Why do we look for validation when we feel stuck?

All the time. I have an issue with confidence in my decisions. But I'm working on it. I also feel like talking out a problem helps me solve it myself, too. When I keep it in my head, it feels "stuck" like you said, but being able to verbalize helps me unstick myself lol Edit: autocorrect

Rarely does it ever make you feel better, it just becomes an addiction. Foster a relationship with a higher being and put your best foot forth with good intentions and always be kind!

As I have grown older (now in my middle age), I have noticed how external validation means less and less to me. Of course there is a basic need for it - the need hasn't disappeared wholly. But it a lot less frequently that I seek it and not to the same intensity degree. I think most of us (if not all of us) have a need to feel that we belong and that we are accepted by the group. So having a need for external validation is not per se anything that is negative or something to be ashamed of. It's when this need for external validation becomes pathological and interferes with our lives and wellbeing, that it becomes a problem.

When stuck, you can't validate yourself

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I did weird things for validation. but in short, I later realised it holds no value. What one person validates, another will reject. About "feeling stuck => need validation" well, you kinda answered it yourself. If you know your next path is considered right by many, you can do it confidently.

I think it's human to seek validation whether internally or externally. It feels overwhelming sometimes to over share. You might think it's other people judging (who knows) but it can also be your heightened sensitivity to how it feels to open up/share in seeking validation/self-understanding, exposing your thought processes etc. I think/wonder is this necessary, is it going to stress me out more IRL. If you feel overwhelmed or exposed you can toggle your privacy settings or delete your account. The lack of clarity/self-awareness etc sometimes gets the better of me. I get stuck/caught up in my head and need an outlet

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This is going to be hard for me to put it in words, so please, bear with me. I'm an older male, family man, my parents still alive, with a professional career and all. Good enough life to stick it in a Hallmark card. My validation came from a strong sense of duty, always being the dependable one. Always there for someone else. Always. As an only child to my parents, I didn't even have a decent childhood because I had to leave it behind pretty early on in life, as that sense of duty was instilled in me, literally in military style, even before my age became a double digit number, so that the adults around me could depend on me, while I gained agency in their world. I was barely in my teens, and everyone my age would tease me for being too serious all the time, while I'd mutter under my breath 'F****** hell, grow up!'. More often than not, people would immediately assume that, as an only child, I was spoiled rotten, and mistook my general silence as arrogant aloofness. There's nothing natural, nor right, for a kid to think that there's no room for childish innocence in this world. Even socializing became an act, while solitude was my only true sanctuary. With a strong sense of duty, I also became a literal 'jack-of-all-trades', able to get out of any sticky situations life threw at me. I've never known what's like to panic freeze, as I was always ready for anything, ready to hit the ground running, so to speak. Technically minded, with an impeccable visual memory, I've faced death more times than I care to remember. I've also been in quite a few incidents, falling from heights, like ladders, ...and horses while riding them, car accidents, been shot at, ...and shot, but never broken a bone or bled to death, as I also learned first aid and ER-grade field medical skills. Sadly, I've had injured people die in my hands, as I tried to save them, as well as actually managed to save others, while occasionally being the first on the scene in motor vehicle accidents and industrial catastrophes. I'm all too familiar with how fragile and resistant life can be at the same time. A lot of people would look at my adaptability, my obvious self-assurance in the face of even the worst situations, and automatically peg me for a born leader, as I waded forward through life, chest-deep in whatever came my way. I can't say I've ever had to worry about validation, nor self-doubt, aimlessness, and never short on resolve or tenacity. I've never minded not being on my own list of priorities. Nobody ever had to tell me to grow up, or man up. The only thing that I've always struggled for is a sense of belonging. As a dependable self-reliant, I've had others depend on me, look for me, or look up to me, even if that might have only been just as a source of inspiration, but being independent comes with its own price. It turns out that, while you don't owe anyone anything, not everyone accepts you, even if they depend on you.

we seek validation when we feel stuck because it’s reassuring, like someone else is saying, “Yeah, you’re on the right track.” Even if we know what to do, it makes the choice feel less scary and more supported. Honestly, sometimes just hearing that little “you’ve got this” is enough to push us forward.

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Women ive noticed are the worst for this

Check out a book called "The Status Game" by William Storr. It discusses how motivations that people have/human nature is largely driven by 3 status games: Dominance (force and fear driven), Virtue (morality and conformity), and Success (competence and achievement). People fall into a mixture of all three of these, but people tend to lean towards certain games than others. Why do we seek validation when we feel stuck? Perception that we're at the business end of dominance games (proliferation of the fear that we'll be exiled from groups. By virtue of conformity, we assure that our survival odds are optimal. and Success. The feeling that we're competent as evidenced by achievements. Or when we feel stuck, we don't see achievements, so we seek them out through validation.