing in all lower case. All the time. I had an ex who would write and type his first and last name in all lower case. Drove me bonkers. Like, what, are you 8 years old?
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Ginger_Bee Mar 30, 2026 +108
I read an article recently that this is a trend with the younger generations. They find upper case letters too “aggressive”. As an ESL teacher, I’m a bit forgiving with bad spelling, but you’re/your absolutely sends me into a rage. I was in a situationship with a PhD student who spoke English as his first language and he never used you’re/your correctly. I’m now dating an ELA teacher.
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dramatic_ut Mar 30, 2026 +95
re: They find upper case letters too “aggressive”. Now imagine them starting to learn German😂
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CuriousGuyInSydney Mar 30, 2026 +40
Imagine them living in the actual world.
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Freaky_Deaky27 Mar 30, 2026 +433
If I dont like their voice
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FScrotFitzgerald Mar 30, 2026 +1484
Someone whose idea of humor is sarcastically feigning confusion at anything even mildly outside their frame of reference. "Riiiiiiiight..." "Moving on..." "Oooookayyyy then..." Get to feck. Find some other way of trying to be funny.
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Mintmuse22 Mar 30, 2026 +209
Just reading this pissed me off.
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max_machina Mar 30, 2026 +333
Omg I hate this shit too and never could quite articulate what it was that I was hating. Thank you so much for this.
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Background-Bee-2659 Mar 30, 2026 +102
This but you’re sharing a detail about your day and they only reply with, “cool story, bro” before jumping into whatever topic there into. Like, damn, guy, try to make an effort.
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Meishoku_ Mar 30, 2026 +29
Had a 'buddy' in high school who would always say "Cool story bro, tell it again." if something I said didn't interest him and it *still* makes me immensely aggressive lmao
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meebleepe Mar 30, 2026 +103
That’s not shallow those people are disrespectful asf
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3BlindMice1 Mar 30, 2026 +51
A lot of them aren't trying to be, they think they're Will Ferrell and that they're hilarious
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ANudeTayne Mar 30, 2026 +106
There's a whole Key & Peele sketch about this!
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Nowayucan Mar 30, 2026 +98
Must be this one. *Awkward!* https://youtu.be/EnBdGTX3vZc?si=OcFi80jOaA0inAKQ
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swolleneyelid Mar 29, 2026 +1288
Bad taste when it comes to memes
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neonTULIPS Mar 30, 2026 +739
This is real. My ex man started dying laughing and just had to show me the reels he’s looking at, it’s an ai video of some huge dude shitting everywhere. And the next reel was some dude doing a pedo skit. I’ve never been so grossed out by someone so fast. Cringe AF. It ended that night. Could never imagine having sex with him again after that
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creatyvechaos Mar 30, 2026 +173
Not shallow at all in that instance. It's their character being displayed openly
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NuclearMaterial Mar 30, 2026 +57
What the f***
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ProgressThick2722 Mar 30, 2026 +112
Totally get it. Someone’s taste in memes says everything about who they are. If their meme game is trashy, it just makes the whole person seem low-tier.
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an_edgy_lemon Mar 30, 2026 +966
Consistently bad grammar and spelling. It has almost no effect on daily life, but I can’t help but lose respect for people who mess it up all the time. We all have spell check and access to Google. It’s not that hard to put a little effort in.
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-AgonyAunt- Mar 30, 2026 +213
I dated a guy who started a business. He could have named it anything he wanted. I was having fun coming up with names for him. Not only did he name the business something f****** stupid, he spelled it wrong. I was so angry. And embarrassed. I purposely pronounced the business name wrong to show him that you can't just spell words incorrectly!
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WanderingEnigma Mar 30, 2026 +49
My sisters ex boyfriend has a normal name with a ridiculous spelling because his dad wrote it down wrong on his birth certificate.
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NeitherSparky Mar 30, 2026 +62
I actually met soneone named Angle because her mom couldn’t spell Angel
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Ldlredhed Mar 30, 2026 +38
Hopefully she was cute and not obtuse
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Purlz1st Mar 29, 2026 +950
Nasty crusty feet with jagged toenails.
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Salute-Major-Echidna Mar 30, 2026 +190
Crusty anything!
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Sudden-Lavishness738 Mar 30, 2026 +78
Right, the only thing I don’t mind crusty is fresh from the oven bread 🥖
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MrHysterectomy Mar 30, 2026 +33
Crusty jugglers!
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MattGx_ Mar 29, 2026 +701
Obnoxious laughing. Dated a girl for a couple months that would chuckle after almost every sentence. And not like a cute laugh. It was like a full on arms flailing, full tilt laughter.
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Rob_LeMatic Mar 30, 2026 +363
That sounds like a medical condition. I would definitely go on at least a couple dates with that. I would need to know what would happen if I just laughed back maniacally. Just cackling back and forth like methed up chickens, waiting to see who gave up first
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Flashy-Parsnip-9676 Mar 29, 2026 +552
I went on a date once with this guy who rolled his eyes every time he talked. And another one who closed his eyes when he talked. Yea can’t do those again.
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pandasaur7 Mar 30, 2026 +159
As someone who had meningitis still living with some after effects....I think with my eyes. And just moving my eyes around while thinking and speaking would make me dizzy. So I close my eyes when I need to think and speak at the same time. I know its weird, but I also dont wanna be dizzy lol. Meningitis was hard enough
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Ghost_Peanuts Mar 30, 2026 +217
The fake activist. I dated a guy who put up posts and talked about every hot button issue but didn't actually care about any of them dropping ideals as frequently as he changed underwear. He was a militant Vegan for a week then went back to tacos the following week, totally against palm oil on Wednesday and by Friday scarfing down Nutella.
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Frater_Aequanimitas Mar 30, 2026 +16
Ooh that's a big one for me although i've never encountered it on a date. Just makes you wonder what else they're duplicitous about.
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Ok-Zookeepergame5245 Mar 30, 2026 +140
Shoes on the bed.
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PuffyGuy_LCOMP Mar 30, 2026 +38
Serial killer shit
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HerezahTip Mar 29, 2026 +1599
Heavy gum to tooth ratio
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dewey-defeats-truman Mar 30, 2026 +511
Lowercase teeth and uppercase gums
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Mammoth_Ad_5423 Mar 30, 2026 +120
This one made me laugh pretty hard. What a way to phrase that hahaha
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Eastern-Occasion-528 Mar 30, 2026 +288
Along this line, small teeth. They just freak me out (sorry small toothed friends).
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Well_Spoken_Mute Mar 30, 2026 +45
All I can think of is that episode of spongebob where he scrapes the chocolate with his two big front teeth. I wish I could find it. Maybe it's the mandala effect Edit: [found it](https://tenor.com/view/spongebob-scrape-chocolate-teeth-gif-4502753?hl=en-US)
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Eleanor_Atrophy Mar 30, 2026 +267
Boring. I’m not dating someone whose only personality is liking football and watching the office.
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Rightrenee22 Mar 30, 2026 +485
Calls himself alpha male
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Awesometiger999 Mar 30, 2026 +214
Indicative of a major personality flaw, not shallow in the slightest.
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barbiebinch Mar 30, 2026 +85
I dated someone who said his friend was “such a beta” to some of his other friends and was dead serious too 😭😭 it was so strange Same guy asked me if I was the alpha of my friend group and got mad when I told him that isn’t how friendships work
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PopularExercise3 Mar 30, 2026 +19
That is hilarious. How would you keep a straight face?
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Immediate-Pool-4391 Mar 30, 2026 +110
Dont chew with your mouth open.
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PureOpportunity6427 Mar 30, 2026 +341
Doesn't share food. If we can't collectively build an order together for maximum trying, I dont want it.
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earthlynotion Mar 30, 2026 +68
My newest sister-in-law is my favorite to go out to eat with because we're both adventurous eaters and we both have "try this!" mentality. We often coordinate our orders so we can split our entrees in half and then swap them and get to try 2 new things instead of just one. I love someone I can share food with!
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Spideyfan2020 Mar 30, 2026 +50
"Joey doesn't share food!!!"
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Foreign-Middle1025 Mar 30, 2026 +316
Long Santa Clause type beards. They’re gross. I just imagine food falling into them.
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charliesk9unit Mar 30, 2026 +60
Well, if you're hungry in the middle of the night and don't want to trek to the kitchen, at least you know where to potentially find a snack.
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RunPristine9222 Mar 29, 2026 +468
Leaves the kitchen sink full of dishes....
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WhatsYourTale Mar 30, 2026 +352
After living with someone for years who refused to do dishes (to the point that I'd come home to mold and flies if I went out of town for a week).... I no longer consider this a shallow dealbreaker. Cleaning up after yourself should be a basic expectation for a partner
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Ok_Guard_8024 Mar 30, 2026 +81
My exes would let his get so bad there wa maggots and flies. Sorry I didn’t live there and I’m not gonna touch maggots. He would hide dirty dishes in the oven when the landlord had inspections. Lol bro just clean it Not the reason I left the idiot. But very gross
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Bl8675309 Mar 30, 2026 +92
I never realized i was the one always doing dishes until I was in the hospital for 8 days. Had an emergency csection, came home and the dishes were piled up, the ones in the dishwasher were moldy. All the food in the fridge had molded. And it wasnt because he was at the hospital with me, he was at home each day after work and just couldn't bother.
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Ivyveins Mar 30, 2026 +13
Ohhhhhhh my god. How did you handle that situation?
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littlebetenoire Mar 30, 2026 +56
Not only this, but people who don’t understand the difference between “doing the dishes” and “cleaning the kitchen”. I’ve lived with so many men who would clean their dishes and think that was their job done. No, you need to wash your dishes, dry your dishes, put your dishes away, clean all your soggy food scraps out of the sink, wipe down the mess you made on the stove, etc.
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n3rdsm4sh3r Mar 30, 2026 +28
Had an x who would place her dirty dishes **on top of** the dishwasher. Made me insane.
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pinkpugita Mar 29, 2026 +609
Sharing AI generated videos
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Full-Adhesiveness522 Mar 30, 2026 +81
I almost didn't go out on a second date with my now husband of 31 years because I didn't like his jacket! LOL
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Auxocratic Mar 30, 2026 +72
I once had someone ghost me because I had a twin sized bed.
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noturFaultitsmine Mar 30, 2026 +36
Fair 😂
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PhaseFallen Mar 30, 2026 +38
Not knowing when to use "then" vs. "than"
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griff_girl Mar 30, 2026 +105
Inability to properly use your and you're. Thinks "prolly" is an actual legitimate word. Poor grammar in general. Oh. And I dated someone once who **didn't use a silverware tray in the drawer.** Literally just threw silverware in there willy-nilly. That shit is f****** **barbaric.** *Never* again.
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suckmypinacolada03 Mar 30, 2026 +127
Snoring. If it’s just a heavy breathing that’s fine but if you sound like a plane taking off then u gtg
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Kdavies121 Mar 30, 2026 +35
I get so angry looking over at someone happily sound asleep, snoring, while I’m up and miserable. Can’t do it.
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farnsworthparabox Mar 29, 2026 +149
She eats her peas one at a time!
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how_riddikulus Mar 30, 2026 +73
What’s the hurry?
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Rendermeister00 Mar 29, 2026 +362
Uses the word "aroused" when they're in the mood. It reminds me of my health teacher from 10th grade who was an old lady. It kills the vibe everytime
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baz4k6z Mar 30, 2026 +232
"I am now aroused, and will attempt to approach you, human female woman, with romantic intentions. Unfortunately, I need to specify this will not be an attempt at procreation" Im just dying on this thread
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Primary-Ad4952 Mar 30, 2026 +31
I SHALL CLIMAX NOW
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Murky-Bus-5922 Mar 30, 2026 +14
TO INFINITY AND BEYOND
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Ninja_Flower_Lady Mar 30, 2026 +88
"baby, I'm tumescent"
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i-like-to-pinch Mar 30, 2026 +158
This got me engorged
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Magerimoje Mar 30, 2026 +52
I dated a guy once who couldn't or wouldn't say "come" Every time he'd say "did you melt?" Like dude, were you not listening or paying attention? It's *very f****** obvious* when I come. Very. Obvious. And yes, the technically correct spelling is *come* not *cum* although I don't care how anyone spells it, just don't call it "melt" 😂
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Kindahatemyself1 Mar 30, 2026 +12
This just made me die laughing wtf😂
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terrifiedtornado Mar 30, 2026 +87
Last guy I dated would say "I need release." We had a whole slew of sex issues that basically turned it to non existent. We'd argue about it and that's what he would yell at me. " Ok, well, I need release!" I tried explaining how that made me feel like a f*** doll but he never grasped that.
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WoodsWalker43 Mar 30, 2026 +42
Men do not *need* (ugh) "release". Sounds like either a sex addict or a spoiled child. If he really can't handle it, he's (hopefully) got a left hand.
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MissMoppett42 Mar 30, 2026 +86
My friend dated a guy who would say he was “wet” when he had precum. It didn’t last long obviously 😂
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txlady100 Mar 30, 2026 +40
Ew
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the2belo Mar 30, 2026 +20
I anticipate copulation
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poppyannebutterfly Mar 30, 2026 +11
My ex would say your touch is so sensuous. But draw out sensuous. Dont know why that turned me off but it did
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Unlucky_Storm9338 Mar 29, 2026 +302
Non-stop complaints of everything.
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Treacle_Moon Mar 30, 2026 +132
HATE this. My husband became this after a few years of marriage. Broke me so much I was ready to leave because the constant complaining about everything tiny incontinence, and ignoring all the actual good things in our life, just really brought me down and contributed to depression. After I was good to go because I was so unhappy, he made efforts to complain less. I was just like, you have to let me enjoy my life. But I can't when there is always a horrible atmosphere and a small inconvenience beings your mood right down. I'm talking even just dropping a fork would have set him off about what an effing shitty day it is etc. Thankfully things have improved. It's not the laid back happy life I'd like, but I'm not hating it every day either lol. So yes. Valid ick.
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scumfuc420 Mar 30, 2026 +148
I think a tiny incontinence might be worth complaining about I'm sorry I had to
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Treacle_Moon Mar 30, 2026 +61
Haha I missed that. I could edit but its funny so it's staying 😅
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thxitsthedepression Mar 30, 2026 +26
I feel this, my fiancé also used to be like this until I threatened to leave his miserable ass and went to stay with my parents for three weeks. Nowadays I occasionally have to remind him to shut up when he gets carried away complaining but overall he’s much better.
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Freakazoidberg Mar 30, 2026 +27
My wife is like that. She wakes up and complains that she hasn't slept well. Even though I let her sleep in till 10am on the weekends while I feed the kids. If it rains she complains that it's too gloomy. If it's sunny she'll complain that it's so nice and we're wasting time at home... but won't go out because she's too tired. She'll complain about how difficult it is with two toddlers at home even though I do everything (breakfast, dinners, playtime, bedtimes etc). She complains on vacations how expensive everything is (the vacations she planned). On the same vacations she'll complain how tired she is because she couldn't sleep on a hotel bed that she's not used to. She'll complain at restaurants because they don't have good vegetarian options (she's a vegetarian but she picked the restaurant). But mostly she complains about work EVERYDAY. She's a physician who works a lot but complains everyday about... Patients, nurses, patients' families that she has to talk to, NPs, fellow physicians who don't document well, healthcare system as a whole, etc. It's honestly exhausting and I feel so void of any joy.
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peterinjapan Mar 30, 2026 +17
I used to be like this and my ex-girlfriend gave me some good advice, she taught me a Japanese word前向き Mae-muki which just means “forward facing” but it means facing the future with a positive attitude. I took it to heart.
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fastates Mar 29, 2026 +64
his hair gel literally stunk up the entire house for hours after a visit. I noped out.
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MyAskRedditAcct Mar 29, 2026 +702
Picky eaters.
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littlebetenoire Mar 30, 2026 +42
This! Not only was my ex a picky eater but he refused to ever try new foods. It was so frustrating because it limited what I got to eat and I constantly felt like I was dining with a child. My partner now eats everythinnnggg and will always at least give new foods a try. It’s so good cause I never have to check with him “is it okay if we have xyz for dinner?” Cause I know if I try a new recipe, he will eat it and enjoy it. We can go to fine dining restaurants where you don’t know the menu in advance because I know he will eat everything regardless of what it is. Travelling is so easy too because no matter what country we are in, he will try the cuisine. We don’t have to always eat familiar foods.
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NAINOA- Mar 29, 2026 +301
I made this mistake. Dated someone for years who had ARFID. She basically only ate french fries and chicken tenders. It was quirky at first, but it became an exhausting and embarrassing any time we wanted to be social. I also thought that with some time and encouragement they would open up to trying new things, but she simply had no desire to fix what was clearly a debilitating eating disorder. EDIT: As many are pointing out, ARFID is *very* difficult to overcome. (I don’t really beleive that it’s *impossible* despite what some may say) My ex’s ARFID isn’t solely responsible for our breakup, rather it was two deeply unwell people keeping each other down. That being said, moving forward, I would *never* choose date someone with ARFID again.
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Chanbara99 Mar 30, 2026 +86
I dunno if it’s a dealbreaker really but I once had an ex with really ugly feet. I’m not even a feet guy but I noticed it and it was distracting. Like she had witch feet. We didnt break up because of this and I genuinely felt bad. I tried giving her pedicure gift certificates and everything. Not interested. Anyway. Take care of your feet.
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Chance_Department_99 Mar 30, 2026 +11
Yes please. Dated a man with poor foot hygiene once. I remember going on vacation for a week and coming home thinking an animal had died somewhere in the apartment. Looked everywhere and couldn't find any dead animals. IT WAS HIS SHOES. I threw out the only two pairs of sneakers he owned and told him he was getting new ones that day. Shoes should not smell like death.
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Salute-Major-Echidna Mar 30, 2026 +10
Sarah Millican is my favorite comedian and she talks about her husband's owl-like feet. Crunchy, talons, hook like and grubby.
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miz_mantis Mar 29, 2026 +243
Poor grammar. Mispronouncing words.
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Semycharmd Mar 30, 2026 +134
I dated someone who wrote “Hay” instead of “Hey”. I told him a few times about the difference, but it didn’t sink in. So, no way was “fathom” not “famine” and “precedent” not “president” ever going to sink in. Hope you’re doing fiend, Antny.
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baz4k6z Mar 30, 2026 +34
"Hay babbay whass zup" I'm sorry I'm imagining texting with this person and I just can't
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Bitter_Orchid1146 Mar 30, 2026 +197
High-pitched voice in a man. I was kinda flirting over DMs with a guy that I considered I could date and he sent me a voice note… noped right out. It sounded like he had aspirated helium before starting the recording. Dried me up instantly.
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InsomniaDreams Mar 30, 2026 +30
Sounds like Dan! He’s a high talker.
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SquirrellyDud Mar 30, 2026 +20
This is one of my biggest insecurities lol I sound gay (really no other way to put it) and it's literally chased women away. I try to mask, but my real voice in just fruity AF (growing up around a lot of gay people will do it)
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MicheleW921 Mar 30, 2026 +319
This guy I went on a date with didn’t ask me if I wanted the last dumpling (this was a shared appetizer). He just took it and ate it. Safe to say there was no second date. He demonstrated early on that he lacks consideration, and also manners clearly. He set a standard. If he can’t remember to ask if I may want the last piece of food on a tray then how can I expect that man to think of me in any major scenario?? Nope
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brahdz Mar 30, 2026 +121
Sounds like the kind of person that would also eat all the fully loaded nachos, even when it's clearly against the restaurant's rules.
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quegurjin Mar 30, 2026 +51
I went on a date with this girl and they were eating all the fully loaded ones with all the cheese and meat and stuff and I'm getting like just chip. Like just chip with maybe like a little nugget of meat.
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cameronrichardson77 Mar 30, 2026 +26
That's against the rules
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Suspicious_door666 Mar 30, 2026 +20
Whaaaaaatttt
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Meta2048 Mar 30, 2026 +38
Being raised in an Asian household, it can be funny going out to eat with some of my other Asian friends because *nobody* wants to eat the last bite of anything in a communal dish.
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TheShitty_Beatles Mar 30, 2026 +67
This is soooo real. I love a disgustingly polite man. I'm born in Canada but one of my parents is of an Asian culture that is huge on respect and family piety etc. being thoughtful and generous is so important to me like I CANNOT with the selfishness
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ItsMoonZhang Mar 29, 2026 +389
no sense of humor. like i can deal with mood swings or weird habits, but if you can’t laugh at yourself or life a little, we won’t last
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QueensOfTheNoKnowAge Mar 29, 2026 +116
That’s not shallow.
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super_chubz1000 Mar 30, 2026 +142
Being religious. Just cant do it.
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Random-Mutant Mar 30, 2026 +25
Not shallow. A fundamental difference in principles.
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sixinthedark Mar 29, 2026 +281
People that don’t clean up after themselves
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That_Dot420 Mar 30, 2026 +88
This isn't shallow
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Notori0usRBG Mar 30, 2026 +150
Soul patch or goatee 🤮
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Smooth_Storm_9698 Mar 30, 2026 +13
I have seen way too many men in my city rocking a pornstache and I would never dream of letting them f*** one hole, let alone all three. I hope that trend dies.
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UniversalFarrago Mar 30, 2026 +51
No I get it. Mutton chops too, especially if they’re also bald.
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Petermacc122 Mar 30, 2026 +49
Are you dating Cornelius Vanderbilt or something?
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d1sgust1pated Mar 29, 2026 +105
Music taste.
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hottchickennugget Mar 30, 2026 +78
When I was a teenager I dated a guy who said he didn't like music. Not any specific type, just music as a whole, he didn't like any of it. I'm still not sure if that's a red flag or just really weird
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Whole_Mistake_1461 Mar 30, 2026 +21
Chewing with your mouth open. Body odor. Untrimmed finger/toenails. Rudeness to strangers. Unkind to animals.
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Bandgeek252 Mar 30, 2026 +111
Lack of intelligence. I need interesting and educated conversations.
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Hot_Imagination4772 Mar 30, 2026 +73
Must be polite, like say, please and thank you. It’s not hard people!
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ncoope1 Mar 30, 2026 +71
Long fingernails on a man.
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Captcha_Bitch Mar 30, 2026 +68
If they need the TV on to sleep
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Solitary_Orbit Mar 29, 2026 +81
Yellowing pillow covers.
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LivvMiller Mar 30, 2026 +34
Most of these are not even shallow!
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gymgal19 Mar 30, 2026 +33
My friend broke up with someone because they were allergic to christmas trees. They always had a real tree for christmas and weren't willing to forgo it
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discovertigo Mar 30, 2026 +16
constantly quoting movie dialogue. I once dated a guy who after watching a movie, especially a comedy, would quote them at me until the next movie etc.
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Clean-Ad4235 Mar 30, 2026 +16
Ppl who typ lik dis Ffs you’re not saving any real time by doing that. Just type like a normal person!!
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coconutball3000 Mar 30, 2026 +71
If they view sex as casual/simple. I'm generally not even really a "traditional" person (at least since I'm a left leaning feminist), nor do I want my partner to be a virgin. I just view sex as something very intimate and exclusive. I like to have fun and love experimenting, but I can do that all with one person. If my partner doesn't want to try something, then I just won't get to either — I believe relationships are all about learning to compromise anyway. It's also objectively risky because of pregnancy, STI/STDs, UTIs, etc. Maybe it's because I've been SA'd, but idk.
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Treacle_Moon Mar 30, 2026 +56
People get a lotta hate for this these days. But I'm genuinely just not attracted to men shorter than me. I feel bad about it but just can't.
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4breezy7 Mar 30, 2026 +54
Doesn’t use capitals when texting.
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Chancey3 Mar 29, 2026 +145
Mandals…😳 You know, Man Sandals aka Jerusalem Cruisers🫣 Tevas with the Toes just Hanging Out is next in line🫠
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ferfocsake Mar 29, 2026 +77
I had a friend that walked from a date because the dude was wearing those shoe socks with individual toes. It wasn’t the only reason she left, but it was the straw that broke the camel’s back. 
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Chancey3 Mar 29, 2026 +23
Those DEF Qualify as a HARD PASS🤣
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Fantastic_List3029 Mar 29, 2026 +70
Jerusalem cruisers 😭😂
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ReallySmallFeet Mar 30, 2026 +13
Haaaaa!! My dad used to call them 'Jesus creepers' lol
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Compass_Ink Mar 30, 2026 +43
Small hands on a guy & farmer’s blow 🤢
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kapxis Mar 30, 2026 +14
I feel this as a small hand dude, always conscious of it. You know, because of the implication. What's farmers blow though?
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M0therSun Mar 30, 2026 +37
farmers blow is when you plug one nostril and force air out the other as a way of blowing your nose. deeesgustiiing
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Anishinaapunk Mar 30, 2026 +169
"I don't vote: why bother? Both parties are basically the same."
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CocohutButternut Mar 30, 2026 +30
An accent/voice I don't like . It just kills my attraction instantly
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Far-Astronomer-8029 Mar 29, 2026 +109
Liking ketchup a lil tooo much(i hate ketchup).
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Cryogenic_Phoenix Mar 30, 2026 +51
Someone who can’t cook and refuses to learn or try. I’m not saying you need to be a chef but if you can’t make stuff like eggs or a simple rice and protein dish…
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Rightrenee22 Mar 29, 2026 +62
Plaque in your teeth
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Apocryph761 Mar 29, 2026 +246
Smoking/vaping. Can't stand it. And for all the people who smoke or vape who *think* they've hidden the smell with gum or deodorant or whatever else: You really haven't. And it's sad you don't realise you still reek of it. Shallow as hell, but not sorry.
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munchkin1977 Mar 30, 2026 +65
For me, it's people who insist on smoking indoors without having any consideration for others within the vicinity. It's being selfish, IMO...
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Ameerrante Mar 30, 2026 +54
Vaping leaves a lingering smell? I don't vape, but my friends do, but I have a very poor sense of smell. I *can* smell cigs and weed, and occasionally some fruitiness from my friends' vapes for like 30 seconds, but nothing that lingers.
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creatyvechaos Mar 30, 2026 +21
Not unless you walk straight through a cloud of it. It's the burning of tobacco that leaves a smell. It's also why people who are in areas that don't allow you to smoke weed on the property (like, apartments) will lean towards carts. Sure, the smell will be there for a moment, but once it's dispersed it isn't going to linger and stick to anything but your mouth—unless you walked through a cloud of it
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Ok_Resolve8390 Mar 29, 2026 +38
Leaving the bathroom messy
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violette_vixxen Mar 30, 2026 +14
Leaving the toilet seat up!! The amount of times I asked him to wipe off the seat and put the lid down was… uncountable
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moonbeam_glitter Mar 29, 2026 +40
Bad spelling, creative spelling drives me bonkers. Also can't do skinny guys or heavily muscled gym rats, I need someone funny with some fluff.
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Just_Awareness2733 Mar 30, 2026 +37
Dirty fingernails. If you can't clean your hands, I can't trust your life choices
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ExpiredDeodorant Mar 30, 2026 +44
Drives a Tesla From my experience it either means they're a poser, aggressive driver, worships rich people or a combination of the 3
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DoctorHugoHackenbush Mar 29, 2026 +93
She has to have at least a pulse. I have my standards to maintain..
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Final-Trick-2467 Mar 29, 2026 +21
Thanks to you doctorhugohackenbush
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Sharkman3218 Mar 30, 2026 +77
Trumper
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Tiny-Gur-4356 Mar 30, 2026 +23
The way he walked. And the way he clasps his hands. (Two different men). Just bothered the f*** outta me.
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Tronn3000 Mar 29, 2026 +66
I swipe left on the dating apps on any girl that has a dog breed that I know is gonna be a giant pain in the ass. No, I don't want a packaged deal with you and your doodle or husky.
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Pandelerium11 Mar 30, 2026 +33
On that note, badly behaved and/or aggressive dogs.
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anid98 Mar 30, 2026 +11
Grammar or English misuse
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RiskyMama Mar 30, 2026 +11
I refused to go on a third date with a guy because he pronounced Disney like "Dis-a-nee"
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Material_Service_473 Mar 30, 2026 +12
Not eating vegetables. Trust me, nothing is more icky than watching a 29 year old man pick out the carrots and peas from his shepherds pie.
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